I'm old school, and those men wine and dine you back in the day, and of course we were ladies, and carried ourselves different. This new generation is on something new, and they are clueless at times.

@aferg76

7 жыл бұрын

Yeah, it's called equality. Something women have been promoting.

@the1rosa

7 жыл бұрын

Equality in the work place and opportunities in life yes, but not in romance.

@TheLovely990

7 жыл бұрын

The times are different now, economics are different, women are making more money, than men, so a lot of men are threaten by that, or people are jut not willing to sacrifice like they did, when women solely needed a man financially, and they put up with a lot of things, we are not putting up with, and the main thing is abuse, and disrespect from some men, and women.

@Carlos1979Mad

7 жыл бұрын

What happened with that? In my opinion different times demand different behaviours. In the past woman could not study or work, well, not even many man unfortunately. So the man had to provide. Now we think. This girls wants and have the rights than us man? Great, lets expect also the same duties from them (woman). If you understand it you are fair, if you don't i don't care because i know i've got the truth by my side.

@QueenAsiyahMagicMrsBracken

7 жыл бұрын

Miss V That's a fact....the Gentleman..what happened to Gentleman.?

I don't intentionally test the guys I date. I just pay a LOT of attention to what they say. especially the Freudian slips. If there is any difference between what he says and does.. actions tell me the truth. Sometimes what is NOT said speaks loudet than what is. Word choices also speak volumes.

@tanishamourid2202

8 жыл бұрын

preach!

@corinnem.239

8 жыл бұрын

+Tanisha Miller... I don't know what your problem is.. I'm only speaking from my perspective.

@someonespecial581

8 жыл бұрын

+Corinne M. Tanisha's comment is a compliment actually. That's a black woman's way of making you know that you are making sense 🙈

@imanimarian2626

8 жыл бұрын

Ha Ha... I think she's didn't understand what "preach meant" lol

@uhuraenterprise6372

8 жыл бұрын

+Elizabeth Kukua Apprey Word!

Now see, sometimes a woman may have cooked for the other guy, but will not cook for you NOT b/c you're second choice but b/c she's trying to see where your head/heart is at before going all in like she did with the other guy who turned out to be a user. She just don't want to get hurt or used again, so she holds back until she's 'SURE that he's starting to care about her.'. It's nothing to do with you being her second choice. Men who generalize women's actions and motives will usually miss out on the good ones. The best way is to just ask: Baby, why you don't ever cook for me? or haven't cooked for me during these two months we've been dating? She may throw down for you later, but for now, she just want to see if your heart is with her.

@MrGogo1507

9 жыл бұрын

Sweet Sugar 101 Well, that maybe.....But girls do often replace people...alot just to get their happiness back..with their ex...and this way...when his ex tends to come back..the new guy often ends up ditched and that hurts alot to the new guy..because he thought that he was the only one she really wanted. In the end I just want to say that Whatever these women are going through..dont use someone elses emotion for that.

@AJweathersby

9 жыл бұрын

Sweet Sugar 101 The problem with that logic is this: how is a guy supposed to be able to tell if you're not cooking for him because you're unsure about the relationship, or because he's the second choice? He's not psychic, presumably. Men and women both generalize each other's actions, because we don't have any other way of knowing what a specific person's rationale was for acting the way they did. A man might legitimately show his affection for women through sex, but how can you differentiate him from the millions of other men who can completely divorce their love from the act of sex? So from a guy's perspective, it's better to assume that the woman doesn't really value them and miss out on something they didn't have to begin with, rather than pursue a woman who really does only see him as a 2nd choice and end up getting hurt and disrespected.

@AJweathersby

9 жыл бұрын

***** That's an extremely dangerous way for a woman to think. This idea that there's some kind of destined lover out there for every single person in the world. That couldn't be farther from the truth. I'm pretty sure that we both know a sizeable number of single women who are in their 50's, 60's, and older, and still remain single. Falling in love is something you have to be proactive about pursuing. If you just shut down and wait for the perfect man to come and sweep you into the stars, you could very well spend the rest of your life waiting.

