Bonjour my lovelies, thank you so much for watching and commenting this video. I hope you will love it and share it with your girls xxx have a great weekend kisses 😘

@pharoh67

3 жыл бұрын

Why does the french have words that are silent

@klmoll

3 жыл бұрын

Excellent! American woman at 67 and love everything you said! Voila!

@2natree854

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely, I love your channel 😍

@rebekahsquires2073

3 жыл бұрын

I love this! Thank you! I only started wearing make up and jewelry when I was about 24-30 years old. I took ballet and my parents and grandparents taught me to be modest and polite. I am kind of a tom boy and it's a learning process being more confident in my femininity.

@rebekahsquires2073

3 жыл бұрын

I love what you said about conversational etiquette too! What do you recommend saying when someone asks too personal of questions?

Something that struck me was that none of these points were oppressive at all, as compared to the other videos about being more ladylike or classy. All of them were rooted in self confidence, politeness, maturity, and moderation, all of which are great attributes to possess as a human being. Wonderful video thank you!

@ms.frederique

3 жыл бұрын

yeah! thank you so much sweetie xxx

My mother raised me exactly this way and to me it is all part of "being a lady", which does not have to do with being rich, but having manners and class.

@ms.frederique

3 жыл бұрын

thank you lovely x

So apparently I have been doing things right the whole time, but the society and social media keeps shaming me for being modest, not wearing heels, not wearing makeup, not having my boobs out all the time, knowing how to dress for the environment, knowing how to act, speaking silently... Thank you for saying these things!

@ms.frederique

3 жыл бұрын

anytime! xxx

"Believe in your natural beauty." That is such a powerful statement. 👏

Agree with all of this! My parents always taught me to look neat and clean when going out to do anything because, “you never know who you might meet and you don’t want to be looking crazy!” 😂

@Nakita_Jade

3 жыл бұрын

My mother always made the joke “if you randomly die today is THAT how you want to look the rest of your after life?” 😂

@Tismeabbie

3 жыл бұрын

I always go by what my Nan says. Unless it’s an emergency (as in you are actually in or on the way to hospital) no need to look like you’ve just woken up and been dragged out the house 😂

@alanasmith2492

3 жыл бұрын

@@Nakita_Jade LOL! I’m stealing that 😂

@alanasmith2492

3 жыл бұрын

@@Tismeabbie LOL! 🤣🙌🏼 love it!!

@Chahlie

3 жыл бұрын

I recently ran into family members who I am estranged from (YAY!) and I was ever so grateful to be looking well put together even though it was just the supermarket. The woman in question appeared to be in gardening clothes and had hair with 2 inches of grey roots. You just never know what will happen when you set foot outside your door.

100% agree about keeping your house neat enough to be able to gladly welcome unexpected company. Even when living alone, enjoying the ambience of one's castle is important, and that's impossible if it's a mess/dirty.

Classy classy classy. It seems to be something that is out of fashion. It’s not being snobbish or elitist, it’s simply having manners.

@TheCandy1girl

3 жыл бұрын

If you look up hastag classy on instagram it is terrifying what comes up. Most girls/women no longer have any idea what classy is.

@katg9507

2 жыл бұрын

True class never goes out of style!

@monstermcboo7282

2 жыл бұрын

@TheCandy1girl down home, we call that kind of aesthetic, culture, and lifestyle, “Klassy with a K.”

Yes! True European style. Even as a child I wasn't allowed to leave the house in sweatpants, nor put my elbows on the table :) so many points that resonate. Love your natural and classy style!

@maryokeefe5351

3 жыл бұрын

I am Canadian and was also taught good manners. That's not very ladylike - I heard this often!

So nice to see someone promoting class & dignity! Thank you Frédérique ❤️

I love this “believe in your natural beauty” . You are always on point❤️❤️❤️❤️

@iceleb452

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

I love everything about this video! Very few influencers say what needs to be said, no matter what! As a society, we are lacking in class and manners! Merci! ❤️

@beverlyfletcher4458

3 жыл бұрын

Well said.

