We’re all in this together. Nobody here is alone in this and your symptoms are not yours! You are not the only person that has experienced this. We will get better and we will feel how we want to feel one day 🙏

Thanks man. Had this too for 2 years after extreme build up of stress and then a bad drug experience. 3 months after this, saw my dad for the first time in 20 years and POP. 2 years later, all of the weirdness and terror which is dpdr and trauma and I'm fully back to normal and happier than I've ever been. It does go, you gotta do the work, avoid negative substances and give yourself love. It will go

@gegulfo01

Ай бұрын

How did it go for you?

@planecrazyanimations2395

Ай бұрын

What do you do to beat them

The part where you said the fear of these symptoms being permanent made me cry because I am terrified of that. I have had it since I was 11 and it has only gotten worst as time went on. I have tried just living my life but not in at the stage where my symptoms is demanding for me to pay attention. I have become agoraphobic due to it.

Feels like I'm a stream of consciousness floating in the abyss and reality is just a dream. Reminds me of when Peter Pan lost his shadow and Wendy sews it back to his body. Would be nice to feel grounded again and have my sense of being sewn back to my body.

Hyperawareness ocd is a really horrible symptom. I can move my body but I don't know how I'm moving it and thinking about it causes so much more anxiety and dpdr. Luckily Jordans videos have helped me a lot.

@coachjordanhardgrave

11 ай бұрын

Yes I remember going through that. Truly the worst.

@dreamelyte

3 ай бұрын

Literally makes my head spin.

@andreabrown2106

27 күн бұрын

Oh my gosh... yes with me I think about what if what I see is real? How do I know seeing is actually there? What if this isn't real? Like so disconnected! Thinning of it obsessively over and over and "shutdown" much more but this definitely plays a great part in my experience. Detachment since 16 I'm now 32 :"(

Almost cried when you said “I can’t even look in the mirror!?” I’ve experienced that several times in my life. My gosh it’s so bizarre and scary at the time when you don’t know what’s happening and feel like you’re looking at a stranger when it’s really just yourself in the mirror.

I have had dpdr since I was 12 I am now 38. Nothing has helped and I have been at the point of disparity for years. You’re right I’ve heard is accept it try not to think about it and move forward get a routine. Nothing helps. I feel like I am just waiting to die and it’s gonna suck because my life isn’t even gonna seem real.

@loristonge1501

Ай бұрын

Me too, I’m 38 and have had it since I was a child on and off. You are not alone ❤

I’m crying watching this every symptom you mentioned is something I feel I thought I’m going crazy it feels like someone understands. I’m so tired of feeling this way and people shrug my symptoms to the point I feel like a burden just complaining. I feel better looking at you okay

@SkeletronOnDaBeat

2 ай бұрын

Me too man I’ve been feeling very weird mince the start of the year and I feel empty now and like I can’t even put a thought together and a lot of these symptoms. Did you get better?

None of the therapists and doctors I talked with through the years had any idea or understanding of these symptoms I was experiencing. Because my symptoms were so severe and no therapist had explained it to me, I began to worry that I was going completely insane. I even thought that maybe I had a severe mental illness that was not well known. Then one day I came across one of your videos that explained what derealization and depersonalization are. I finally knew what was going on and it gave me so much comfort that this thing had a name and was something others experienced - and that there was a scientific reason that my body and mind was responding the way it was.

@Dee-cu8yr

3 ай бұрын

I'm afraid to go to therapy because I think I'll feel worse since no one talks about it

@andreabrown2106

27 күн бұрын

Exactly... going to therapy they have no idea the extreme of what we all go through.. definitely comforting knowing we all can relate to one another and we're not alone . Much love everyone may God bless all of us and heal our minds. We are perfect just the way we are.

Bro. You hugged a tree. You are officially a treehugger. Don't knock it, you literally said you felt a little more grounded, so hug more trees. This content maybe just saved my life. Thank you.