@banyamah

8 жыл бұрын

+Ms. Naomi +AJweathersby yall should hook up lol

@strangeraspberry

8 жыл бұрын

+Sweet Sugar 101,, we're talking about cooking. I cook for my friends when I can so damn straight I'm cooking for my man. However, he's now made me feel bad about not cooking meat so much and the way he did it made me feel unappreciated so I really can't say when or if I'll cook for him again.

Oh please! Grown women don't have time for this shit! Free dates are for losers. I don't care about paying for a damn meal and I'm a female. This is so stupid. What kind of man would play like this? News flash: a date is your chance to put your best foot forward. What you won't do trust me another man will. And cooking is for husbands! Why should I do wife duties for a man that haven't invested in me and I barely even know??? Wtf

@aferg76

7 жыл бұрын

That's why you are single and watching these videos.

@ladyc510

7 жыл бұрын

@Britney- I heard a relationship expert (male) advise women to not cook until engaged or married. Don't give free labor/skills when your not exclusive. I agree with you.

@happyvegan1908

7 жыл бұрын

Race Traitor I'm not single sir

@asill.6668

7 жыл бұрын

Britney Jade YES! I just made a comment about this to one of the other posters. Women have to stop the wife duties for men that are only boyfriends or men they are sleeping with! Wake up!

@Que772

7 жыл бұрын

Amen

Maturity, honesty, and compatibility is key for both the man and woman.

I don’t submit to “tests”. I find that guys who “test” women tend to be controlling and abusive.

@laleezy77

5 жыл бұрын

Yess!!! 🙌🙌

@JoseRivera-be3bo

3 жыл бұрын

Generalizing this ignorant. Testing people isn't entirely bad.

@imtheeviltwin9597

3 жыл бұрын

@@JoseRivera-be3bo says a guy

why in the hell would you give someone your bank account number ???????

@corinnem.239

9 жыл бұрын

anastasia10017 definitely a no no for ANYONE man or woman. Bad idea.

@strangeraspberry

8 жыл бұрын

+anastasia10017 This part made me think this mans "talks" are too basic immature and not that useful. All in all, good effort though.

@MistressMorrigan

8 жыл бұрын

+anastasia10017 People do weird things. I think a better test is, a guy asks his girl to run to the store real quick while he's busy, gives her his debit card and PIN. She doesn't ask then or call from the store if she wants to get something for herself on his dime. Pass=get only what's asked, return card, forget PIN. FAIL= get something on his dime without asking, or keep card and/or remember PIN.

@anastasia10017

8 жыл бұрын

Mistress Morrigan WHY would anyone even consider giving someone your debit card and PIN ????

@corinnem.239

8 жыл бұрын

It's a trust issue. They purposely give access to test if someone in their life takes advantage of them and violates their trust. I don't play games like this, I want to get to know someone over time and form my own opinion of them, but then again I'm a woman not a man, I don't want to have knowledge or access to anyone's bank account but my own and I don't give out that kind of info to anyone else. Any man is welcome to test me, but I have never sought anyone's access nor felt comfortable with anyone's info unless absolutely necessary. They are testing trust and integrity.

If he tests me too much then I realize all he is doing is testing me that when I realize he isn't serious. He is using me as an experiment. That's when I give up

I use the same tactics on guys! LoL. I'm a woman that clear out fast when I see warning signs (some guys don't realize that they're being tested too). Guys be like,"what happened?" 🏃💨💨💨😯😂😫😆😂

@alexsisallen1409

5 жыл бұрын

Right!!!!

I just don't date because this to much shit to figure out I'm to tied

@orianna9200

5 жыл бұрын

Delaw2 xoxo I thought it was only me? same here.

@lovervenable

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly! Just tired of the b.s.

