If she tests you….leave asap. Life isn’t a game.

@clemsonvoorheis3923

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely. They just want money anyway. 👍

@YooperHatesOhioState

Жыл бұрын

That’s exactly what I told my friend who had this issue

@adamkane7513

Жыл бұрын

They do these test unconciously, quite often. Female behaviour is not exactly nice to deal with...

@twincitydezray

Жыл бұрын

They're going to test you, so understand that. It's just a matter of how far each particular woman will go. Some are suttle, others are extreme.

@joeskeptical4762

Жыл бұрын

*Every woman tests a potential mate, most women do it unconsciously. A woman who doesn't shit test a man is like a Texan who hates barbecue.* *_Pretty dod-gammed rare._*

A few years back this woman I was dating for several months suddenly broke up with me. 4 days later she sent a text with "LOL" "OMG" "Can't believe you actually thought I was serious" I didn't respond. She text me about a week later asking why I'm being distant. I didn't respond. Another week goes by and she starts texting me multiple times a day everyday. Eventually I replied "why would I want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me" she immediately replied "it was a joke" I only replied "Was it funny" she never contacted me again. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes

@JJ-vp3bd

Жыл бұрын

Did she have a stable job history ?

@belzy02belindah28

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂 that’s awesome! Good move…silly girl, lost a good guy!

@snidecommenter7117

Жыл бұрын

Well played.

@sandman_says_runrunner4701

Жыл бұрын

Lucky. That was either a, "I want to bang this other guy and not feel guilty about it", or it was she found another dude and he pumped and dumped her.

@firstnamelastname9955

Жыл бұрын

Wow, things fell through with her new guy really quick, yikes! 😂

Test Number 3: A simple, lower cost and “low effort” first date is absolutely essential for men today, to avoid the risk of being used for the disgusting practice known as a “foodie call”.

@tidelovinyankee1368

7 ай бұрын

As regards the foodie call, I know women who use a dinner date to order the most expensive item on the menu.

@americandissident9062

7 ай бұрын

@@tidelovinyankee1368My wife ordered the cheapest thing on the menu on our first date. I knew that’s what she was intentionally doing but luckily the food item was a good one so I didn’t feel like she wasn’t getting to eat.

@howaboutsomesoyfood

7 ай бұрын

@@tidelovinyankee1368 if someone did that to me, I'd leave them with the bill.

@mizofan

5 ай бұрын

Right, 1/3 of women admit they date for free meals and as many think they're wonderful and superior they will most likely reject any average guy. Big waste of money and any woman expecting dinner as a test should be avoided. Times have changed and many women now are self-centred, exploitative and deluded over their worth

@mycroft16

5 ай бұрын

If you ask me, a first date should be next to free. It will weed out the wackos faster than anything you can imagine. Grab an ice cream or something. That's like $5 - $10. You'll find the ones who are money grubbers really fast, and you'll also find the ones who can hold a conversation really fast.

I love it when a woman says "buy me a drink" I respond with "how about you buy me one and I'll take of the next round" the look on her face is comedic.

@tidelovinyankee1368

7 ай бұрын

Just brilliant. Smart man.

@technicianbis5250-ig1zd

12 күн бұрын

I was at a night club and a woman did that to the guy next to me at the bar. He replied, "they take your money as well"

You forgot the "treat him like crap to make sure he has the balls to stand up for himself and at the same time, make sure he won't get violent" test, as well as the "pull away to make sure he won't get super needy and clingy and possessive" test.

@insulttothehumanrace3807

11 ай бұрын

As for why they don't work/why we don't like them... (I'm sure you know, this is just for anyone who may happen upon your comment) First one: Men, especially good ones, need respect in a relationship. Treading men like crap to gauge how they'll react is still treating them like crap, and they won't like it. Some will even mistake this and think this is a test of limits, seeing how much crap you can get away with and have him still around, and nobody likes that because that's a far better sign of your self-centeredness than anything else. And like the jealousy test, many men will see this as a sign that you no longer like or want him, and will just ditch you. (And also some guys who have a sense of humor would rather shrug off or temporarily play along with that, treating it like a bit of teasing fun, than go against you on it; so depending on the guy being tested this might not even be an accurate assessment of his manliness) Second one: Communication is an important part of being in a relationship. Suddenly pulling away on time together or affection given, without expressing concern about neediness or the need for some alone time or something like that, is usually a sign that something is very wrong. If he reacts negatively to it, it may be a sign of being needy or possessive... or it may be him detecting a problem and wanting to resolve it, because he just cares and doesn't want trouble lingering between you two. Either way, the lack of communication will cause the relationship to take a hit... Also -- while not quite as bad as the initiate conversations, jealousy, or loyalty tests -- this still could be treated as a sign of disinterest, and he will break off if he's feeling like you no longer want him around.

@rockerguy9683

10 ай бұрын

@@jmlkhan5153 at least your boundaries were seen as "unkind" XD mine were called "manipulative"

@CoolKoon

9 ай бұрын

@@insulttothehumanrace3807 "And like the jealousy test, many men will see this as a sign that you no longer like or want him, and will just ditch you." - This. It's a recipe for disaster and if a girl does this she can rest assured that it'll be over between them.

@PanamanianMan317

7 ай бұрын

There's a reason why we say "don't test me". Because we don't tolerate bs. A real man with self-respect has no time for "tests". The relationship is all about commitment, respect, and loyalty. There is zero of those in a "test".

@CoolKoon

7 ай бұрын

@@PanamanianMan317 Not to mention the fact that once one of these creatures get away with it the tests will never stop. And they'll keep getting harder and harder too.

I had a girl try the jealousy test on me once , we were out at a club having a drink and dancing, a guy slides up to our table and starts trying to chat her up. She didnt introduce me ,though she obviously knew him. I introduced myself and left. She had a meltdown, i dont think anyone had rejected her before.

@ericsaint-maximin5277

11 ай бұрын

You got me curious, how did you introduce yourself ? Was it like "hey i'm her now ex boyfriend, nice to meet you" ? 'Cause that would be epic ! 🤣

@robkocol5664

11 ай бұрын

You and I might have dated the same girl. I later dumped her. While I was quickly heading out the door, she said to me all bewildered, "No one's ever broke up with me before!" LMAO

@jim2376

10 ай бұрын

Smart move. Props, bro.

@davidroetman3168

10 ай бұрын

good move. Props.

@Last_one_before_I_go

10 ай бұрын

Good man !

The whole "choose me test" is one of the reasons I stopped dating. I just got tired of not being able to plan going to a concert or another event because the person I am trying to meet is too finicky and usually ends up changing plans anyway. You know what I'm attracted to? A person who understands how to make plans with another busy person.

@samwdavis

4 ай бұрын

Here's a clue... I'm not chasing you. I'm the prize, not you. Chase after me, and I might consider you..I'm a catch. I doubt that you are. Prove to me that you are.

@CanadaWaxSolvent

4 ай бұрын

@@samwdavis don't you sound like a self important waste of time.

I had a woman confirm the jealousy test. We had been on a few dates. She turned up to the small out-of-the-way beach I went to and went swimming, and ends up splashing around in the water, making a great deal of laughter etc. I left the beach and while walking back on the trail she runs up to me and asked "Why did you leave without talking to me?". I said because you were obviously more interested in those guys than me. And she said "I was only trying to make you jealous. "

@bladerunner3314

3 ай бұрын

A woman once told me, a little jealousy is good, it shows a woman is interested in you. I told her no, it shows a lack of trust making a fuzz over nothing (literally nothing, there bwas never another woman involved). She never understood.

@romanfedotov1152

2 ай бұрын

@@bladerunner3314 not if you have anger management problems)

@bladerunner3314

2 ай бұрын

@@romanfedotov1152 Elaborate?

@romanfedotov1152

2 ай бұрын

@@bladerunner3314 trying to) but still have to much testosterone and when i get angry i look like khorne berserkers)

@aaronhensley2701

Ай бұрын

​​@@romanfedotov1152a warhammer reference. Another man of culture

Our oldest grandson refuses to be saddled with 'tests' that his girlfriend(s) use to make him 'prove that his interest in them is sincere'. As his Grandpa, I sat him down and told him the truth about the women that he has recently dated: they're conniving, selfish, egotistical, lying and untrustworthy human beings. I also told him that he will have to endure all the female bullshit to find the one who is not like the others, and that's the woman you should marry.

@AwoudeX

11 ай бұрын

This woman seems to be hittng the proverbial wall and that is why she's helping men to get through the bullshit in the faint hope she'll get one and not be a lonely catlady in 10 years. As you were saying, cutting through the bullshit is quite the hassle and there are only so many women out there that you actually like enough, combine those two, and it becomes for alot of men a complete waste of time and money. In the mean time these conniving, selfish, egotistical, lying and untrustworthy women have convinced themselves it's all men's fault. It seems we'll be skipping a generation pretty soon.

@miguelservetus9534

10 ай бұрын

Wish that I knew then what I know now. Listen to Granddad. Ohh la la.

