In your 20’s you worry about what people think of you. In your 30’s you mostly stop caring what others think of you. In your 40’s you realize people aren’t thinking about you. 😂

@TJ-yv3kp

Жыл бұрын

Yessss

@robinmoore5298

Жыл бұрын

In your 50’s you don’t care what people think! Lol

@debbiefriedt7264

Жыл бұрын

In your 60’s you think…..what was I thinking? 😂😂

@fabienneroure9995

Жыл бұрын

​@@debbiefriedt7264 Exactly!!! I'm 60 and I've never been so liberated!🤗

@amyjaramojgdandillo4325

Жыл бұрын

Truth..😂😉

You are pregnant? Congratulations!! 🦋🌸. --I have always been a negative person. I’m 58. The last 10 years or so I finally realized I have to stop overthinking. Accept what happens. Don’t dwell on what might happen. Take life one day at a time and be happy with what you have and who you are!! Wish I had done that a long time ago. I was in a wreck 5 weeks ago. Totaled my van. Instead of looking at the negative parts of the situation, I am looking at the positive. The only part left was the drivers seat. I was only hurt by the airbag and seatbelt on my chest and stomach. I am OK. I am thankful God saved me.💜🦋-. A few years ago I would have fell apart. I would have dwelled on it. I would have worried about all I lost. -Instead I am happy. I am alive.

My most recent mindset shift is if I really want to do something just do it. I was asking others first “ hey would you be interested in this activity today or what are your thoughts about doing this”. I was frustrated and angry at others for not joining in. Now I say “ I’m doing this today, join me if you like” most will join me but if not I still I’m happy to be doing what I planned. I decided that I can just be me.

@MomCat03

Жыл бұрын

Yes, I’m newly divorced with Ana cult child with Aspergers and other issues, been trying to get him on board to make NEEDED changes and adjustments to our day…it’s been impossible, I too am adhd, we stay up when we should sleep, my ex was on a backwards schedule, so we were too…after almost 2 years of trying, and failing with my son, I decided just yesterday, I’m going to do what I need to do to make necessary positive healthy changes, then once I have succeeded, it’ll be easier for him to join in. But enough waiting on others, my ex took 22 years from us both, he was toxic as ever, it’s time for ME to live MY life after a life of service to others…life is short, need to do what makes you happy my dad always said! So I’ll be the role model he deserves and we will put the past behind us!

@MomCat03

Жыл бұрын

Omg, stupid auto correct, meant to say with an adult child with Aspergers, you tube wouldn’t let me edit…hope this gets read!😃

I am almost 81, and I really loved this podcast. I have been bogged down in a declutter, but today I feel inspired to keep working. Thank you.

Holy awesome, Kallie! When you talked about exercising to be strong and healthy, rather than for looks, I actually started tearing up. Yep! Same here. I used to do it for losing weight or looks but now, in my late 50s, I see others around me aging, getting weak and unhealthy and out of shape. Naturally we will start losing muscle mass starting around 30 but it really accelerates around menopause (50-ish) for women. I want to age WITH STRENGTH and grace and so I'm back in the gym, weight-lifting and it feels amazing. I don't care as much what I look like as I do about my health and strength and balance. Thanks for this video -- what a lot of great wisdom! XO!

@lmack6596

Жыл бұрын

YES!! 💪💕😃

Your section about exercising to make sure your body can do certain things is a conversation I recently had with my son. He is working to become a personal trainer and is using mom for practice. When he asked what I wanted out of a plan, my immediate response was, “I want to be able to wipe my own butt well into my old age.” 😂 TMI for some, I realize, but talk about a mindset shift! Thanks for all your videos. I really do get so much out of them.

@sharon7382

Жыл бұрын

I know what you mean! Watching mom and aunt struggle with arthritis and mobility issues in later life drove the point home.

