If you're sick of using words or actions to try to make things happen (or not happen, like the children fighting or disagreeing with a partner), focus on emotional attunement. Attunement to self and then others.
Attunement creates deeper aligned connections with others not based on words or actions. We attune to the emotional need and connect instead of trying to control things in the outer world with words, conversations, reasoning, threats or actions.
Our own bodies may speak with pain, discomfort or an emotion, so are we tuned in to attend to that inner need in that very moment? Or do we power on and ignore it, try to change it, complain about it or go to an external source for help?
What about if it is someone close to us like our children, partner or even a stranger on the street who has an emotional need that's disguised as anger or frustration? We often just stay in our mind and use words or actions during these moments and interactions when it's a call for emotional attunement...are we deeply listening beyond our ears and eyes? Can we connect with ourselves and others to the emotion calling? It's like a knock at the door. Will we open and experience it then? Or let it knock again and again? Or maybe try to never answer it?
Our emotional attunement helps us experience the aliveness of life in every way. It might appear different, or crazy or "off with the fairies" to others, but once we realise the feeling being called is just an experience in that exact moment and that is doesn't have to mean anything, escalate or prolong, it allows us to bring in more light, more consciousness that then brings the next aligned steps/person/action/present moment.
Today was an invitation to emotionally tune in to each experience and feel the aliveness of life no matter what comes our way. Feel life to live life. Everything has a story, a subtle aliveness if we chose to focus on it. If not, the mind loves to take over.
Feeling, expressing and holding space for others to be themselves exactly who they are without judgement or trying to change them allows the magic of wholeness and authenticity to shine.
Stay soft, stay gentle, stay kind.
With an open and grateful heart,
Melissa