There are a lot of toxicity and issues in East Asia that are hard to swallow for many. Only the bright and positive side are shown in media while the negative parts are rarely talked about. Thank you so much Kyurin for this informative video, I hope more people will watch and hopefully learn something new! ❤️

@KyurinDiary

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely! You totally understand my intention and I am incredibly grateful for your support 🥰❤️ Anyone planning to enter a new country in EA, people should be aware of these aspects in the East Asian culture!

Thank you for talking so honestly about this. Great Video!

@KyurinDiary

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching 🥰

ea sounds so crazy, sheesh…saving face to the maximum and peer pressure while never questioning anything. the society sounds highly controllable. amazing info and this was very eye opening into the real culture.

@KyurinDiary

2 жыл бұрын

So happy to hear you enjoyed this video!!! 🥹 Thank you so much for the support! ❤️ I am glad to hear you got to take away some new knowledge and I will share many more videos in the upcoming weeks🔥

Southeast Asia have this problem too. Mental health is not well discussed. But people try to educate others nowadays

@KyurinDiary

2 жыл бұрын

Indeed. Many points are applicable to South East Asia also!

Thank you very much Kyurin for this video~ Currently, I am a 20 yo student in a business school and I plan to work firstly in Europe and then go to East Asia for work. I have been thinking about this recently. However, you showed the most important part of the East Asian culture. (I can totally relate since I have Chinese origins), especially the mental health topic, nobody wants to know about your condition, and that needs to be changed. Besides, work career represents so much pressure. Your video is indeed very very interesting and I respect your opinions ! personally, I think I will nevertheless plan to get a job in East Asia. I may sound completely crazy for a lot of people, but I assume that I am ready to bear the East Asian system. As I said before, your video is super interesting and full of personal experiences (those make the video so relevant) Love your content and I will always support you in this multilingual journey !~

@KyurinDiary

2 жыл бұрын

Good luck Matthieu! I am sure you will do amazing in East Asia - stay strong and always hope for the best! There is no bending but having to adjust and conform the norm. If it aligns with your values (at least a bit) you should be totally fine! Gogogogo!

Thank you for this realistic video! It's very precious to see both sides of the life, environment and atmosphere in which people live in East Asia

WOW Kyurin! You put sooo much effort in this video!!! Amazing! Thank you for sharing your honest thoughts about those topics ❤️ I really see you as one of the persons with the most intercultural knowledge I know. So happy to have found your account on Instagram and be able to learn from your experiences.

@KyurinDiary

2 жыл бұрын

Martin~ Thank you so much for the incredible support!!! You’re truly making my day! Forever grateful for your thoughtful comment and that you enjoyed this video! And that you recognized my effort. It was a lot of work indeed. So much more more more to come! 🔥 I will share many more videos from now on 🤩 is there something you would like to know? 🥰

Thank you for sharing your view. Very interesting topic.

@KyurinDiary

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Peter for watching! Appreciate it a lot

thank you very much for this video Kyurin. This is really important to know and things that not everyone is aware of

One reason that I would not move to east asia (especially Japan/China) is how they try to "erase" their history, how they're all about saving face, "hush" culture (I'm not sure if that's the correct terminology). But textbooks acknowledging important dark sides of a country's history is so important to not repeat those mistakes, in my opinion. In comparison to how a lot of Germany acknowledges their dark history (preserving concentration camps, cemeteries), the differences are really intense and mind-boggling for me.

@KyurinDiary

2 жыл бұрын

About the history, on my record, China is not known to twist history - Japanese textbooks have proven that they “erased” their war crimes and other “sins”. I am not aware of China doing so. I would love to hear your experience with that. But it is true that East Asians are quickly forgetting (and forgiving) which can be bad or good.

@cernkoc

2 жыл бұрын

@@KyurinDiary japanese teens dont even know what japan did to korea and china because at school nobody talk about it lmao

@aperkins07

Жыл бұрын

Every culture has done it for sure. The history books are always written by the winners. US has done the same, but more and more people bring up old docs that show a different view of prevailing teachings

@scholarssolutions6735

11 ай бұрын

That is true that there are issues with revisionism, but that’s not a mere East Asia thing. The amount of Americans that have no clue or think their country was “spreading democracy” by mass murdering millions in the Middle East and couping countries in South America is absolutely shocking.

@jialiblob

11 ай бұрын

@@scholarssolutions6735 That is also true. I would consider it similar but not the same. I wouldn't say the government is erasing history in that case but going about world issues with ignorance.

thanks for your advices you literally saved some people

For me its really difficult, cause I went on exchange to Korea for half a year and really miss it. The exchange experience is probably not in anyway comparable to what its like actually living there. At the same time, I really miss my friends and the convenience of life in Seoul.

