If he doesn't bring you more peace he's not the one...

@rockndivachic

2 ай бұрын

Facts

A couple of months ago I met a man who said that he valued me. He said it more than once but his actions spoke way louder than his words.

@jaetherese8063

2 ай бұрын

YUPPP!!! actions/patterns are much more VALUABLE than words ever are.

@janellsheskier359

2 ай бұрын

Be mindful of consistency. A gentleman was showing me a version of his true self for quite some time. But then....... Just remember everybody knows how to behave for 5 minutes. Not saying this is your scenario your situation however just be mindful and watchful

@jackiepittman7686

2 ай бұрын

Same here, action always speak louder than words!!!

@mslusiana8339

2 ай бұрын

RUNNN!

@altheajester209

Ай бұрын

@@jaetherese8063😊😊😊

This is why maturity is so important...

I had so many of these negative men that i was wondering if God really had anyone for me and when i had given up, God blessed me with a man who does each and every thing you have mentioned here! Won't he do it 🙌

I thank Jesus always for sending my partner to me. He is such a wonderful person. He was my best friend first and now I got a best friend and best man ❤️💙

@jsmiles3942

2 ай бұрын

Ha! Mine too! And it truly IS the best combo ❤❤

@riochime386

2 ай бұрын

So why are you on this video commenting then? 😂 This is a video for people struggling not the happy.

Thats me. I don’t bring men around family unless thats the one I’m gonna build with.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 ай бұрын

💯

@user-zw2rp4qp3j

Ай бұрын

As you should!

Dating nowadays is like doing open heart surgery.Always on the edge.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 ай бұрын

It can feel like that at times, but with the right approach it can become a very natural and comfortable process

@reesa219

2 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@LataraReed

2 ай бұрын

😂😂😂lol😂😂RIGHT...YOUR HEARTS GETTN ⛏️ PICKED AT EACH PERSON @SCAPELPLEASE 😂😂 LOL

@user-zw2rp4qp3j

Ай бұрын

True lol

3 weeks ago I was here, looking for guidance and advice because I liked a guy who I kept on asking myself if he was into me because he would not communicate with me constantly but he asked me on a date and took me on that date and held my hand whatsoever but now I am in a relationship with someone who checks on me constantly and sends me his working schedule and tells me what's more important to me besides him(I.e family and my studies) and I am happy and moved on from the guy who barely checked on me .

Hey ladies ! Once boundaries are discussed and clearly understood Please do not overstep his and expect him to honour yours Together let's create harmony Stephan this was such a welcoming afternoon treat God bless you

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 ай бұрын

Absolutely! 🙌 and I’m glad you enjoyed the video

Relationships are a partnership, you can't just think if yourself and always do only what you want.

This video came at the perfect time for me. I’m watching this with my heart hurting. Ive only been desired and lusted after I truly hope I experience this someday. I want to cry tears of joy instead of tears of pain. Thanks for this video God bless you

@PricelessJesus

2 ай бұрын

God will give u someone ❤

@cynthiareynolds1941

Ай бұрын

I have been there sis. I cried so many tears for so many years. I now have this perfect gentleman in my life . I am so grateful 🥲

Your videos have helped me so much this past weekend. I finally cut out this toxic guy from my life i had been friends with for 4 years. I cared for him a lot but his actions just didn't add up. I'm tired of playing these games with people. I just wanted to say thank you for your videos. They've put a lot of things into perspective for me lately.

He does all these things! I wanna cry! 😭 ❤

That "hiding you" piece, is key!! As an ex cheater, I wasn't going into public or posting pics w/my side dude but he showed me off to EVERYBODY he knew. Yes he KNEW he was the side dude, didn't like it, but dealt w/it because his emotions got wrapped up in it. We ALWAYS THINK WE CAN DEAL W/BEING THE SIDE DUDE/CHICK UNTIL feelings get involved. So from the jump if you're a side piece, KNOW that there's certain things he's NOT doing. If you DON'T KNOW, let him NOT showing you off BE THE SIGN YOU AIN'T THE MAIN ONE!

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing that info with us. I hope peope learn from this 🙏

@audreymickens4390

2 ай бұрын

Stephan, that periwinkle color looks great on you! Just saying. Love your content.

@user-qb1qi5ly6s

20 күн бұрын

If you choose to be a secret that's on you, but when a man manipulates you into believing he's emotionally available, only to find out he was keeping you a secret from his ex." It's crazy to think that's off tho. Or so I'm told. Bet, if it were the other way around he'd be just as bewildered. I don't move like that, but all types of people, "are out here on the move like that."