From my years of experience the following helps. 1. Don't fight it, or feed it. Try and carry on ( as hard as it is..I know! ) 2. Vitamin b complex solgar 3. Vitamin D 4000iu 2 a day 4. Meditation every night 5. Work out. Even if a long long walk. 6. Read 7. No caffeine 8. Good sleep! I think this playa a bugger part than we realise. It's almost like we've woken with half the brain still asleep. 9. Magnesium glycinate and a zinc tablet before bed! 10. Don't hate me as I know it's sensitive subject. But I got on my knees and prayed to god to forgive me. I now pray everyday I really feel God helps me. Peace all

I had my first pair of panic attacks ever this year and this video helped me understand the relationship between the mind and body and why the body and brain respond to stress and trauma the way they do so Thank You! I hope more people learn about the causes and consequences of stress and trauma

This is the best birthday present ever

@coachjordanhardgrave

11 ай бұрын

Happy birthday! 🎉

@katyparker4578

11 ай бұрын

Happy birthday! 🎉

@Elle-hx8ji

11 ай бұрын

Happy Birthday Nathan 🎉

5 years, this video has brought me some comfort, thanks ❤ I know one day this will leave, until then, I’m gonna try my best to enjoy life :)

19:38 looking at a stranger in the mirror, just eviscerated me. How accurate your statement. Uncertain, if I can continue your audio today. In fact, I cannot. From the heart - THANK YOU for this material.

@coachjordanhardgrave

Ай бұрын

Happy to help!

omg when im walking feels like im gonna pass out cause i dont feel that im controlling my body or anything that i do and when i look around doesnt feel like im in the real word feels like im floating somewhere

Thank you for this video. I have been suffering from it and it feels like I will never get out of this. Thank you for giving hope.

Thank you SO MUCH for explain it so well and give us hope!!! I feel I’m in a constant battle with myself but you helped me put words on it. You are a great soul to do this for us, free and everything. God bless you❤

What you are doing is really amazing, this video is the best it describes everything i ve experienced in almost the past 4 years, i m better now and your videos are helping. You are amazing thank you 🙏 ❤❤

Oh God! Thank you so much, Jordan! I guess it’s the first time I deeply feel reassured and validated and a bit more calm inside my stomach (there is always an anxiety pain in it almost all the time that I feel so so exhausted 😭). It’s almost a decade since I am so hard trying to find the answer to “what is fckng wrong with me!!!???” And of course I came to ADHD and autism thing, studied it deeply, and than came to cPTSD and now all those little puzzles are clicking in. But the severity of my DPDR was the last one unsolved. And yeah, I knew it was the part of cPTSD but as you said I felt no hope it gonna stop one day. I was preparing myself to live with it though it is so debilitating… ok, I guess I have lost the train of thoughts. But I want to add that those “science behind this” points have made your video so much more interesting and valuable (for someone super interested in how our brains work). Thank you so much! ❤

Thanks so much I’m on a month of constant dpdr after having had 4 years of recovery. I’m thankful I found this channel

@coachjordanhardgrave

3 ай бұрын

I would encourage you to check out the 5 Shifts to Heal from Trauma, Anxiety, Depersonalization & Emotional Numbness Masterclass. It is a free Masterclass that will show you the 5 shifts to become symptom free using a body-based approach. You can find the link in my main KZread profile as well as in the description and first pinned comment in any Video. Let me know if you need any help!

@THRHER

3 ай бұрын

Wait so it came back? Because I also recovered for about 4 years and I recently smoked (like a month ago) and now I’m here cus I triggered the symptoms back😂😫

@fmriiver89

3 ай бұрын

@@THRHER yup lol mine came back after I got ridiculously drunk one night and got into a huge fight with my spouse that ended up with me having an Anxiety attack. I was pacing around extremely freaked out while hungover. I noticed it the next day.

@Freedom-2BME

Ай бұрын

This happened to me this evening after years of freedom , I sat in my car in tears, I’d forgotten how completely terrifying it is.. Listening to this video, reminds me of so much of fear I’ve been through Anyone watch the movie The Matrix and give meaning to their disassociation experience? Nothing is real, living inside a movie… Due to extreme trauma, I disassociated out of necessity

Hi Jordan, it’s been a while since I watched your videos. WOW…this is literally the BEST and most RELATABLE you tube video I’ve ever watched. I can’t thank you enough, you are an experienced voice with the science to back it up for those of us still struggling and I am so grateful to you. You literally have such experience that you have summarised all my thoughts, fears, notes, explanations etc into this fabulous video even the frustrations at the end regarding permanence. Thank you so much ❤. I have shared on Facebook to appropriate forums 🙏🏻.