@MidnightPolaris800

10 ай бұрын

Do not marry

@jayboog5000

10 ай бұрын

Ah the ol unicorn myth. I still remember being dumb and thinking any of them have any merit or morals to their behavior, sadly that's a pipe dream

@jeffcauhape6880

10 ай бұрын

My grandson is still little. If I live long enough I imagine I will have a similar conversation with him.

I never played these games. I always made it clear that "Whoever makes me have to choose will lose." As for the jealousy test, as soon as I saw her attention in another man, I was done, and that's another point I made clear by telling them jealousy works opposite for me. Turns me off in a heartbeat.

@doyourbest7655

Жыл бұрын

My attitude the same. If she indicated there are other men and I should compete, my reaction is you should snap him up because you are not that hot, and goodbye. I won’t bid for a woman. She has to want me. End of story. I won’t look back.

@p0six71

Жыл бұрын

@@doyourbest7655 💯‼️

@janco333

Жыл бұрын

100%, been there, got the t-shirt.

@lakelanddentalarts

Жыл бұрын

What's amusing is how women will call a man "insecure" because he refuses to be a pawn in her game of jealousy-chess. It seems to really piss them off when they manipulate a supposed-pawn off of the board and then realize that it was a king that's striding off into the sunset. The woman is left wailing, "How dare you not think I'm all THIS and a bag of chips? Get back here and let me keep disrespecting you!"

@enemyofthestatewearein7945

Жыл бұрын

Emily explained this perfectly. The biggest problem with jealousy tests is it's a tacit expression of low self worth. What you see is her attempting to increase her value by creating artificial competition, which means nothing anyway because most guys are thirsty, and what you really value is HER attention which she is giving to someone else. Men instinctively see through it which is why it's such a turn off. Girls often seem to do this when they notice other girls competing for YOUR attention, and they attempt to flip the script. But the interest you are getting is not solicited - girls quite often pursue guys they notice other girls chasing, even if he is oblivious - so it's not just some devious game to get her attention.

Yep, two years in, the girl I had been seeing told me she was going to have lunch with her friend. I said, "okay have fun!". She then said, "you can't come." So I said, "that's fine! It's good to have friends"....which she countered with , "and I might have feelings for them".... that changed me responses. At that point I just ended it completely. If after two years she started having feelings for someone else, it wasn't worth my time. That was when she got angry with me for breaking up with her over the phone.

As someone who had "passed" all these tests and ended up married then divorced to the tester. Its not worth it. Its mostly an exercise for them to manipulate & push boundaries as far as they can. Each test gets even more cruel.

The most bizarre test I had was with an overseas woman I was dating. Her parents didn't approve of us and would search her room for any letters. We also spoke on the phone, and one day she told me to stop writing, as it would put her at risk if her parents found the letters. So I did. Years later, as the relationship is crumbling, she asks "why did you stop writing." Me: "Because you told me to." Her: "But I thought if you loved me, you'd keep writing." Me: "Why did you tell me to stop?" Her: "Because I didn't think you loved me." No friggin way I could have passed that test.

@andycarollsuarez

11 ай бұрын

When girls go into "win at any cost" mode, they'll be completely void of logic and try to gaslight you by putting all the blame on you and then crying.

@vladtepes97

11 ай бұрын

In my estimation, you passed the test, but not the one she was trying to put on you.

@insulttothehumanrace3807

11 ай бұрын

"So, you think loving someone means willingly putting them at risk of harm or being disowned by their family? Or not respecting your partner's explicit wishes?" ... Actually that second one appears pretty common, some women seem to want men to fight them on what they say. Either way, you did the right thing, she was just being really weird.

@quillmaurer6563

11 ай бұрын

This is perhaps the worst test of all, one the video didn't mention: the mind-reader test. Can you read her mind, know what she actually wants which is different from what she's saying? In most cases it's where she says she doesn't want him, wanting him to keep pursuing her both out of devotion and because he knows she actually does want him. No, a decent respectful man will give her the distance she asked for. Ask and you shall receive, is that too complicated?

@lgblowz2794

11 ай бұрын

Sometime the test comes when the woman has too much baggage and has noting to do with you.

I stayed single until I met someone who didn't do any of these things. I was 41, and we have been happily married for 10 years.

@tbenson5966

10 ай бұрын

I did the same. These toxic bitches can FO.

@Z-gg3fc

9 ай бұрын

Is that your wife in the pic???

@SuperCosmicChaos

9 ай бұрын

glad it worked out.

@joerieke300

9 ай бұрын

@@Z-gg3fc She is.

@Loveyloveeeee

9 ай бұрын

@@joerieke300lmfao well your wife looks like the type that you wouldn’t even have to put much effort into having her go out with you! Easy for you and no stress. Weak man? Even though she looks like a monkey. Does she even know how to speak English? I can see why you got none of those questions from her Lmfao. Men need to get tested on some things. So you can quickly find out who they are! Your wife got no standards or boundaries and neither do you.

An interesting story about number 4, my close friend is now married to her fiancé and during the wedding speech, her fiancé stated that he had given up a hobby during his first relationship/marriage, and then ever since my friend and her husband started dating, she encouraged him to pursue his hobby again, and now they do this hobby together. If thats not a marriage material person, I dont know what is!

@TwilightWolf032

8 ай бұрын

That's amazing! He found the equivalent of a shiny Pokemon, it would seem.

@americandissident9062

7 ай бұрын

I recently told my wife that some of the people at my BJJ gym asked me to go on a road trip with them to a Jean-Jacques Machado seminar where Helio Moreira was going to be promoted to coral belt. If you know anything about this, this is a majorly prestigious event and a big opportunity for me to meet some of the absolute pioneers of the sport of BJJ. Wife said “I hope you said yes because that sounds like an amazing opportunity!” I already had said yes and my wife wasn’t going to be able to stop me, but she didn’t even try. She would have been mad if I had turned that down. Marry someone like that.

@misterpinkandyellow74

7 ай бұрын

No woman is marriage material mental defect

I see these tests and others like them not as tests of interest/affection/loyalty, but as tests of power: to what extent does she have power in the relationship to dictate the behavior of the man. Women who do this either believe themselves or have been told by their ‘friends’ that this is how you know you are secure in the relationship and will be able to control and manipulate the men who pass and that is the only way to be secure in a couple, rather than being in partnership with someone you love.

The worst thing about the jealousy test is they want the toxic insecure reaction good men won't give them.

@lordhellstrande2763

10 ай бұрын

My ex never gave me a jealousy test, thankfully, however, there were two times that I went, as she said, "jealous puppy"

@shadowyshutterbug

10 ай бұрын

@@lordhellstrande2763 jealous puppy wow sounds like little to no respect

The "choose-her" test might also be an indication you are dealing with a narcissist, as her eventual goal is to cut you off from your friends and family.

@akulkis

Жыл бұрын

@allnotathome That's not narcissism, that's Borderline Personality Disorder.

@TheRahsoft

11 ай бұрын

that is a narcissist( @akulkis is wrong) and it's also a domestic abuser( i think it comes under coercive control/ emotional abuse), goal to cut you off from friends and family who btw can see the red flags of the abuser and warn you/take action

@tedferkin

10 ай бұрын

@@TheRahsoft imho it's just most women

@paulmcfeeters5554

10 ай бұрын

Every femicyst around today was created by 3rd wave narcissism and is too toxic for even friendships usually.

To me, a true test of a relationship is when you have your first actual argument over something that matters to both of you. How you both are able to state your feelings, hear and recognize each others perspectives, and then repair the relationship is critical to long term relationship health.

@jasa9707

9 ай бұрын

Yep, crisis or conflict always reveals a person's true character.

@GoCoyote

9 ай бұрын

@@jasa9707 To an extent. The true test of peoples character is in how they exercise power over others when they are in a position of power, or in how they address issues when they are not in a position of power. Many people can thrive under adversity, but fail to address power imbalances when they exist. Sometimes by becoming victims, and/or becoming tyrants when given power.

@jdlech

2 ай бұрын

An argument should not damage a relationship. There should be nothing needing repair. You simply disagree, and here are your respective positions, rebuttals, counter arguments. Then there's time to reflect on each other's words. Because each of you deserve thoughtful consideration of your views. And that takes time. I have dumped women who turned everything into a seque into the same argument. I've dumped women who could not remain rational about completely different subjects after a simple argument. And I will dump women who cannot reflect upon words spoken (no respect for your thoughts). And I really do not respect anyone who resorts to violence, threats, or manipulation to win an argument. Nor do I respect those who say things they do not mean (fighting dirty).

Chad and Tyrone get a free pass on the tests. I was dating a woman that I really liked and she started talking about moving back home, 1500 miles away. At first, I became concerned, but then I realized that it was just a test to gauge my reaction.

Straight from a man's mouth ladies... This is the most immature, grade school level, horse hockey, behavior us men have ever seen. If that's your level of maturity, then we men aren't missing out on anything. Good luck ladies! 🙂

@jreyman

Жыл бұрын

I absolutely agree with your comment. I don't have time for any of their immature BS games.

@jamesjonnes

Жыл бұрын

Women aren't supposed to be mature, but they aren't supposed to have modern privileges either.

@rogertsang

Жыл бұрын

And they said guys never grow up. Double standards at its best.

