I started smoking cannabis 18 years ago as a teenage, later switched to cigarettes. Spent my whole life fighting Cigarettes addiction. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with ADHD. Cigarettes addiction actually destroyed my life. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

@Qing__001

Күн бұрын

Amen God bless people. Save your health save your mind. Life is better without heroin, cocaine, alcohol and cigarettes. And you have more money in your pocket. God bless everyone who has rejected the devils intentions to be addicted to alcohol and cigarettes etc which can cause so much damage to health.

@Bastianbishops

Күн бұрын

Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Germany. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them

@SusanaGomez-mp8sk

Күн бұрын

YES sure of Dr.benfungi. Did straight shrooms in few days. Left me like a blank slate after words, no more addictions, pains, ptsd and depression. Shit saved my life, all thanks to Dr.benfungi

@Edennnn926

Күн бұрын

Congrats! I'm really happy for you that your wife decided to help you. I always admire those who beat their addiction. Knowing it's possible to fix your life knowing there's people out there that have done what I thought was impossible gives me hope I will make it through as well. Those who share their experiences don't know how much it helps when you're about to give up, it gives you the strength knowing somone who actully know what it's like to go through this tell you it's possible, it's not the same somone telling you you can do it when they have no idea what it's like, but hearing somone who knows what it's like that helps a lot since you understand it firsthand and made it out gives so much hope. so thanks for sharing.

@Iiisslogan-co6np

Күн бұрын

How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta

Appreciate what you said about not having kids. I was undiagnosed til 50 and raising kids was so incredibly hard with all my personal chaos and emotional dysregulation. Rather than enjoy it, I cried every day in the early years because ADHD also comes with depression for me. Then the insane amount of time management required for older kids and teens had me at the end of my rope daily. I was responsible but missed out the joy part due to my ADHD, because I didnt know I had it I was always falling behind on normal. As soon as I was diagnosed, a big part of my growth was accepting who I was, as is.

@CarenMagill

11 ай бұрын

I have a lot of compassion for you. This is why I chose not to take the parental path. it's not easy.

@Lynee5290

8 ай бұрын

This is me, 3 children by the age of 26, the struggle was horrible with a lot of crying! I loved them all and they’re adults now but there is so much I can’t even remember, I was on autopilot. Depression, anxiety and a (ex) husband who basically told me to get on with it was my existence. At 67 I’m now just coming to terms with the fact that I have ADHD and explains so much about my life from early childhood.

@wendyhannan2454

8 ай бұрын

I was diagnosed at 75 almost 2 years ago. It’s a relief to know what I’ve been dealing with, and what’s been holding me back. We all wish we had of known as kids, I’m happy for the kids today, as the parents and teachers can pick it up early. I believe exercise is so important. I’m now walking every day, and go to exercise classes once a week. Thanks you, I love your videos.

@KJ-lb4tj

8 ай бұрын

The good news is everyone can learn to emotionally regulate. You can also see where your chaotic lifestyle came from and make adjustments there. Depression also is not simply a biological factor and can be treated. So all of your symptoms can be worked on. Great news!

@KJ-lb4tj

8 ай бұрын

You might find it helpful to not call it 'my ADHD'. It isn't who you are, it is a list of symptoms or challenges you face.

I was diagnosed at 51 (last year). Everytime I read or listen to adhd stories I’m blown away at how I survived this long. And how different things would have been if id understood as a young adult.

@karmacat68

4 ай бұрын

Yep....I can so relate...me too

@WellBeingLifeStyle101

3 ай бұрын

I have been diagnosed just recently at the age of 54 years old. I feel the same way but now you know about it is an opportunity to make your life better than ever. I wish you all the best.

@jenA9026

3 ай бұрын

Yep. 57 here. Just diagnosed. Failure to reach potential. Burnout every 3 years.

@clairebond6958

2 ай бұрын

Only learned at age 56 that I am inattentive add. Wish it was taken seriously when I was young. School was tough 😅learning to love myself for what am I . Proud of how hard I try to help myself daily. My family just think I do not try enough 😢

@tknows470

2 ай бұрын

@@WellBeingLifeStyle101I love the positive energy! ❤

Just recently I am learning that I may have ADHD at the age of 74. I was very moved by you saying that you knew at a very early age that you did not want children as I did the same thing and people look at me very questioningly when I tell them that I never had children by choice. I also believe it's one of the best decisions I ever made.

@KellenAdair

8 ай бұрын

The same at, 71.

@janelmiller5935

8 ай бұрын

53 with no kids. always knew I didn't want kids. people seem to think I lazy when I say I can barely care for myself day to day. I 100% believe being childfree is the best choice for me. I am proud of myself for not having children and making them live with and through my mental illness.

@johnscully2637

7 ай бұрын

Diagnosed at 61. I've always felt like I was different but a mental disorder. Wow. 😊

@wendyhannan2454

7 ай бұрын

75, here, I wouldn’t be without my kids, best thing I ever did. It’s hard but doable,it’s just more of a challenge. I very much respect people who know they don’t want children.

@le_th_

7 ай бұрын

I'm 56 and even my generation STILL looks at me when I say that I knew, at age 10, I didn't want to have children...and then stuck to that. Today, I absolutely adore little ones, but I don't know want my own. I would even love being a nanny, but that is vastly different from being responsible for the care, feeding, and development of a tiny human being 24/7/365 for 20+ years. Then there are the ASSumptions people make about you...and the hushed whispers by people who think you're "infertile". Oh, I could go on...and this comes from people who are younger than me. Seriously. Oh, and this is in highly educated NorCal, in the SF Bay Area, too, not in the ultra-conservative, uneducated, pump-out-the-babies-for-Jesus or a highly-Catholic area of the Midwest. I also believe that...for the "child" I might have had, this was the best decision I could've made because every single child deserves the best parent they can have so they have the best chance at a happy, fulfilling life. The secondary gain is that it also was a good decision for me.

I guess I am lucky I was diagnosed as a child. As a teacher, I cannot tell you how many children I have helped understand themselves and give them resources to live a healthy somewhat normal life. My go to is to work in my garden.This grounds me and helps me focus. I use 2 planners, One for work one for Home. I have been married for over 30 years to a very patient husband. And Siri has become my best friend.

Thirty seven years I thought there was something seriously wrong with me. Turns out I was coping (as the “kids”used to say) like a boss and basically Superman compared to the “normal” folks abusing adderall and still getting 2.8 GPA’s. Point is, you’re probably doing better than you think, and a lot of your trouble is the massive amounts of negative reinforcement you receive from “normal” people, who are actually being huge dicks to YOU when they do that, and you get to cope even more.

@katherinelugo2819

5 ай бұрын

Thank you for saying this. I've been put down by people with the "best of intentions" and it really helps to know there's nothing wrong with me and there ARE things I can do to take control of my mind and life.

@carriegrant6164

2 ай бұрын

Yes!!! I’m just finding out I’m ADHD, and everyone has always shamed me for having character flaws and not being perfect. I feel seen for the first time in my 44 years of life 🙈😭

@SweetAesthete

28 күн бұрын

How the hell did they only get 2.8 gpas with Adderall if they are already neurotypical? Did they try to fail? 😂

The fact that I can't focus on the video because it's too long clearly depicts my ADHD 😭

@mymoodmyvibez7111

11 ай бұрын

I have restarted it several times😂

@heidikamrath1951

8 ай бұрын

1.25 speed

@joshna2284

7 ай бұрын

Yeah same😅

@joshna2284

7 ай бұрын

But I'm not sure about adbd

@michelafortuna7003

6 ай бұрын

I’m keeping myself busy with the comment section so I can follow it 💪

I feel like too many parents in this world shouldn't have been parents. Making that decision is fantastic and gives more than just freedom.