@coachjordanhardgrave

11 ай бұрын

Happy to help!

Great video. Very informative and relatable 😁👍

This is the best video I've found on this subject. So straight forward and in simple terms. Thank you!

@coachjordanhardgrave

7 ай бұрын

Happy to help

Notification squad 😎 but really though, thank you Jordan for all of your hard work. We see you and we are so grateful for you. You’re making a huge difference in our lives 🙏🏻

@coachjordanhardgrave

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for taking the time to comment, Katy. Have a great day!

Thank you! I have DRDP for almost 10 years now and I always thought that those things are another problem or condition I never put everything together. Feels good to know Im not the only one. Seriously thank you for that!!!!!!

stay positive❤️you’ll certainly get through this

@coachjordanhardgrave

9 ай бұрын

Great comment!

Thank you for this in depth video ❤

@coachjordanhardgrave

11 ай бұрын

You are so welcome!

Thanks for explaining this so well

Watched to the end. Hope this message goes to everyone it needs to go to!

@coachjordanhardgrave

11 ай бұрын

I hope it helped you!

yes! sign up ppl and get ur life back!

@coachjordanhardgrave

11 ай бұрын

😊

@HogsRus23

2 ай бұрын

❤

Thank you. Great information.

@coachjordanhardgrave

9 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

Thank you. God bless your work. ❤

Thank you very much. I have problems with mental health. My brother also and a neighbour may be. I subbed. Much appreciated.

FINALLY someone who can relate to this horrifying experience: great sharing & I hope more people feel less alone when they experience it. Also, there are solutions even though they are individual. 👍👍

@debrakarr996

Ай бұрын

Sure explains why I feel my mind has left. I usually have racing thoughts always moving now no thought. It's bothersome to me. I want answers lol. This is a plus on info.

Thanks Jordan!❤

I am recovering 🤩🤩🤩 Thank you 🙏

Thank you for your Video man! I wish I would've found you sooner! 🎉

@coachjordanhardgrave

2 ай бұрын

Glad I could help!

Thank you for this video ! I have complex trauma and the shut down is horrible. I’ve worked with therapists for several years but recently , new abuse and emotional shock made me unable to talk for a full day… I’m trying to understand this

Hey Jordan when are you lauching the new version of the S5 method? I really need it. Thank you for everything you do

I've experienced this off and on for 20 years. Usually a few hours. A couple years back it lasted for a week. Currently I've been in a state of dpdr for 7 months straight. It's effecting every aspect of my life

I am excited to finally post this video. It took several months to put together so I hope it adds a ton of value. If you are facing these symptoms and want to work with me and my team to help you, here is a link to apply: 5shiftsmasterclass.coachjordanhardgrave.com/webinar-page

@laurenbaldwin6068

11 ай бұрын

Iv got constant chest pains and palpitations anybody else

Tysm for this video I thought I was going crazy or dying lmao, you’re an angel 🙏.

I fought both of these from 4th grade up until about 9th grade, it began to to phase out and I forgot about it but my parents divorce last month has brought it all back worse than it ever was. But I’m getting through it because it’s nothing new to me

The depersonalization episodes were horrific for me and, right, as I couldn’t explain them nobody knew there was anything wrong. Mine lasted over a year with panic attacks interspersed before, during and after this period. I would say a bad experience with weed while I was still a teenager could have been a catalyst. Thanks and this is the very first time I ve ever heard anyone describe this terrifying phenomenon!

@coachjordanhardgrave

3 ай бұрын

Thanks for the comment! Glad I could help!

Thanks so much!

WHY GOD WHY couldn't I have you as a therapist?!! I live in a small town plagued with minimal intelligence, where doctors and therapists barely even know what DP/DR is. I have a severe case due to many traumatizing life events, one being a near death experience semi-recently. In short, the near death experience caused me to fear death and the hereafter, resulting in severe, back to back panic attacks all day long. Sadly, the combo of my accumulated stress, terrorizing fear from the near death experience and the distrust in my overall safety as far as co-regulation, my DP/DR symptoms went from a 4 to a 10. The frustration I'm dealing with is needing to travel outside of this small town for help, but not really being mentally well enough right now to do so. My symptoms are so severe that I'm almost completely crippled mentally and emotionally, leading to a physical crippling I could've never EVER imagined for myself. For me, the visual distortion is enough to drive me to inanity! DP/DR is the absolute worst thing I've ever known! It's even worse than all my traumas combined! I HATE YOU DP/DR! 💔

Thanks for mentioning the "static dots/colored dots/black dots". I see them all the time. Did you discover a reason for this phenomenon in your research as well?

