After 12 years of marriage ive learned so much. Yet i still make mistakes. Patience and forgivenes are essential.... but communication is key.

@chaucerparks5941

3 жыл бұрын

I SINCERELY RESPECT AND AGREE WITH YOU...YOUR COMMENT IS CORRECT IN MY OPINION..👍👍 ✊...✌💨🏃

@anthonym840

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like progress to a better person. 👍

@smh6205

3 жыл бұрын

@Dojocho not all woman. Im not like that. My husband had a shitty job... then no job. And now hes an engineer. You're chasing the wrong woman.

@gautee9930

3 жыл бұрын

Yes communication is the key always!

@tana5098

3 жыл бұрын

@Joseph Gross I know what you mean. My ex was a narcissist and it was hell. One moment he was generous and loving, the next he was pissed off and insulting me. It was like being on a rollercoaster. I never could make him happy no matter what I did. Learned why after we broke up. He could be generous and loving at times, but for the most part, it was always about him. Never again. It has taken me over a year now to feel normal. One of the most painful and devastating experiences of my life. So sorry you went through it also. Be good to you and take time to build your self esteem up again. I now understand why I was attracted to him. My neediness and codependency was the reason I stayed for almost 8 years. So glad I have peace now and am single.

Be responsible for your own happiness. Best advice.

@cherylthompson2731

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. I really needed to hear that just now 💞

@nezimsa

3 жыл бұрын

so agree!!!

@cherylthompson2731

3 жыл бұрын

Yep! This is why I am 57 and still single. I just met the man of my dreams and drove him away last night. Be careful ladies!! These videos can be dangerous and harmful if taken too seriously."

@wtfwho975

3 жыл бұрын

Of course.

@spartanarmy207

3 жыл бұрын

I not saying nth is wrong but I don't like the saying "happy wife happy life

" constantly comparing your man to another man" is a big turn off

@ashconner2293

3 жыл бұрын

Guys love doing that. They compare you to their ex or their mom.

@blackamericapapi3841

3 жыл бұрын

@@ashconner2293 that's a lie

@nanthini5591

3 жыл бұрын

Don't u guys do that.

@kaitlynanita448

3 жыл бұрын

@@ashconner2293 Yeah true my ex did that and that is why he’s single now

@drrobertneville876

3 жыл бұрын

Women ain't help you reach the finish line but they sure are there once you win 🤦‍♂️😖 scandalous asa women

I am so glad I don't have to be judged under any of this anymore . I love being single and loving myself and my father God.😘

@livlight9762

3 жыл бұрын

Oh sister you talk truth here. I feel it goes in the same direction but I have one question: How do you keep men distant from you? In my case I look nice and guys easily flirt with me...how can I stop this without getting angry or hurting him? I whish I could stop being attractive for men...and some men even like to chace more when a woman stays cold and blocks him...what can I do? Should I shout I call the police? 😅

@stellakapseu7189

3 жыл бұрын

@@livlight9762 same here. I don't know what to do and it's troublesome when someone loves you but you don't feel the same. :-D😭

@livlight9762

3 жыл бұрын

@@stellakapseu7189 Hehe we are the heartbreaking nuns 😂😎😉 Ok so much for joking, I really am becoming a nun. No joke. I know I will only love god until my last breath. So modest clothes are the first thing that can help. I don't wear make up or perfume anymore (just essencial lavendula oil - that also keeps demons away and mosquitos 😉) Cover up your skin and body and modest jewelry and clothes colours like black, grey, brown. I also chant protective mantras when men are near and I imagine invisible viking bodyguards standing in a circle in front and around me that ward off any men. Good look sister ❤🍀🙏

@obviousnames8633

3 жыл бұрын

@@livlight9762 or you could change your vibe. We men read signals too you know. You know what you’re doing. What you resists persists you know..

@akiikigee468

3 жыл бұрын

Amen 😍😍

50th wedding anniversary coming up next spring. My wife is as close to perfect as one can be. The only bad habit she has is opening my mail. I’ve been trying to break her of that for almost 50 years. Oh well, she had a heart attack in April 2020 and then a stroke this last March. The prospect of losing her scares the crap out of me. I no longer sweat the little things.

@0hSnapShesHonest

Жыл бұрын

What does she do specifically? I would appreciate the tips :-)

These bad attributes have driven me away from several women. This video is so on point and fits my previous relationships like a glove.