Trust is an important issue, I agree. On the issue of who should pay on serious dates, men are supposed to be courting the woman. Not the other way around. The man wants to show himself in the best possible light while in courting mode. Thoughtfulness and generosity are admirable traits to have in a boyfriend or partner. The woman, after all, is the one who'll be spending all day and part of the evening, cooking, cleaning house, raising children and then performing night duties as well. Often, the woman works a part time job, too. A good woman adds value to a man's life and can transform it from hell to heaven - as a good man can transform a woman's life as well. Not that the man while in courting mode is expected to pay for the sake of it or more than he can afford. It's more about showing what's in his heart and how he values the woman's company and character by being chivalrous in the best way he can. The woman should also reciprocate by inviting him to a delicious home-cooked meal occasionally and showing her thoughtfulness and appreciation of him.

If no one wants to be someone else's second choice, then why are guys always trying to smash another man's chic?

@NoName-sp5dp

6 жыл бұрын

Kim Cham they just want to hit and brag

rule number one never speak about your past relationships with someone that likes you it is not there business second woman need to get to the point on the first date avoid wasting your time with there little mind games

@paulenabroxson2023

7 жыл бұрын

I think you should so that way he knows about your past and what you didn't like. just don't that on a first date, it tends to not be attractive, wait for a while

@DalyT8627

7 жыл бұрын

you can make your point about what you like and don't like without getting into talking about your past relationship with time it becomes a part of you what you will and will not tolerate in any relationship.

@charlesvanallerjr2418

7 жыл бұрын

You bring up exes with your current and he will soon be an ex. Men don't want to hear that shit. The more men you talk about with your man the more men he realizes have been inside you, whether or not you slept with them, that thought is there, esp. in the beginning (2-3 years). Plus it also points out to him that everything he does is going to be broadcast to the world, now you have a guy is going to shut down and not act like himself so as to avoid public humiliation when you HAVE to tell everyone he knows about it.

@blacksamurai8285

7 жыл бұрын

Boom!!

@purposedpa

5 жыл бұрын

NEVER talk about past relationships

But women don't want to do the same thing they did with other guys why give your all to every guy you dated

@s.g.3042

7 жыл бұрын

Well and why exactly should "he nex man" pay for leftovers his predecesaor did not cherish? Right - because a woman wants it that way! Thats why wise men take virgins only! No hurt feelings

@NoName-sp5dp

6 жыл бұрын

WAYWARD SON hahaha virgins😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣😂🤣🤣😂😁😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@SunnySummer777

6 жыл бұрын

WAYWARD SON ummm...i was a virgin until I was 23 and I was fully ready and my ex bf still left me. The worst part was not him breaking the relationship off, but he sucked in bed...no matter what i did to help spice it up in the bedroom he continued to be boring with no foreplay either...sucks my first time had to be with him. But now I'm with someone better😉

I try my best to stay a sweet lady, but if a man throw a low blow my way, I'm throwing a low blow right back. The shock and surprise on a man's face is priceless. You thought you were going to slowly chip away at my self esteem? I don't play with guys who like to throw shots! I WILL NOT be controlled! As grown people we can have disagreements. I personally think it's childish for a person to say mean and hateful things because we . disagreed

My opinion? No one should be talking too much to their partner about their ex. Stop living in the past, stop comparing! Everyone is unique because everyone has lived and experienced different feelings. Comparing people makes no sense at all. Love is not a game. If you think you have to play it, you are already a loser.

@jeanweston986

5 жыл бұрын

Amen!!!

@LadyCharity

4 жыл бұрын

Love this comment and agree with your initial and ending points. However, life is a game in a sense and men definitely test women, women test men...doubt it will ever change. I never realized I was being tested but now I know....

Relationship is based on TRUST. If a man likes to play a field then so be it. I have 6 years relationship to a person who cheats, lie, user,etc.. I am going to be 57 years old soon. still active, fairly good looking, kind, sweet, don't like to take advantage to men/women. I leave everything to GOD. we are women don't need MEN. we will survived. Love to all women.

