13 Going On 30 (ch 3)

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💡 13 (of the many) life lessons I've learned in 30 years
0:00 So what you're saying is...
3:14 That late-night deep, dark existential void
9:24 The truth will set you free.
12:06 Your headphones are for your music, not others'.
13:04 You don't have to mold your life around rules that were decided for you before you got here.
15:52 Learn the four existential givens.
20:21 The right decision is the one you made.
21:13 How dare you play games with the game of life!
24:02 Take your own thoughts with a grain of salt.
27:45 Watch out for all them well-intentioned people out there!
28:54 You have already been being the change you've wanted to see in the world.
30:10 He's just not that into you.
33:23 Today is the best day to look your best.
34:14 Only you can decide what stresses you out.
35:15 You get the most work done when you're not working.
37:35 So...
💡 Relevant links
The Sorelle Amore video I mentioned • My Spiritual Awakening...
Dread, Despair, and Psychedelics (another video like this one): • Me versus LSD & Existe...
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  • @IzellahG
    @IzellahG2 жыл бұрын

    A wise man once said that if a plane goes down, what's up? Not the plane ✨

  • @damondominique

    @damondominique

    2 жыл бұрын

    STOPPPPP 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @damondominique
    @damondominique2 жыл бұрын

    you guys: calm, always supporting me me: HOW *DARE* YOU....!

  • @user-tb8jt1ns2g

    @user-tb8jt1ns2g

    2 жыл бұрын

    Damon,hi!❤️ I am waiting for you in Moscow ! Come to Russia,we love philosophy

  • @rachelyoung5277
    @rachelyoung52772 жыл бұрын

    Damon: "I'm asking these huge philosophical questions." Me: sitting up straighter ready to know Damon: "What's going on" Legit what I ask myself every day in uni

  • @damondominique

    @damondominique

    2 жыл бұрын

    😂🤣🤷🏼‍♂️ the simplest questions are the hardest i tell you

  • @itsgabbieagain

    @itsgabbieagain

    2 жыл бұрын

    Sis, sammmmeee. I'm literally so lost everytime I go to lecture 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @auntiecodie
    @auntiecodie2 жыл бұрын

    turning 30 during the era of the 30 album release. if wasn’t clear before, you’re the main character. ✨💫

  • @desanipt
    @desanipt2 жыл бұрын

    I always laugh inside when people ask "what if we're the only ones out there?" I'm like, you mean the 8 billion of us? It's so lonely, I know

  • @ilonashu

    @ilonashu

    2 жыл бұрын

    it's the overview effect ;)

  • @adrianfp

    @adrianfp

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you!!! LOL

  • @normajeane507

    @normajeane507

    2 жыл бұрын

    7.7bn fam everyone covid killed everyone

  • @wearilive
    @wearilive2 жыл бұрын

    YES ON NOT TAKING THE WELL INTENTIONED ADVICE I THANK MYSELF EVERYDAY FOR NOT LISTENING YESSIR

  • @orangeluce
    @orangeluce2 жыл бұрын

    I find existential philosophy very interesting, but I feel that when people learn about all these concepts, they can't help but talk themselves into depression. That was certainly my experience when studying it at uni and it was the same for a number of my coursemates & friends. Basically, all of this just makes me think we should never have been able to think so deeply about our own existence at all!! Like we have the capacity to ask all these questions about why we're here, but (as far as we currently know) we lack the capacity to find definite answers. And the whole process of asking these questions makes many of us want to self-destruct. Sooo I've stopped thinking about it for now :)

  • @damondominique

    @damondominique

    2 жыл бұрын

    There’s also a famous philosopher that I cannot name because I clearly can’t remember anyone’s name at this point but he said that it would be a shame, or waste of time, to spend your entire life questioning it’s purpose because…you won’t find it.

  • @moodkanye1987

    @moodkanye1987

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@damondominique L'angoisse de Sartre you mean ?

  • @TilikaVispute

    @TilikaVispute

    2 жыл бұрын

    THISISIISISIS!!!

  • @TilikaVispute

    @TilikaVispute

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@damondominique also THISISISISIISS

  • @caciliawhy5195

    @caciliawhy5195

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@damondominique so why do you keep harping on it?

  • @Sargassogirl
    @Sargassogirl2 жыл бұрын

    when you said 'all anxiety is a result of not being in the present moment' this HELPED ME!!!!!!! i had a thought recently - when i fail to accomplish things i want to do, i feel worthless; catastrophising that i'll go nowhere. when i accomplish great things i feel imposter syndrome and this anxiety of 'what's next' - so why not just be happy in the moment i'm living in right now ✌️

  • @avenoah5195

    @avenoah5195

    2 жыл бұрын

    P

  • @marianacaffaro

    @marianacaffaro

    2 жыл бұрын

    I recommend you Eckhart Tolle

  • @danieladelosrios
    @danieladelosrios2 жыл бұрын

    This title made me realize I would 100% watch a 13 going on 30 reboot with you as the main character! @Netflix you better step up your game.

  • @hightower19
    @hightower192 жыл бұрын

    The way i listen to this man's advice more than my very own therapist.