@timothygibney159

11 ай бұрын

That's all women 😂. You have been tested without knowing it I guarantee it! They try to change your opinion or ask a question which is to gain how strong or masculine you are. It's what women do to make sure they get the top most bad ass alpha they can get

@elezraita

4 ай бұрын

No women are here reading this comment.

I’ve experienced most of these tests. When I see the test she’s pulling on me, I assume she is damaged goods and discard her. The chase never ends and there will never be anything good enough to please her.

@PMMcIntyre

Жыл бұрын

This. I dated two women who pulled that shit and both times I ghosted them. Turns out they were both insane with the rapid fire texts and endless phone calls. The second tried breaking down my door and demanding why I wouldn't talk to her. I never engaged and just called the cops. To hell with crazy.

@jamesjonnes

Жыл бұрын

Most women are never happy. That's why they like bad boys. You just accept their reality and control them in some way (less dangerous in a non-feminist country).

I can’t express how much I am so happy I’m 52 years old and have been married to my wife and best friend for the last 20 years, to a woman who never played these bs games. Young men out there, take your time finding the right woman, don’t be in a rush, watch the women you date and see what they will do for you without asking, if she’s willing to stand by you and help you with something that’s hard to accomplish, does things for you because she knows it will make you happy, not because you asked, then take it to the next level.

this brings to mind something my dad told me a bunch of years ago.. and it's stuck with me and I live by it.. women often try to make a man jealous via another man.. won't work with me, dad said "son, if a man can take your woman, she was never yours, and he did you a favor".... I live by this, I won't fight over a woman. if she is cheating on me, I don't get mad, disappointed yes, but not mad, I just move on, no grief, no drama, no BS... he can have her.. I also won't look at a woman as wife material if she cheated on a BF with me... if she cheated with me on him, she'll cheat on me with someone else and she'll never be more than just a wet place to have some adult fun with.

@tidelovinyankee1368

7 ай бұрын

The last part of the last sentence is sheer brilliance

@TopCat2021

7 ай бұрын

Very true words and wisdom to live by.

@ataglance556

4 ай бұрын

bro I'm gonna take that lesson from your dad too, thanks for the share bud.

@49525Bob

3 ай бұрын

She's not your's, it's just your turn.

@jimmyfleetwood1118

2 ай бұрын

Similarly, I have a saying, if you loan a "friend" $20.00 (or any amount), and you don't get it back, it was worth it--As it shows their true colors.

The problem with these modern-day women, they are telling other women that they are entitled to be treated like goddesses, which they are not. Even worse, now they demand to be treated that way. Loyalty does not exist in most women.

@CalinGilea

Жыл бұрын

Yeah. They think they have a golden vagina, which they are born with. And they love to create unnecessary drama, to “test”. Guys, let’s mind our own business and let them be princesses without a prince and queens without kings. Until they wake up at 35 or something. 😅

@kevinward3088

Жыл бұрын

The sisterhood is strong, they are a hive mind

@jamesjonnes

Жыл бұрын

Women have hive mentality. Anything that happens to another woman is as if it were happening to them, and they don't believe in fairness.

@jimbothegymbro7086

Жыл бұрын

they're in for a shock when most dudes won't touch them with a 12 foot pole, the only the ones that really are interested in them as is are the ones thinking with the head in their pants

@AB-vc7ox

Жыл бұрын

Goddesses, lmao, the most demanding and self entitled are typically high school grads/dropouts with no life or job skills beyond spreading on OF.

I told a woman who was trying the jealousy manipulation thing. I just told her, "I'm disappointed; I didn't think I was dating someone who's still in high school." That put en end to the test but we still dated (which I came to regret).

@garymitchell5899

Жыл бұрын

And then you woke up. We get it dude

@m16dude967

Жыл бұрын

"Maturity is not in how much you claim to have but in how you carry yourself" My last partner goes on about how mature and responsible she is but literally never was in a position where she was on her own. I practically took care of her and put her through school while working full time to support us. They like these tests and so do i because they weed themselves out and save you that kind of trouble. Women are in a position now where they have to stand on their own merit and you really do see who the quality women are and it sadly isn't modern women.

@peterbrenner9342

Жыл бұрын

I've learned to ask a woman's age in three parts: biological age, mental age, and emotional age. Most women never graduated high school, emotionally, and feminism only reinforces that.

@jasonkelley8697

Жыл бұрын

@@peterbrenner9342 that is sooooooo darn true LOL. I dated a few women after I graduated and did time in the military and every one of them had me thinking during the date, "When did I go back to high school???" yeah those dates all went the way of the Dodo lmao.

@tomjeffersonwasright2288

11 ай бұрын

Jealousy test. Reply: It sounds like you are attached to that guy. Maybe you should get together with him. Maybe you two will find happiness together. Go for it.

Wow. This just opened my eyes to the jealousy test. I met a woman on Tinder I thought might be a winner; gorgeous, easy to talk to, liked the beach, ect. Once it got to a point where I thought it could get serious, she informed me that she was going to have a date with a previous Tinder guy. I was annoyed but let it go. Got a couple texts rom her a few weeks later trying to start a conversation and when it became plain I wasn’t interested in talking to her, she asked why and I told her flat out I wasn’t going to play second fiddle. If she wanted to explore a relationship with me, get in the car and close the door until we’re both sure it’s not gonna work. Haven’t heard from her since. Good riddance.

@americandissident9062

7 ай бұрын

Good job. Though I’m kind of surprised that she didn’t drop everyone else and chase you.

@rynegade

7 ай бұрын

​@@americandissident9062The test is insane. She reasons that she wants him to get jealous to see that he cares and is invested, but this is just to stroke her ego, as if he actually sets a boundary he's seen as controlling and she flees.

@mattdarrock666

7 ай бұрын

You won't get ''relationships'' on Tinder. It's 304 central...

@snydedon9636

7 ай бұрын

Who in heck would even think about getting involved with someone that they find on social media? I can’t imagine a worse place to try to meet someone.

@americandissident9062

7 ай бұрын

@@snydedon9636 There are a lot of people who have zero opportunity for the cold or warm approach. Online is the only chance they have.

I broke a bone in my hand on another man's face in what I now see as my date's jealousy test. A few weeks later, she gave me the loyalty test when she said she was breaking up with me (this was AFTER dinner on Valentine's Day). Although she tried to contact me weeks later, that was the last I saw of her (my choice) and that was about two decades ago. Btw, my hand and emotions healed very quickly and for 15 years I've been happily married to a beautiful woman who hasn't given me any of the 5 tests.

Best one I can share was over a jealousy test. We were in the talking stage, I knew she was pulling this here and there over a week. One day we're sitting with mutual friends, and it gets brought up that she's talking to other guys, "wait, aren't you two a thing" was the general question. I just responded, "not yet, I'm still feeling this out and seeing where it goes". "So does it bother you that she's talking to other guys?" "No, I'm just observing. I can't change a person, she's going to do what she wants, I'm just taking note of what it is that she wants". She gave me a side eye glare, I didn't even acknowledge it. While the jealousy test immediately stopped, I will say that the relationship didn't work out. In the end I wasn't feeling it for her.

@thecombatwombat7652

10 ай бұрын

Ah maturity, the greatest enemy of people who plays these kinds of games. I also like observing behaviour, you can learn so much about someone without even talking to them.

@mrBDeye

8 ай бұрын

You put her in her place.

5 - 0:31 - Initiating text first Test 4 - 2:00 - Choosing her Test 3 - 3:20 - Effort Test 2 - 5:03 - Jealousy Test 1 - 6:22 - Loyalty Test Advice to the ladies. Do the opposite of these tests if you want to be successful with your man. We are in the days where if you test your man like this, you risk losing him. Some instantly. We hate them for good reason. They are not accurate tests. They only reveal your insecurity and manipulation. Best thing to do is, if you want the answer to these "tests", put it in a respectful, quiet, question, open your mouth and ask him. He'll tell you what he wants.

@lightworker2956

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, if a woman asked her friends "hey this guy is testing me", they'd all say "he's a manipulative a-hole and possibly a psychopath; leave."

@peterbrenner9342

Жыл бұрын

That's a fair expectation. A woman can simply tell me what she wants and ask me the same. It is called open communication and it works. No games, no guessing, and no stress.

@tnix80

11 ай бұрын

KZreadrs test you too...

@tnix80

11 ай бұрын

​@@lightworker2956FR tho

@jeradw7420

11 ай бұрын

The advice should simply be "DO NOT TEST". Like a man for him. He is not a toy or something to work on. Men don't like tests at all because all a test means is that the woman does not trust him and guys don't want to deal with her lack of trust. That's a "her" problem she needs to fix before she gets into a relationship.

Testing denotes a woman who is only interested in what HE has to bring to the table but not what SHE has to bring to the table. Testing isn't necessary, if both parties are genuine about perusing a relationship, it will take time and life itself will eventually put both in situations that will either be joyous and agreeable or situations that could result in cessation. A bad temper will be brought out at some point, lying about stuff will be brought out at some point, cheating will be evident etc, sooner or later it comes out. The trick is, not to be blinded by love and HEED the alarm bells when you hear them. This goes for both parties.