@eleanormckelvaine6939

3 жыл бұрын

My husband laughs at me, I get dressed to go to Walmart’! Not church dressed, but a top and jeans or a skirt, he thinks because there are so many there that look horrible! I refused to go in my pajamas! 😝

Love this! Not only French, but good manners, period. Thanks for the reminders. Over-exposure is not attractive. A woman should have some mystery and leave something to the imagination.

“A murder on your pillow”, so beautifully and funny.😂🤣

@christinaroseman9926

3 жыл бұрын

I laughed out loud at this one. She is so lovely isn't she :)

@ms.frederique

3 жыл бұрын

😂

@patriciaroncin9182

3 жыл бұрын

🙃😂

@MissKittyKatify

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣

@vickyburton2434

3 жыл бұрын

Too funny….right?

I have never subscribed to a channel in my life! I am French-Canadian and 54 and love your videos. After a series of traumatic events I basically let myself go. It’s only recently, after shedding some of my bad habits, and watching your channel that I started feeling encouraged to bring my best self forward. Thank you!

@ms.frederique

3 жыл бұрын

❤️

I took notes on this one! Specifically, I need to watch my posture, speak softer, declutter my storage room (I do not even use it all enough!), and watch the loungewear outside of my house!

My mother was raised in rural Mississippi, but she taught me all of what you said! All the way down to the lounge wear! At the time it wasn’t that fun learning as a child; but I have always thanked as adult. While I may slip at times (many) when I have to I can be a lady!

Love this video. Natural is the way to go, in my opinion. At 82 that has been my mantra for years. I’m not French, but I have always felt that less is more and it has served me well! The great thing. though, is that we have to do what makes us happy. ❤️

@LinA-it9vd

2 жыл бұрын

So true. It’s also important to know that “natural “ does not mean no effort at all.

I was taught that my voice was more effective when i spoke softly and people had to lean in just a bit to hear me

Yes!!! My Irish Grandmother always said everything on your list at one time or another to me when growing up. Famous quote “Before you leave the house, look in the mirror and take one thing off.” Also so many times I’ve been asked why my husband and I never had children. People do not realize how hurtful of a question that is. It got to the point where enough was enough and I started to say it was none of their business, invasive and rude.

@ms.frederique

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing and liking xx

Excellent video, I'm Scottish but live in France. I love the way your videos are so deep, with a great philosophy; it's not just about looking good, which is great in itself, but also about having a good attitude & treating people well, these things are so important, bravo, Frédérique!

@Leila2023_

3 жыл бұрын

I'm a brit in france, and love watching these videos... it makes me think about the cultural difference and understand the world my kids are growing up in.

And more thing: this is what my mother and grandmother taught me and they are not French. It is good manners.

Great points that should be taught to children so they can grow up with confidence and taste. I think I would add saying, "I'm sorry" when you know you have made a mistake and not make excuses for those mistakes. Mistakes happen because we are human. A sincere apology goes a long way to sealing a good friendship than excusing oneself. Thanks again for your good opinions.

@leanaaymorejacob1211

3 жыл бұрын

I'd add something, Katherine: apologizing often for the same mistake (aka saying-sorry-fixes-it-all) is as irritating as never apologizing (aka it's-not(never)-my-fault). 😉

@leanaaymorejacob1211

3 жыл бұрын

I mean, it's ok to apologize...once (and then try not to repeat it). 😏

My goodness, I am a South African with some French ancestry, and this is exactly how I was raised...

All points are so true, I’m not French but i couldn’t agree more....

“When you start looking like a Christmas tree” you really made me laugh with that one! Frederique! I love your videos! You are a classy lady. That is key. No matter our nationality or ethnicity, we should never lose our manners and class.

@ms.frederique

3 жыл бұрын

thank you lovely xxx

I will translate everything you said in just one word and I don’t care if people don’t like it. I’m not here to please everyone. The word is “cheap”. Maybe being cheap is the trend, but the fact that something is trendy doesn’t mean it must be followed. Totally with you. French are different and vive la différence!

@leanaaymorejacob1211

3 жыл бұрын

Couldn't think of a more precise adjective, David 😉: "cheap" it is!