@sleekitwan

Ай бұрын

Yes, and the rotten ones seem to want to do it over and over…!

@relicofgold

25 күн бұрын

People should be licensed to have kids. This stupidity where people who are totally unprepared for parenthood is ridiculous. All 12-year old males should go to 3 sperm banks and make a donation or two. Then they should be vasectomized. Then if they want kids, no reversal required. And there's virtually zero abortions. But this practical solution would be harangued by idiots, who appear to run the culture.

As a teacher I have found that ADHD can be an amazing strength. A large majority of the students I have had that were diagnosed with ADHD ended up in the gifted program in our district.

@eobrien1

3 ай бұрын

Same. I feel like having it is what makes me a good teacher. I am able to make things clear and concise and easy to understand, cutting out the noise of a confusing topic.

@tigrenoire139

27 күн бұрын

Yes, there's a term for that--imagine that. 😊 It's called being "twice exceptional".

Newly diagnosed at 52. Just wanted to say that having kids while stressful grounded me in a way that nothing else did before or has since! They keep you very much in the present moment and in your body at least mine did for me in my life. I know everyone is different. Just wanted to throw that out there Especially to anyone thinking about having kids or not having kids because of this diagnosis. There's nothing more meaningful in my life! They ground me, they inspire me to cope with the world in creative ways. I'm sure there are other motivations but for me they have been the most precious gift.

@leialoha70

5 ай бұрын

This is my experience, too. Transitioning to kids moving out is very difficult for me and my adhd is more challenging now

@sheilabalnis372

5 ай бұрын

Hi there - at 54 im just now realizing all the signs of ADHD. Can I ask how you went about getting diagnosed as an adult? Regular physician, or ? Thanks!

@kcneese1

5 ай бұрын

@@sheilabalnis372 i'm a lawyer and research the crap out of everything always and so I just knew that I had it and knew I wanted to try medication for many reasons. I went to my direct primary care provider. She's a physicians assistant and gave me two perfunctory oral tests but I also explained to her in detail why I appeared to fit the profile for middle-aged women with ADHD and how the diagnosis also made lots of sense of many of my experiences in childhood and teenage years.

@kcneese1

5 ай бұрын

@@leialoha70 oh my gosh I can totally relate to that! Two of my 3 are practically out of the house and one more will be in the next couple years. We've been discussing college. Of course I am hyper focused on this project for now but when he leaves…?

@Yosetime

3 ай бұрын

I'd have to agree. I ended up getting a divorce when my kids were 3 and 2 years old. I didn't know I had ADHD, but I was already 33 and had been waiting for these kids for years! So I threw myself into being the best single parent I could be and that structure and drive, as I now know, is what kept me going, and what also kept me from realising I had ADHD. It wasn't until the kids grew up and were out of the house that the cards came crashing down. Totally unexpected result. I wonder what would have happened to me if I had not been a single parent on a mission? Would I have gone off the rails with undiagnosed ADHD? I'm so glad I didn't because at least I got to raise my kids pretty well. But I've been a mess these last few years before my diagnosis. Thank goodness!

Any job I ever had I always succeeded and got promoted. The more chaotic the job is the better I do. I could never do a boring job.

@nanci_sousa

2 ай бұрын

Ahahahah this is fantastic! Personally, I could never do it but I’m glad someone could successfully make it! ❤

@sheilaboland6285

19 күн бұрын

Every job I had I was fired from and I have a Master’s degree.

This video helped me ACCEPT that my ADHD teen MEANS it when she says she doesn’t want kids. This helped me decide to an official diagnosis for myself. I’m a people manager and the teams often report it hard to work with me because it feels chaotic and it’s hard to know what is important.

@CarenMagill

8 ай бұрын

I'm so glad it was helpful for you and your teen!

@TheKyoung213

3 ай бұрын

I have pretty severe ADHD and had two children - homeschooled those kids very sloppily (in my opinion) and my son is a successful engineer who has done work for NASA and my daughter has also done really incredible things. Neither child had ADHD in any manner. I was a super fun and very loving mom and that is what made all the difference between me and other mothers - my instincts were always on point too. If your child has fear about having children, please read this to her. If it’s a person choice she has made, that is different. ❤️

@Julia.Mandelbrot

2 ай бұрын

Can u find another kind of job? That can't be fun.

@isleofahh

Ай бұрын

Not every female wants kids. And teenagers know what they want. 43 and happily childfree since I knew at 14 thanks.

@cw8543

Ай бұрын

@@Julia.Mandelbrot I have a new job and an AWESOME Executive Admin who compensates for my work deficits.. she helps me get focused and

I was diagnosed on 9/9/23 for the first at 45. The retrospective of my life with ADHD in mind is wild

@KellenAdair

8 ай бұрын

I can imagine. I'm thinking it's not adhd. But, 71 year's of somewhat similar experiences. Since it's more of an Adhd. And more than mild, post Trauma.

@rixatrix

6 ай бұрын

I just got diagnosed this past Friday, and I turned 40 in October. So one, hi friend. 😊 Two, I had therapy later that day and I said, “Imagine who I might have been if I had known this whole time?” My life is great, it’s not about accomplishments-it’s about how much less HARD on myself I would’ve been and how I would’ve looked for alternative solutions to help me with the things I thought were just personal/moral failings. The life retrospective IS wild. I have so much compassion for our younger selves who just had to figure it out while they were totally in the dark. I hope you’re doing well post-diagnosis!

@protectpeacepower

4 ай бұрын

Sounds like a , dang what is it called? a comic book story in pamphlet form.

I was also diagnosed at age 50 (a few months ago). I can't believe how much I struggled my whole life! 😢 Main regret was not pursuing something I was passionate about for a career.

@a.j.santiago303

4 ай бұрын

Ouch! Your words hit me hard, especially your last sentence. I feel the exact same way. I have plenty of supporters tell me it’s never too late to pursue my passions, but sometimes that same regret kicks in and weighs me down. I’m working on it, though. Here’s to those like us-including us-that struggle with this. However, we can do it. Best of luck on your journey!🙂👍🏽🙏🏽

@officialWWM

4 ай бұрын

I have the same regrets.

@DBKING04020

4 ай бұрын

That line in the Pink Floyd song : “…10 years have got behind you. No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun…” always scared me. I wasn’t diagnosed until after 40, I know now how much more I could have been. On the up side, I had developed multiple coping mechanisms (not very effective) because my parents didn’t buy into the whole ADHD thing when I was a kid. All through school I heard “…could be so much more if he/she would just” 1) apply themselves, or 2) put some effort in, 3) try harder

@tamtammaine4242

3 ай бұрын

I am 51 and just diagnosed because I wanted to go to college and never even went to high school. Got my GED and starting in the fall. Maybe it's too late but I if I don't try I wont know. I cant help wondering where i would be if i had known earlier.

@kimberlywills7219

10 күн бұрын

@@tamtammaine4242 I started going back to school at 46. I got my BS in Nutrition in 2020, and my master's last May, a year ago, at 51. I have not started my career like I thought, and after a horrible past year and a therapist, I am NOW (at 52) just learning I might have ADHD. It is NOT too late for us to start a new chapter! I wish you all the best!!