@terrirojas2162

Жыл бұрын

You are right on! I care for my mom (86) and she still can, but I think about that for my aging self all. the. time. 😜

@msaijay1153

Жыл бұрын

I thought about that when I was waiting to be seated at a restaurant. I saw a lady get out of a car in and she took such a long time to get out of the car. She wasn't old, maybe in her 50s. I realized that I need to make changes now (mid 30s) if I don't want to be in the same situation..

@terrirojas2162

Жыл бұрын

@@msaijay1153 I'm 47 and pulled my back already this morning just putting on my workout pants! 🙄

@butterflynerd0078

Жыл бұрын

I actually think this is a really great goal :) it might sounds silly to some but thinking about it from a mobility and independence perspective, it’s important!

I hear you on the “body breakdown”! I’ve had 6 kids in 9 years, and I am 35. Older bodies and many pregnancies really does a number. I find that the best exercise is not exercising. I bike because it’s fun. I play sports and run around outside with my kids. We go on walks to burn energy and get out of the house. I totally agree that exercise should never be to lose weight. It’s all about being healthy and feeling good.

WOW!! This talk checked all the boxes for me. I, at age almost 78, have been really trying to put your mindset shifts into action in my mind. It can be empowering but more difficult the older you get. I’m going to play this particular video occasionally to try to keep myself on track. Thank you so much for sharing with us all your insights!!

@debraraby4376

Жыл бұрын

Well said!

@holycats321

Жыл бұрын

You just encouraged me immensely. Go get em!

@ingrid2543

Жыл бұрын

Truth

@rrhines3151

Жыл бұрын

At 67, I too feel it’s wiser to not get “stuck” in old mindsets! Easier said than done but this video has prodded me to keep moving forward with a more open mind ❤ Great advice!

@Jessalyn032

Жыл бұрын

I am 41, working on so many of these! Saving this video too!

Something I’ve been doing is keeping track of the things I get “ right” day to day… instead of how I failed to get things done on time or perfectly!

@softsophisticate

Жыл бұрын

That is such a great idea - thanks for that. If something is important enough, it will get done eventually.

Awesome video, thank you so much. Loved every point, especially #1. Another mind shift that has helped me lately is “something is better than nothing.” I tend to be all-or-nothing, whether it’s exercise or decluttering/cleaning, etc. But now I’m seeing how even doing a little makes a big difference over time. Love all your videos, and love how you’re always so genuine :)

From By Samantha March I learned ‘2-a-days’ for when you’re giving yourself grace. If you skip an important habit 2 days in a row, you can’t skip the 3rd. If you indulge in a habit you’re trying to get out of 2 days in a row, you can’t do it on the 3rd. I’ve been pretty rigid with exercising every day for the past 2.75 years, and I need to cut myself some slack because it’s obviously a habit now, and was trending a little disordered. So this technique is helping me skip a day or eat something not on my plan for the day. I know BSM was trying to create new habits, but I kinda repurposed it for what I need.

What others think of me is none of my business! My Nana taught me that very early on. One of my all time favourite lessons. Right up there with ‘do it now, properly, and let it go’.

My husband had heart surgery when we were both in our 50's. I knew he was not going to be able to do the physical things he used to, so I decided to exercise to stay stronger physically for the both of us. We are now in our 60's and I have hung onto that same mindset. When I was younger it was all about looks. Now it's about living with more strength and physical freedom. Great points! Thanks!

@Romans828girl

Жыл бұрын

That is awesome. I'm 55 and you are an inspiration to me. We are not in great shape. I had not thought about it in terms of freedom. Wow.

@glrinc7756

Жыл бұрын

@@Romans828girl I don't do a heavy workout, but I figure every little bit helps. :)

All great tips. My favorite is not letting society dictate paths to success. There is no one size fits all and no time line. Also, some have more difficult hurdles and may not look successful to society when in fact they are incredibly successful. Success has different meaning to others and what you feel is important might not be applauded by others and vice versa. If we all have the same idea life would be dull. Also, you can change any time your goals are not serving you or you have a desire to go a different path. Have you considered doing a Q&A catch up in honor of reaching your one million subscribers?