I've been Iiving with panic attacks since I got burned out years ago, I also had PTSD and after my husband's infidelity this year, it all came back. Granted, the panic disorder never went away, but I was in a better state than I am today. I'm thrown into PTSD or PISD again and all you describe is so complete. Today, I feel numb and not really in the reality. Staring at the wall. I'm still hurt, in pain, angry, but I woke up feeling absolutely nothing. I doesn't feel scary since I can't feel anything. At all. I guess this is a process like going through grief. Have done that too a long time ago. This feels like going through grief. Perhaps because I'm grieving the marriage I thought was a pure marriage and not filled with lies and infidelity. Well, that's okay. I have to go through the process. I know it. Thanks for sharing. It's insightful and I'll probably watch it several times. 🌹

Thank you!

@coachjordanhardgrave

7 ай бұрын

You're welcome!

Thank you 🙏

Wow such a long video! 🔥🔥🔥

@coachjordanhardgrave

11 ай бұрын

Yes and a long time planning, writing, editing, etc. Took several months. Hope it helped! :)

I relate to so much of what you're saying! I do and think these things also.

Can’t wait until the Inner Circle goes live 😊

I remember moment I got DPDR whilst smoking weed with friend, and I came back home and my mum opened door to my room and I literally was not able to recognize her I mean I knew somewhere that she is she but I had so big brain fog, and even more scary was unability to feel, even anxiety. On the next day when I woke up and still felt this I knew that something is wrong. Fortunately I managed to win with this after week, and now I know what situation lead to this.

There are so much in your video that makes sense to me and that I recognise. So I am gonna try this because everything I have been trying so far has help a bit or for awhile but I'm still struggling. And 14 years is long enough.

@coachjordanhardgrave

7 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing

Thank you! It explained so Many mysteries I’ve had experienced. ❤

@coachjordanhardgrave

11 ай бұрын

Glad to hear!

I didn't know what was happening to me. But first thing i thought was omg i lost my soul and anything material doesn't mean anything to me anymore. Same, bad marijuana experience. It lasted for two weeks, i was zombie. After i told my father i love him and i forgive him everithing, my soul 'came back'.

@antoineperkins1332

3 ай бұрын

How did u get through emotional numbness?

My Grand son is suffering so bad from this This video will change everything for us Thanks for the hope

Thanks man, I was really thinking I am going crazy

@coachjordanhardgrave

3 ай бұрын

Glad I could help you!

Yep. I get you.

Hey Jordan, I’m curious what you think about how depersonalization derealization feels like being in a dream. Of course the only time we usually feel this is when we are asleep or maybe have just woken up, but I wonder if when we are experiencing DPD if there is a part of the brain activated or deactivated or a certain brain pattern that is usually only present while sleeping to create this feeling in day to day life.

Good video

Finally finished your video. I sat in the car for 2 hours in depersonalization. This video couldn’t come at a better time.

@coachjordanhardgrave

Ай бұрын

Let me know if I can help!

@lukebrewer7598

Ай бұрын

@@coachjordanhardgrave I’m enlisted into the military I would love help!

I've been dealing with this for 5 years. It's chronic now and the doctors are at a loss. I feel abandoned and alone and scared. I feel the same as someone else here said.. waiting to die.

I can relate to everything you just said. Thanks for making me feel not so alone/crazy.

@coachjordanhardgrave

8 ай бұрын

You are so welcome

Wow I am totally relating on everything

Can’t believe it’s been 5 years since I got dpdr and found your channel! Great video

@coachjordanhardgrave

11 ай бұрын

You are officially an OG subscriber. :)

Hey Jordan when are you launching the new S5 method?

I literally love you 😂

I’ve had issues with depersonalization where I worry if I’m “who” I am as a person, or if I’m just my thoughts. Also that I’m afraid I won’t be able to separate myself from my thoughts.

thanks i really thank you for this so much sooo soo much i hope you get anything you want in life i really wish the best for you, i really thought i had something bad happening like dementia or schizophrenia... i FUCKING LOVE YOU ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@coachjordanhardgrave

9 ай бұрын

Happy to help!