I'm late-diagnosed autistic, menopausal, and suspect I'm also ADHD. Everything you said applies to me! It's all fabulous advice. Well done on working on your wellbeing. 🏆 One extra thing that helps: discover your spiritual life. When there's nothing left in the tank, it will centre and ground you, and help you to keep going. 🙏 🥰

I got diagnosed with ADD at age 25. Just coasted through life and suffered due to just not dealing with my symptoms. Now at 51, going through menopause and ADHD symptoms are worse. Thank you for your support and insight. I’m finally taking care of myself and wanting to understand myself so I can be at peace.❤

@CarenMagill

Жыл бұрын

That sounds exactly like my story. You're not alone. I'm glad you find my work helpful!!!!

@IwaanuhReel

11 ай бұрын

I'll be 47 in July JUST NOW diagnosed AND going through perimenopause UNEMPLOYED after 24+yrs in the medical fieldu in..ANNNNND living with my what we now call narcissistics religious parents WITH MY youngest son 😢I'm on the VERGE of death! I've HIT ROCK BOTTOM & not ONE ILLEGAL SUBSTANCE or alcohol is responsible 😢.....

@lindalyons3223

8 ай бұрын

@@IwaanuhReel I am new to this forum and just saw your post. How are you doing? Much better I hope.

@olgamahiafernandez3270

8 ай бұрын

​@@IwaanuhReel. . 11:33

@MDobbs4

7 ай бұрын

67, diagnosed in my 40’s, tried Ritalin and found that it violated my company’s drug testing policy. Stopped and have tried and failed to manage it without medication. I married an OCD, super organized woman that is my rock! I really want to be better for her, my kids, and my grandkids. My granddaughter is 7 and is showing signs and symptoms of ADHD. So glad I found your channel!

Thank you! I'm in my 40s and it's only been this past week that I truly realized I may have ADHD. It explains so much.

I'm 60 now and just dealing with my ADHD now. I also have dyslexia and that was diagnosed when I was a teenager. The thing I want to share here is to be mindful of being kind to yourself at all times. Everything you said here is gold. I'll be moving forward and not looking back. Living in the here and now is all we can do.

@CarenMagill

4 ай бұрын

well said!!! thank you for sharing that.

I definitely get sick of people 😅 but that's because I have avoidant tendencies. I have noticed that many neurodivergent women don't get evaluated until after they're married/ a mom. Because of how overwhelming that seems, I often wonder if they would've chosen the same life had they known.

@CarenMagill

Жыл бұрын

I would love to see more women getting diagnosed earlier in life so they can be empowered to make better choices for their lives.

@RenegadeContext

8 ай бұрын

I was diagnosed with autism 3 years ago and ADHD two weeks ago. I'm 40. I've never had the capacity to maintain relationships or have children because of my "mental health" would have liked to know what it was instead of just struggling for 40 years. I'm a little jealous of the women who had late diagnosis but still had the capacity to live a normal life. I know they have their struggles so I tell myself that shit isn't helpful but given the choice I would have liked the less fucked up version

@wendyhannan2454

7 ай бұрын

Every one with a late diagnosis wished they had of known earlier, especially women. I’d still marry and still have kids, no doubt about that. Life would of been so much easier had I’d known what I was dealing with. I’d like a dollar for every ADHD person that said that. I except what I have, and I realise how tough at times it’s been, and will be, I know I’m ok, and I can work with it. Thanks to these lovely ladies on UTube, who are so successful, and are living proof you can work and achieve with this condition, their inspirational, and so are all you Addhers out there.😉

@lauraneuhold92

7 ай бұрын

​@@wendyhannan2454not everyone wishes they'd known earlier. I am undecided on that. My first impulse was, "yes, I wish I 'd been dx as a kid", but in reality, not much was known about it back then, so not sure I would have gotten effective help. Plus I know me & if I'd had the "label" earlier, I'm not sure I wouldn't have been "woe is me" about it.

@Yosetime

3 ай бұрын

@@lauraneuhold92 I think there is some truth in that. My youngest sister was diagnosed with ADD around the late 70's. We just called it "hyper". And boy was she hyper! Doc told my mom to take her off of all sugar and artificial colorings and all that. Didn't work. She was never helped in any way, no medication, and ended up with a brutal life. She was murdered by her boyfriend in 2007. And somehow we always knew she was not going to make it. She had addiction problems, relationship problems, she didn't know how to do life. And nobody helped her. Not even me. I feel guilty to this day as I've just been diagnosed at age 55 and have had to do that life review we do when getting diagnosed. What an eye opener! I ended up not going the way she did even though I was undiagnosed. Thankfully. But I could have. Scares me to think of that.

11:40 only way adhder can thrive in Neurotypical world 14:10 exercise is next best thing to adhd medication

I actually agree about kids. If someone is not desiring to be a parent they should not. I made the same choice because my family tree has numerous disorders. Edit: prioritizing Finances and Exercise is a great strategy. Good advice.

@CarenMagill

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! This decision probably served me more than any other.

My grounding technique might seem strange, but it's shoveling snow in the winter, and any type of yard work for the rest of the year. I find it very relaxing, and it allows me to be in the moment.

@danajohnson7551

8 ай бұрын

Me too!!

@nancyrampmeyer8492

7 ай бұрын

Same here. I live in the woods and leaves are falling. I pushed them back to the property line twice this week. Most would wait for the leaves to finish falling! LOL! It puts a smile on my face when the wind blows hard, I'll take the snow shovel, throw leaves in the air and watch the wind do the work. TMI, sorry!!😂

@jenniferkogure3370

7 ай бұрын

@@nancyrampmeyer8492 I love it! 💕

@SouthCountyGal

7 ай бұрын

Same! Nature is supposed to be chaotic, and I can impose a small amount of order on it while taking care of my energy needs -- and while my small changes to my environnement bring me pleasure, the remaining chaos is still beautiful. Indoors, it's all chaos I created and it just inspires guilt.

@jenniferkogure3370

7 ай бұрын

@@SouthCountyGal I love the way you described it thank you for sharing ❤️

I’m 41. I was diagnosed with combined type ADHD at 37. I wasn’t treated until the month before I turned 41. Absolutely life-changing! Looking back, I see all the signs I missed as a kid & young adult. I’m just very thankful I was led to get diagnosed & treated, no matter how late in life. I also have fibromyalgia. Once I was treated for ADHD, I noticed my physical symptoms were becoming milder. It’s amazing how our mental & emotional suffering has such a huge influence on our physical bodies.

I felt like you were speaking to me when you said “has a million ideas a day” lol 😂

@CarenMagill

Жыл бұрын

Yep, that's my brain!

@SaltyBeach

7 ай бұрын

Same!! 🙌 lol

@Yosetime

3 ай бұрын

If I had a quarter for every idea I have in a day......I wouldn't need a job!! lol

@italianrostrataps6938

Ай бұрын

My very grounded husband looks worried whenever I say, "I've been thinking..." I'm an ideas person!😉

@italianrostrataps6938

Ай бұрын

You realise I only found this wonderful presenter because of my ADHD...I was working on my lesson plan for tomorrow...but got distracted!!😅

"a million ideas a day and wants to do all the things" 100%

I've got 10 years on you and just figuring it all out, and that there's others like me.

Two years ago I started working for myself, and I just got diagnosed with ADHD. Turns out that entrepreneurs are MUCH more likely to have ADHD (ans ADHDers are MUCH more likely to become entrepreneurs) and I can totally see why. I still struggle with some of the organizational things, but 1) I get to choose work that excites me and 2) fellow business owners are some of the greatest people I’ve ever met. I worked in advertising for 16 years, and it can be a volatile, hostile place. Stressful for no good reason. Political. Petty. Executives think they win by making other people lose. Now, my community of fellow (mostly female) business owners says things like, “What is your dream? How can we help you get there?” And “Are you charging me ENOUGH for your work/your full rate?” So career advice: Sometimes stepping out on your own may be exactly what your ADHD brain needs. You can get help with the parts you need help with. Find your community, follow your passions and strengths. And even if you don’t become an entrepreneur, sometimes a toxic work environment can just make everything worse.