I never played those games ever. What I found suprising..women I've meet, who didn't put me through any of those ..were women of incredible character. They felt so naturally fun and engaging. They ALL treated me like a human and wasn't afraid to tell me what they felt, what they wanted, and was extremely class about even the small stuff. Those women I was blessed to meet. Did the relationships last, no. Here's even the more surprising thing...those same women, when things ended, made sure I was ok, and didn't hurt me in ANYWAY when they left. They ended because of true life situations that just made it hard to continue. No cheating, lack of love. Just life. To this day I still hold tremendous love and respect for them. Truly amazing human beings. Those women taught me, only girls put you through tests. A WOMAN helps you pass them. Sad thing, they are very rare, and only seem to show themselves when YOUR NOT LOOKING. It's it's out of nowhere.

Failing such tests is an actual win. It’s passing the tests that is a real problem.

@indanekwaffles7074

6 ай бұрын

Well said -- absolute banger of a comment!

My wife and I have reached 52 years together today. Actually 54 if you count dating. No drama no testing no social media. I'm actually glad I'm old because I don't see much good in the future. Good luck fellas. It's a jungle out there.

@JetBazooka21

4 ай бұрын

Respect to you. What advice can you give for us guys today?

@TheRaiderman1

4 ай бұрын

Most of the things that he could tell us, we already know but are too fixated on our own point of view.@@JetBazooka21

You have learned so much about men. I commend that. Thank you for what you do. Here’s another thing that men like: “Respect my time. Match my efforts. Always be honest.”

If a woman only responds and never initiates a text, I leave her, its a clear sign she not interested. I no longer give up my plans for a woman unless we're actually in a relationship. I did this in the past for dates and... every single instance, I regretted it. So I just don't compromise my own plans EVER. I'll date her at MY convenience. Too many times I had it bad to compromised myself again. I have literally had that loyalty crap test before. It's disgusting and a huge red flag!

I have a lady-friend I've known for years, I made my feelings for her known about a year ago, she said she was not able to date, a year later, she invites me to a event and discusses other men she was thinking of dating. that told me everything I needed to know.

@JJ-vp3bd

Жыл бұрын

Thats weird that women do that. Total mood killer

@mitchd949

Жыл бұрын

It demonstrates neatly that you two were NOT friends. You were a simp who was likely giving her time, effort, adoration, etc all to her benefit only. Wake up!!! She was able to date, she was simply not able (or more accurately "willing or interested") in dating you.

@limitlesssky3050

Жыл бұрын

The moment she makes you wait for a year means she doesn't like you. Some women are just so narcissistic. She thinks you are still oozing over her, so she said all that to really tell you she prefers other men.

@janco333

Жыл бұрын

You acted like a woman when you told her how you felt. That is why you got friend zoned. Live and learn.

@bearclaw5115

Жыл бұрын

Sorry man, you made multiple mistakes there. Haven't we all. 1. Don't tell her 'your feelings' for her. It will just put her on a pedestal so she can look down on you. She may also use the egoboost to find someone else. 2. Why are you still talking to her a year later? She rejected you, good bye! 3. She used you for social cover at the event. And possibly discussed other men to humiliate you or just feed her ego. What you could have done differently would have been to be seen with other women in her social circle. Keep building your own value until she is the one asking you out.

The "Dinner Date" stems from the time where most couples met through jobs, hobbies or mutual friends - i.e. already knew each other for days/weeks/months beforehand. Expecting anything beyond a coffee or drink on today's blind dates is insane.

@ezecskornfan

Жыл бұрын

then there's a lot of insanity out there.

@formless4541

Жыл бұрын

Yeah it's actually quite weird going on a dinner date with a stranger and paying for both. It's overr the top

@Tubes12AX7k

Жыл бұрын

Going back a little bit further, my father's generation, most young people met at school, church, dances, and through parents and parents' friends. My dad even talked to someone on a long bus ride and got her number. Things were very practical back then and people were mature younger. And, believe it or not, more open to meeting new people. Maybe half of your dates would be a yes or a maybe versus a no. Things also had to happen faster back then. My dad was shipped off to the Vietnam War and you really had to know a lot quicker if your dating was leading anywhere. They were married at 24 and stayed married for about 55 years until my dad died.

@Ben-fl8wi

Жыл бұрын

This is too funny. A girl on a dating app that I've never went out with said icecream was a cheap first date and that a better idea was dinner or a movie. I asked if she would pay for her ticket? She got upset and said she had options. She's 35 and doesn't see the wall😂

@paddington1670

Жыл бұрын

@@Ben-fl8wi right, im not a charity, you can pay for yourself, youre an adult.

I have a thing I like to call the "insecurity test." This test involves looking out for these types of games and getting as far from the woman who is using them as I can. I have no time or patience for this type of teenage drama and will not engage with a woman using them.

The tests I got were having to read my ex's mind and understand her rules of how I should behave... Even when the rules changed without warning to the opposite of what I was told. "YOU SHOULD KNOW!!!!!" was a common refrain. Little girl, I'M NOT A MIND READER. I won't know until you've told me a bunch of times, STOPPED changing the rules constantly, and actually trusted me enough to communicate instead of going silent and exploding months later.

I've been through every single one of these tests, in the years before I walked away from all aspects of dating, love and relationships. Being alone is AT LEAST a million times easier than dating.

@miguelservetus9534

10 ай бұрын

Don’t give up. Just be smart/ mature. Met my wife at 27. Married for 38 years. 3 incredible children. Fascinating, glorious journey. Good luck.

@howardrichburg2398

10 ай бұрын

I did find and marry a good woman u til I was 32yrs old..

@rockerguy9683

10 ай бұрын

​@@howardrichburg2398 you know, these kinds of comments are the ones that make me not lose hope despite getting close to 30 XD thanks mate and happy you found a good wife!

@jimjamjimjam7700

10 ай бұрын

Tell us some stories then! Give us some examples, so that we may learn from you!

@francois9018

9 ай бұрын

No offense as much as women were kind of bad 38 years ago, they are way, way way worst now. The current batch of women are not worth the squeeze.@@miguelservetus9534

Overall, my view on a woman who feels a need to test a man is that she needs a therapist more than she needs a man. If a woman will put a man through tests at the beginning of a relationship, the testing will continue throughout the relationship. A woman who is testing me is communicating to me that she thinks she's superior to me, is claiming a teacher-status in our relationship, and is telling me that if I can't earn gold stars on every test then I'm a dunce who needs to sit in a corner of her classroom. She's also making it known that she'd not looking for a compatible-partner; she's looking for a perfect male-servant. For me, testing is a huge red-flag regarding a woman's levels of insecurity and neediness. She doesn't want to share each other's lives. She wants to be the ONLY life that matters.

@EE12CSVT

Жыл бұрын

'She's also making it known that she'd not looking for a compatible-partner; she's looking for a perfect male-servant.' - correct, which is why I think of it as the servant/simp test. The last time I met a woman who didn't do this was in 2008, but she turned out to be a dud. The last time I dated a woman who didn't want to test me to see if I'd be her servant was in 2000.

@lakelanddentalarts

Жыл бұрын

@@EE12CSVT When you watch/listen to complaint-videos by women, no matter the topic it boils down to them complaining that the man was an improperly-functioning servant or puppet. He didn't think, feel, or act the way that they demanded. The most disgusting example of this is when men refuse to try to reconciliation-repair a relationship after being cheated on, and the female-cheater whines about how he won't allow her to emotionally-manipulate him past what his intellect is telling him to do. Women have 100X more power-and-control issues than men do; yet, women project their dysfunction onto men who simply say "no" to what a woman demands from him. It's gotten so bad that when a woman demands an open-relationship, if the man dumps/divorces her he gets accused of being insecure and/or controlling after he's totally freed her to do whatever she wants to do with whomever she wants to do it with. In my opinion, the main two things that men are refusing to put up with from women are their narcissism-based beliefs of entitlement and their power-and-control issues that make women obnoxiously competitive, contentious, and combative with men. What amuses me is that the supposedly-violent gender is mostly exhibiting indifference when walking away from women, and it's mostly women having meltdowns that include, stalking, false-accusations, violence, and acts of vandalism. On a societal-scale, the gender-chasm is widening. Men are coping. Women aren't. That speaks volumes about which gender is truly capable of being "strong and independent". 😎

@EE12CSVT

Жыл бұрын

@@lakelanddentalarts Agree with all you said. "it boils down to them complaining that the man was an improperly-functioning servant or puppet" - because he's no longer providing her the necessary utility. Remember, for women it's all about utility. That's what the tests are about. How well you'll perform and how obedient and unquestioning you'll be about doing it.

@user-lg2nw2zj8f

11 ай бұрын

​@@EE12CSVTExactly. And when they have exploited you they file for divorce just to ruin you completely.