@KyurinDiary

2 жыл бұрын

I understand your feelings! I love the convenience of East Asia but there is also a reason why they make it as convenient - life is busy there (as an adult!) ☺️

우와아 오랜만에 영상..!!

@KyurinDiary

2 жыл бұрын

텐님~~~~보라와줘서 고마워요 ㅠㅠㅠㅠ

@ten7184

2 жыл бұрын

@@KyurinDiary 보고싶었답니당 ㅎㅎ 영어공부는 더 해야겠어요 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ

despite all this i still want to move there and i think i’ll have the best experiences of my life enjoying these cultures

@KyurinDiary

2 жыл бұрын

cheers!!!

Most of your points are very true, I have been to China and HK, and lived there for four years, I have observed so deep during my time and then came to Germany, by the way I'm from Pakistan and, I find that there is huge differences in culture between EU and EA in all aspects, but I found some similarities between Pakistan and EU. Overall your video is quite helpful for many of us.

Wow! Thank you for this super informative and honest video! I appreciate your work so much 🤍👏🏼

Fascinating

i think if you train your body and mind in a positive way you get and see positivity. if you train your body and mind you get negativity. if you think negative about your self and many more things you do negative things. just be positive you find happiness.

My dad: "What is depression? **laughs until I start to cry**" 🤦🏽‍♀️👀 That's why I started a diary to write all my feelings down because I can't talk to anybody about it and now I feel better ✍️🏼

@KyurinDiary

2 жыл бұрын

Amazing strategy- i also do it this way. Youre not alone!

In my opinion, you do what you love.

As a korean who had lived USA for 7 years, Japan for 2 years, I think some right others wrong. I don't know about China cause I've never been there. I think you are seeing the part as a whole. That may be rooted in prejudice. What you said is somewhat old fashioned(son preference). I'm Korean, so I don't know much about Japanese and Chinese culture. How can you be sure that the three cultures will be similar?

@willywilly5220

2 жыл бұрын

@kat s 1. Korea is a highly competitive society. The amount of learning required of teens is very high. Their academic stress causes many suicides so their parents are very concerned about the mental health of their children. Every school in Korea must have a counselor to take care of the students' psychology. 2. Korea is a depopulated country. The fertility rate is the lowest in the world. By 2050, half of the current Korean will disappear. The average age of first marriage in Korea in 2019 is 32. In 2021, 35% of all households in Korea are single-person households. 3. The Korean Family Register Act was amended in 2008. The children could follow their mother's surname even if the couples are not divorced. The idea of having a son to carry on the family has become an anachronism. 4. Korea is a mono-ethnic country. Most Koreans are not used to seeing people of other races in real life. They feel uncomfortable to approach foreigners in the first place. But once they get used to you, they will become talkative and want to get to know you. While I was in Europe, I felt that the inclinations of Italian male in 40-50s and Koreans were very similar. Of course, there are also racists who have far-right tendencies in Korea. 5. Plastic surgery? In Korea, there are many young women who have double eyelid surgery or orthodontic treatment but I have never seen a woman in real life undergoing surgery to change the shape of her face. I have heard through the media that some actors and singers have had such an operation. Some women would talk as a joke 'I will become that pretty if I have plastic surgery', but it is rare to find a woman who actually did that. from a Korean man in his mid 40s who live in Korea for at least 30 years.

the mental health one really is a big no no. as someone suffering from serious mental health problems since being a kid, I know first hand the way you get treated by peers and even grown ups can be insanely cruel here in Europe. so I can't even begin to imagine how bad it must be in EA then. 😔 nah thanks!

@KyurinDiary

2 жыл бұрын

Indeed - even in my family I have members whose mental health is so neglected that it impacted their entire life. Truly truly difficult to watch. They end up in adulthood in a extremely dark space where you can’t help them much anymore (even professionals)

That's funny. I found the opposite for reason 1. Had friends in Korea who were more considerate or wanting to hear what I was going through where as none of my friends in US normally would. I will say there's a known stigma about how women are treated especially in the corporate world there and some messed up pressure from even parents to their kids about getting plastic surgery because of how normalized it has become

in the end, you make your life perfect. it's true.

I wanna go to south Korea and none of my relatives were live there if I go there alone what career would you prefer doctor or business ca in south korea

Some of the points is true. About moving to another country sometimes certain countries have their own restrictions that certain things you can do and cannot do. Moving to another country is to fulfill things that you freely do over there or gain a better life. East Asia, the point is very competitive. Why do East Asian move to South East Asia or to western countries ?