@CarenMagill

6 ай бұрын

100% agree with you on this!!!!

As a single mom of 2 teenage boys who also have ADHD, I will say: it’s a challenge. It creates a lot of additional shame to not only feel like you aren’t living up to your own potential, but to then be responsible for kids who need consistency & routine to thrive, when those areas are your pitfalls as well. I was only recently diagnosed with inattentive type at 36 & knew absolutely nothing about ADHD prior…. I went through an intense range of emotion as I learned about it & realized how much it had truly impacted my life - so many things make sense through that particular lens! I’m thankful at least that my boys have a support system & understanding from both their dad & myself (we aren’t together but remain friends & coparents)

You're doing your potential children a huge favour by not having them. I know there are wonderful adoptive and foster parents out there, but there are far more traumatised children being flung around a broken system like they're in a pinball machine. I personally wanted children and don't regret it, but at 42 and having them all assessed I'm also being diagnosed. I feel out of my depth, not as a parent keeping them loved and healthy, but in trying to help them in a learning and social system that makes no sense to me. You're right about the life partner. A lot of us end up with narcissistic abusers. I left mine and am doing better with just the kids. Thank you 💙

Diagnosed at 60. I'm convinced the reason so many people get diagnosed late is that it gets worse. I have also just been diagnosed with lupus, which I've had my whole life. I have a lot of rebuilding to do.

@sandrainontario6710

8 ай бұрын

I am 74 just self-diagnosed and I have an appointment Monday with my doctor to be referred for testing. I totally agree that it gets worse. I can see the difference even just in the last year.

@ecm3030

8 ай бұрын

You are correct. Untreated/undiagnosed it gets worse over the years. Life gets out of control and you feel powerless to solve it all. We are forced to seek a diagnosis because we innately know something is not working right in our minds.

@susanshearer6106

4 ай бұрын

I was just diagnosed with ADHD today! I am 63 and my symptoms got much worse after menopause.

@martin.ballard

4 ай бұрын

@@susanshearer6106 64 tomorrow. I have spent 2 years re-learning how to do everything. I don't foresee going off the meds, but maybe if I really tune up the exercise. ADHD is a massive neurological drag coefficient.

@ThisIsTheSalon

3 ай бұрын

Autoimmune disease diagnosis at 39, diagnosed with ADHD at 45 but suspect my late mother, who also had lupus, had undiagnosed ADHD. Tried talking to my consultants about ADHD and autoimmune link and they weren’t really into it but have friends with both and sure there’s something going on.

I too am 52 and was misdiagnosed early on… Today’s talk was spot on and made me realize why I HAVE to exercise and more recently started deep diving into learning how to invest. Another note, I am the creative type but was so entrenched into being a successful business woman but I failed time after time. I married at 40, my husband is younger but is the most balanced person I’ve ever had in my life. Thanks girl! You’re like my new BFF

@CarenMagill

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for the kind words!!!

@lindalyons3223

8 ай бұрын

I have to exercise too. I get overwhelmed because I think it has to be everyday. I, too, am hoping to learn how to invest. Do you have any youtube video suggestions for learning? It can be overwhelming for me.

Are you me?.. I lived with ADHD without knowing it while having the same interests as you, I then got into running by accident, lost 146lb and made every "lucky" move that you did. I read Warren Buffet's advice and became super interested and am now debt free and just accumulating (like you). And I found the right school field and job for me and now have an MS degree and financial independence, like you. One thing is different though, as I will not let anyone try to convince me that my identity was some kind of privilege. I'm white-passing but arrived in this country as a refugee at the age of 9, without knowing a single word of English. I can tell you are free but you can be freer if you stop internalizing the disempowerment and self-hatred that the beliefs of racial "privilege" lead to. You know you struggled badly and earned everything you have. Don't let them take that away from you!

Thank u for being honest about the decision not to get children. I'm 35, diagnosed with Audhd at 34. My first marriage broke (not only, but mainly) because I didn't want to have kids after I started exercising with 29 and was the first time in my life happy with my body and my mind. My new partner doesn't want to have kids either and my ex has a toddler with his new wife. So everyone is happy now, nonetheless would it been easier and healthier for me to get my diagnosis earlier on in life.

Not diagnosed, but at 60 still am a “hot mess express”. I knew from a child that I was going to have 2 boys (sister and boyfriend knew also!). So I did have 2 boys and somehow they and I made it through into their adulthood, happy and thriving. Married an Actuary. He is very observant and organized. He laughs at how many boxes get checked for my having ADHD. At 60 I am finally going to try to find a person who can help me and diagnose me.. I keep a Bullet Journal and that really has saved me.

Thanks so much for sharing your experience Caren. I’ve just been diagnosed with ADHD at 67! I’m trying to figure out what to do about it: medication, coping skills, etc. I think it’s going to be quite a ride. At least I know that my issues are probably due to the brain chemistry I’ve inherited instead of just thinking that I’m stupid, lazy and weird. Cheers!

i loved this video a lot!! and i especially appreciate you acknowledging the privilege you have that others may not, knowing that doing that doesn't diminish your story. i'm from the philippines and neurodivergence barely means anything here, so i have to default to american resources and content creators to learn about my adhd. that's why it's so important to me when i find content like yours that speaks to me even though we're worlds apart. anyway, i just wanted to send love and i'm glad the algorithm brought you to my feed.

@KellenAdair

8 ай бұрын

Me too, on that algorithm thing. I'm 71 and starting to think mine might be more severe than I thought. My sibs were bad.

I was diagnosed in 2023,I got married in 2008 and my son was born in 2005. He was diagnosed in the 2010's which prompted me to look into ADHD.

I don’t have ADHD but can relate to that knowing feeling to not have children. Never regretted it. Thank you for stating this out loud.

That’s me! 73. Married for 52 years but I know it’s been hard for him. Still working on my chaos and I feel a little more balanced. Great interpretation‼️Thank you‼️👩🏻‍🦳☦️Be blest fellow ADHD friends.

About that yoga and meditation, and what grounds you while being mindful ...vs... the trigger zone. "Whatever you put your attention on you get more of..."

yes um yes and yes you about covered my whole life 😂 diagnosed at 47 and proud. My entire life made sense with one little sentence “You have ADHD”. After 6 kids ages 30, 25, 17,17, 11,9 ( all diagnosed Neurodivergent) l still don’t understand how people manage to make diner and still have time to take a walk ?! And yes chaos everyday but wouldn’t change a thing we are blessed❤Ty!

Diagnosed at 58 years old. I was not a hot mess ever. All indications would be that I achieve things fairly well and do pretty well in life but sometimes things are off in a way that people want to criticize. I have always had coping skills that I fell into, without realizing it, that keep me mostly on track. Fairly well organized, mostly on top of life but EVERYTHING is a struggle. EVERYTHING is hard. EVERYTHING takes big effort. And frequently I get things almost right or mostly right. My wife and bosses were all the same, they come down on me hard for not performing and doing what they want, never acknowledging that everyone is different. They want communication their way too. And none of them understand the squirrels running around in my brain...even at 3 AM. #4...both spouse (wife) and career/job have been love/hate always. I give and give and give and get very little from them. I am so uninspired by them. And yes, exercise, enough sleep, good diet (though currently mine is lousy), maintaining a calendar, communicating expectations, boundaries, etc. All good stuff, especially the exercise.

@addictedfoolgamer1970

8 ай бұрын

I hope someone, somewhere in your life is on your side. It sounds tough for you.