@timothygibney159

11 ай бұрын

But it's all women. Women need to know they are the top guy she can get and when they sense weakness they will exploit it

I learned early on of these little games that my ex would do, I refuse to play them anymore. If I ever start dating again (highly doubtful), I will make it completely clear that I will not tolerate that kind of behavior. The moment it happens, I'm gone and make damn sure she knows that it was her actions that drove me away. I will not be manipulated and be taken advantaged of again.

when i was in highschool i had a girlfriend who did the jealousy test multiple times. i wouldn't even really call it a test so much as emotional cheating because of how far these "tests" went. the thing was she knew i had been cheated on in my past 2 relationships, so this didn't make me jealous they just made me hopeless and despondent. as she knew how hard this kind of stuff hit me emotionally, she knew and yet decided to hurt me by doing this kind of test.

Any sort of test is an instant “do not pass Go, do not collect $200” red flag that is unrecoverable. Finding a woman who doesn’t test (difficult in the US, less so in other cultures) is however well worth the time and effort.

@thrilla72

Жыл бұрын

All women test, this issue is that some of these are stupid and show that she is looking for a mentally unstable man

@Nobleheart111

Жыл бұрын

And that is why all women fail.

@verilyheld

Жыл бұрын

There's a poem that has stuck with me since reading it. In it, a king and his court are watching dangerous beasts fighting each other. A lady decides to show how brave her suitor is by tossing one of her gloves into the area, because he is brave, he will retrieve her glove. He does, and then 'he flung the glove, but not with care, straight in her face. By Heaven! cried the king, rightly done! For love's not love, but vanity, that sets love such a task!'

@snidecommenter7117

Жыл бұрын

A good "shit test" a man can give a woman is... Does she give ME a "shit test"?

@pyre8478

Жыл бұрын

If a woman is okay with seeking other men's attention to see if I'm jealous, all I see is that she is not trustworthy, and therefore not worth my time.

Intentional or not, testing to see if he is into you or not, is not only low but despicable. WHY? When it comes to the bad boy, he is excluded from the tests because she is AFRAID to lose him. So, if any women dare to test you, remember this, YOU WERE NEVER HER FIRST CHOICE! They need your, "Will you marry me" more than you ever think about it.

@zibix4562

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. I remember saying in another video(not emilys) that generally, not always, women are more afraid of losing someone willing to walk away from the stupid games than she is of losing a man who would backhand her. One still has his attention, even if it is negative. I know it comes off sexist, but honestly many women(or at least a proportionally higher amount than men) tend to have this weird infantile attitude of any attention is fine or even acting childish when they dont get their way. I get the suspicious feeling it has everything to do with an upbringing. Again i say this is not all women. Hell it probably isnt even most. It is just too many. My wife is definitely older than me, so much so that she is gen x while I am a millenial. She is from a different time when values were different and she never let the present world affect her really. She is not like this at all.

@asolaris6470

Жыл бұрын

@@zibix4562 Heard loud and clear, appreciate for your input. It's better to have a spouse/wife that works together to resolve an issue than an insufferable troublemaker.

@230mps

Жыл бұрын

THIS!!!!!!! People don't talk enough about how "bad boys" (hate that term) are excluded from being viewed as creepy or have to deal with tests and games. What is more funny is that if women tested them, they would either leave or fail the test. lol So the test is basically her way of telling you, she is mildly interested at best but just looking for reasons to leave.

@enemyofthestatewearein7945

Жыл бұрын

@@230mps I wouldn't consider myself a bad boy, but I can think of multiple instances where I passed a girl's test, but the test itself put ME off, without even realizing it at the time.

@chumbucket6184

Жыл бұрын

​​@@zibix4562yo, weird to read this comment here, but i'm also dating a woman 11 years older than me as a 27 yr old. Any advice for a good relationship ?

I went through the first four with one girl for an entire year several times a month.. she taught me that you will never win and she will take everything that's important in your life just to make sure she's the ONLY thing that you can ever spend any time on and then once you have no more left to give them she will leave and find a better more valuable man

you hit it RIGHT on the nose with the "jealousy". I will leave and ignore a woman ON THE SPOT the minute I sense her saying something to intentionally make me jealous, or acting a way to intentionally make me jealous. This is SOOO commone and the main reason i'm 10 years single!! I guess it's the "cool" thing to do to like a guy and then ignore him as much as possible, mention other guys that keep hitting you up, or reply to questions with single words. I take that as (not interested in me) and I don't play games or "chase". I'm gonna show my interest and give MY attention to you, the minute i'm not getting the same... I'm gone! But, still hopeful there are still women out there like you Emily! great channel! keep it up!

Ladies, let me say it this way, I've been watching Emily's videos for awhile now, and I can confirm she's spot on, every time. She's the most intuitive woman I've ever seen who totally understands men, and I should know, I am one. So if your instinct is to ignore her advice, dispute her advice, or belittle her advice, then you are in the wrong. Put bluntly, she gets it. I don't know why or how she does, but every time she tells you what men are really thinking, or why they're behaving a certain way, I'm over here nodding my head in agreement with everything that comes out of her mouth.

@stevenc4701

Жыл бұрын

Amen to that! So all the women out there, pay attention if you want a good man; otherwise, get yourself cats, dogs, and perhaps some roaches. Good men out there are sick of your B.S.

@garymitchell5899

Жыл бұрын

Why would women watch this channel it's for you beta's?

@faemike55

Жыл бұрын

The same goes for me as well. It makes me want to do the same to her.

@johnwayne3904

Жыл бұрын

Facts, man, facts!

@jonathanbair523

Жыл бұрын

Lady's easy way to remember it.... If your thinking about some kind of test, DON'T DO IT... Men have enough in there lifes, if they are wanting you as a partner then they are picking you......... A relationship needs trusts and games/test can kill trust.... If something is on your mind just spit it out nicely...

Don't forget. When you start dating a person, you are still strangers getting to know one another. If she or he is placing ultimatums or expecting you to pick her or him over higher priority events in your week feel free to move on. You do not have to explain yourself to a stranger.

Rules for Relationships/Life: 1. Say what you mean, and mean what you say 2. If you are not getting something that you want, speak up. 3. If you are getting something that you don't want, speak up. 4. Actions speak louder than words. 5. Do not 'test' anyone. 6. If you are not happy, either try to mend fences or simply leave. This is not complicated: be honest and communicate. If this is too difficult, you will struggle to maintain friends, never mind a partner.

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it

@user-er9hv4pl2u

11 ай бұрын

its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.

@user-er9hv4pl2u

11 ай бұрын

look up shelly Renee white online, you will find all you need. thank you

@keithgraham9547

11 ай бұрын

​​@LenParliament5Dude. Seriously, you need help. Mostly in having other things in your life. Work, hobbies, other friends, exercise. Especially male friends who will be honest. Not trying to be mean, but #1, you're giving the ex all the power. #2, she will not only NOT appreciate it, she will consider you weak and lose all attraction for you. #3, most women will use your weakness to screw you good in a divorce. #4, of the problems involve her screwing around, it's because she perceives you as a doormat and she can get you to accept anything she does. You can't fix bad behavior by rewarding it. Sorry, it hurts, but you got to grow a pair of big brass ones right now. Tough love and all that. Pain is strictly temporary if you don't make it, and her, the center of your life. Women cannot love you if they don't respect you, and they don't respect men they can walk all over. BTW, therapy is mostly designed to tell men to eat shit and put up with anything a woman shovels out. If they're doing that to you, tell them to shove it.

@NarwahlGaming

9 ай бұрын

​@user-er9hv4pl2u Shelly Renee White, I now know who you are and I'm going to come to your place and wipe my bare buns on your door knobs!

Whenever ladies do the "test games" I play the ghost game.

@limitlesssky3050

Жыл бұрын

We have Casper the GOAT ghost over here. High Five!

@janco333

Жыл бұрын

Respect

@CrummyVCR

Жыл бұрын

Laws have been passed recently (yes LAWS) stating that that is abuse. *Look it up if your thinking im joking. While its one of the best ways of dealing with certain people it's now an act that can get you in some heavy trouble. : /

@markr3926

Жыл бұрын

I just let her know her score out of 10 at blow jobs and move on.

@kyledabearsfan

Жыл бұрын

​@@CrummyVCRthen I'll go to jail, I'd rather do that than waste my time on attention seeking behavior

The first sign of a "test" I immediately go out of my way to fail it.

My late wife tried this and found out immediately that she was in trouble. I don’t play these games at all. We were married for 52 years. She never tried it again.

Thanks for taking this subject on. Excellent.

#2 is THE WORST. If you are giving attention to other men, I am done. I do not do jealousy, I do the "oh if that's who you want go for it" because I am not wasting my time on someone who is not into it and looking for attention from other men. If I am not enough that you need attention from other men. Fine go get it from them and I'll move on to find someone who thinks I am enough.

@charlest7184

Жыл бұрын

Exactly if she's talking to another man and you hell no as soon as you find that out stop talking her. There's a lot of really good dudes out here she should be able to pick up on that as soon as she starts talkin to one guy but unfortunately attention is her number one priority it's better to walk away if you're not the only one she's talking to

@coolran06

Жыл бұрын

When she mentions other guys I brag them up as great guys and that she should really go for him as I don't want her to miss out on love! I do t do jealousy.

@hshfyugaewfjkKS

Жыл бұрын

What's your barometer though? Two dates. 5? A month? It takes time to get to know somebody!! I'm not going to brag to the man I'm seeing about seeing other men but if Somebody is pushing for me to stop dating other men after we just started seeing each other that signals low self-esteem to me.