It’s really hard to get motivated when you don’t want to do a specific task. You’re right in that you just have to make yourself do it!

Starting my week with one of your motivational videos has made Mondays so much more productive. 🙂

When you take care of your body for HEALTH, all of a sudden, not only exercise, but eating/self-care/numbers-at-the-doctor, become the reason. This is the key to a long healthy life my friend. Amen sister!

Happy Sunday. Thank you so much for this video. Need to hear this message. I will be replaying this video again. Thank you

Wow, these are great!! I always wondered why other people are so motivated and I never “feel like it”. So glad to hear that no one “feels like it”, so refreshing to hear!!

Would love a video about how you hope to build self esteem in your kids. It's something that weighs on my mind a lot. Hoping that it will help them avoid peer pressure and stupid decisions. Love this vid!

When I would go over to a fellow mom friends home and it was clean I used to think “wow she has her life together way more than me.” Now I see it as “ she worked her butt off cleaning since she knew people were coming over “ 😅😊

THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! I've been following you for over a year and this is the BEST video to date. I loved the part where we all have our own way of doing things not necessarily right or wrong. Much ❤️

What a wise woman you are. Loved this video and your message.

Just what I needed today! You make me feel that I'm sitting over a cup of coffee with you and sharing what we need. Thanks for your hard work that helps us to do our own hard work!

Yes, correct and your attitude towards everything you do and want to do!

Love all of these! I’ll definitely be revisiting this video. Thank you! You have been helping me find peace in my life instead of overwhelm for the last 3 years by helping me focus on small changes I can make to form habits that have literally changed my life 💖 I can’t say it enough. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

All the truths everyone hopefully learns growing up. Always good to hear them from another's perspective too. I found you a few months ago and enjoy your videos. Thank you!

Thank you for all your inspiration. You have helped me many times to get motivated. Congratulations on your third baby. Have a wonderful day

I keep hearing these same truths from so many places. Your presentation of them is real, easily relatable & done without the sense of shaming I usually feel when I’m told what I “should” be doing & “how” I should be doing it.

Whether you think you can or you can’t.. your right. (Henry Ford.) Believe you can and you will.

Happy Sunday ❤so happy to see this video 🎉 your amazing and always so inspiring super thanks always for these amazing videos! You always make my day! All 6 of these greatly helps me shift my mindset in my daily life.

Love this Kallie! You are learning so much at a young age. I wish I heard these things when I was younger. These things are always a great reminder. 😁💜 Your can't choose your emotions but you can choose how to react to them.

Oh boy, that last one is so true! I’m 65 and finally realized all this about 20 years ago. So freeing and better for my mental health.

Kallie you are so inspirational. This will be a video that I come back for over and over. Thank you for this content.

I needed to hear these things. They are things I know, things I am working on, but things I struggle with. I have prayed a lot to overcome these things. Sometimes you just need someone to confirm that what you are thinking is correct. Then, you can be that much more confident in how you move forward.

Years ago I developed the mindset of understanding what people think of me is not about me. It has been extremely helpful. I find that the less f***s you give the better you feel lol.

Love this video. I really like the last point, that is the one I really implement a lot. Judging others and knowing what others think of me isn’t really important. I try to focus on me and tell my daughter this also. Good self esteem too. 😊

Excellent video AS ALWAYS. The most recent mind shift that's been a game changer it's stopping negative self talk. So many people do it & don't realize how detrimental it is. It is a form of self harm. Stopping it has really changed me as a person in so many positive ways. I highly recommend looking into it and trying to change that inner dialogue.

@HeronCoyote1234

Жыл бұрын

I have to keep reminding myself of two things. Would you let someone talk to a friend the way you just talked to yourself? (Family member, usually parent), get out of my head. (We all have those negative tapes of what our parents told us as children, or even adults.)

@serenabryan1364

Жыл бұрын

How did you do it? I am so mean to myself.

@HeronCoyote1234

Жыл бұрын

@@serenabryan1364 I ask myself if I would let someone else speak to a friend of mine like that. And I realize most of our negativity comes from the familial tapes in our heads.