@evilbutterfly8

7 ай бұрын

I understand getting the criticism on things being slightly "off" I'll look at an art piece or something I drew up and be like "That looks good, I think that explains everything." But the criticism I get feels so out of left field, they'll say "whats that mean?" And point to something that was just inconceivable to me. Leaving me in my thoughts like "THATS whats confusing to you??? How!? What?? I didn't think that could be a problem at all!!" Ive always questioned if people were just stupid or if there was something fundamentally wrong with how I did things 😅 (could be a little of both depending on context)

@daisy1022

4 ай бұрын

Finally, somebody has verbalized that EVERYTHING is hard. Thanks for sharing.

@Seegers2010

2 ай бұрын

I totally understand you. I feel exactly the same. I can ‘do’ my life but EVerything is hard. I’m 52. As I start this journey of learning about my brain and accepting myself I hope to find peace. Hang in there ❤

For me having kids was the best thing I ever did and kept me regulated and focused. It was the absolute best time of my life from when they were born until they were about 10/12. My life before was a mess , my life since unfulfilling. With babies and kids you have to focus on them and the relief of not having to think about yourself is huge. The constant fun and games gives you continuous dopamine hits. Every day is different, challenging and rewarding. Organising daily trips out, seeing their joy, being playful and silly with them for me fixed my ADHD. You get constant reward and constant dopamine hits. I wasn’t maternal but just did it because it felt the right time at age 31. My 2 girls are now 24/26 and I am back where I was before they came along - struggling.

I was diagnosed in my late 50's. I had a wonderful PCP who listened and recommended a therapist to help make the diagnosis. I was constantly ricocheting from one thing to another, always starting things and not following through, always distracted, making impulsive decisions and always depressed because I felt with all the energy I put forth, I did not see to many rewards, and I was just tired from not accomplishing what I wanted to complete. I was put on a small dose of Adderall, and it really made a huge difference in my life. I know medication is a debatable subject, but for me, it made a positive difference in my life . Looking back at my old self, I see how strong I was to keep plugging along, but I enjoy my relationships so much more now. I feel fulfilled in so many ways now because I have routinely accomplished what I set out to do.

@willywagtail4182

2 ай бұрын

❤

High five to not having kids when you know it’s not for you…was the same for me & I’m sooooo glad I listened to that because I knew that early on. I think that’s an important message for young worker- that it’s OK to not want/have kids if that’s your truth! ❤ (PS: I wish I’d “cleaned habits up” earlier like you. Better late than never!)

I was lucky to have a friend & co-worker who encouraged me to open a 403 account. The act of putting money aside made me more focused, especially on an adult future.

I feel very seen by you and your experiences. I am 34, and just got my diagnosis. I'm sure my mother is ADHD, and she taught herself some really helpful tools. She was always so organized with lists and calendars. I definitely brought those skills with me into my life, and thank goodness, I am positive I would not have done so well academically if she didn't teach me them. I'm also a sucker for writing on my hand lol.

@ThisIsTheSalon

3 ай бұрын

Sure about my mother, too. She worked as an executive PA so could be highly organised at work and always looked glamorous and was a bit of a tyrannical perfectionist. After she passed away going through all her hoarded clutter made me realise there was a lot of chaos behind the scenes. She was highly organised when it came to things she was into it but not with everything. Also, bad relationships and was super on it with finances because an experience of baliffs at the door when she was younger. So much masking and wish she could have been diagnosed.

This resonated so much to me. I’m over 50 as well. When we were kids in the 80s we were just labeled “hyper” or “can’t focus” and it was looked at more of a behavior or discipline problem than a brain process. I struggle with social issues dealing with others. “Regular” people don’t like how forthcoming and impulsive I can be.

OMG, you just described me exactly. I'm 55 and my finances are a mess. I am currently taking the Dave Ramsey Financial Peace University course online to help me get my shiz together. This has been such great advice, I'm taking notes in my journal. Absolute gold!

@mrjohncrumpton

8 ай бұрын

Rich dad poor dad is also good.

@rosalindarcher6060

4 ай бұрын

How did you get on? I’m 55 and broke and scared I’m out of time. Also scared of advice to trust because so much is sakes and feels like a scam. All I’ve done is bury my head in the sand…

@teresastorms3774

4 ай бұрын

@rosalindarcher6060 the course was great. I'm scared to death about "retirement" too. I've not even been at my current job for 10 years. I'm just being as diligent as I can to keep up with where my money is going. I wish you luck and all kinds of abundance!

@rosalindarcher6060

4 ай бұрын

@@teresastorms3774 thanks so much for getting back to me! I’m so glad the course was good. I’ll look it up although I am Uk based so it may not be relevant over here. Thank you too for your kind wishes. You’ve done the only positive thing anyone can do, which is make a start and I wish you all the very best of luck with it all too. My ADHD has me running about in all directions mentally (like a sprinter spaniel when its owner comes home, racing round picking up multiple toys as presents, then dropping them and dashing onto the next one!) so I’m gloomy about my prospects of making a start even, let alone following on with it. But well done for squaring up to it. You should be very proud!

@paulaborodusko6270

4 ай бұрын

I believe in you! Wish you the biggest luck of it! My therapist said - Your hand is an extension of your soul@@rosalindarcher6060 Write as simple as possible and you will get there! If you want tip, I can send picture of how simple it can be. The hardest thing it s to do it again next day and so. It s with alarms, which I also struggle to do it daily, but I have good tip of how to write simple finanse in paper notes.

I haven’t been dx but I do seem to have ADHD. I was really on top of things until I had kids. It’s been a struggle but I wouldn’t change anything! My family, husband, kids and now also grandkids have truly been the best thing in my life. My kids are grown now but I’m very grateful for our close relationships!

They're finding that not just exercise but specifically balance/coordination activities can help a lot. Improving your balance through a balance board, walking on a beam forwards and backwards, head/handstands, skateboarding or ice skating, stuff like that (or yoga/one foot balance exercises) can all greatly help some people with their symptoms. Also coordination stuff like ping pong/table tennis, squash, tennis, juggling, maybe training fighting. Because when most people hear exercise they think walking/running, cycling, or lifting weights. But you can daydream doing these things because they are not balance/coordination challenging b/c they are so automatic. So try training those balance intense kind of things, there's new data out it can help a tonne. My theory being because when balancing or doing highly coordinated stuff you have to be totally focused/in the zone or you fall over/miss the ball. So training that thru activities could improve your use of focusing overall. Lastly your cerebellum in your brain, which is responsible for movement, reaction, balance, coordination, spatial awareness and all that, weighs only 120 grams (0.12 kg) but has *70 billion* neurons of the 100 billion neurons in your brain. Your cerebral cortex is 1.4 kg (1400 grams or 3 lbs) but only 25 billion neurons. The cerebellum is absolutely dense with neurons, and training them up could have great ripple effects all over.

What you said about not having kids hit me hard. I was diagnosed 2 years ago at 34 and i think with the right set of circumstances i could have felt comfortable becoming a parent. Where i am now im so thankful that i made the hard choice to self-regulate instead because without kids i still feel like im at my wits end all the time. (Disclaimer: yes im in counseling and medicated didnt want to alarm anybody, just speakin' facts)

Thank you for acknowledging your privilege. I am 53 and have been diagnosed for about a year now. It has been good days and bad. But I feel encouraged even more becasue there are WAY more resources than we had growing up.

I just got diagnosed with ADHD a couple of months ago (right before my 50th birthday). I feel like your videos also share my story, which makes me feel less alone in this journey.