@livlight9762

3 жыл бұрын

Hey brother, just recall the relationship of your parents towards each other and towards you. The subconscious of a child collects the toxic patterns from parents and that's the reason why later in life one may attract the same shit over and over again. Stay alert and break the loop. Also it helps to know your own astrological birth chart. For example: I have Capricorn and Vesta in Venus (which stands for hardship in love) and my parents were both highly aggressive, abusive and toxic. My father was a narcistic person who forced me to eat and used violence. My mother had anger outbursts and depression. Today I am aware that from this parent combination and due to my astrological birth chart I won't ever be able to have a healthy relationship and falling from one abusive toxic boyfriend to the next, I finally quit and love myself and god. That's why I accepted my fate as staying alone for good. I love me and god. That's enough. Next step is to learn to keep men distant in a friendly but firm way. I need some tipps here because I look nice and once I went to an ashram and even there guys were flirting with me. I want this to stop immediately. Can you give advice to me?

@stevec3526

3 жыл бұрын

@@livlight9762 I have met and worked some very famous astrologers. However, if you are using astrology to prove a point on YT, you have shot your argument in the foot. Also, astrology readings need to be adjusted to the spiritual development of the individual so they cannot be generalized. People are either growing or dying and we need to grow beyond our programming and planets. For your info I am a Libra Sun, Aquarius Moon and Sag Rising.

@MrKrushgutz

2 жыл бұрын

@@livlight9762 You are a lost child

@inconnu4961

2 жыл бұрын

@@livlight9762 It takes a lot of courage, faith and self discipline to blaze your own path like this. i commend you for that! I have given my opinion in another comment tied to a previous comment of yours, about simple ways to lose men. It should get easier as many men are being encouraged to go MGTOW. But just consider one thing: sometimes we change, or situations change, or we meet people who are on another level. Always remain open to the possibility that whatever works great now, may not always be what works for ever. be open to reconsideration. All the best to you!

@53strat55

6 ай бұрын

@@livlight9762 If a woman is into astrology I know enough to not take her seriously.

Only rely on yourself to make you happy, do always rely on other people. Sometimes you put too pressure on your partner.

@greeneyedparadox6609

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Thank you. I admit that I had made some of the mistakes pushing away. I tried to encourage a growth mindset. Trying to be inclusive. Take them into consideration about everything i did. A now ex, asked where is this relationship going? I said i don't know yet. And expressed my needs to achieve their goal of marriage. It took a long time in my life to actually figure out what i want at the core. Not the details though.

@anthonym840

3 жыл бұрын

This

@johnnyquick7128

2 жыл бұрын

Everyone has a void in their life that only God can fill. Money, power, sex, material possessions, hobbies, career, etc. can’t fill it. Neither can that other person. If you expect another person to fill that void, you are placing an expectation upon them, that they can not meet, and not for lack of wanting to. That is selfish and sets them up for failure. So I totally get what you are saying. I think my wife is doing the best she can by me, which is all I can ask.

@inconnu4961

2 жыл бұрын

@@johnnyquick7128 I agree with everything you have said, but the 'selfish' part. We dont know what we dont know. Most of us have been conditioned to seek happiness outside. its what we see modeled, its all around us in western culture. So although you are right, it is 'selfish' most people wouldnt know that at first, its just the way we were taught to do it. it isnt until much later that we get the wisdom to understand how selfish it can be, after much damage to others and even ourselves has happened.

Most annoying from my ex: 1) Being a control freak 2) Being oppositional just for the sake of it. 3) Creation of conflicts out of nothing.

@yetanotherretroreview4476

4 жыл бұрын

That's shit testing.

@UnknownMann.

3 жыл бұрын

This sounds like my ex too... really controlling😕 was with her for 4 and half years but I decided to end it because of this. And now I don't want another relationship because of this

@sarahmarshall7523

3 жыл бұрын

haha! men make it that way by avoiding crap... it makes it much much worse!... men should just say there mind on not wanting to hear it in respectful way,

@mollyg2642

3 жыл бұрын

My ex is and always will be a narcissist which means...is a drama queen, gaslighting, verbal abuse, and the list goes on... blame shifting, yuck he was a fake and I didn't know him until he decided he wanted something new very non committal. I'm much happier that we are no longer together.

@nancieprincess7363

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like me

I wish more women could watch this video, coz I'm sick and tired of jumping from one relationship to the next to experience all of the same traits like the ones listed.

@eddieedentertainment131

8 ай бұрын

They see it just get mad instead of fixing the issues problem is they selfish as hell

@sassykat2000

4 ай бұрын

You need to evaluate how you are choosing the woman you're with. There are toxic people out there. It's up to us to practice discernment and pick well.