@serenarossi8480

8 жыл бұрын

Bless!

@nashornadouglas8787

8 жыл бұрын

So true. All of these videos are about what men want. What about what women want? Men play unfair games all the time

I don't think I should have to be tested. Life is a test in itself now I have to figure your secret tests out too! Who r u? God!?!

@maxhouse2409

5 жыл бұрын

You won't care about secret tests if you are being your true self. On the other hand, a foolish test is asking a person to endure sacrifice or harm without cause.

Women also test for the same thing as well

@goldencastlescrystalstream2520

7 жыл бұрын

Juliet A yep

@Dahmer_Jeff

7 жыл бұрын

Juliet A well if i knew there was gonna be a test i would have studied 😑

@charlesvanallerjr2418

7 жыл бұрын

Juliet A - You don't say, women aren't perfect little angels that never do anything, *gasp*, I would never have thought it in a million years.

With the free date thing, especially if he STARTS with that, I feel like I must be his second choice because he doesn't care about making a good impression with me. He's too caught up in past hurt.

@shewhoiskay1

8 жыл бұрын

Amen

@corinnem.239

8 жыл бұрын

It does leave that impression if it is the first date, habitual, or just a way to show no thought was put into spending time together. I would rather go free however doing fun things where a lot of thought was put into it, then only one thing over and over no matter how expensive it was. The thought and effort it into the date show me far more how he sees me.

@SomethingOhMy

7 жыл бұрын

Yeah, when they meet their dream girl they are pulling out all the stops.

@michaelchristian9121

6 жыл бұрын

GlendaLove TV thanks to you im going all out when I go on my next date! Thanks:

@NBLOOD1990

5 жыл бұрын

GlendaLove TV I don’t agree, it’s because you are a stranger and he wants to get to know you. When the last time you bought a stranger a meal that they didn’t deserve?

If you need to put someone through all of those tests ???? Plz do yourself a favor ....don't even go with her !

Chazz, you are a man of gold. Thank you so much for giving these crucial information. We women love you for it :)

How does a woman know the difference between a man trying to be cheap by taking her to a park vs testing her instead of taking her out to an inexpensive dinner?

@Amccampbell1983

8 жыл бұрын

I think time will tell if a guy is being cheap. If he continues to take you to cheap places then he is cheap. However if after a few dates go by and he takes you to some place nice then you know it was a test. Also look out for how he spends his money on things for himself and other people.

@Suz562

8 жыл бұрын

+Diego Miguels you're so right. Great advice! Thanks

@Amccampbell1983

8 жыл бұрын

I am glade I could help.

@Suz562

8 жыл бұрын

+Diego Miguels 😆

@jenniferwinzer1398

7 жыл бұрын

right. but me....with the way my mind is set up....I feel like test are the same as playing games. I will leave you alone real fast.

is anybody really a first choice when you think about?

@michaelchristian9121

6 жыл бұрын

Treasure Carelli how true really loving someone is about in a large part learning to love them. Should be attracted to them on many levels but your ability to see past or find something lovely in the relationship I'd say is key to keeping at long-term relationship. All good though :

Free dates are ok AFTER we've been together for some time BUT if a man suggest for our fort date to be where has to spend NO MONEY, I'll take that as that's the VALUE he places me at & I would totally BLOCK HIM.... U only get 1 chance to make a GOOD 1st impression..wink

@Ptah1130

8 жыл бұрын

Be careful. Whats valuable to you, may not be whats valuable to him. He can always "buy" someone else. I do believe though, that nothing is free. Everything has a price.

@staceykersting461

8 жыл бұрын

I/ve had mostly "meet for coffee" dates for 1st dates. I drive an old car and am not at all status oriented. Most guys I've met take me to dinner for maybe a 3rd date. By then, they know at least they like me.