@bumblebee_mrs

8 ай бұрын

I have a feeling there are a lot more of us out there but no one ever spoke about it out of shame.

I got diagnosed 3 weeks ago. I'm 50 years old. My diagnose in medical terms: Inattentive Type, Mild(DSM 5 code: 314.00) - in FIFITY YEARS, I went around knowing in the back of my head I had this condition without thinking about diving deeper and deal with it, I was partially afraid and partially ignorant. Now when I look back, it is the root cause of everything: my jumpy career, suck in school, people pleasing, bad self esteem, depression, anxiety, broken relationships, addiction and at the end : a divorce! AAAAAAAAAAH! But better late than never! Now I have to look forward and do what I can to put my life back together again, with more intelligence and knowledge!

@SusanaXpeace2u

17 күн бұрын

Same, I knew something was DIFFERENT.

@nickiboy33

17 күн бұрын

@@SusanaXpeace2u Best of luck! Focus on a brighter future , you got this :)

Had the same thoughts about kids but couldn’t verbalize it until I was diagnosed at 41❤

I am 59, ADHD and dyslexia..this is sustaining me.. thank you ⭐️

@KellenAdair

8 ай бұрын

My little bro was born in 58, and had both very severely.

Got diagnosed at 50. Managing my energy levels is my greatest challenge. I think we learn from a young age that we aren’t “doing it right” This idea then compounds every future thought and action because we might not be doing it right, I find myself continually second-guessing myself I’m never sure of anything, definitely leads to mental fatigue and burn out

Me too. I’m 51. But I knew I had it. I wish I knew all this years ago. I also had OCD terribly, so I really focused on that. It was hard as I have the boy kind for lack of a better word of ADHD. Hyper as shit. Teachers hated me. I would just stand up in the classroom and walk out because it was so boring. I cut people off, talk, fast, walk fast etc. I could still do some of the things I did when I was 18 but then I started realizing that it looks stupid to act that way when you’re in your 40s and now 50. Yeah, I want to class clown at work. I always make friends. But you know how many people told me that before they got to know me that I was on cocaine. And I can say that I make people nervous just because of my energy. So I finally started to look into it and I started a an ADHD medicine. I can tell you one thing it’s much easier methods to use than trying to fight OCD. But I almost think I might be able to get off my OCD medicine after looking into ADHD. Things that I learned so far is when I text somebody do not text them until they text back. I’m extremely impulsive I mean I’m like the textbook ADHD. The counting to five before I spoke didn’t really work I was finding it was too long. Lol I mean think about it for a second if you count to five seconds correctly, it’s kind of long before the other person talks. It’s almost like I told my daughter to bring duck tape wherever I go. So I gotta work on that maybe I gotta count to five faster. But what does help a lot and again it’s some thing I saw where they said no matter what you do. With ADHD whether it be anything talk to somebody or you’re gonna do something. PAUSE. The lady that I learned that from sad new matter what very important before you do something say pause and think about it when I remember to apply those things I feel so good. I am just so so sensitive and emotional to the point where nobody even asked why I’m crying and I don’t blame them. I told all my friends and family if I’m talking fast you have to tell me. But I’m so happy that I am with all my might making myself aware a lot myself while I’m talking to talk slow. I mean it’s embarrassing. So I’m gonna continue watching your video now and thank you so much for sharing.😊

You're such an inspiration, thank you! 💜 I feel the same, kids are amazing & such a blessing, but I knew early on being a mom wasn't for me and was lucky enough to find a partner who felt the same. In my 20s I hyper focused on exercise, another right choice. I didn't get the financial monster under control though... It's still a struggle, but I haven't lost hope. I went undiagnosed for 56 years undiagnosed, I'm 8 months into living with my new reality, so I'm going to cut myself some slack on the $$... Tomorrow is a new day 🌅

I got diagnosed this year with inattentive ADHD, after my divorce and your videos are helping me so much. I can’t thank you enough for your time, advice, and content.

@CarenMagill

Жыл бұрын

My pleasure! I'm glad it helps.

65 years of dealing with, being defeated occasionally by, and surfing over and under ADHD having no clue what was wrong all along the lost decades has been an interminable roller coaster of a life. Yet, now at 65 and educating myself through good, informative, reliable, trustworthy sources of information and INSTRUCTION has made an indescribably enormous difference in my life!!! Thank you, thank you. These types of videos, books, workbooks, etc. are truly (no hyperbole) lifesaving to me. So many thanks!

Inconsistent not unconsistent. My ADHD went crazy when you said it.

I just found your channel today and I could not agree with you more. I am 49 and just realized this year how much of my life was chaos just trying to survive. I got sober 5 years ago and 2 yrs ago I started walking every day and just 3 months ago I joined a gym and I wake up everyday at 4AM to go exercise and then come home and walk a mile barefoot because these first 3 hours of my day are the best hours of each day. Exercise has absolutely changed my life. I will never ever stop because it makes me feel so much better!!

Great video and an insight into what can and what does happen. I'm now 63 and diagnosed just after my 61st birthday, I wasn't shocked or horrified, but felt more validated as I knew from the age of 6-7 years old that I "felt different", don't ask me to explain that, I just knew. When I told my parents, they thought I was imagining, creating situations and making excuses for my behaviour, which was not good because I was seen as a "naughty boy". I didn't like school and wasn't academic, but with the things I liked, I excelled at, though these things were more practical and not part of my schooling. I've just gotten on with life, done my best and "masked" massively in order to appear normal and have a normal life. I've worked hard, bought a house and had kids, but the struggle has been huge and like your comment about not having kids, I wanted this for myself, but my partner coerced me into having them and the pressue on me increased to the point where I had seizures because I couldn't cope and with not knowing why I was the way I was and not being able to deal with my feelings, I increased my masking levels to the point were I was becoming a risk to myself. Roll on to where I am now, I'm no longer with my partner or kids and we get on much better with us being apart as I can control what I do, if, when and why I want to do it. In short, I'm better off on my own.

Bio female here, diagnosed with ADHD at age 53. Menopause really made ADHD a beast in my life. It wasn't a problem when I was young, because I had energy and I'm lucky enough to be really smart academically and problem-solving. And I could catch on fast. I never had to study, retained knowledge especially for testing well. Having kids was really helpful for me because there's always deadlines. And I sucked at making schedules and priorities for myself, but I was raised to believe that my value was in how helpful I could be to others - so keeping house and giving my kids structure and stability was basically a hyperfocus lifestyle for me. Unfortunately, that also made me a narcissist's dream wife. Twice. Because I didn't understand there were different presentations that were basically the same resulting dynamic. 🤦‍♀️ I also developed trigeminal neuralgia at like 27 years old, and fibromyalgia more recently - just a few years before I was finally diagnosed with ADHD. I always thought it was just my medical issues causing problems...but looking back, I can now see that ADHD was there from the beginning. The medical issues just took away the resources I had been leaning on to compensate for the ADHD. 😬

Just found you, this is my first video of yours to watch…and I literally LAUGHED OUT LOUD just now at 2:30 am when you got to the “Im gonna start curling! I’m gonna join the board of the HOA (I just quit my board in July 😂), I’m gonna drywall the basement all by myself!” Whew, I needed that laugh! It’s the laughter of recognition! 🤣

@ilanachlebowski1773

4 ай бұрын

i feel sooooooo seen by learning about this. that is me to a t! "Oh i had a baby, I will be come a doula!" "Oh I ice skated one time, maybe I could play hockey!" How do i get myself to focus and chill though??? I always want to do something new!!