@trishpipkins

Жыл бұрын

@@serenabryan1364 I ccarried a tiny notebook with me & when I caught myself saying something negative I marked it off and then changed it. So if I dropped a spoon and called myself an idiot I would say to myself "That's not true. I'm human. We all make mistakes. It was an accident." People use talk negatively to themselves because they either feel if they don't do it, no one will and they won't achieve their goals or they deserve to be punished. In my case it was both. However it prevents us from achieving our goals and no one should be punished for making mistakes. I started looking up self compassion prompts and doing those. And like someone else mentioned, I try to talk too myself the way I would my own mother, sister, child, husband and friend. Since I've been treating myself better I've achieved so many goals I struggled with FOR YEARS!

Yes! Yes! Yes! I love this so much. For me it helped, to listen and think with the heart, instead of my brain. This might be helpful for people, who are quick thinkers, using their thoughts a lot.

Truly thankful I found your channel not long ago, really appreciate all of your content, it has been so helpful. Thank you! Have a blessed day!

The other day I was watching a video by Natalie Bennett, a q&a with her husband, and she said something about how it wasn’t about who was fulfilling a task, because it‘s never gonna be a hundred percent fair, but she sees it as everyone helps the home - somehow this makes me feel so much better about household tasks. I also heard Joshua Becker mention that if a thing needs to be done it might as well be him who does it - I try to say this to myself a lot of times and it helps, too😊

Congrats on the new little lottery ticket! That's what my mother-in-law said when we had our first. She said being a Grandma was like winning the lottery, hence lottery tickets. Good luck with another healthy baby. Thanks for this video. I really needed to hear it today.

I agree, I'm never going to feel like it. I just have to push to get that start.

WOW! I am saving this and listening to it every week. This is so in lightning in so many ways. Definitely checked all the boxes ❤

@Deci_Bella

Жыл бұрын

The word is "enlightening".

You are awesome. I wish you were my friend when I was a young lady. Different times. God bless you and your family.

Thank you!!!!!! The last concpt hit home!! My DIL has a tendency to act quiet, or sharp or ignore me in a conversation. Right away I ask my husband what did I do?????? Now I will work hard on thinking I'm fine she must be dealing with something in her life. Thank you again. TFS and take care..........

Caveat to number one-taking breaks can be the only way some people can do things, and that’s totally valid. Also, an exhausted mom that goes to bed with a messy living room is still a great mom (know you didn’t mean it like that, but I could see some moms taking it that way). I envy you! Three kids! So blessed! ❤

Love this! I especially love the part about exercise. I have always tried but hated it. Now I walk my dog 40 minutes every day around a local conservation area. We love it. And I do it and look forward to it!

This is exactly the conclusion that I have come to recently. Doing exercises for better health and getting stronger has been the best motivation.

Watching your channel has had an amazing impact on me I cleaned my house for the first time in 6 months on Thursday

@Romans828girl

Жыл бұрын

Yay you! Good job!

I have been overwhelmed with running a house, mother of 6, and seeing to the needs of my special needs son. How and where…. I will be listening to this video again. God bless.

One of the 4 Agreements is what comes to mind when considering other people's judgements. K is right, don't take it personally! I like her analogy on the lens of each individual 👀 We can be so hard on ourselves, it's a shame.

A good friend of mine said my recliner should have police caution tape around it, because if I get in it after I get home from work nothing is ever going to get done!

Once again thanks not a mind shift or maybe journaling getting it off my chest onto paper brings an insight into what's troubling me helping me to function better and focus

Thank you dear

Thank you!! Love this as a new way forward!

I try to remind myself of the saying: Which is more important: What I want right now, or what I want the most? If what I want the most is to feel healthy but what I want right now is candy, I need to think for a moment about my next move. To this end, I try to ask myself whether I'll be happy about it if I took the "what I want right now" option. Will I be happy I ate that candy bar? Sometimes the answer is yes, but usually it's no. Easier said than done, but I've gotten better at it.