@jamiebrs1

Жыл бұрын

@@hshfyugaewfjkKS its not a matter of number of dates. If we're on a date at all and you're talking up other guys to try to make me jealous so that you can determine my interest, then go date those other guys, I have better things to do with my time.

@EE12CSVT

Жыл бұрын

There's a younger woman I know who started seeing a man - he was big, jacked, and in very good shape. I still saw her physically chasing after and flirting with other men while they were together, but she didn't do this whenever I saw her with him. It's the same when they post thirst trap photos online when they're with someone. It's to make the guy they're with jealous. Triangulation. Hence why they have a string of short relationships, because those men discover her nature soon enough and dump her.

I've dealt with the jealousy test. The moment I realize it's happening I walk away. One woman I'd just met tried to get me into a street fight with a guy I'd never met. Please understand that I'll protect someone even if I lose my life. I'm just not ok with being expected to fight a random person to prove my manhood. Congratulations on your pregnancy Emily. Thanks for being an amazing advocate for men and women dating healthily.

@chrisrinard2981

Жыл бұрын

I've had zero success with using telegram. Is there any other way we can communicate?

I just found your channel and have been through most of what you described. Spot on!

I had a girl do a "see if he'll fight for me" test. We had been dating only a few months. She came to my house one day and started off with: Her: I think we should see other people Me: OK Her: (a bit angry) Is that all you're going to say? Me: (calmly) I can't force you to go out with me if you don't want to. Her: Well I want to get married some day. Me: Too bad we just broke up then. Good luck with that. She wanted me to beg her to stay. I just called her bluff.

A lot of women I notice will criticise guys for being gamers/liking "childish" activities when they ask in general conversation or on dates what they do for fun/hobbies but hate when the script is flipped and the guys call them out and criticise them for being on social media nearly 24/7 when asked the same thing.

@worldcomicsreview354

Жыл бұрын

"Gamers are such nerds" "What's your hobby?" "Playing Candy Crush all day"

@themadinspector

10 ай бұрын

So you know my ex-wife? I worked 3 jobs. She was on Facebook all day. Our sons did all the housework. I found this out years later. Both sons said I should have divorced her years earlier. I guess I am a slow learner. 😆 🤣 😂

I get the impression that I'm expected to actually want to pass these tests. But if it's a faulty test, or the expected results are unreasonable, I'm actually happy to fail the test. The sooner I fail such tests, the sooner I can find the next woman. Hopefully she will have less faulty tests and expect reasonable results. Here's a twist, most women don't even know that I'm testing them. And surprise, some of the tests I use is simply paying attention to the tests they use on me. Their tests can reveal things about them, without them even realizing it.

@SoonEnough

Жыл бұрын

100% exactly what I do. Every action they do can possibly test for qualities in them, even the actions they conduct to test your own qualities.

@EE12CSVT

Жыл бұрын

Same, I test them continuously from the minute I meet them, and none of them are aware because of how subtly it's done. In practice it means they all fail them because it exposes their immaturity.

@rafaelshumaker1883

Жыл бұрын

I agree, mostly. We can all be immature at times. I expect imperfection. That is not a show stopper for me. In fact, how she handles it when I notice a fail tells me what I want. And I don't point out every fail, for 2 reasons. First, I would not like that done to me. Second, I'm not looking for perfection. But I do want to see if she has enough humility to allow herself to be corrected occasionally.

@rcslyman8929

Жыл бұрын

Plot twist... there's no "passing the test". These tests are self-defeating, self-sabotaging actions because there's absolutely no correct way of responding to them. If you respond "favorably" to the test, you're viewed as a doormat to be taken advantage of, until she ultimately loses interest and moves on to the next dude. If you respond "unfavorably", well now you're just one of the many other guys that just exude "toxic masculinity", and another "horrible dating story" for her TikTok. Either way, once the tests start, any thought of it being a partnership is already over.

@bernardhargreaves9009

Жыл бұрын

manipulation of any kind is an abuse of values. woman should get it out of their heads.. they want unconditional love but have so many conditions... lol no. they are unlovable because they are so full of themselves and their survival that they are incapable of loving unconditionally. thats why im single. because i know this truth about them. that allowing a woman in your life is dooming yourself to a hellish existence and suffering beyond imagination... they are pure evil when they start with their take over and emotional black-male and their action reaction based dialogue in the relationship. im done.. cashed out my chips and leaving this BS. they can play the game till they grow up and by that time its too late to make it right and i get to laugh even though the joke is on me too. its a small price to pay than to spend your time in ignorance until the truth is finally reviled only to know that you are a very accomplished fool and your mistakes have caused your life to be a complete downward cycle and that there is no one to blame... lol that is the funny part. having chosen to be single and having chosen to not peruse any attraction ive liberated myself from the tyranny of woman. today the saddest thing is that there is no real love... love is not real. woman are incapable of it. they are too stupid and cannot learn their way out of it by making different choices.. no they are doomed to do the same stupid things until its too late, then they blame everything else but themselves, they will even make it up... its pure comedy some of the things coming out their mouths... at least i chose my way out of experience. it diddnt take a divorce and a few children later for me to realize there was something wrong happening in the relationship scene.. now i just stay away and ignore and im happier than they are. i work i come home and im free, free to live and be my self without compromise. i can laugh at what i think is funny i can talk the way i like to talk i have a clean house and everything works and i literally made my life easier because i want more time for myself to relax.. and i got it.. with a woman this would be impossible.. demand this demand that test here test there... go home and leave me alone you stupid princess, this is the real world where its ugly hard and merciless. you want to play stupid games youre going to win stupid prizes.

Once a woman deleted me from facebook the day after we first slept together, and then a day after that she re-added me and sent a message being mad that I didn't care. I liked her, I noticed because I was going to send her a message to say I enjoyed spending time with her, but after the test I just stopped talking to her. If someone deletes me from social media, I'm not going to call them and ask why, I'm just going to move on.

As a man, I wholeheartedly agree with everything you said in the video. Just be genuine when pursuing a relationship, don't play stupid games with your guy unless you want to win stupid prizes. To me, the two worst ones are No. 4 and No. 2. Regarding No. 2: If I found out that a woman is purposefully forcing me to chose between going on a date with her and doing some other planned activity that is really important to me (potentially disappointing people that are also dear to me in the process) for no other reason than to test me (not because she actually is on a tight schedule and really can't make it on any other time in the week), that would be a HUGE red flag to me. It would be a sign that she potentially is a very selfish possessive person who will continue to claim any free time that I have whenever it pleases her throughout the relationship and who will make an active effort to aleniate me from my friends and family just because she enjoys to have that power over me. Aditionally, if you make a man chose between spending time with their friends or family for arbitrary reasons and he actually choses you and his friends and family find out about your stupid game, they will dislike you and tell your boyfriend that he'd probably be better off ditching that possessive b-word. If you want to have a healthy happy long term relationship, you should try to befriend or at least get along with other people that are important to him, not turn them into competition. Regarding No. 4: Assuming we are in an early stage of dating and aren't exclusive yet, I wouldn't per se be apalled when you flirt with or date someone else casually. But if you rub it in while you are with me or when you talk to me about how much you enjoy spending time with your ex, then I wouldn't think you are testing me, I would take that as a pretty clear sign that you aren't actually interested in me and take it as a subtle (or actually, not really that subtle) hint that you want me to back off and stop pursuing you. If you actually WERE in an exclusive relationship with a guy already, it should be a no-brainer that pretending you cheat on him or are at least entertaining the thought of cheating on him is an incredibly stupid idea to test him. (Not talking about having platonic male friends , that is IMHO entirely OK, I'm talking about serious flirting or pretending to do so). Because yes, if he loves you, he probably will get jealous - and he also will feel hurt and angry and might seriously question whether he SHOULD love you. No 1 is also pretty bad, since it's a huge sign of distrust, but at least it's not you directly hurting his feelings on purpose because you feel insecure or are on a power trip. A test of my faithfulness is something I probably would forgive in a steady relationship (although it is somewhat of a red flag, at the very least it is a sign that something is wrong between us and we would have to work on our relationship if you feel the need to test me in such a way). Trying to drive a wedge between me and my family or friends for no good reason or pretending you cheat on me would be a quite surefire way to actually drive me away.

The problem giving in to any sort of "test" is that they never stop. You will be tested your whole relationship, and the tests get worse and worse and harder to "pass". Best steer clear of people who are that insecure. Just not worth it!

@CoolKoon

9 ай бұрын

Yeah, they scream toxicity in fact.

@Tom-vq2hw

9 ай бұрын

Yes, definitely. Now that I think about it, that's exactly what happened when my girlfriend's never ending string of online checklists about relationship health finally found one I didn't pass, the 51st or so. That was the end of our relationship

@nordicexile7378

9 ай бұрын

@@Tom-vq2hw Damn, that's rough. I don't know whether to sympathise with you or be happy for the suffering you avoided down the road if you'd stayed together. Good luck going forward either way.