@ladyguerlain3707

4 ай бұрын

@@ilanachlebowski1773 Right?? 😂

Your videos are so helpful! Okay so we moved from the USA to Germany two years ago with our four kids. Suffice it to say, for a person with undiagnosed ADHD, it was a logistical nightmare. I hit burnout before we ever arrived because of the massive amount of executive functioning it took to even move. I experienced insomnia and debilitating anxiety for the first time in my life. I could barely take care of my kids, let alone, myself. Two of our children really struggled as well and it turns out one of them has ADHD as well! Anyway, it’s been a tornado these past few years for me. I’m not out of the woods yet. I’m on Ritalin and in therapy, but am still feeling a lot of anxiety. Anyway, your videos are super helpful. I used to be a ballet dancer and teacher and I think that movement helped me to function, and I didn’t realize that until I started following you. I struggled some as a teenager, but it got a lot worse after I graduated college. And that was when I stopped dancing everyday! I started being really impulsive and making poor decisions. So thank you for the reminder about how much movement helps. I’m intentional to move everyday, but knowing it helps my ADHD brain motivates me a lot more! 💕

I love that you said you were happy not having kids. Because same.

Married for 30 years to a gracious woman who understands my undiagnosed (but very obvious) ADHD. She is patient with me but I still know it's been a struggle for her. My faith and my wife help keep me grounded. Along with a plethora of hobbies! Thanks for sharing!

This video is incredibly useful. I listened to all the video without getting distracted. This probably means that your communication skills and the level of the content are very high. I mean, you also have Adhd so you can feel me!

I absolutely applaud your candor Re: Not having children. I resisted having children for so long until I met my very stable, understanding (we worked on that part😊), grounded husband. We had our daughter and I tail spun into anxiety, depression and self harm. I had no idea at the time I had ADD. A couple of alternative somatic therapies really helped me as well as.... you said so beautifully... exercise and yoga. Thedecision, to have only one child was based on what I went through postnatally. It at times haunts me to think that if I knew what was going on and got the right support out daughter may have had a sister or brother. But you can't change the past. I am so relieved that there is a lot more awareness now, especially for women with ADD ADHD. Thank you for doing a wonderful job in explaining and offering your advice and perspective.

I just discovered your channel. You are one smart cookie. I’m also 52 and have a sneaky suspicion that I have ADHD. 2 of my 3 sons have been diagnosed and my husband kept nudging me during the dr visit telling us our middle son had it. I was surprised he thought so but when home and cried that night from relief. It was an AHA moment that I wasn’t a ditzy blonde, or a chatterbox, or the lady who loves to brainstorm a million and one potential ideas but can’t seem to finish any one project. It is possible that I’m neurodivergent! I tried to ask my dr about it and she said- you don’t strike me as someone with adhd. I left feeling embarrassed and confused. Then I recently thought- I need to see a professional, not her. She sees me once a year for like 15 minutes; she has NO idea how hard it is being me and all the things I struggle with. I’m going to try again and ask for a referral to someone who knows about adhd and they can determine the outcome. Thanks for your encouraging video- that it’s never too late to get started.

I was diagnosed in my 60's when a approached a lecturer (on Mindfulness) saying I could not concentrate on what he was saying. I was floored when he said it could be ADD. Suddenly everything made sense & being a female, we are often below the radar. I still feel messed up but that could be my perception. I cannot express myself verbally & rather prefer to be on my own & not be accountable to anybody. I had a thryoidectomy 20 years ago when a goitre suddenly appeared. Thought it was stress related but gathered it is part of the scenario, woke up tired, everything was an effort, tried to get the kids to school on time, single parent by then after a divorce plus depression. Too much to handle & not much of a support system then despite a partner (another story). Just could not understand why other people were successful & I was not despite having to work my butt off. Remember a lecturer (on psychology!)saying to me afterwards, that while I was writing my final exam, that she knew I knew my work but I had a brain storm. That was in mid 70's. ADD was not acknowledged then. It had an impact on me as I did not know what to do about it. I had to rewrite my exams. Further lack of self confidence & low self esteem. Life was a struggle. Brought up 2 sons against all odds. They are independent but overseas. But lost my 2nd son who had his own latent problems. I had not seen for 2 years due to distance between us & we missed each other so much. But in his short life, he had achieved so much despite him having the same condition. He did not seek formal help despite encouragement. Emigrated to USA & achieved his ultimate without University degree with great success. But downside was he was always looking for a "fix". Travelled the world & climbed the highest mountains. Was planning Mt Everest this year but not to be. He died of unknown cause put down as asphyxiation of unknown cause which I felt was a type of risk he subjected himself too but was fatal before he knew it. So folk must not deny they are in denial & not seek help when encouraged to do so. My biggest loss as I could not be near him. My brain cannot take this & lost all focus now. Totally scattered & not achieving anything when I know the learnt methods to cope now.

I was diagnosed in my 30’s. I would joke about having ADD. And then a therapist simply listened to me and at about our 6 session asked me to take a test on a iPad. Yep. I actually do have ADHD. I had been using caffeine, nicotine, and CBT my whole life to manage it. I also use a system called point of service to manage my household. Meaning all my clothes live in the laundry room - they just recycle there. I have a coffee station, etc.. I can also multitask like a boss!! Yep. It doesn’t have to be hard some of it can be used to benefit me.

Same, I'm 54 and I am trying to get to grips with what I need to do to get a diagnosis. I know it would help me. I have found a lot of the normal things ten times harder than normal. And some of the normal things are impossible. I also kept things simple. But then I got to 50 and thought "is this simple life reflecting my potential?". No. But also 5 attempts to go up a grade at work have been unsuccessful. I put a lot of effort in,and all of the failures to go up a grade, despite really trying, that brought back a lot of feelings about being weird, hyper, inadequate, disconnected, too much, not enough!

Always working out as a child .. ballet , riding bikes hard - jazz classes - walking the beach - needed that dopamine I guess from my childhood and didn’t know I was taking care of my Mental health

I'm in a really dark place right now. What a breath of fresh air and new hope. I hope I can learn from the investing experts you've shared. ❤ Subscribed to you at least for your positive and brilliant help!

Studies now are showing that exercise can be AS effective as medicine in many cases!

Exercises, correct hydration and nutrition, good sleep health, meditation and yoga. After a long time trying to treat what was diagnosed first as PPD and then as GAD, I was convinced that the first three were essential to the sucessful tratment of any mental condition. But was only after I start meditating, and later practicing yoga, that I was able to successful implement those habits in my routine. And today I'm sure that without this I wouldn't have even find out about my ADHD.

I'm soo happy, that your channel found me! At 57 of age I was finally diagnosed with ADHD and now so many things, that I experienced in my life, make sense. Listening to you gives me hope, that I also can get better and feel worthful again. My currend situation is especally hard, because I have to deal with Post-COVID. I can say, that living such a hopeless life is barely to endure... But listening to you is like the sun has risen above my clouts of sorrow! Now, I have the hope, I could manage it too, to get back on my tracks! I was always the funny and active girl- and I'm going to get back to happyness- Yes, I'll archive that... Thank you soooo much! ❤

I was diagnosed at 50 when my daughter was diagnosed. While I acknowledged it, it took 5 more years for me to really accept it. My husband isn’t always super supportive and struggles to understand ADHD, but he does balance our lives. I push him to be more flexible and impulsive, he keeps our life financially stable. He appreciates my creativity but gets frustrated with my lack of follow through. He’s gotten better living with a neurospicy household.