Best advice for you ladies to keep a man. Don't expect from a man what you can't give him in return eg if you want him to make you happy , make him happy as well. Do unto to others what you want done to you. In short , you are responsible for your own happiness because no one can make you happy if you are not happy a person.

@Grapeape104

Жыл бұрын

Well said

@brooklyn3299

Жыл бұрын

Obvi

I have relationship, and was looking some mistakes from these list. I found 90% mistakes which i made day by day. Be responsible for your own happyness.

@jelizabethpetrie6656

4 жыл бұрын

🙌. Not a mind reader around!😁

U cant force someone to do something they dont want

I don't like playing games! Its like trying to walk on eggs! Anxiety maker!

@biancaradelfinger3338

2 жыл бұрын

:/ yup.

@jessestone785

2 жыл бұрын

Then why do women insist on playing games?

@gabrielguzman6018

2 жыл бұрын

Yet women do it to

I've never had a relationship that has worked out. Now I know why thank you.

@livlight9762

3 жыл бұрын

The real reason is not only your behaviour but actually the subconscious relationship pattern you collected from your parents. Just analyze their relationship towards each other and towards you, then you understand. Law of attraction. We attract what we believe in our subconscious.

Gf to Gf....."I'm going to change him!" "It's my project!" Then she completes her mission! She says...."I'm not in love with you anymore!" He says...."Why?" She says...."You've changed!"

@mary80brown

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣good one..and true for some

@priscanemger783

3 жыл бұрын

That is hilarious, sad, but hilarious. Yr better off without a nut job like that...

@Turtleback8024

3 жыл бұрын

Steffan Hoffmann Facts!👍🏼

@dapeace316

3 жыл бұрын

Lolol what a paradox!

@finna5970

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣

With today's sexual climate, to "die old & lonely" sounds like bliss.

@berkeleybenje

3 жыл бұрын

john brown smith solitude is bliss.

@devfern2270

3 жыл бұрын

I encourage you to think positive. Once your thoughts are realigned, and as you work on your own purpose in life, you will attract a person of pure character. All the best. Trust God in anticipation to do His part well.

@southwest3671

3 жыл бұрын

Susan Ananda Filipina caretaker. They are the best.

@Elizabeth-uj8vn

3 жыл бұрын

Hahaha

@svasianfilipiname6603

3 жыл бұрын

Lol okay. Your call No children for you then.. unless that's not what you want out of life then yeah okay you got a point there!... But what will be your "Legacy"?! I guess it won't be biological..

I have learned not to look his phone, or search him at all. If I do I might find something i don’t wanna know. So If he loves me enough he will stay faithful. I don’t want be detective in relationship!!!

@TheTreasureSeeker01

2 жыл бұрын

Now I’m not sure about that, you can “trust but verify” without being in his arse all the time. Just don’t be offended when he looks in on your private time.

@greg62945

2 жыл бұрын

I'm trying to be a romance song writer. Hope you enjoy my journey.

The more you use your brain, the more you get away frm the relationships. It's a final conclusion.

@livlight9762

3 жыл бұрын

Wise words! Just love god. The best thing ever 💚

13 things women do that pushes men away: Everything

@dibanez_1350

4 жыл бұрын

Not really. If a man isn’t compatible with the woman, then there’s not much else to look into. If the chemistry is there, there can be varying behaviors that women push men away, yes. Men don’t exaggerate, but some do put emotion ahead of the thought-trail. Some men didn’t have a role model or someone to look up to, which is quintessential to most. Lastly, men are private. Environment in which he finds himself in will detail how much he is comfortable or on-the defensive. Cool

@ashleybaltz4584

4 жыл бұрын

dibanez _ Yes that was my last relationship. His parents made him pay for everything right after finishing high school, & they never disciplined him to watch his constant cursing language. (He curses about every 10 words.)So he didn’t really have any real role model.

@greeneyedparadox6609

4 жыл бұрын

@@ashleybaltz4584 yes, our own personal experiences color our judgements. It has been said that women date all the exciting people earlier; which oftentimes polarizes their experiences for later in life. Men often don't understand or only know what media and socialization and family have told them about women and how to treat them. Impulsivity and good judgement sometimes is thrown out the window for all of us. Now we all have these negative preconceptions in either sex and all are valid. I have learned to just be true ro yourself, don't abuse drugs or alcohol, be kind but be honest and do what you believe is right for yourself.

@clublulu399

4 жыл бұрын

Pretty much.

@JohannyVeigaviolin

4 жыл бұрын

Lol so true

Interesting how we differ and yet can't live without eachother!!

@fionagregory8078

4 жыл бұрын

I would rather have a cat than a boyfriend.