@aferg76

7 жыл бұрын

You sound entitled

@stayroxy

6 жыл бұрын

disagree some of the most inexpensive dates are the most fun ones I have had, watching fireworks, bike rides, fires (obvs I think it's important he shows he is willing to invest financially but i am not just looking for financial investment, I am looking for creative investment too which can take the form of a free date

@jaimemiller2370

6 жыл бұрын

Then that guy is probably not for you. Me? I don't mind and actually like this. It tests his creativity, and I know I'm not on a date for free things. I'm on a date to figure out how we vibe. Blessings.

I test a girl to see if she is gonna meet me half way. Such as, when I see I do most of the calling or texting. An she never calls me, hmm. Another example, I see if I am just something to do when she's bored,hmm. An anyone can tell if someone is talking you just cause their bored and have nothing else better to do. That shows me that I am not a priority ( I'm not valued, she's not really interested like she claims to be or Friend-Zoned) Which leaves to many questions and complications. An I don't do complicated, unsure, playing hard to get type women. My time wasted... No ma'am. Find another sucker duck. Lol

You are really handsome btw.

The vindict part is so true, even with friendship. My best friend came up with a plan to get revenge on his ex and I said.- Dude you've got let it go! He was so strong about it that he said even if you dont help me I will do it anyway -my attempt to try and stop the revange was if you carry on with this nonsense you will jeopardise our friendship, well we are no longer friends.

I should let yall know that women do test guys to see how they are gonna react when we curse them out. So if youre the type of guy that ignores messages or back away from confrontation it is a GIGANTIC turn off, and we begin to think if we were married to you would you run when things get to hard or are you a confident enough man to run our household and stand up to forces.

Your video's are so entertaining....thanks for sharing...

chazz, you left a major one out which is a man will test you to see if you are a keeper or a sleeper! If he can have sex with you right away most often than not you will fall into the sleeper category and he will hit it a few times and keep it moving. For a relationship with substance and promise a man wants a keeper and she is not someone that can be easily gotten!

@foreverJMJ93

9 жыл бұрын

Women will give men this test too tho. To see if they have self control and respect for them.

Don't have sex with him point blank

Men are really tricky sometimes because they will test a woman for how long will she set her standards and if the time comes that the woman will eventually jump on men's test he'll probably lost interest in her. So women watch out for guys like this because they don't fall in love right away and it takes a lot of time for them to commit into a relationship.

@jhonjohnjonjondoe5011

6 жыл бұрын

i think i know what you mean but explain so i can actually reply from my point of view. obv i am a man

Very open and touching :) Great to know. Thanks.

I once went out with a girl and when we ordered a coffee, the cream & sugar was on the other side of the room. We sat down and I said I was going to the bathroom, when I got back, she had filled my cup up with cream and brought sugar over to our table. This means she is a giver (and a woman to keep).

Actually i met some guy who WANTED ME me to USE HIM for sex (he was in to me but i didnt like him AT ALL) He said "well please just use me like the other girls!?" then gave me some fake crocodile tears. I said 'nah'. Men are strange.

@mishellcornell2160

7 жыл бұрын

no men will just try anything..including crocodile tears..to get sex

@paulenabroxson2023

7 жыл бұрын

i'd do the same

@jaimemiller2370

6 жыл бұрын

Haha yes I have witnessed this too.

@MisshoneyB

6 жыл бұрын

Lost for Words 😂😂😂😂😂

@MisshoneyB

6 жыл бұрын

Imdaboss I agree

Chazz is the smartest man on the planet. I love this man! His videos should be required for every single woman alive.

Needing to test = insecurity

@sheilafitzgerald478

3 жыл бұрын

Vetting is responsible. Hypervigilance, on the other hand, is insecurity

I'm guilty I do hit below the belt and usually when I do that I'm done so IDGAF

Love this, really good points! Thank you Chazz you da best

7:42...I burst out laughing,.watched it again and..I..get your point too.