Oh, my goodness, the way you put the thing about knowing you never wanted kids- first, absolute SAME, i have known that since i was 8 or 9, when i realized you didn't HAVE to have children- thanks puberty book that simultaneously put a 5 year countdown on my childhood (i was convinced everything would fall apart when i turned 13- i was not entirely wrong, i am just now getting over the trauma of puberty and losing my perceived bodily autonomy, and i am freaking 40, and now that i am finally comfortable in my skin, menopause is gonna rip me apart again... ah, life... but i digress...😮) but also my mother struggled with mental illness and it affected me very deeply, i just knew i would never have the energy or inner resources to give to a child because, like you said, i was going to need everything i had just to parent and guide MYSELF- i am basically a child still, i probably always will be because of my chulhood trauma, WHY would i subject an innocent child to both my shoddy genetics and my inability to give them the best of myself, because I need it just to get through any given day... I couldn't even function with kids, i am so glad i listened to and trusted myself, i would have inadvertently destroyed my children, just like my mother hurt me, and i am going to be healing from that hurt for the rest of my life, i have nothing left for children, and that's perfectly fine... On another note, i hope i look like you at 50, aging wouldn't scare me so much if i knew i could still feel like myself, you are so beautiful and you seem so comfortable in your skin! Oh, wow... Everything fell into place for me when i started riding horses, it's my life now, and not only do i have motivation and purpose to keep my sh*t together, it grounds me mentally and makes it easier to do... I wish i had turned to horses instead of alcohol when my mom died, but vodka was cheaper and more easily available, haha... I got here when i got here, and the important part is that i am here now...

Finance was so hard for me! Working a regular job was a challenge. I would get fired or would quit on a whim, usually around 6-12 months into a job. it wasn’t until I became self employed that I was able to produce a steady income. The next challenge was not spending literally every penny. Saving money was painful. It was really difficult to think about working my ass off, and then not “rewarding” myself with presents for all my hard work. Shopping was a great way for me to self regulate, so you can see the problem.

I found that the most important part is having a partner that understands and allows you to customize your life to manage your ADHD. I also recommend getting a basic (no fancy ice maker) double-wide refrigerator, so you can organize meal prep - make it easier to put together a healthy meal.

I am running with my ADHD but I have a rule of not having more than 3 projects on the go at any one time.I try to do everything in a moduar way that way I get a lift as each part is completed. I am a retired Physics teacher teacher and i do supply teaching to finance my projects. The work has dried up. I think they have cottoned on to my KZread channel and my unconventional life. I actually got fired from a teaching job 15 minutes after they discovered I had ADHD. It hurt a lot I loved that school. I have not looked at videos on ADHD for a long time and now I get the distinct feeling that we are getting the waggons in a circle and pushing back.

These are great suggestions but ultimately I feel the message came out as “just be normal and do all the right things just like people without ADHD do”. So that’s a bummer.

Love this I’m 27 married to a man who is diagnosed ADHD and I’m Realizing I think I also struggle with this after he’s said this for years I never believed him!

I am the same about why I chose not to have children, Caren. I knew in my teens that I had no interest at all whatsoever in having to push another life out of my body. I knew that I needed to live my life without that lifetime encumbrance and my own mother, who had 3, told me that I did not have to have children to have a fulfilling life. I am in my 60’s and look more than 10 years younger, am on the carnivore diet, and am an accomplished artist. I am a very creative person and an excellent problem solver. I like my own company and don’t get lonely. Have had two significant long term relationships, and live in Australia. I am so glad I never had kids. I hate the sound of crying babies because they sound as if they are dying and it stresses me out! Not having kids is one of the best things I chose to do, for me. I like your talk, today, because your determination led by strong decision making to take charge of your own life is how I am, too. Balancing out the losses, sorrow, fears, etc with the ability to fully enjoy the awesome range of my ever growing interests and skills, being loved and loving, and even making sacrifices for those whose needs may at times be greater than mine, means life is never boring and I can pull back into my quiet room or garden any time I want to just be . The spiritual path is in my nature and knowing Christ Jesus late in life means the spiritual has come full circle, and there is absolute grounding and peace within in Him. I used to say, my life is a trip! and I would not change a thing.

Your advice about being educated in financial stuff prompted me to open up an app i downloaded however long ago, that has lessons about finance. Went down the rabbit hole a bit, got scarred looking through my bank statements, but now i’ve cancelled my prime membership and will switch banks soon so i can get the switch over $$$ :)

Now I have two dogs they’re 12 and can stress me out but I do love them so much and so much more manageable than kids 😂

Really great stuff. I am 50 and just figuring out/diagnosed with adhd and able to self reflect on my strengths and things I wish I knew, and even better, how empowered I now am and moving forward with these strengths. Thanks for sharing, it is important.

I was diagnosed last year at the age of 53. Since I was in my thirties, I have had trouble keeping organized and motivated at work. As you can imagine, my career has not flourished, and I have been let go from three jobs. I am currently unemployed and feel that, if I am lucky enough to get another job, I will screw up again. Has anyone else had similar feelings?

@erikakoons7387

7 ай бұрын

Yes. I have no drive at all. Scary stuff

@Rs-rq9fd

7 ай бұрын

Me currently 😢

I appreciate your sharing:) I am 65 now and realized I am adhd when my son was diagnosed at 12. I am still learning about myself. After being married 4 times and having lots of jobs (even though in the same career) I have finally reached the age to be able to focus on how I can arrange my life to maximize my strengths.

@paulaborodusko6270

4 ай бұрын

I feel you!

I just found out at the age of 32 that I've been struggling with it my whole life. I pretty much had the same "AH HA! That explains a lot" moment that everyone gets. I also knew that I never wanted kids because I'm very scatterbrained, impatient, and I have anger issues, which I found out is due to undiagnosed ADHD. This lead me to believe that I wouldn't be a good father. I could see myself being the negligent father that's always losing his temper. That's not fair to a child to be raised in that environment. But there's also that duality that I feel and obligation to procreate because you're supposed to. With that said, I'm supposed to get on meds this week, if my government job signs off on it. Military isn't very ADHD friendly, despite what you may have been told.

Thank you so much for excellent advice. I wish I had been mentored earlier and this channel deserves a million subscribers as there are so many people out there who could save billions collectively from prevention which is better than the cure.

@CarenMagill

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for the kind words!! That's why I'm so passionate about this work.

Relationships: the BIGGEST HELP I could have had earlier in my Life would have been PEOPLE WHO TELL ME SOMETHING IS WRONG!!!! Instead, my mother just isolated me to my bedroom. Or worse - forced me into situations that I wasn’t equipped to cope with like the “mean girls”. I could have used a husband, father, boyfriend who TOLD ME, “Hey, that behavior or that language isn’t really helping you “. Instead, they just went to the bar. Myself: accepting that I am different, and there is value in that. And, here are the patches for the vulnerable coding that I received out of the factory. And yoga, yoga helps a lot.

I was recently diagnosed with ADHD at 57. Since then I have been researching everything I can get my hands on about ADHD. My case also involves the daily struggle of perfectionism, which has been very difficult to navigate. This video has helped me see how my marriage to someone with severe dyslexia has helped me grow in different ways.

I have thought I’ve had ADHD for so long but was always afraid of self diagnosing. As of last week my therapist diagnosed me with ADHD and it felt like bricks getting lifted off my shoulders. I was so frustrated living my life feeling like an outsider, and working my brain until it exhausted itself. Finding this video made me feel heard and understood. Thank you so much for the content you post, it helps so so much.

Thank you, thank you, thank you for this video and your mission shared through this channel. I am a ADHD adult enjoying success as nonprofit fundraising consultant, workforce training, and life coach and leaned heavily routines to respond to my ADHD. But something threw me off my routine and had me struggling but this video was a hand out of the quick sand! THANK YOU. I appreciate you!