Hey Kallie! Great video as always. I follow these 3 step thing of which you have completed the first step. 1st step is giving others the benefit of doubt as you said, when someone does something that seems offensive they might not have meant it that way. Giving them the excuse until you know for sure. 2nd step is, to do good to those that have hurt you or wronged you. These steps are actually in them selves processes so for this one you start building from your first step and that is that when you learn to give excuses for others you start asking them if they need help. Example: you invite someone and they decline in what you feel was abrupt or even rude 1st step you excuse them for there behavior thinking maybe they were in a hurry or something was going on. 2nd step you call them back at another time to ask how they are and often they, if close to you, will apologize up front and sometimes they don't realize how they came off and didn't intend it that way at all. (This has happened to me, and it's very freeing) and the goal is here to become empathetic and also reach a place where what others do won't reflect in your actions And lastly 3rd step is to give thanks for everything you have. So you start with the thinks that make you happy, ones you are used to that you'll find yourself giving thanks about the normal things that might seem forgotten, and the goal is to reach a place of gratitude where you can't be wronged, where every failure becomes a lesson and every misstep becomes a dance. Basically to learn to find the positive in even the hardest situations and obviously sometimes it won't be instant or even possible but the thought is to have that support system to get through then.

So right on!

I was just thinking today that I tend to be too judgmental and that it causes unnecessary stress so I am stopping that behavior!!!!!

WONDERFUL ADVICE! thank you.

Deciding to watch every video you post has positively impacted my life 🥳🤗❤

I always "what makes or breaks a situation? Your attitude

Love, love love this video!!!

I like the talk through reasoning you do with cleaning and decluttering. It helps me alot.

Your tips have Already helped me after, maybe, 6-8 months! 5 Minute Clean and doing "something that tomorrow me will thank me for" have been game changers and made me more than ready to adopt "you're Never going to feel like it" and "the ill disciplined are slaves to their moods and their passions". That last resonates Too much with my personal history and your reframing is falling on fertile ground. THANK YOU! PS, you look So Darling as you make human #3! Working out is like if saving for retirement gave you more $$$ TODAY! Of Course, it's worth doing!!!

I've learned boundaries. 1.) You don't have to tell every detail or anything at all when it comes to your life. And same vice versa (My pastor told me 9/10 our problems are because of our mouths. That we don't keep quiet or we talk too much. Just learn to listen and don't say anything. Or in other words think, think, think and then don't say anything.) This helped me so much with not sharing much info. Also, knowing who your audience is. Don't assume that if you are close to someone that they need to know everything. 2.) This goes especially towards parents. They don't need to know everything. 3.) Learning that others try to control your life, and it's not their place. There are boundaries. Especially when dealing with Narcissists. Like it's okay to say "no" or you don't want to.

Spot on !!

One of your best videos!! So much great information. I am listening to it again!! Thank you. 💜

I love all these comments about stop caring about what other people think. Especially people you don't even know. Having said that, I do think you look fabulous in this video. Beautiful and strong. 💪💕

100% this right here is the message I needed! Thank you!👏

Back to rewatch and set myself up for a better day 💓

I totally understand the need to exercise with kids. I had 3 kids in the span of 5 years ending at 40 years old and boy did it take it's toll. Wouldn't trade it for the world, though. You got this mama!

Thanks so much for your wisdom and encouragement!

Thank you ❤️

**One of your Best Videos! I have been following you for years, you have had some great content, but this one truly was timely and informative. Well done.

A mindset that I think is very important when being motivated to do things or stick to new habits is to do things for you not for other people. Habits and actions won’t stick if you only do them or feel like you should do them for other people. Do the action for you because you want to do it or for it to be done. Then you won’t be frustrated about it not being done when you don’t do it or wait for someone else to do it. Plus your motivation to do it will be higher and it will be more likely to get done.

Giiiiirl! This video was awesome! Short, sweet, useful! Discipline is my biggest takeaway. As a mom, I don’t want my kids to discover what I have at age 40!