@davidcsolano7269

3 жыл бұрын

@@leanaaymorejacob1211 😂

@JacqueRescues

3 жыл бұрын

It's amazing how much money people spend just to look cheap! 🤷😬

@leanaaymorejacob1211

3 жыл бұрын

@@JacqueRescues , yeah, hahahahah! I used to have a button with these words; however, I was still studying English back then, and hadn't realized the meaning of the sentence (I took "cheap" literally 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣).

@JacqueRescues

3 жыл бұрын

@@leanaaymorejacob1211 🤣😂🤣

Dear Frederique, your comments reflect my thoughts and way of living And I am not even French...Thank you. Love from Greece!

@ms.frederique

3 жыл бұрын

Love u 😍

As an American, (as in USA) this is so refreshing. Pretty much sooooo many women here violate these basic etiquette principles when dressing and behaving. THANK YOU!!!!

I love this video! I sent it to my 2 daughters: 28 and 26. I have tried to be a good example and train them when they lived with me. Sometimes, we need to hear things from someone else :) Take care!

Haha ... about the push-up and full bosom we say in Germany: There is a lot of wood in front of the hut. Another good video, you really have a very good mix of different topics. thanks

@michellemcgill9328

3 жыл бұрын

I have a naturally large Bust I couldn’t imagine trying to draw attention to it. I’m always trying to minimize the look of them if not, they will look vulgar.

Omg! I am Hispanic, but I completely agree with all of these tips. My mother always scolded me if I talked or laughed too loud! She says it’s not classy ❤️

Love your tips, all timeless. Our modern culture pushes rudeness, sleaziness, self centered individualism, looking ugly and thinking it’s is cool. Thank you, you are doing a service to women. P.s. every notice men always look put together, modest, clean and groomed?, a general statement of course, but they don’t go to extremes for the most part.

@ms.frederique

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your kind message xxx

Truely love YOU Freddie!!! You reinforced everything my Mamma taught me (European woman are warriors at heart ❤️) xxx

@corabluff

3 жыл бұрын

Yesssss!

Long nails & sky-high heels are properly positioned as your first 2! I was laughing throughout your fantastic video. You verbalized my thoughts when I see these things. Thank you for the great advice and tips. Love you channel!

@ms.frederique

3 жыл бұрын

I’m so glad 😀 thank you for watching xx

Spot on! It has nothing to do with being a snob. All about manners! I was raised in The South... manners are in (most of)our blood. Respecting others and yourself. Kindness is true beauty.

I'm only doing three things wrong, yay! One posture - I do slouch, two - speak loudly but I'm Italian with lots of emotion/passion (this will be a work in progress), three - too much stuff in my house - working on decluttering! All good pieces of advice! C'est bon!

That purple blouse 😍 that colour suits you! Thank you for your videos, love them all and they always make me smile, giggle and/or laugh! 🥰😘

this should be titled how to avoid being trashy! More ladies need to hear this!

we say "she has all the goods on display" no no no no, thank you for reminding us to be classy clean and confident xxx

The personal questions part. And do not interrupt. ♥️ Merci!!!

You just listed all the things my mother taught me, she was a classy lady like you, thank you

@ms.frederique

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your kind message xxx

I am with you on the leisure wear being only for home. Being a French Canadian I was raised this way as well. I live in the U.S now and I love to listen to you - it reminds me of home. ❤

@patotazzy

2 жыл бұрын

Seriously??? Since when French Canadian women let the other people talk without interrupt, or mock the other person when this have a different accent?? Or take a shower every day and look clean, or eat with the mouth close, or talk without food inside the mouth. Or don't talk very loud in public places.

Hello lovely! I stumbled on an American youtuber recently, and OMG. She wore cheap distressed jeans (close to the butt), was wearing a pair of high heels normally reserved for exotic dancers, bright makeup, and a $1000 blazer. She was teaching women on how to elevate an outfit and look classy 😳😳. Manners, confidence, attitude, and being kind to others are as important as good looks, I love this video Frédérique!

@Bakerygo

3 жыл бұрын

Putting on a blazer does not make you look elegant or professional. In her case it was like a disguise I guess.