Spot on. Every topic you bring I've experienced it. Value is forever!

For two years, till mid 2023, I've been going back and forth in a 'situationship', and it showed me the importance of acknowledgment ! In love relationships or friends, family... we can get somewhere when there is accountability and/or acknowledgment. 🙏 Thank you for another great vid, really love your energy.

Another interesting video stephan Thanks 😊

This was spot on! And this is coming from a man 😄 Great discussion-James

I love your quote!❤️👏🏼💯 Fantastic video! 💓👍🏼 You’re on point!💓💯

Thank you, Stephanie! I needed to hear this conversation.

The teachings in this video was the first time I saw successful relationships / marriages like ceramics. May not look like much in the beginning, but end up being and looking like fine works of art. What you teach helps me see successful relationships / marriages this way. Encouraging and being encouraged as partners to become the best version of ourselves, appreciating what we lovingly receive from our man (and give), and valuing ourselves by knowing our worth. All definitely worth the thought, time and effort for a great relationship, and for ourselves. I appreciate who I am and who I am becoming because of your teachings. Thank you Stephan!

Thank you for being the best relationship coach

Lovely vid Stephan 👍🏼

Thank you for all your help,your talks has been so helpful

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 ай бұрын

You’re welcome ❤️ I’m glad it has been helpful to you

If you do not have a relationship with Christ first then you got some things to do just saying amen 🙏 Jesus amen amen

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 ай бұрын

Amen 🙏

@darlenegolden1057

2 ай бұрын

That's all I need to do??????

@ThePoet143-Mrs.B

2 ай бұрын

That's the start, make sure you know who you are in Jesus Christ first and foremost other things from there tend to fall into place Something I always say is things may seem like they are falling apart but they could be just falling into place

@user-or9tw1ct6l

2 ай бұрын

Amen

@user-sy7oy8wu1k

2 ай бұрын

I have been getting counterfeits in my life they either want sex ​@@MeetStephanSpeaks

This video is enlightening and a blessing.

Amazing video, thank you brother

Love the sweater Stephan. Very nice. ❤

Thanks for this video. It came at the right time.❤

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 ай бұрын

My pleasure 🙂

Amen 🙏🏽 thank you Stephan!!

Thank you, Mr. Stephan!!!

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 ай бұрын

No problem at all 🙏

This was good info thanks 🙏🏽

Hello Stephan, I feel enlightened by your relationship advice videos, thanks so much for sharing, a man needs to show the woman that he values her. 😊 Hope you are doing fine. 💜

This was great, I enjoyed this content.I would especially love to have a mam value or ask for my opinion and also a relationship where we both inspire each other to grow.Thank you for making all of these important points.🙏🧡

Looking good 😉that ring is beautiful and the message is good too 😊

That’s Totally right 🙌🏾

Thank you.....🙏🏽 waiting for him ❤

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 ай бұрын

You're welcome 🙏

I just came across your channel today,impressed !

💜💜💜🤗☝ ✔ Stephan you look absolutely Royal in that. Lavender Shirt😍!!! Thanks for teaching people how To relate to one another without Making a Mountain out of a mole Hill... Men do lack a lot of training In relationships. And women should Recognize when the man they love Can be a goof ball at times and one Who is as you say. I'll never be right For the Wrong person !!! Especially If she has the conversation about His attitude and its not corrected. Finally 😂 God first 🙏 Connection And Red Flags. I love this video again Passion for God and Compassion for People 💖💖💖 💋🌳🌈💯

Great video ❤

Hi Stephan!❤ love ya

💯Amen Thank you Stephan!!! 🙏

Stephan I like this video thanks

He claimed to want to marry me but HID ME THE WHOLE TIME! If I'm not good enough to be seen by family and friends I'm not good enough for you for ANYTHING!✌️✌️✌️✌️ Patience ran out for me!

@GreenRoses07

2 ай бұрын

It happened to me, coz why hide me?

@jackiepittman7686

2 ай бұрын

Same thing happened to me for a year! I'm like peace out ✌️

@KM-eo8uw

2 ай бұрын

Happened to me. 5yrs I waited n left after all that time n stil haven’t met his parents or so called frenz 😏

@danyabarraza4658

2 ай бұрын

4 years!