It's a two way damn street.. If you men can test a woman, well guess what we can test you too. What? You think you only have the right? Sorry, but no.. Just like love is a two way street so is testing. What? You think we like being second choice as well? No we don't. I am not one to make the next guy pay for my previous heart breaks, but if you think I am just going to start trusting you at the start of dating, you have seriously lost your flippin mind.. Trust and respect are earned not a given. That works on both sides. If you can't put forth the effort to earn the woman you are dating trust and expect her to just blindly trust you then there is the door, don't let it hit you where the good Lord split you. If you aren't emphatic and have compassion for the woman you are serious about then you aren't worth her time.

@PhaMa1002

8 жыл бұрын

Word!

@AJweathersby

8 жыл бұрын

+Dragon72801 Women have always tested men. And to a degree, men were generally aware of that (mostly because women usually tell men they don't like why they aren't interested, or tell men they do like about what the last guy did wrong). But most women don't know that men have their own tests, because we usually have a "don't ask, don't tell"-policy. And now that women are aware of that, they can deal with those tests as is necessary, rather than having seemingly harmless conversation with a guy, going home, and waking up to see that he just stopped calling you for seemingly no reason. That's a good thing. It helps you stay more aware about what's going on in the other person's head, and makes your love life easier (hopefully).

@melissacoston4265

8 жыл бұрын

amen!

@msc4805

7 жыл бұрын

Dragon72801 I agree

@valentinazaba7253

5 жыл бұрын

True !

Why did I only find this channel today?! I hit that subscribe button so fast! You're hilarious and give great advice!

Good basic and simple advice. Great wisdom Mr. Ellis

Great insight..😃chazzelliss

I passed these test. Lol i didn't know i was being tested tho. Lol that's funny. Im a very trustworthy woman as well. When I'm with u, I'm with you. Men hav trusted me with a lot of personal things. Only because if i needed a favor, he wouldn't mind because i proved myself worthy. I never believed in being vindictive because my father always told me if i started out bad, I was gonna be spoiled by the time ill get grown. Now that im grown, I learned to wait on God for my twin.

The logic makes sense but it is not always that cut and dry...past relationship experiences can cause people to act and move differently.

"Here.. use me, use me!!" 😂😂😂

question....why did my boyfriend proposed to me then get ghost on me after he gave me a ring...why do he only call me when he wants some and why do I only see my fiancee once a month

I'm a woman and I've had these same questions about men I liked in my life. It goes both ways.

Girl u need to get out the way sometimes 😂😂😂 that killed me 🤦🏾‍♀️

Not in the exact order, but so very true.

what does it say to a guy if the woman is the one to suggest a date at the park? the last date I went on I suggested a park near me, which was a 30 min. drive for him. I bought us bottled water and a bag of chips since he had to drive so far. we played frisbee, took a stroll and just talked.

@juricpro

3 жыл бұрын

Park? What are you? 15? It signals low effort.

@Cutenerdywoman

3 жыл бұрын

@@juricpro most of the men I date earn 6 figure and up. They aren't looking for a drinking buddy. They want to see more than how you acted like when drunk or you table manners. I sometimes spend time with a man who is a millionaire, who loves hiking. Gets mad because I don't fish. And he was planning to buy two kayaks because he knows I love kayaking. Low effort means relaxing marriage.

They ALWAYS try to test me for money. I've gotten to the point where when they start telling me about their hardships and such, they're about to ask for money. I never give it to them and they get mad. I never hear from them again . Just trying to figure out what it is in me that keeps attracting ain't shit men?

@stesfai

4 жыл бұрын

Where you meet these men might play a factor. Go to places where men have to have money to be there. How do you look? Expensive or low maintenance? Its important to look kept so broke men know they cant afford you.

@LadyCharity

4 жыл бұрын

Shifts your thoughts and beliefs about men. There are men who aren't looking to use women for money and that is very rude imo--that is a dusty tbh. A gentleman would never do that. Once you change the story--you will attract better.