@southernbelle7295

3 жыл бұрын

I laugh at those "influencers"

@andreaguidera1560

3 жыл бұрын

I am American. I live in the U.K. Just got back from the US. The big thing was to wear ripped jeans...but ripped jeans in the front leg area like they were mauled by a bear. It was like: what was the point? Also crocs. And short shorts or sports sorts under long t-shirts. Like we did in the 80s? I’m now in my early 50s. Lol

@jennifermcgee8621

3 жыл бұрын

Im an American and I hate those ripped jeans. They need to go away!

@aleciaa.e3697

3 жыл бұрын

Yes them Americans ...I agree I don't like it ..I'm an American by the way lol

When a woman wore too much flesh showing my mother used to say;”leaves little to the imagination!”.

@ms.frederique

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you sweetie x

@cindykloman1177

3 жыл бұрын

My mother used to say, "That outfit shows everything but good taste"

@bernadettehynes-cafferkey3917

3 жыл бұрын

@@cindykloman1177 very good, must remember that for when I see someone leaving little to the imagination 😀 😉 😄, and plenty of those, unfortunately 😕

@monermccarthy7198

3 жыл бұрын

So true!

@carolevonaarberg472

3 жыл бұрын

'Tight enough to show you are a woman, loose enough to show you are a lady'. Edith Head.

I have always had a problem with speaking among friends in groups. I am always courteous and wait for the other person to stop speaking before I speak but then I never get a chance to speak because others in the group interrupt the speaker and I’m always left waiting my turn and don’t get to say much. I’ve often wondered if I need to interrupt as well in order to say anything at all LOL

OMG I never heard of that expression before "Too many people on the Balcony"! But I love it! There are times to show off your "Assets" and there are times to just let your inner light shine. Much love from Canada, Madamme.

@ms.frederique

3 жыл бұрын

love you back x

“A lot of people on the balcony”...hysterical! This was a lot of great advice.

@ms.frederique

3 жыл бұрын

Hehehe

@CMTHFAF

3 жыл бұрын

I agree push- up bras are cheap looking. Plus; push-up actually make a less feminine silhouette. The way a push-up bra is constructed, is to push from the side as well as from below, resulting in a pear-shape as compared with an hourglass shape.

@kinga6606

3 жыл бұрын

True , push-ups look bad. A well-fitted bra, even on small breasts does a great job to accentuate the shapes, but in a nice, subtle way.

I don't think this is necessarily the French way, it's just the 'classical', 'polite society' way. I don't live my life the 'elegant way' to put it mildly, but I've found, that knowing these etiquette points is very helpful in situations, where it calls for. It does really stem from upbringing, but not a lot of people have that, so it's great to see some basic points laid out so nicely!

Your green eyes and that purple silk blouse are gorgeous together. I'm always too scared to wear bright colours. You do it very well. OF COURSE!!!

@ms.frederique

3 жыл бұрын

You can do it!

Wonderful advice! Manners are sorely lacking in so many people these days.

As a man who loves women, I thoroughly appreciated this video.

"There's alot of people on the balcony." Hahahahaha! Oh my that's a good one!

"Murder on the pillow case" - this statement just made my day, thank you ❤️ Loved the video - I agree completely. Have a great day.

@ms.frederique

3 жыл бұрын

😂

I like how you include courteous behavior (table manners, being interested in another's conversation, etc). Classy and thoughtful.

@ms.frederique

3 жыл бұрын

thank you x

I appreciate your wisdom, your grace & common sense. It’s nice to be reminded once in a while.

You have the best style guide on KZread. You’re a class act and an inspiration to get out of the comfy “pandemic” clothes and feel human again.

Great advice! I so agree with you especially about the long nails. I always think when I see nails like that..” I hope she doesn’t wear contact lenses”!

@migrose6547

3 жыл бұрын

I always wonder how they wipe their💩

@angelatewson8202

3 жыл бұрын

It is the worst when they have young children and babies! Maybe someone else does the nappies!

I totally agree about the finger nails especially! Oh my goodness how does anyone do anything around the home with those extra long nails? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Watching your videos make me so happy. Feel like I’m getting great advice from a wise and loving sister!

I love all these. Living in the South in the US, people ask way too many personal questions.