@cynthiareynolds1941

Ай бұрын

This happened to me. I just dumped him and I moved on with my life it’s been almost two years now

My crush will be my supervisor as of Monday (due to my promotion). We had been flirting since Jan but never made a move to go out (different departments). Then I was up for promotion in March so we just never had time to pursue it. Im happy I'll be spending more time with him, but now things are so different. I already passed on another job opportunity to him so we wouldn't be in the same chain of command. Lol It's literally so heartbreaking to feel like someone is your soul mate but you can't do anything about it. 😢

My emotional abuse began with a guy I met in Uni last year & he was lethally sexy, Zulu, very masculine, confident & he lured me in with kind acts then started to abuse me emotionally. Then this year, I recently met a guy, we're not dating, we're just good study buddies & he does everything for me without me even asking for it. That's when I learnt how a real man is supposed to treat a woman. And we might never date, but I appreciate everything he does for me. He buys me food, reassures that I can solve this mathematical problem, always accompanies me to my residence. Everything I was begging the previous guy to do, he does it effortlessly.

Nice talk

Thanks so much

Very true and very accurate 💯☝️👌👍🙏🙏☺️

I look forward to a new video. I listen and I ask myself. How do this apply to me. You be hitting it on the head EVERYTIME. I WISH I KNEW THEN WHAT I KNOW NOW. Ive always wondered was something wrong with me. Was I asking too much to be respected, appreciated especially valued. Nope I wasnt. Manipulation is real. Narcissistic are real. Toxic men are very real. Thank you, Bless you 🙏

Watching this after coming out of a bad relationship that didn't appear like it until intuition and God revealed it.

I 💯 % am keeping all these things in mind. As I should, much love and respect Mr. Steph-fine!🙏🏼😁

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 ай бұрын

😊 thank you

@HalfSweetness

2 ай бұрын

@@MeetStephanSpeaks the pleasure is all mine. 😊

@drippedinglory

2 ай бұрын

Sis 😂😂

Thanking God for a great man❤️

My husband of 16 years has never put me down on looks, or stuff that could truly wreck a person. He DOES let it show that he is annoyed at how much I talk with my hands or over dramatize imitating a voice of someone else. That's not bad I guess in comparison of what he could be doing. Otherwise, he supports my many projects that I never finish, or career decisions. So this video is really helping me understand more about the male mind. To further add, I had a boyfriend before him who seemed to enjoy saying lil things like, omg, i thought when I touched your hair it would be soft and untangled, but it's like a horse tail where I might not be able to get my hand out! Stuff like that. He didn't last long...

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 ай бұрын

I'm happy to hear that 🙏

@brittpayne7198

2 ай бұрын

​@@MeetStephanSpeaks I added to my comment to make an example of how to see a jerk in a man. Lol

Also talk about not just respecting and boundaries, but how some people will pretend to respect your boundaries but try to push in a very manipulative way or a cohesive control way and that means to be spoke about because the guy might seem healthy whenever reality it’s not be careful that we see that a lot with the dark personalities!!! remember one and 10 personality disorder

Thanks!

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏❤️ I truly appreciate that

As to the molding...such good points. I'm thinking of someone right now that doesn't communicate at the level I'd like. Yet...this has been who he is the whole time I've known him.... he has the ability to communicate well when he feels the need but he often doesn't see where the other person could use, say, updates on the situation. Things like "I'm still working on it, no headway yet" instead of pure silence while he figures it out. That said. I also am thinking of someone who communicates SO much detail (and so little that I actually care about) that it wastes my time and effort and I'm constantly trying to ferret out the real message from all the word salad. Not just at times....frequently. And doesn't get to the point until he's taken you down a minimum of 10 rabbit holes first. So, with that first person, part of the reason I like him is his independent thought, his consideration of others' time, etc. And I like him for HIM, initially, even though I knew about the lack of words sometimes. There are times I wish he'd just update me yeah. But I have to say, when I briefly think these thoughts, I quickly try to remember how grateful I am for him the way he is. When I have a real problem this man can be my peace, because he knows how to maintain peace and shut his mouth rather than running it ad infinitum. The other guy... I get to the point I'm exhausted and nauseated listening to him go on and on and on and on and.... Like me right now 🙂 Anyhow. I just find that it helps to remember I liked him for HIM...appreciate the good side of the sometimes irritating qualities he has that are so ingrained that they really won't change (because there IS a good side), and remember that he was enough when I accepted him the way he was...nothing's changed, so why has my assessment of the situation? That helps me ground in what I liked in the first place and let go of the wanting to change him. After all, I don't want to change him do I? Make him into someone he's not...then I'd lose respect for him wouldn't I? I think probably so.... Best not to try to change people, for sure. Either direction. (That said, I do speak up when I need an update and gently ask for one...)