It's nice to hear advice from a man's perspective. Thanks for your work! p.s. I love walks in the park!! :-)

You're hilarious ! good content...I am learning!

your voice is soothing. thank you for the video

very good topics!

Thanks Chazz You're The Best & Funny Too!

"As Guys, We know that Most Relationships, do end?" Chazz, Why, Must They?

WOW U TAUGHT ME A LOT THANK YOU!

Can somebody lease WRITE THEM DOWN AS A LIST with just the headlines or plus explanation? thank you

hahaha these are great tests I do. Its about question, observation and sitting back to hear those contradictions that may flow like a river.

Love your videos just wish your audio was louder, thanks for the advice though!

I find your videos very helpful:)

Thanks for this vindiction thing... i didn't see it from that perspective....now i know!!

I love it good information thanks

You are so far away from my culture. A man takes a woman out to dinner, I like a man to have nice clothes and a good car. This tells a woman a lot about a man, I don't fail at tests the man usually does.

@askchazzellis

8 жыл бұрын

+agnesbutterbun Lol, oh okay.

@AJweathersby

8 жыл бұрын

+agnesbutterbun How would you know if you ever failed a test? Not like a guy is gonna tell you.

@askchazzellis

8 жыл бұрын

AJweathersby I just let people believe what makes them happy and move on.

@corinnem.239

8 жыл бұрын

+AJweathersby True. Usually when he suddenly drops you. I am not into such games, and don't want access to his money, so I don't care about that, but the rest is trust issues so I guess it should take time.

@shestar64

8 жыл бұрын

+agnesbutterbun yeah, but Chazzellis is explaining a date in American culture. I am Asian, but I am here because I wanna I wanna learn more abut American culture and what my man is testing when he does something. There are absolutely a lot of differences between my culture and American cultures when it comes to dating.

You can tell a great deal about a man by what he values... if he values his earnings and is willing to spend for a glimpse of your time that he values you. Remember ladies it's you that chooses whether he's a keeper. Not the other way around. A man that's interested isn't petty over a few bucks. Smh

Thank you Chaz You're awesome, as a woman I appreciate hearing from a man what men really think. I don't get offended with any of your videos. You speak truth. Very refreshing since I'm not a man. Keep the videos coming. I'm learning a lot. Side note-I think I love you tehe ❤️

so lovely, thankyou

arg arg arg askchazzellis is my crush i inlove with his voice

Chazz chazz chazz what can I say, except I trust you... Really enjoying all your videos, thanks for keeping it real ❤️👍

I've been tested on rule #1 twice and now I know why. In my mind I just thought they were cheap, but I went with it.

Correction He says. I need to KNOW YOU will be LOYAL to me. Show me you show me Loyalty & back me UP. Tell everyone ALL THE GOOD THINGS I HAVE DONE FOR EVERY BODY ALL OVER. TELL EVERYONE I M A GREAT GUY. I m always offering to fix things T.V.s. Computers. Phones. Radios. Vacuums. Rug Shampooers. Tablets. LapTops. Etc.) He is GREAT DUDE!!! He CARES ABOUT HISTORY. HOW MANY THINGS Were developed. ...

cabs what does it mean my husband homeboy always give me his bank card to get money off of he does it every every month and every year what does that mean please tell me

I cook and give my man foot rubs..........guess I get extra points lol!

Hahaha u brought that push on yourself babe... Love love love it..!

@7:46 lmfao

That's true. About a man testing you to see if you have a backbone. I was married and I didn't stand up to my family for my husband and say look I'm with him whether you like it or not. I stood up for him eventually to my mom but it was too late. He said the damage was already done.

I agree Corinne. I am at the point now where I gave up and could care less. I am focusing on me now..and what I want for my life by myself. I have been looking out for too many ppl for too long, who don't have the common courtesy of appreciating me..men and women both. So now it's my turn and they can all kiss where the sun don't shine lol. I got me a second tattoo Saturday..despite me saying I would never get one tatt much less two lol. But anyway, focusing on me and catering to my needs. Also focusing on friends and family who do love and respect me, and I love and respect them. Our love for each other is effortless, as it should be.