Genius. Thanks! 🙏

I think you're my favorite KZread channel that I watch.

This is exactly the content that has been elevating my life. I too have been repeating, I’m not going to want to do that later, either. Haha Thanks! Life changing.

I love that you say you used to think. "Really, just put it out into the Universe & it will provide it...Because (you) always believed you were in control of your life & if you work hard..." The way I see it is, "Putting it out there IS the way to get it." Don't get me wrong, you still have to do work, it isn't just say or write it & forget it because it will somehow happen. We ARE in control & all deserve happiness, & love!

Love, love, love

Fabulous tips❣️. I needed this perspective...thank you.🥰

Thank you Kaille great video !

I so needed this today. Thank you.

I love most the part about judgement. Brilliant!,

Thank you for this video!!!

Amazing... I so needed to hear this !!

I'm going to save this and listen to it every now and then. I'm retired, and I get so lazy! When you have a job and raising children, you know that you have to get things done when you have the time! When you have all the time in the world--doing house cleaning and dishes isn't a priority!! The old Scarlett O'Hara " I'll think about it tomorrow". Or in my case I'll do it tomorrow! And like you said tomorrow I don't feel like it either! Especially dusting--i hate dusting!! Thanks for the motivation.

@bethupton385

Жыл бұрын

I can so relate to this

@nicmiller7905

Жыл бұрын

Dusting makes fun with a feather-duster (and it is very quickly done with it, because you leave everything in its place, you don't.have to moove anything)

I really didn't care about ppl thought of me ever since my 20's, teenage years, yes, but in your 50's doesn't matter even more; too exhausting. A waste of my time.... but, this was definitely a good listen. I started hit yoga, pilates a few years back and increased to going 4 days a week for two years. I have a treadmill and run on those off days giving myself Saturday off for rest. I have made it a routine to rise at 5am is where I make sure my kitchen is clean, do any laundry and such before my 6am class. Then off the work 5 days a week. So, I've instilled this routine fur a consistent 2 years. Yes, I do it for body and mindset, looking slim at my age can be challenging, but I do it for my mind, body & soul. I have two sons 27 and younger one coming up on 24, the years fly by.... So, good luck to you and yours and with that new addition, its going to be a fun ride. Motherhood was by far the best time in my life. Shout out from the Bay Area of California 😎🌴

Kallie, you are an incredibly wise woman for your age to say that if we say “such and such about someone says more about us than them.” I think by now, in my 78th year of life, I have learned these lessons. For God’s sake I certainly hope so! Good for you. Developing yoga practices while pregnant. Maybe I have never developed the right motivation. So scratch that one for me. I think I’ll quit while I’m ahead. ❤️ Three Babies in four years. I knew I could never do it and I’m so glad I didn’t have to try. I had wicked postpartum after my second baby and of course I had his older brother running around. I wish you and your hubby much love and success with this new birth and bringing the child home. I am glad that you have fresh choice. I’ve tried it and it wasn’t quite as simplified as I would want. I think today they have more easy menu items than when I was buying the dinners. ❤

Hey Kallie. Thanks!

SOOO many great quotes in this video! And you always give the best advice! Thank you 😊

I have not finished the video yet the begining made me pause and go for an hour of cross-country skiing 🙂

I love this video and would love more of it :)

You have such good videos. Thank you! 🌻

👋 Hey Kallie! Just wanted to drop by and say thank you for sharing your amazing Mindshift Secrets with us 🤗! I’ll be adding your tips to mine. It is fascinating the impact on what you think has on your life. My first rule is, "It doesn’t have to be perfect, it just has to be done" 🙌. I used to get so caught up in perfectionism but now I remind myself of this all the time. And my second rule is, "It doesn’t matter where I start, it’s where I finish" 🏋️‍♀️! I've been using this in my workouts and it's helped me get started, which is the hardest part. I appreciate all the time and effort you put into creating your content and helping us improve our lives. Also, congrats on your upcoming new baby! Wishing you all the very best ❤️.

Wow. Thank you.

Love this!