OMG!!! London tour *jumping up and down* thank you😁

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 ай бұрын

I hope to see you there

In a serious relationship i need BALANCE I love a dominant talking man who exhudes masculinity but Certainly knows when to tone down and be extra ticklish 😅 No yes man ah ah dont be a freshman

Wow, the cultural piece sang to me. I’m exploring a new connection who is widower. He’s met a lot of my friends, but not my family. I haven’t met his friends or family except his eldest son by accident. He seems to be VERY tight with his family & in-laws family to the point his MiL stays with him when she’s in town & they’re going on a family trip next month. We’ve only been exploring this connecting for a few months, so I’m not expecting much (yet). I am curious how this would go as I’m of Caribbean/Japanese descent with a very small family & he’s Vietnamese with a HUGE extended family & HUGE extended family of his late wife. I’m definitely careful & patient since his children are involved. I don’t feel he’s “hiding” me, but feel it’s too soon to have a conversation or boundaries established. Stephan, I’d love to hear more on thoughts on this cultural topic if you will. Much appreciated. Love your channel! 💛

@user-fh1tr9zp3l

2 ай бұрын

This seems complicated as the Hamas Israel war A lot to upload and unpack 😲

When a man values you, he is going to want to hear from you. ...true connection.

I wish to get your book, Stephan, but I am staying in Singapore, is there international shipping to Singapore? 😊

All the points are so valid and thanks a lot Stephan. I have a question though about that second to the last point: this man professes love and says he's in the relationship with me for marriage, yet for four years and no proposal. However, he runs and gives me the silent treatment for weeks and even months when we have an argument, or don't agree with his point, or when he crosses the line with me. Stephan, how can i deal with this silent treatment because it's ruining our relationship? And I always call first after his silence. We're both way above 50s.

I met a guy that i dated for 6 months, and he is so interested in having a kid. But he is very differently but i feel as if he has a lot to hide.

@thenutrientwhisperer3700

2 ай бұрын

Oh my God girl, you better freaking run and run fast. Six months? Wants a baby? He just wants to use your uterus girl. Ron. What’s it gonna do takeoff with the kid or sue you for custody? He just wants a baby damn

@drivnbyart

2 ай бұрын

Why have a kid with someone you feel you don’t know well?

@user-fh1tr9zp3l

2 ай бұрын

He wants a kid ? Go buy a goat Why u westerners call children kids ?

@reggiesinsai6577

2 ай бұрын

I like the fact that you said you feel he's hiding something. Listen to that feeling and act... Your tuition never lies

@AfroCuban4life

2 ай бұрын

Hobosexual narcissist alert!

Nice❤

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 ай бұрын

❤️🙂

Do you provide advice on dating a professional athlete?

Great video sir I wish my ex fiancé watched this video week ago. Thank you

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏 I’m glad you enjoyed it

My ex did not listen to me when he ask my opinion. Now, his wine business failed and it goes on and on and on…

How do i get over a man who really valued me, but i wasn't able to handle things in a heanthy way, leading him to break up with me?

I pray yeshua send him to me ....

@stephanspeaks ok so question: what you have been married to a person for 2 decades and during half of that time period didn’t value you, (according to your description in this video) but now that you are separated is starting to value you. Is she being naive to give that man another chance or is she allowing her trauma and ego keep her from having a healthy relationship with this man?

Stephan Thank you great Video Blessings & Love (Elizabeth) Can we talk????📲 Good Afternoon Happy Monday 💕🥰🙏🏽💕🥰🙏🏽💕🥰🙏🏽

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 ай бұрын

Thank you I appreciate that 🙏

"He does not hide you" I know toxic fellas and chics that would show off their partners to family and friends. They ( family and friends) know this guy/ chic is the side piece but play along.They all know the main partner who eventually gets the ring😂😂😂. He/She shows you off is not a guaranty.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 ай бұрын

Very true, but if he does hide you, then there is likely something wrong.