@fionagregory8078

4 жыл бұрын

Yes we bloody can.

@dontcallmeup8670

4 жыл бұрын

@@fionagregory8078 so you want the world to be filled with only one gender?

@susanhowell1673

3 жыл бұрын

@@fionagregory8078 lol

@KittySnicker

3 жыл бұрын

You sir are a ray of sunshine in the cesspool of this comment section

I have seen these traits practiced by most of the women in my life with the notable exception of two. Those two hold a special place in my heart.

Men DON'T always know what we want. We're often too busy just trying to survive.

@ashleybaltz4584

4 жыл бұрын

Noah yes I agree. That’s kinda what ended my last relationship is he was really struggling to find a job. So he was still in the phase of trying to take care of himself.

@Noah-gv6zj

4 жыл бұрын

@@ashleybaltz4584 if you or your significant other ever needs a job quick, I recommend low level security work. There are companies everywhere that will usually hire anyone with a pulse.

@larryrubin5150

3 жыл бұрын

@Ocean Flower you said the right thing. Best comment

@cultofpunktionality3302

3 жыл бұрын

You all sound like you dated all men

@raegruder4626

3 жыл бұрын

Tell me want you to want! I tell my wife this, she is the love of my life

I'm a woman and i value space so much. LEAVE ME ALONE!! being alone is wonderful. If i don't get my space ya gurl gets grumpy

@simplyredislandgirl

4 жыл бұрын

Hilarious!😁

@cloudycabeya2786

4 жыл бұрын

Same

@AnilKumar-in9cx

4 жыл бұрын

People like you should never have a relationship

@DebraSalamone

3 жыл бұрын

This video could have been titled how to push your partner away. I think male or female anybody would not want someone who did any of the 13 to each other. This video is describing a certain older generational stereotype. Loved your comment.👍

@juliavaoitamaevamareko4661

3 жыл бұрын

Ditto! Hubs knows all too well of my need for alone time. It recharges my mindset to be a better parent and partner. Whereas, he prefers to hang w/ his boys or play 🏀. Men & women are wired differently and when you understand your desires, you're able provide insight and perspective with others.

Just dumped a woman who did all of these and another dozen things not listed which were even worse, needless to say it nearly destroyed me financially and mentally, been 3 months and still recovering from the psychological damage she inflicted, and forgot to say this started out as a blind roommate situation that turned into a living hell.

Only time I have pushed men away was when I knew they were going to end up hurting me. True story.

@pladimir_vutin

2 жыл бұрын

how? I mean genuinely I'd appreciate your answer. I have a dead asshole face, anyone I talk to respects me like hell, bc they're scared I might attack them, I don't know what to do with women! I don't know how not to scare them away. (Once I speak they tend to be attracted, but beforehand they're just scared shitless, I can see it in their faces)

Just be yourself

@eatanotherzio6811

3 жыл бұрын

Que Audioslave

This video is geared for men. I want to say that it applies to any relationship. I believe it should apply to every person you meet not only directed to females. Adding to that, i know advice is general usually so i only take what works and leave the rest. Think of "present" not past or future stuff.

@michaelbailes9376

3 жыл бұрын

A guys woman shouldn't play around when the middle age and with a younger guy. Or any guy for that matter.there should be honesty both ways.

@stevec3526

3 жыл бұрын

No, it is geared to women who are open to listening about what men actually go through.

@inconnu4961

2 жыл бұрын

Why does this bother so many women to have advice directed to you? There is a companion video directed toward men, and im sure there will be FAR fewer men complaining how the advice applies to all! LOL Just take your medicine please! you dont know how bad you need it!

Yes, I avoid all of those behaviors as much as possible.... Thank you

Believe me. He cannot read your mind. Learn how to say what you need. Don’t change him. Find someone you like as is. Encourage him to be the best him he can be. Don’t expect too much too soon. It will spook him. Support his life goals. Full stop. Don’t look for problems. Stalking bad Idea. Get to know him through his friends. Don’t be negative about his likes. If he doesn’t want to talk about his feelings, don’t push it. But do strive for good communication. Leave the past behind. Set boundaries but don’t give ultimatums unless you are ready to call it quits. Don’t guilt a man into marriage. What makes a good marriage is a health man and a healthy woman who have common goals and values.

Great list!

You missed 1 important point. The inability to take responsibility for your actions.

@shedrickwallace9363

2 жыл бұрын

Now that 💯

@tromboner6061

2 жыл бұрын

big one this

@boisejohnsonjr.5702

2 жыл бұрын

That doesnt stop most men

@jessestone785

2 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, that character flaw is genetic and cannot be “repaired” - not even through self-reflection.