You brought that push on yourself. Stop! I gotta go tend to my garden or do something else productive. Your so intertaining.😄🍃

Thank you so much

Lol omg, so I just met this guy and passed 3/5 🤣. Had no idea I was being tested though lol

What do you do when a guy you've repeatedly expressed absolutely no interest in except for friendship keeps testing you to see what kind of girlfriend/person you are?

7:16 do u have my back, life manufacturing this one

The thing that is so sad is that men and women know that we think differently, yet, we keep giving each other "tests". Why not just communicate what you need/desire and let the actions do the rest? I feel that so many connections and relationships are/have failed because of misunderstanding.

LADIES... PLEASE PAY ATTENTION!!!!!!!!! I agree w everything Chazz said BUT...... as someone who was married 20 yrs, a psychology degree & back on the dating scene the last year.... I would like to add something. Pay attention to the way your guy words his messages or texts, does he write short choppy msg or long ones, certain words he uses that he doesn't realize he does, how he phrases things etc..... because when mine started thinking serious about a future I would receive fb msg from other guys asking for sexy pics or asking me out. Always be aware guys & girls you may be talking to "sam" but it may also be ur guy. if a stranger starts asking questions that he shouldn't it's probably ur bf/gf. giving situations like saying ur bf will never know let's go out or knowing wayyyy too much about you that he shouldn't. Beware ladies & guys.... he thought I didn't know, but one phrase, little word he uses all the time, gave him away. So if ur serious at ur bf/gf don't be caught flirting w another online because when he calls u out on it, you'll remember this msg. lol. love & hugsxxxxx

Thanks

Thank you askchazzellis, this really helps. I think your advice goes both ways for both men and women, although the men I've known aren't as likely to be vindictive like women can be.

Chazz gets on my nerves 😭😂🤣 use me use me

too much rabbiting on. get to the point

You're so useful

@dandrablue249

7 жыл бұрын

Grow up- life is test enough

it may not be a bank number but my husband when we were daten let me see him get in to his money he had hiden to see if I would take it im not dumb so I didnt...so he trust me.

You are so silly!! lmao - but you are absolutely right Chaz.

u give good advice

This guy i was with he thought if he put it down right that i would be a suga moma lol like i said he thought.

Hi am new to ur channel. Hey pls what do I need to do bcos my son teacher have a crush on me. What do I need to do. Advice.

I believe my man has been testing me. Guess what im passing !!! He is so appreciated. I'm not focused on the outcome.

Hi I have a question. Would a man tell a woman that he is married even though he is not just to test her and she what she will do. I had been flirting with a man a few months ago at work. He did not where a ring and there were no tan marks on his finger where he would have worn a wedding ring. I recently asked him about his weekend and he mentioned that he missed his sons soccer game because he had to come in to work. For the sake of asking I just wanted to be sure, so I stated although he wasn't able to make his sons game at least his wife was able to go attend. He held his head done and paused as he stated "yeah, she went. I will hear all about it when I get home." Then he said he should get back to work. When I was about to leave for the day he was irritatingly passing back and forth in front of my work station, which is a strange behavior I had never seen him do before. I was soo upset, and even more so because he couldn't look me in the eye and tell me this to my face. when I actually left I looked him in the eye and told him to have a good day then turned my face in anger. He had this look on his face like he was sorry and even attempted to walk toward me, I did not want to hear anything he had to say and rushed to get out the door ASAP. He's always testing me and making comments like "yup you got it right, check, or coodo points for you, or even makes a weird sound like I answered wrong on a game show. I found out from a source that told me he is and had been for several years now. I knew this before I made my comment. If he is not married then why did he lie to me? My source might also be wrong and maybe he is. If so, what the hell is he doing flirting with me and getting all upset if another guy and I are having a conversation. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.