@CoolKoon

9 ай бұрын

@@Tom-vq2hw "finally found one I didn't pass, the 51st or so." - OMG that's a whole new level of mental sickness right there...

No longer putting up with any of these at all. I would rather stay/go back to single than play these games. Also a loyalty test used on a man that hasn't cheated is a pretty clear sign that she has/is.

My last GF tried testing me while I was on the clock for work. I had to end it right then in order to keep her nonsense from affecting my job. If you've had to spend your entire life supporting yourself & everyone around you, you know you can't fall down even for a minute. You have to take your work seriously and any woman jeopardizing it gets kicked to the curb shockingly fast.

All of these boil down to her trying to make sure that he's more devoted than she is, and will stay loyal to her, will prioritize her, when she won't do the same for him.

Any test of my willingness to spend money on any women within the first few times of us meeting in person is complete and total horse crap, especially the first date. Women do foodie calls these days, they frequently ghost after first dates because they go on tons of them, hell they frequently go into first dates planning to ghost after the date for a free meal. Unless I knew the girl for a while before we started dating, if we're doing anything more expensive than coffee or ice cream then either she better be willing to pay for herself or I'm walking. Women are wholly capable of having careers and earning as much as men these days; there's no reason men should be expected to pay for everything at the start anymore.

The jealousy test always ends my attraction, mostly due to the disrespect. You also forgot the "this isn't that" test. The test where they blatantly lie about their own feelings and your feelings to get more effort from you or just to see the reaction.

In my opinion, trying to establish a relationship with someone who isn't willing to make a reciprocal effort is a complete waste of time.

@indanekwaffles7074

6 ай бұрын

Reciprocity is the key to every relationship.

I learned these tests go both ways, and I see the tests as a reflection of them. For example, #3 helps me determine if they are a gold digger, and/or princess/queen/diva personality. If they want the big effort, I'm out.

5. Initiating Texting First : I hate texting. I prefer a call or to talk in person over texting. If a woman is expecting me to be texted all day, I fail automatically, even if I'm in to her. 4. Choosing Her : I won't choose her over something I already have planned. If she wants a btch boi, there are plenty of them out there. If she does this, she's too masculine for me. Bye. 3. Effort Test : I'll reach out and plan it and pay for something simple, or go for a nice hike... where's her effort? Come out, let's enjoy the day and see if we have any kinda connection. If not, Bye. 2. Jealousy Test : Bye, Felicia. Or if we're together, and her face is in her phone or she's just not there.. I'm OUT. 1. Loyalty Test : If I see through it, I might intentionally fail.

@alex2143

Жыл бұрын

Yeah this exactly.

@someone-ji2zb

Жыл бұрын

People prefer texting even for work related crap now too. Scheduling jobs, customers text constantly. Boss contacting you to come in for extra hours? Texts and expects you to see it. Unfortunately, this is amplified big time with most women right now. I also prefer a call, but reality has hit me hard in the last few years in all aspects of life. I hate texting with a passion, but even if I do not text, I am expected to read their texts as fast as possible (this can apply to anyone; work, women, family, etc.) and call them back. Such an annoying era

@addajjalsonofallah6217

Жыл бұрын

Im the opposite I hate calling takes away time from watching news on KZread and music I don't like to be disturbed

@ellisdee2013

Жыл бұрын

@@addajjalsonofallah6217 You can only give your attention to one thing at a time. Multitasking doesn't really exist. That being said, I can get way more across in a 5-10 min conversation, giving my full attention, rather than 30 minutes of texting back and forth. Plus, there is less room for misinterpretation. It can be very easy to misinterpret a text, but you can actually portray real emotion with your voice and how you say things.

@jmlkhan5153

10 ай бұрын

​@@addajjalsonofallah6217bro fr I can tell my boss in one sentence of a text what it would have taken me 3 minutes to fumble out with spoken words, plus I don't have to lose my gps the entire time I'm on the call. Texting is fucking baller in the right circumstances.

the jealousy test is a lightning fast killer

All 5 are spot on. Great job Emily!

I'm an adult, I don't get jealous, I leave.

The jealousy test got her completely ignored she no longer existed to me afterwards

@garymitchell5899

Жыл бұрын

Totally mature response

Another test that men don’t like is the Financial Litmus test - probably pre-first date. It consists of three questions: 1. What job do you do? 2. What car do you drive? and 3. What part of the city do you live in? When a woman asks these questions, just run!

My gf and I have been together 5+ years. A year ago she was at nightclub with her female friends. They were shocked when she told them "Yes, of course Steve knows I'm here"

A girl I dated when I was seventeen did the loyalty test for a friend of hers right in front of me, talking to her friends boyfriend on the phone while the girlfriend and another girl were in the room. Her response was "it's not a big deal, I did it to you." Then I remembered a customer hitting on me while I was at work within a week of us starting to date. Obviously, I'm a loyal guy, and I'm not going to cheat, so I let that girl know I had a girlfriend. Broke up with her on the spot. This was back well over 20 years ago, I can only imagine the shi* that young women are putting men through these days via tiktok and other bad advice on social media. Quite frankly, the whole idea of dating in this day and age is ludicrous. But then again, I'm also in my forties, and in a healthy relationship with an amazing woman.

When I look back at the situation I was in for several months recently, I realize several of these tests were constantly taking place. Especially the choosing her test. And when I "failed", she'd go quiet/cold for a day or so before finally wanting to discuss what was going on. It became so emotionally draining. One of the main cores of the issue was something you referred to with that test. I have a kid half the time, friends, hobbies, and a full time job. She didn't have really any of that going on, so I became the center of her world and expected me to do the same. Not only is that suffocating, but puts a ton of pressure on someone to be responsible for someone else's happiness. She wanted all of me during non work hours and it simply became too much.

@canman87

10 ай бұрын

I had a similar experience. She had next to nothing else going on outside of work. She was still living with her mom as an early-30s woman (never moved out at all, even with roommates and no hope of that ever changing). her social life outside of our relationship was nearly nonexistent, and as a result she hardly ever did anything or went anywhere unless I was with her and took care of everything from a planning and financial standpoint. I became the entire focal point of all of her free time, so it was always a struggle trying to find time to do anything else other than be with her or barring that, text her. It was fucking intolerable and I have a feeling that this wasn't just what she did with me, but rather that it was a pattern of behavior where she would just bounce between romantic relationships and never really fostered many meaningful relationships with friends. It is ABSOLUTELY IMPERATIVE that people have their own lives outside the relationship. You can spend the majority of your time with your partner and find time to do other things separate from them, but it is completely insane to spend every free waking moment with the same person. That shit will drive just about anyone insane.

@paulmcfeeters5554

10 ай бұрын

She is not the one to bring peace to your life. You deserve peace and happiness so dump that trash can and focus on investing in yourself instead of her.

My favorite first date was something where we could talk and get to know each other better. A restraint was a good idea, but I also liked to go hiking. I found that was even better than sitting at some restraint. Sometimes I did both.

I’m not taken to casual relationships so almost every girlfriend I had pulled these relationship “tests” on me until I finally put my foot down because it’s genuinely insulting. We can see right through you when you do this, ladies.

@jmlkhan5153

10 ай бұрын

Just once, had I been recognized for my patience in tolerating this ridiculously transparent nonsense, and I would have tried to make it work. I really would. Instead I was deemed "impatient" if i ever dated to even once mention a single time ever again that I was still waiting for the results of the first time when I asked politely for anything at all.

@user-kt5gd2yu7l

8 ай бұрын

They end up with guys they hate & disrespect too. Karma's a bitch!

@obtuseangler768

7 ай бұрын

We are all brothers here men. Early 40's and I've learned most women aren't accountable for their actions towards men and they f**king hate rejection.

I've had many of these tests. Even had a girl try to break up with me by saying she's pregnant hoping I would just ghost her. Instead I told her I would rather not have the child but if she wanted to keep it I would support her. Quickly she started to get angry and yelled, 'why don't you just stop being so nice and understanding'. Made me realize that lots of people are damaged and do not know what they want in life. After many failed relationships due to reality absent women, I took an opportunity to relocate outside of the country. All of those past female interests are no better off now than before. Seems they are fighting with their troubled deep-seeded traumas.

@garymitchell5899

Жыл бұрын

Anyone with alpha in their tag is 100% beta

@MrGamble76

Жыл бұрын

Like you? 🙂

@bvhia

11 ай бұрын

The overall female consciousness is what you're talking about

@mikaeljohnledet1060

11 ай бұрын

@@MrGamble76 Nope... Garymitchell5899 isn't a beta. He might THINK he is an alpha himself, but he is noting but an omega. 🤣🤣🤣

Congrats Kaitlyn, you went from easily having me in the bag to making me despise you more than anyone I've known in years

I gave up jumping through hoops for women a long time ago. They have so many games and tests that you'll spend the rest of your life trying to decipher them. My favorite is the earshot test where they'll say something to their friend with the intent of you overhearing. I usually just relocate to somewhere out of range. They really think men are dumb. On the contrary, most men just play along until they get what they want. Here's another secret ladies: The harder you make a man work for it the worse he's going to treat you once he gets it.