"Be responsible for your own happiness." Totally believe this. Wish my ex-husband would've believed the same.

@saviorosariogoes

3 жыл бұрын

sweet .. ..... ... // ☺️🥰

@BLKKNGofficial

Жыл бұрын

Was he not happy or stressed?

@williamj.dovejr.8613

10 ай бұрын

When I told my ex wife that she was responsible for her own happiness, she exploded ...it was easier for her to make me the scapegoat for all her problems than to look at herself. She wore my ass out.

This video basically says be happy all the time be quiet and don’t ask too much because if you do he will leave you

@kevinhuff

3 жыл бұрын

All 13 points in this video are how women compete and dominate other women. Men want a partner NOT a live in competitor. If they wanted more competition they would get a second job instead of a wife.

@TheRubyDawn

3 жыл бұрын

Hilarious because it is stereotypically true

@mary80brown

3 жыл бұрын

That's what I gathered as well!!

@victoriasmirnova3484

3 жыл бұрын

Even if you don’t ask anything. And you always beside him, when he needs you. But after , when you need him the most, he will leave you((( Some man doesn’t have any explanation, and appreciation to a woman they hold . That just like always make a new relationship, cheat and lie , again and again. Without any responsibility. Unfortunately, true

@iamalpharius5639

3 жыл бұрын

@@victoriasmirnova3484 that's a lovely use of projection.

Expectations are the main reason responsible for unhappy married life,divorce and other broken situations,it is obvious that when you keep expectations with somebody you will always question or over analyze if it is not met completely and thus will miss out understanding and listening to the other, which will ultimately lead to an disasterous argument ending up the relationship,that's why i think the only key to happiness is: finding self happiness and stop expecting,start accepting,no one can keep you much happy than you yourself so learn to live your life being satisfied and self happy.

@alkahinat4558

3 жыл бұрын

This is some beautiful advice

Women communicate with each other by hinting at subjects that may be a little touchy but are understood. Men do not hint with each other and we almost never understand a woman's hints. If you want something from a man then be honest and spell it out for him. Men are not women and we don't understand women's hints or read your minds.

@calvinhoward2277

3 жыл бұрын

That's exactly what I said. I'm so sick of the hints in the mind reading.

@tff8514

Жыл бұрын

And if you've listed your needs and boundaries and they aren't respected. Respect yourself and move on

@Phoenix-pm2qr

Жыл бұрын

​@@tff8514 but actually spell them out in black and white. Don't hint

Overanalyzing means there's not enough communication. Giving him space - means you need someone more attentive . Getting in the way of his success - means you need to find a man that will put you first.

@oscarwilliamson1264

3 жыл бұрын

LeAnn Howard,Your lovely smile 😊 can make the news!😍😍😍🤙

@stevec3526

3 жыл бұрын

LeAnn Sorry, your wrong, overanalyzing does NOT means there's not enough communication. My wife does this at times and this drives me nuts when she does it. She will overthink things to the point she drives her self crazy. She always has to understand why everything happens even when there is NO WAY of knowing why. At times I will tell her "X" and then she will say you really mean "Y". Then I will say if I meant "Y" I would have said "Y". This is purely based on her insecurities and not a lack of communication. Giving Space? Healthy relationships are based on healthy individuals. If you need that much attention then how can you have a healthy relationship. Finding a man who puts you first tells me you want a weak man you can control. Hardly a recipe for a healthy relationship.

@jermaineelliott2685

3 жыл бұрын

You're trying to change to narrative. The video offers women instructions and understanding on how to maintaining a healthy, respectful relationship with men.

@richardkrause9692

2 жыл бұрын

Put you first!?😂😂😂😂😂😂😂( F you!) Who the F are you?

When your partner feels it's productive to dig up the past and bring up mistakes you made years and years ago.

@inconnu4961

2 жыл бұрын

LMAO, is that what she is thinking? That its 'productive'? LOL

Women overanalyse, and women's magazines fuel relationship OCD.

@bongekilekhumalo9536

3 жыл бұрын

and social media

@greeneyedparadox6609

3 жыл бұрын

Keeping up with others and others experiences so it must be true mentality. I agree a lot of women do analyze situations a little too deeply when the simple answer would suffice. Men tend worry too much what their partners would think and sometimes keep sharing to a minimum. Women believing that behaving one way with one group of friends vs. another group of friends is "two-faced" or "manipulating" but do the same exact behaviour 🤣.