Now this video was so classy!! Wonderful principles to live by and I do. Thanks for the reminders.

That was brilliant I can hear my mother’s voice so clearly. We were taken for a walk on Sundays and she corrected our gate throughout the walk. You are a very wise lady and so much fun you lift our heart’s

Love this, you’re fabulous. My mother instilled this into us, so thankful she did. ❤️

Thank you for the elegant tips for the ladies. I once witnessed a certain faux pas when a TV host interrupted her guest in the middle of her recipe story. I was shocked - as if the guest never spoke and were never there! I stopped watching her show after that.

Agree 100 % with all you said 👍😘 love your videos 💐

Frédérique, thank you for the lesson on etiquette, manners and what true style really means.Please keep them coming. We have a great time with your videos on clothes,make-up, decorating,the spa and with Oscar. But we also need lessons on what it means to have class.Merci beaucoup ❤

Thank you so much, Frederique, for your such useful remarques. 😍

HI, Frederique. & thank you again. I so much agree with every word. Many awkward moments can be saved by simple manners and common sense

Wonderful advice! Thanks you for reminding us all that class is not just about what you wear, but the whole person!

Vous avez tellement raison! Bravo Frédérique! J’adore vos vidéos.

LOVE THIS ! You are a joy to listen to and I agree on all points.

Thank you, great advice! I try to live by these rules here in Scandinavia! I am a teacher and I always try and look presentable in a feminine way+use my signature perfume on in every class - I see the younger teachers in their 20s sometimes teach in sweat pants and hoodies and no make-up! I would rather get up early and make sure I am well-groomed. Anyway, I love your blouse - absolutely gorgeous!

My favorite ever. Every mother, grandmother, aunt I have ever had or known told me these things. Being religious they said " dont show ANY skin" and it has stood me in good stead. Youd be surprised how chic a woman can be who shows only her face and her hands 😏

@shireensaroea946

3 жыл бұрын

I believe it

@JulieWallis1963

3 жыл бұрын

I rather like showing some leg, arm or a shoulder, not my midriff as I’m not a teenager but kudos to you. I have total respect for Muslim types that feel they need to hide their body, but it does tickle me that you say “religious” then you want to hide the body ‘god gave you’. I’m not sure I’d call the totally covered look “chic” but you do you (or you do your grandmothers and aunt)

@tamarfischer283

3 жыл бұрын

@@JulieWallis1963 LOL. Firstly I'm not Muslim. also, I do like my body. Additionally, when I say ANY skin, I guess I'm exaggerating just a LITTLE. but you can like the body G-d gave you without exposing it to everybody. In the same way, I imagine you like your midriff. As for being modest and chic- why not?

@shireensaroea946

3 жыл бұрын

@@tamarfischer283 I see it as not covering in fear, but draping in elegance . I try to look elegant , but still show some skin, as I live in Florida . But I still feel very respected .... why? In my mind I believe I’m respected - so perhaps the inner world reflects to the outer world . For me I realized it is less about fashion , and more how I interact . And I personally feel the sexiest thing a woman can do, is not flirt .... Hahah - if that makes sense

@tamarfischer283

3 жыл бұрын

@@shireensaroea946 I agree. I dont even understand the concept of hiding with fear 👍

Sooo happy we’ve had brilliant videos this week merci beaucoup Frédérique ❤️ love all these especially the interrupting. Close friends if you haven’t seen each other first few sentences is fine but yeah listen to what the person has to say. I’ve got an interview next week so I will be re watching your clothes videos for inspiration ❤️

I love how you get to the point. Thank you !!

Love and agree with EVERY point!

Thank you for sharing! I was fortunate to have a mother who valued and taught her children manners! By the way, she had a French ancestry!

These are all great reminders for things that seem like common sense but seem to have fallen by the wayside these days. Love it!

@ms.frederique

3 жыл бұрын

😊

Love your channel so much, always makes me smile, thank you so much xx

I absolutely agree. A lot of these “don’ts) are very American. I do not understand where our class went. I respect the Parisian ways, natural beauty, modest clothing, etc. I prefer flats, more comfortable and practical.