@KyurinDiary

2 жыл бұрын

What do you mean?

@user-cn3gd7gf7v

2 жыл бұрын

@@KyurinDiary yep I didn't even understand the question btw I'm xueling love your insta shorts

@Ghostgunfighter693

2 жыл бұрын

@@KyurinDiary Sorry my typo error, What I’m trying to say is why East Asian move out from their own home country, I seen a lot of them became successful outside their own home country and prosper. Another point that that I disagree with you, not many people are trying to run from their own home country. But they have no choice but to move out to have a better living conditions or a government/political related.

My ethnicity is from East Asia which is from China and I born as South East Asian so, I really know how it feels already and I really want to go any other countries and not East Asia instead, especially with the fact that I can't understand their language 😅

To love a woman is to respect a woman for who she is...Every woman is different...Just be yourself..I'm African American mixed and I really have met some amazing personal asain wonen...crazy right but it's all about treating someone with respect and being truly honest with each other....

beauty standard scared me, ooo

but the mental health known as a disgrace for a family.. but a disorder and a mental health condition daughter can't do much at the society, am I rite? Despite all the reasons, I'm gonna move to Korea, I've passed all the worst challenges in life.. Nothing is gonna stop me from living a happy life.. thankiew kyurin jiejie..💕

The way this comment section is clever jokes and people actuallu testifying because eve this song cover ,as much as it's supposed to be for giggles, is speaking life

Agh!! I wanted to go Korea🇰🇷 for my kpop idol dream.. But now I'm confuse.. 🥺 cuz I've already a worse mental health.. As I'm only 13

i understand, but I SHALL HAVE MY JPOP SINGING CAREER IN JAPAN BAI BAIII

I'm from south asia and i was planning to fly to another country. But now i see.. i'll tell you about how our country goes. In here not even a kid mention abt your beauty. I mean we praised others but we never tell negative things. We don't usually put makeup or anything. Some put for parties and others don't and nobody cares anyway. We don't even shave our body like hands or legs, and Most of people don't shape their eyebrows. (I'm 21 and i still have my virgin eyebrows.hehe. i literally don't care abt beauty anyway) it's more like we don't care about artificial beauty. Boys also prefer girls w/o makeup. But nowadays this pop culture is spreading and so many teenagers tend to do these things and it's really sad to see that. Cause what will happen if things turned out like this. Another thing actually we can talk everything with our family or friends. I don't think anyone will just laugh if we say we have depression or anything. We are really loyal and trustful for anyone. (Not everyone tho) And the job sheesh i really thought it'll be good on another country with a good salary. But i think i should care about my mental more than that. I'm really afraid of getting hate and that's why i prefered to go for ea country like japan or else. But it seems like that i should stay here. I don't think i can endure that. Thank you sooo much for this video. This is really really good

Thank you for the insight. I think knowing how to fight in this day in age as a women is empowering. Where I am from considered bad@$$ and sexy.

Mental health doesn't exist in East Asia. It's a taboo even if we have issues we keep it inside and talk crap out in the surface. Everybody is friends with you only on the surface. We always compete with each other's. It's unhealthy but tbh it shapes me to be more tougher. If you want to go to east Asia I advice you don't do that for anime, kpop, Chinese drama. Don't. You go there either for money or competing. Okay it's better to travel. When I lived in Australia for a while. Wow the jobs and work time is so great. Not saying that you guys have I easy but it's way better life compare to other companies. Life there is so chill.sometimes I hate how you guys potray In the media because it's not what it looks like. In my family too my family has double standards it's not bad compare to sexism in East Asia. So my mom wants me to have a family , kids, get married, have a career..

@KyurinDiary

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with your perspective! It’s honestly this superficial friendship with an inner mind of competition. I despise such attitude so much. They would congratulate you without being sincere about their own feelings and pray for your downfall silently. And if they see a benefit in a mutual situation, they will drop you immediately. How do people enjoy “fulfillment” in life when they have to step over others? It’s disturbing and yes it can strengthen you, but also traumatize one’s trust in people.

it mean e cant find any type of relationship like partner in this country

Its same in india also

and i think i can servive more than 20 year 😊

Absolutely not, I wouldn't move there because my mom's friend went to China to teach there and this Chinese lady was trying to give her something my mom's friend said she didn't want it politely and the Chinese lady started Punching her for no reason...the cops didn't do anything