@svasianfilipiname6603

3 жыл бұрын

@@bongekilekhumalo9536 So do guys.

@solekhashuwa

3 жыл бұрын

I definitely over analyse, sometimes he'll say a one line and I'll turn it into an assignment, sometimes I believe my own thoughts over his answers 😔.

@greeneyedparadox6609

3 жыл бұрын

@@solekhashuwa That was a very honest response. I appreciate that.

Call me weird, but I'm usually the one running away from marriage proposals. So I'm usually confused when I see other women push marriage on men, that 's a recipe for failure.

@stevec3526

3 жыл бұрын

Then check out Kevin Samuels on YT...

wow, you would make a great girlfriend 🙄 "Be perfect or else I'll leave you." Yes, please.

@nilsonkom690

3 жыл бұрын

Or, just have your own life.

@calvinhoward2277

3 жыл бұрын

All you got to do is treat a man like a mentally handicapped child, and you will never stress him out 🤣😂🤣

@yamisaify4886

2 жыл бұрын

@@calvinhoward2277 like how you guys treat us

@greg62945

2 жыл бұрын

I'm trying to be a romance song writer. Hope you enjoy my journey.

I love this! More women/partners need to understand these concepts so perfectly explained. Going to share this! Thank you!

@oscarwilliamson1264

3 жыл бұрын

Sherril Lynn,You look stunning 🌹🌹🌷🌷 dear

@inconnu4961

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for being so considerate! You are more mature than many women. The man that gets you will be lucky!

@greg62945

2 жыл бұрын

I want to become a romance song writer. Hope you enjoy my journey.

If u truly love someone you don't look at flaws you are with that person for who they are not flaws we all have them this is unconditional love till death do u part..

Oh no, I do most of these things! This is so helpful.

Always be responsible for your happiness & improve on your self respect.

Great video!

I definitely agree ...100% factual!!!

She always engaged in belittling my passions, my friends, expected me to be a echo chamber, not a person with my own ideas, she engaged in schedule sabotage and even had a problem with my cat ... insisted I loved him more than her. You read that right. Never again.

You might add: 1. Lying 2. Selfishness 3. Entitled 4. No interest in sex 5. Fat 6. Catty 7. Rude

This is advice for anyone. I would hold friends to this same standard

Well, my wife asked me on the second date where our children were going to go to school (yes I was thrown off!), I proposed on day number 10, I gave her the ring on day 21, we married 11 months later. When you are ready you don't see it as clingy.

@num1Jaysta

2 жыл бұрын

How long you been together?

@anthondeutsch3133

2 жыл бұрын

@@num1Jaysta she abandoned me after 14 yrs of marriage, unfortunately. We only had 4 minor fights in our marriage, I could honestly say I was very blessed and very lucky to have her and I did not ask nor did anything which was bad enough to put our marriage in trouble. Quite sad, I really don't want to talk bad about her, let's just say she changed and she was influenced by the wrong people. This happened at the worse possible moment, my mom was diagnosed with cancer and I have to take care of her, I am handicapped. So having her strength behind me right now is so important and I must muster that strength and hope from God and myself. I miss her a lot.

@num1Jaysta

2 жыл бұрын

@@anthondeutsch3133 Sorry to hear that. Keep doing what you’re doing and God will continue to bless you and your family. She will regret it and the right women just might come along when it’s right.

@anthondeutsch3133

2 жыл бұрын

@@num1Jaysta Thank you, you are very kind. I hope so. Have a good night and God bless you.

@NaturalistCorrie

2 жыл бұрын

From the description you’ve given... it sounds like you’ve both may have already been dealing with unhealed emotional wounds- which led you both to get into a serious committed relationship too soon... But you’ve hung on to 14 yrs- sounds like emotional codependency... just my humble opinion. Best of the best ☺️ namaste

Awesome video and thanks for sharing your tips 👍

I am not a big fisherman, but I find it relaxes & allows me time alone to clear my head. I find my worries & cares disappear whilst I take a different perspective on life. I plan to not catch anything but some time on the water is great therapy ............. well for me.

The expectation that we men are mindreaders is scary as hell

That's used to be me years ago. I'm still learning and appreciate this video.

@greg62945

2 жыл бұрын

I'm trying to change my lyrics into romance songs hope you enjoy my journey.

Thanks for this

I can understand why some women ask their man to get married if they have been together for a long period of time . I knew a friend who was with her boyfriend for 6 years and every time she asked him to get engaged , he made some sort of excuse to put off their engagement . He finally broke it off with her and 2 months later , he met another young lady and with in 12 months he got engaged and then he got married

Today I have learned more than 10 years of school.