@LataraReed

2 ай бұрын

MISERABLE 😖 GAMERS ....SMH & TOXICS ARE THE WORSEST 👉👉TOXIC - TERRIBLE OXYMORONS XRAYING ILL & CRAZYYY SHITT _DROPS😂😂😂😂😂😂

@Bluesmoke4200

2 ай бұрын

Necessary but not sufficient

@user-fh1tr9zp3l

2 ай бұрын

Or maybe this was the agreement between them both This chic may just be entertaining a small pin man 🤣

@Erica-cf1xb

2 ай бұрын

The one who gets the ring is in the dark. The family was so good at role playing with sneaky that now who do you trust is always questionable.

Where can we ask questions??

What a great topic😊 because last night he called just to ask me how am i feeling when we are having a heated discursion and how he contributed by talking harsh words that led to me crying and he then notice he is hurting my feeling and i admited my feelings and then he apologised as he comforted me, and culmed me down then i found it easy to forgive him.

Thank You

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 ай бұрын

You're welcome 🙏

What about a situation where he’s discreet because he’s has reconciled with his ex, but durning a break you meet him & caught in emotional entanglement? But you & him remain in contact with each other. Only realizing their mutual feelings involved. So, maybe hard pull back. Which it becomes complicated.

The funny thing is he does all this things be we are still friends 😊

I am 59 years old been trying to date men in their 60’s play so many games. The younger men value me more. So I am giving a wonderful man a chance in his 40’s he is more mature than the ones 60 plus. He has his shit together better than the older ones. So stay open to younger men ladies.

Well this is just in time. I have a shitty husband and he's going through with divorce in two days. After leaving us and hearing today how happy he is not being under my thumb, I'm like thank God I'm having a blessing is disguise cause he ain't no real man!

@26:28 yet I hear sooo many women say males are sooo selfish cause they always end up compromising and sacrificing more, yet he loves her, and stays with her?!

💯

I think I made a mistake moving in with him cause he told me in the beginning he didn’t want to get married, he also listened to his sister when she told him when she first met me that he was not getting married again

@Kelsiejordan

2 ай бұрын

At least you can always move out

@karezoticsndour2879

2 ай бұрын

@@Kelsiejordan I think about moving out but also feel that the damage is done and he may not ever marry me now that we’ve already made love. We are old too, he is 76 and I’m 64

“Just because a man desire you doesn’t mean he values you”, motives matter….Please say it louder for the woman in the back!!!!

@junehat4217

Ай бұрын

Just because a man tells you he values you doesn't mean he really does 💅

Pls why would a man picks u up only weekend and if you are together in d room he ask for a massage and once I touch him he sleep off like a baby for 7/8hrs... And when he woke up, not talking to you instead he will sit d end of couch and play with his phone and using one side of his eye to search at d me?

How about if we both know each other boundaries and a new situation comes up? What now? ❤

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 ай бұрын

The door of communication must always remain open 🙏

@TashaStPierre

2 ай бұрын

@@MeetStephanSpeaks ❤️

@FrancesHernandez-hf5ys

2 ай бұрын

Very true Communication always be open ❤

He thought i wasn't smart ooooh well

🙏

❤❤❤

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 ай бұрын

❤️🙂

💖

Mmmm mmmm so so so good yes yes yes thank you for saying that hiding you is not part of a good relationship ❤

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 ай бұрын

Most definitely ❤️

19 years and he never ever chooses to bring me around his friends yet tells his lil 20 yr old l - l oes that he can’t wait show them off… it’s frustrating but he never has valued me

Being blunt could be something with ADD or something that’s not Neurotypical so and it can hurt other peoples feelings if you’re really truthful and I’m not saying it doesn’t need to be worked on I’m just saying that there is other reasons besides trauma let’s be very mindful of that

@24:00 but he would obviously still be treating her good if he valued her! 🙄

🙏♥️

Your videos are good, bit too lengthy.. and keeps revolving around a topic a lot, rather than giving the straight conclusive pointers.. it seems always scattered which reflects lack of clarity.

@spiritofhonuguidanceforlife

Ай бұрын

You have one subscriber. He has over a million....Plenty of other channels to watch if you don't like his format.

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Can I decide to become asexual in my 40's??? 😅

Where does this mythical creature come from? I’ve yet to meet any man who does any of these points. I just want a real relationship with someone who can give me what I’m capable of giving them. But I don’t think any guy wants it. I think I’m best being alone. No guy deserves my heart.

@KM-eo8uw

2 ай бұрын

Lol. Mythical creature fi tru!

I disagree with some of the things regarding changing people. I beleive when we meet the right person both people in the relationship will choose to be better because the other person inapired us. It will automatically be synergistic. Not because one partner encouraged other. If it's the right person, encouragement will not be necessary.