(long text incoming....... ) those reasons are might happening in some countries on europe too . i will start with my country (greece) 1. when it comes to the mental health it is not a stigma but it is overlooked . parents dont consider it important and when the child is telling the parents about mental health only the mother will understand but when it comes to the father it is a big NO . even if you say about therapy and psychologist to him he will answer that the psychologist will not solve anything . the mother will say the same as the father . 2. about sexism it exists but very little . i cant say it doesnt exist. 3) a) plastic surgery exists . i cant say it doesnt happen cuz it is happening . it is just not so common but it doesnt mean it doesnt exist here . b) we dont have beauty standards here 4) support system ? alr what can i say about this ??? it depends on the person you are gonna find . 5) we have good work life balance . but i cant exclude you will encounter the overtime and not get paid at all . guess what ?! you cant speak about how you feel at all when you are working . or you do the work or you get fired . hierarchy exists in the job . you must do what your manager or boss is saying even if they are the most dumb people in the world. about societal hierarchy : we learn that we must respect the elders and the family but in the society that doesnt happen , the hierarchy is not common. 6) competition in job ? yes it exists . competition in school ? no it doesnt exist . it depends on yourself and some parents dont even push so hard as some asian parents . 20:45 about this phrase : it doesnt exist. i will explain it better . we are not a country that works like : society > individual and this phrase doesnt applied here . the society will not care about you . 7) i will say it simple . many young people go to europe to find work . a very very few go to asia . and others are staying in the country . about me : if i want to find work in asia i wanna go to China , Japan or South Korea . If i want to find work in West Europe i wanna go to Germany, Switzerland , Austria or The Netherlands. I believe i will overcome the difficulties and i am rdy for it mentally

In short if your a man in East Asia you get more benefit

@KyurinDiary

2 жыл бұрын

Indeed :/ men are more favorable in the society ; we can observe that in every setting.

I really want to become a singer when i grow up but i dont fit into the standards of korea still i wanna try nd i dont want plastic surgery or anything im happy with my voice being beautiful not my face 😊 Love ur self nd be strong nd brave

For the friendship part it's I probably wouldn't have to worry too much I move to East Asia because I am Catholic. Catholics are generally the kindest people and very easy to make friends with if you are Catholic. I am not Asian but my best friend is a Catholic who is an international student from China.

@KyurinDiary

2 жыл бұрын

I doubt most of the people are Catholic in East Asia 🫣 so majority you interfere with are still having a fairly different mindset. Honestly, Christians in EA tick different than Western Christians also!

@shinyanovikov2502

2 жыл бұрын

@@KyurinDiary The thing that I go to church weekly. So that would mean that I could find Catholics there. If you don't believe me that Catholics are very nice people. I went to a Catholic high school everyone was so nice. I can't recall having a sticket teacher. Also when I went to the Catholic and the Japanese club at my university the people at the Catholic club were a lot nicer although there was a discriminatory priest luckily he got in truble with the archdiocese.

@shinyanovikov2502

2 жыл бұрын

@@KyurinDiary I know that not many Asians are Catholics. Especially in Japan where in every prefecture with the exception of Nagasaki less than 1% of the population is Catholic. However South Korea is a very Christian society. 20% of the population is Protestant and 10% Catholic. The priest who converted me to Catholicism is actually Korean. Just like you is a polyglot who speaks English, French, Spanish, Italian and Korean.

what are you taking about come to our contry forget famliy you taking about woman should have work they will kill woman but wont let them work hair parfact body perfact what? if your living that`s a big dile only 5% of our contry are open minded and also no school and 99% of our conty pepole are thinking about how can they find there food who can tell my conty`s name

Sorry but it's asain thinks all Like south Asia is same

@KyurinDiary

2 жыл бұрын

What do you mean?

@honeybutterbutterfly7133

2 жыл бұрын

@@KyurinDiary I mean in south Asia also same but not to much

@user-cn3gd7gf7v

2 жыл бұрын

@@honeybutterbutterfly7133 you don't need to relate to always South East Asia. I feel you have inferiority complex more?. South East Asia compare to East Asia is way more chill even in work culture. Sure there is sexism but it's everywhere for girls. In South East Asia you guys are less formal, more chill culture and I'm terms of education more diverse and not focused in STEM. I'm Chinese who lives in Indonesia. There work culture compare to East Asia is sooo East and chill. Even the way they talk and daily life and education is way easier compare to the East. Unlike the East they don't have tough entrance exams like GaoKao, Suneung and more. Unless your talking about Singapore that's different majority of Singaporean are 89% Chinese they're more international and good at english yes. But they still follow our Chinese values and value STEM more