The majority of women I've dated. I've decided to be single instead of putting up with the bs. It's awesome, I do what I want!

Excellent list!!!!

Just got into argument last night because I ask whether he is going or staying. But the truth is he never fulfil his promises and instead he has become arrogant and easily worked out.

@stevec3526

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like time to leave...

I can't imagine going through a man's computer, cell phone, wallet, or any other personal items.

@richd5476

3 жыл бұрын

Me either till the ex did it and started arguments over conversations with women long before I even knew her. LTR? Never again.

@susanhowell1673

3 жыл бұрын

@@richd5476 yeah, we can certainly be "soured" on relationships, but the fast flings are even less cathartic, over time. Trick is finding the right one. Where? No clue. Will leave it to the universe, if and when.

@deanrogers8273

3 жыл бұрын

If you have to sneak and go through someone's personal belongings it only shows how insecure, untrustworthy, and devious a person really is and it could be a cover up on what the other person is actually doing they find a way to get upset with you so that they can do their dirty deed on the low . If someone goes through your things they don't trust you so you don't need to be with that person cause you really don't trust yourself trying to find a reason to make yourself feel like you are entitled to do it because of you being sneaky and crazy things that goes through your mind. If anyone does that to you break up with them and keep it moving cause they will continue to do sneaky things behind your back. That's a dangerous person

@anthonym840

3 жыл бұрын

When it comes to long term relationships, both parties need to be able to trust one another. And them have their own damn life lol while still in yours. Part of a relationship is respecting each others time to be in their own domain. If u cannot respect and trust that that person will remain faithful to u in this space that sometimes does not include you, why in the "Hell".... Are u two together. Lol

@Scuppun

3 жыл бұрын

Happens all too often with young women today. Most women under 40 are extremely insecure. The stories are just frightening.

Nice advices 👌✨

good stuff bro

This is on point ..well done

Another one is; assuming the worse about you partners actions without truly knowing!

This is the case if he isn't actually cheating.

Well put together. I love everything that said. This video put across that each person I assume easily understand. I love to give space and I need my own space too. I don't talk to a man about things we talk about yesterday because it will make is have a lot of problems, and we don't like that.

Thanks for the tips

I disagree with number 6. If you intentionally dating for marriage, those conversations need to happen on the first date.

This makes a lot of sense, thank you so much for the help

I agree with these points. All would certainly drive me away!

I’ve experienced a man that acted like this, can go both ways

@vocalg1

3 жыл бұрын

The mass majority are women.

@Theman-ug6zy

2 жыл бұрын

Mostly women though

@inconnu4961

2 жыл бұрын

its primarily women, like the other comments suggested! But there is a companion video directed at men. how about you watch it so you dont feel so 'picked on'! LOL

Its great ! Overthinking explained very well

Just always assume they're going to leave, work, make a whole life for yourself..and you'll be alright.

@livlight9762

3 жыл бұрын

Man wise words! It's called self love ❤ I also learned that its best to never emotionally attach to anybody to stay sane and safe. This world here is full of illusions. Best thing is to love god and pray so he protects you. All the best to you 💚

@pladimir_vutin

2 жыл бұрын

Just sleep with her, then ghost her. Never gets old.

So how do men show CARE, TRUST and RESPECT to his love one?

I have learnt ♥️🙏. Thanks a lot.

Nice one 🙂

I thought EVERYTHING a woman does pushes men away 🤣

@Lothnar5070

2 жыл бұрын

Practically

@noorieiversen

2 жыл бұрын

The world is heading toward implosion... we are destroying ourselves...

@boisejohnsonjr.5702

2 жыл бұрын

If being promiscuous is all you do. Then yeah.

@pladimir_vutin

2 жыл бұрын

I mean come on, this comment coming from you ( based on your pic) it's like Trump complaining about money problems

Love this 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

I don't think I've ever been in s relationship where a woman didn't violate all 13 of the rules in this video within the first 3 months of a relationship

Interesting perspectives!😏

A woman's nightmare. A handsome intelligent man that doesn't tolerate their BS

@KittySnicker

3 жыл бұрын

I’m sure you’re Prince Charming 😂😂😂

@joannehauck7610

3 жыл бұрын

A Man's Nightmare....A Beautiful, Gentle Woman who doesn't put up with their BS...just saying guys!!!

@callummottram2026

3 жыл бұрын

@@KittySnicker I'm skint with a high IQ. Hypergamist you jerk

@callummottram2026

2 жыл бұрын

@@KittySnicker Can you show me to be perfect. Like you?