@bernadettehynes-cafferkey3917

3 жыл бұрын

a shop can't display all its stock at once, neither should women display all the goods in one outfit 😉

@peacenloveforall6

3 жыл бұрын

Liberalism did this to us.

@vkngwmn6636

3 жыл бұрын

Depends on your social class in the U.S. Well raised Americans exist and aren't vulgar.

@Thefeminineelegantlady

3 жыл бұрын

@@vkngwmn6636 most true. I myself am, at least I like to think, more reserved and trey to be more “proper”. There’s something to be said about manners and elegance. I just respect Parisian women for their emphasis on natural beauty and being more realistic. So many American women where extremely high heels walking long distances outside and have such long nails, that hinder so much ability, and wear globs of makeup. If they enjoy that, who am I to judge? I, for myself, would rather wear flats to not hurt my body and emphasize my natural beauty by taking great care of my skin, hair, and nails, and eating healthy foods. I do see that the “creating” beauty is less popular in America now, and women are starting to veer towards natural beauty, I’m happy to see it. We should all feel good about ourselves without feeling like we have to “hide” our natural selves.

Good manners and and modesty are always in style. As an American Southern woman, we ladies take great pride in our breeding. But it doesn't mean we can't give you a little stab in the back if you cross us. We just do it with taste. I have always been a messy person and have struggled with it for years. When someone comes into my messy house I always say that my mama did NOT raise me this way. She was very neat and she taught me to be neat. It is a matter of being a bad reflection on my parents. I have a friend who always talks. He thinks I should listen all the time. When I try to react, not interrupting him while he is talking, he shushes me and tries to stop me from talking. That is my pet peeve. A conversation is two ways.

@vkngwmn6636

3 жыл бұрын

Bless their hearts, right?!

Bonjour Frederique!! Excellent video!! I totally agree with all 20!! You're the best!! Merci!!

Such a great video! I agree 100%. You have on my favorite color and it is very becoming on you! Thank you for speaking to and displaying such dignity and class!!💕

I must be French then, I don't do any of those things you've talked about! LOL. But seriously, My parents taught me well. Thanks for another great video!

@Okie343

3 жыл бұрын

Irina Longley. Good comment. From the looks of your beautiful face, you probably grew up in the 70's and 80's too, when our parents raised us up more conservatively, and women didn't show too much of their legs. I have to admit though, as pretty as you are, I would like to see those beautiful legs.

@excursion8046

3 жыл бұрын

@@Okie343 simp behavior

I know I'm "late to the party" on this video, but laughed so hard at the "a lot of people on the balcony" comment! You never fail to entertain Frederique. Many good reminders on this one. Merci. :)

@ms.frederique

3 жыл бұрын

What a sweet comment, I'm glad you like it xx

Yes Frédérique! I agree with Everything! Great Video❤️

Yes, yes and yes! Lovely video and great advice. I agree with everything.

Agree 100% and enjoyed watching this video.

Keep on keeping on. I appreciate your consistency. 🤗🤗🤗🤗

It's all about self respect! If you don't respect yourself how do you expect from others to respect you?Words of wisdom Frederique!Thanks for this video!Love from Greece!

@ms.frederique

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you sweetie x

Thank you for this. Great reminder for all of us.

Excellent video! Keep up your good work! ❤️

"Make fun of yourself" J adore les femmes francaises! ❣️

Thanks for edifying the word classy. Love your videos. They are helping my confidence!!!!

I was lucky to be brought up with china, silver and crystal for big family dinners. Along with that, our table manners had to measure up. My mother always taught us good table manners. Sometimes I think it's a dying art! Thanks for this video on keeping it classy, Frederique.

You are the most wonderful person, I love everything about you and your style. Keep up with the great videos, you truly are my inspiration. Greetings from Montreal. 💖💖💖

I love this as everyday rules in general. Being kind and understanding goes a long way. Have fun and enjoy being your beautiful best self :)

@ms.frederique

3 жыл бұрын

Cheers

Thank You So Much! This is how I was raised! My Mother was half French & had Beautiful Manners & very Ladylike! ❤️

This is the first video that I watch, it took me 3 minutes to subscribe, this woman is adorable and I appreciate her honesty.

@ms.frederique

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much my darling x