Thank you

@coachjordanhardgrave

3 ай бұрын

Thanks for the comment! Glad to help!

Bro you told my story to a t

my depersonalisation is so bad i have sever anxiety in my eyes and i just don't feel real and it got much worse coming off benzos

I am still in the grip and doing whatever is possible each day to stay alive.

who feels disconnected from their name??

Wow can relate to almost all of these nice to know I’m not the only one do you have any tips to recommend to help overcome DPDR ?

@coachjordanhardgrave

9 ай бұрын

Check out the links in the descriptions of my vdieos I have a few different options

yes, all of this exactly... but u forgot one... not wanting to talk because your voice would sound like is coming from outside of your body... really scary : /

My worst symptom is everything to do with my vision. It literally feels like I’m going blind sometimes, my vision is sooo disconnected like I’m not even looking AT but THROUGH

I have been suffering from this since I had my first experience at 22 years old. I am 49 and only just learned of this. I really need help.

At first I thought it was clarity, *it was not.* 😟😟

Wow Jordan I am a believer as well and I literally have obsessed about the idea that I am actually in hell. My face is distorted as well. Hyper awareness has me hyper focused on so many strange things like the sound of my own voice.

When you heal, does it come naturally to you to be normal? don't you have to force yourself to stay in that state? in the sense that it comes to you automatically and you don't have to think about it anymore?

Do you have to experience all of these for it to be dp/dr? Or just some because I experience several but not all. And it definitely cause panic attacks and that I'm going crazy.

i have no light sensitivity... however i still have bad dpdr

did you also experience that you can't feel the body, like it is floading and that your arms feel numb when you touch them? I don't have severe drama, I don't know why i have this sometimes. I don't have this all the time, but when i have it it stays for days

Crazy but true story but my jr year of high school I got DP from hitting a wax pen and I year later it saved my life in a school shooting so I hate the side effects but I was always on edge and it helped me survive that situation

Has anyone faced grief while healing trauma.. It's just annoying😫😖

Is it normal to feel increased dpdr after/during exercise

I’ve been having chronic DPDR and it hasn’t left me for a second for over 3 years now. Any tips?

Friends and family feel like strangers and memory loss and also not recognizing myself in a mirror these are the worst symptoms for me. Does this all go back to normal when the dp/dr leaves ?

@JadalineJ

2 ай бұрын

Hi , how are you now??

I'm extremely nearsighted and basically rely on contact lenses (glasses can't correct my vision). The past two weeks I've had an eye infection and have been forced to use my glasses. It's really made dpdr more noticeable, especially the feeling of being disconnected and like I'm on autopilot all the time. Has anyone else experienced this?

@IAMFREE-sh5wo

5 ай бұрын

Yes I thought was weird when I starting putting my glasses on when got up in the morning Than when I would switch to contacts feel so weird Like I'm having an out of body experience like I'm on a boat standing and trying to walk on the boat when it rocking back and forth Helll 😢

Sometimes during the day I feel internal body vibrations, does someone have this?

I dont feel abything but anger and nothing feels real at all

in period of dpdr ..i felt that some animal is eating me ( sometimes ) is it one of the symptoms ? pls answer

It happens to me i feel disconnected

Can somebody reply to this I’m constantly feeling like this and idk if it’s dpdr everything looks bigger or smaller than before like the outside world cars and houses things look zoomed in people look smaller or different it feels like I’m constantly out of my body like I can see myself take every blink no matter what I do for the past months I can’t snap out of it and it feels like I’ve damaged my brain I had a bad drug experience where I was really stressed and depressed and anxious for like a month before that I was perfectly fine and nothing like this has happened to me before but I’ve dealt with anxiety/health anxiety and depression but never this and I feel stuck scared and hopeless all I do is cry I can’t feel my emotions I feel numb all the time like I’m on anesthesia it’s like I have this force or bubble I’m in that’s separated me from the outside world but like I said the outside world looks so fake and weird

Hey did you feel like you lost your identity and was a shell of who you were? I was hoping to see that on this video 😢 im really struggling w that.

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