Perfect list

Do another video of what pushes women away

@stephaniecotton2425

3 жыл бұрын

Yesssssss I would like to see What pushes women away 🤔

@chars437

3 жыл бұрын

Agree

@kgs2280

3 жыл бұрын

Just what I was thinking.

@j2uazon83

3 жыл бұрын

The fact a man is breathing.

@hendrixhernandez7526

3 жыл бұрын

@@j2uazon83 WE DONT PUSH WOMAN AWAY WE LEAVE THEM

I totally agree with you.

Many many thanks! You saved my night buy showing that what I say is not wrong. 🎉🎉🎉 😘

I recognized so many of these things :( thanks for telling. Need to work on myself.

Nailed it.

Thank you brainy dose for constant words of advice on different topics.

Your right on point . Nut case in this world . No drama

I agree with this list, I’m not guilty of all of them but the one I am guilty of I think is expecting too much too soon

There's truth to all of these...but as a woman # 12 hit me. NEVER EVER give an ultimatum!!!!! I made that mistake & it ruined everything. I wldnt say it was to change him, but I wanted more of a comittment (not marriage at that time) but I said if he couldn't do that I couldn't see him anymore. It wasn't my intention to manipulate but I'm sure that's how it seemed. I'm not trying to "air dirty laundry" but I wish someone would have told me this! I wish I could take it back but I can't & it's waaaaay too late! To the ladies I wld say....I know guys can drive us crazy & make us wonder.....but if you really care about that person, be patient! I really wish I wld have done so and I'm so sorry now!

@bongekilekhumalo9536

3 жыл бұрын

thank you darling course I was about to do that.

I used to date a guy who went away for a week and I noticed he didn’t say good morning everyday like he did when he was home & he said I was tripping and come to find out he was in another relationship lol trust your gut

@alya-kaywilliams3927

3 жыл бұрын

Wow...those small signs really count

@princesaheeh3581

2 жыл бұрын

Tbh I’ll cheat on you too

@andrewdoria-medina5528

2 жыл бұрын

ok just becausce he didnt say good morning every day and he cheated doesnt mean all men would on vacation we like to get away from every thing and focus on ourselfes ive never cheated but id cheat on u if ur trippin like that and u were probably trippin before that and thats why he cheated

@therealariahb

2 жыл бұрын

@@andrewdoria-medina5528 I do understand but i couldn’t ignore my intuition and he was on a trip out of town at her house lol so I was right

Wow i love this it was me in that video lol it has helped me .Thk u

Been married twelve years yes communication is one but also respect bc you will go through things have respect for one another through it all.

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3 жыл бұрын

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My ex liked threatening tot leave me everytime we had misunderstanding..IT made me crazy and i once said IT honestly good ridence.

I agree with everything but not with the thing about forcing him to open up My ex wasn’t the best at talking about his problems or sad feelings or idk, he was always talking about happy things Well that’s not healthy in my opinion, I was always open about my personal stuff and feelings and he didn’t want to do the same. That’s not right, he knew almost everything about me while I knew little about him. Honestly THAT is unhealthy and shows no maturity

@yetanotherretroreview4476

3 жыл бұрын

You say that.

@sarahmarshall7523

3 жыл бұрын

no, that shows he wasn't open to pretty much, being open "period".... not your fault if a person has serious issues they won't let you in on or trust you to let there guard down!... if someone won't let you in, in that way #1 they don't trust you "at all" or yet.... #2 they may just be someone who deep down trust "no one" truly!.... etc... etc...

@TMTgirl

3 жыл бұрын

No one owes you personal info. He was probably thinking: if I was never like that before, then why did you commit to me to begin with me? No one ever owes personal info to anyone. Giving that to someone, or anything, does NOT mean they have to return it to you. Kinda like when you want sex, no one owes you one. Same thing with info/ emotional bonding. Actual lying is a whole other thing, of course.

@ChocoParfaitFra

3 жыл бұрын

Tracy Thompson I understand your point of view but it’s frustrating, I wanted that simply to understand him better

@TheRealDarthdoom

3 жыл бұрын

@@ChocoParfaitFra but still his problems ain't your business, nor should forcing him too

Good advice 👍

Damn, this is spot on!

Thank you for verbalizing the various concerns, I've encountered over the span of different relationships, probably why I'm not that interested in taking a chance on another, I know I'm not Mr. Perfection, I was married, loved her very much, unfortunately she passed away, I miss her so much, not looking to replace her, would like to have someone to share a friendship with and perhaps get to know each other as time goes by, however not afraid to be alone, rather enjoy it.... however?.... ;-)