I have a teenage son and since ive been out of the dating market for a long time, I’m poking around seeing what people go through nowadays to hopefully help him when he has questions. I’ve been married for 21 years. All these tests are games. When anyone plays games with you do yourself a favor, say goodbye. Time is a limited commodity and too many people waste it on people who are jerking them around. Instead of playing games, Be genuine. Playing games is a form of deception, and deception is just another way of lying. You can’t build a lifelong relationship based on manipulation and deception. Get through two to three dates, make sure some baseline attraction is there, and then have real conversations. Know yourself and own your junk. Instead of playing games, pay attention. Does he/she treat their parents well? How do they discuss past relationships? Good indicator how they’ll talk about you eventually. How does he/she treat people when they’re having a bad day? Does he/she know when to be patient and when to say no? If you stop, and really observe, people will show you who they really are. When they do, believe them.

@suntzu6122

11 ай бұрын

@marcwhite9234 I'll tell you what he will go through. Is he top 10% attractive? Is he also 6 ft tall? Congrats you passed the minimum bar for entry into being dateable. Unlock the ability to use dating apps! Everyone else, sorry! 50% of relationships start with online dating, and if you arent top 10 MAYBE top 15% attractive no woman will give you any attention or put in any effort and it will be a supreme waste of time. Now move on to: Is he clearly successful with literally zero meaningful flaws or mental illness? If not, expect to be treated like human garbage. There literally is not an activity that men engage in, with the expectation of possibly having a good time, that is more DEHUMANIZING than dating modern women. Having any standards as an average guy will almost guarantee you are single forever. Want her to be a healthy weight, not be a bxtch, not have kids, not be ran through, have a good personality / 0% entitled? Too much to ask. .0000001% of the population fits this criteria. Only way around the attractiveness filter is being so over the top sociable and having so much social proof it seems like women want to be around you. Just dont act shy or nervous on a first date or you'll get ghosted 100% of the time. Also be sure to date more than 1 woman because if youre only dating 1 woman she'll think you arent worth it / maybe shes making a mistake. Let her know you like her / act 'too engaged' / 'too ready' to settle down with her = *poof* after all, what if she can do better? Grass is ALWAYS greener, until its.. not. Shed rather die alone than settle though. Or be super successful! Just hope your wife doesnt get a raise and start to make 80% of your families income, at which point the divorce rate DOUBLES. Expect to be treated like shxt at every turn. After all, if she decides you arent what she is looking for; why bother telling you? Just ghost! Wouldnt want to deal with that mess, right? Expect to put in 98% of the effort if you are average at all. You will have a nice time leading the conversation literally all the time, a plank of wood will put in the same amount of effort in conversing. Maybe you get past dating and want to get married to your GF. Its a 50% chance she will leave you. Were you successful? -50% of your $$$ *poof* because she changed her mind / stop having the tingles. If youre getting a divorce and your wife is college educated there is a 90% chance she initiated it. The vast majority of women are convinced that just because that 9/10 guy fxcked them, thats what they are, a 9/10, SUPER above average person who should NEVER settle for less. Women will literally lose interest based on the most superficial bullshxt like 'he doesnt have an apple phone, eww'. Modern women are so delusional, entitled, narcissistic, solipsistic, and gross its genuinely hardly even worth it at this point. 63% of men (forget the age range, maybe up to age 40) are single. By 2030 its estimated that 40% of women will be single and childless.

@marcwhite9234

11 ай бұрын

@@suntzu6122 don’t know how to fully respond to this. You make a lot of great points about the modern state of women in our country; but here’s the thing, it’s not all their fault. Women today need to realize they’ve been lied to. Feminism doesn’t work, and according to Gloria Stinem (an originator or feminism and Ms Q magazine) feminism was initially funded by the CIA and Rockefeller Foundation (you can find KZread videos where everything I say here can be heard from the people themselves). According to Aaron Russo, who reports being a friend of Nick Rockefeller (with evidence of this) allegedly told him that the Rockefeller Foundation funded women’s lib to destroy the family. What does this mean? Evil people took a real issue, womens rights, an issue that needed to be addressed in the 1960’s because let’s face it there we some things that were not right. But instead of giving women a voice and the ability to bring their best attributes to the table, they destroyed men, women, and the family. No men, no next generation, and eventually no country which means no rights for men, women, or children. The narcissistic tendencies you’re experiencing I believe. But it sounds like you’ve given up and become bitter. I get it. I wouldn’t want yo date modern narcissistic women either. You have to know what to look for in a women, what to watch out for, and the reasons why they’re like that. This isn’t an accident. This is phycological warfare, and it’s likely going to eventually end the United States as we know it.

@marcwhite9234

11 ай бұрын

@@suntzu6122 this video goes through multiple speakers in 5 minutes that describes exactly what I just told you: kzread.info/dash/bejne/mK2ClpKmg7O_dLQ.html

Dating through the mid fifties to early sixties I can tell you there was none of this nonsense. Dating was fun until she dropped you and after a few miserable weeks you found someone else. Girls were usually married by age 23 and men by age 25. This was in the UK.

@MrGamble76

Жыл бұрын

Ah, good ol' times! 😊

@NZ_Wanderer

11 ай бұрын

The 70s were great as well, none of all the stuff that goes on now-days, I may be old but I still wouldn't put up with what "some" ladies dish out.. - Whatever happened to the good old values, honesty and respect that people used to have in the old days?

@dmitripogosian5084

11 ай бұрын

Yep, I dated only once in high school/college (late 70-s) and then got married :)

@mrbob4u495

11 ай бұрын

My first wife was 20 (rest her soul.) I was 24. Lasted 32 years until she passed. My second and I have been together for 16 right now. It takes work, but it is worth it. Young folks today do not know how to commit, nor do they want to work for it. Seems true in the job market as well.

@dmitripogosian5084

11 ай бұрын

@@mrbob4u495 I do not no if the analogy extends, but in the job market there is no commitment on both sides, and it is unclear which comes first

Women don't realize this because they do not care but, every "test" she does to see if he's "the right one" is a sign to us that she's definitely not

I always expect 50/50 contribution in a relationship. That means splitting the costs for dates equally and mutual effort overall. Maybe I'll stay single forever, but that's better than being stuck with a bloodsucking narcissist who expects me to treat her like royalty rather than a partner.

Spend money? The strong, independent women of 2023 don't want to split the bill?

@carultch

Жыл бұрын

Add "when its convenient for me" after everything a woman says.

@mdredheadguy1979

11 ай бұрын

That's feminist hypocrisy at its finest!

You’re correct on every point. The comments that you received were spot on and were all accurate.

The test I often do which I know makes me a jerk is the “you can leave me if you want” test. Im self aware I do this because I want to feel needed, and take the upper hand by telling them I care less for our relationship than my man does. I know it’s toxic behavior but since it comes from my own insecurity I’m working on improving to change this habit before I get in another relationship.

When I hit my mid 30s I realized I was too old to be doing "tests" or playing games.

@spav63

11 ай бұрын

Don’t worry- it’s still happening in the 50’s and 60’s dating scene

My wife of 25 years is the only woman I dated that didn't test me one way or another. I would walk away at the first sign of a test. I wanted a life partner - not someone to try please every day. So, I waited until I met someone that didn't play games.

first date is actually a low-cost date and a test at the same time. If she demands an expensive date ... she will be high maintenance in future and thus gets instantly kicked off the roster

Who couldn’t love a woman who talks with a smile in her voice.

I recall seeing a video in social media where a girl tried to arrange a test like in number 1, but a show host-like person tried to help film it too, maybe Candy Camera-ish. The chick got some maybe-stripper-like girl to flirt with him and bait him into doing anything that seems like cheating. He’s seemed dumbfounded and it was revealed to him that it was a test set up by his girlfriend. After that, he did the unexpected, which shocked and dismayed her, and sent scores of commenters, myself included, in cheering him on…HE DUMPED THE DAMN GIRL!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

I am a 57 year old man. Married 20 years , no kids because careers came first . That ended up in a divorce and lost everything! Lived alone in my new house for 3 years and had friends with benefits. Best years of my life. Then meet a woman , moved in together right away , love at first sight and become a step father. Didn't get married and that ended in a break up. At 57 years still the same dating crap , so just gave up. That's my solution to all these games. Lost your advice content , right on point! Keep up the great work 👍

@brent4073

Жыл бұрын

That is terrifying you lost everything in a divorce without any kids in the equation... It is f'd that society keeps encouraging men to marry women with a govt contract. Women only want FB pictures and a ring on her finger.

@jamesjonnes

Жыл бұрын

@@brent4073 Until men do a complete marriage strike, the government will continue screwing us over.

@elpatron7916

Жыл бұрын

Don't take dating advice from a single moms😂😂😂😮😅

@raybod1775

Жыл бұрын

My neighbor lost two houses, one for each wife, no kids. What a waste of time and money!

@LightCheck70

Жыл бұрын

@@raybod1775you only live once, that’s fuk’d up.

a side note about the loyalty test. When the partner doesn't trust you, its usually a projection of their own actions or feelings. So when they say they dont trust you and you have given NO reason for that kind of suspicion, its most likely she is already cheating and looking for an excuse to blow you off as the one who messed up.