  • @alexasunshine83
    @alexasunshine832 жыл бұрын

    I am so sorry, but the entire video I was trying to figure out how you can climb on that thin ladder to your bed 🤭

  • @damondominique

    @damondominique

    2 жыл бұрын

    if you find out can you let me know

  • @ksenijatrubovic8763
    @ksenijatrubovic87632 жыл бұрын

    hi damon. never usually comment on videos, but thank you for this one. i am 17, and currently applying to university. my interests lie in design and art, but since my grades are very high, i was encouraged to go down an academic career path; so i chose psychology. i have been anxiously waiting for the oxford email - which tells me whether i moved on to the interview round. watched this video, and truly started to contemplate whether psychology is right for me, and if i am just conforming to what others want me to do. right after i watched the video, i checked my emails and the message came through. i got #rejected. cried about it, but in a good way. i think this was my sign that i should study and pursue something i actually would love to do as a career, and focus of academia as a hobby. anyways, just wanted to say thank you again.

  • @riyagorji6584

    @riyagorji6584

    2 жыл бұрын

    i just changed my career path from architecture to psychology after a similiar realization lolll

  • @namelessnic

    @namelessnic

    2 жыл бұрын

    wishing you the best

  • @orangeworm

    @orangeworm

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@riyagorji6584 the fact that pschology and architecture/design are so intertwined tho... like you may fall in or out of love with one or the other but they will always be there for you to explore and connect to no matter what you are currently involved in.

  • @Hahadot
    @Hahadot2 жыл бұрын

    I rewatch this video every time when I need a face slap to wake me up from self-doubt and fear

  • @mausi3000
    @mausi30002 жыл бұрын

    no but i really need to say this. i'm so thankful for damon 's videos, like i literally make time to watch your videos whenever i'm stuck in my head or just sulking for no reason lol. these videos always make me realize how awesome life actually is, even with all the chaos and annoying repairmen Imao. always makes me wanna just go, do cool stuff and rant abt philosophy with strangers.

  • @Neeintje

    @Neeintje

    2 жыл бұрын

    SAY IT LOUDER FOR THOSE IN THE BACK

  • @TilikaVispute

    @TilikaVispute

    2 жыл бұрын

    SAMMEEEE SAMMMEEE ... you better read this comment Damon!!!!

  • @athinab4440

    @athinab4440

    2 жыл бұрын

    yessss soo trueee

  • @joshuadaniel2146
    @joshuadaniel21462 жыл бұрын

    I just left my toxic mother and going to live my life. Thanks, Damon for being an inspiration. You have been such a positive influence in my life.

  • @Katherout
    @Katherout2 жыл бұрын

    needed this reality check on existential dread

  • @arrrvba
    @arrrvba2 жыл бұрын

    I just turned 30 and for the first time I finally understood whe somebody said "You prioritize other people's opinion over yours". Damn that's literally controlled my life for the past 30 years and while it's a "duuuuuh, I KNOW my opinion is more important to me" moment, I just really understood what you said. It was an eye-opener.

  • @charmsz566
    @charmsz5662 жыл бұрын

    Damon talking about wanting to be a motivation life coach someday and here i am already watching his content literally just because it gives me the answers for figuring out my own life lol.... YOU ALREADY LIFECOACHING, BOO! just keep doing wat u doing, ur already wiser than the most of us!!

  • @jelenamrkela5446

    @jelenamrkela5446

    2 жыл бұрын

    SAME !!

  • @damondominique
    @damondominique2 жыл бұрын

    And also, to recap, I DON'T KNOW.

  • @Neeintje
    @Neeintje2 жыл бұрын

    The chapter “he’s just not that into you” really called me out thank you needed that

  • @natashakenrick6514
    @natashakenrick65142 жыл бұрын

    damn. that shy point really got me- I always just saw it as a form of anxiety but connecting it to a fear of isolation really hits the nail on the head. im comfy with my introversion but absolutely no time for that shyness 🗣

  • @damondominique

    @damondominique

    2 жыл бұрын

    I swear that class on existential therapy totally changed the way I saw so many things

  • @natashakenrick6514

    @natashakenrick6514

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@damondominique im sold

  • @aworldofhoney
    @aworldofhoney2 жыл бұрын

    omg I love getting existential. it never makes me depressed, it instead makes me like, "damn, I dont really know whats going on, so let me at least have fun"

  • @hanita6
    @hanita62 жыл бұрын

    "Any form of anxiety is you not being present" God this quote alone added ten years to my life

  • @vviolet934
    @vviolet9342 жыл бұрын

    I moved to the Netherlands from the US for university (despite the discouragement of those around me), and it is honestly the best decision I have ever made

  • @kineomemmer2009
    @kineomemmer20092 жыл бұрын

    Damon you should make a podcast because I would love to listen to you talking about things like this throughout my day

  • @gickyvergo4597
    @gickyvergo45972 жыл бұрын

    I’m 20 and it feels like I’m already knowing much more about myself, like why the f was I not learning about myself all this time!

  • @progressdaily100
    @progressdaily1002 жыл бұрын

    holy shit... you've been saying all the things i've been thinking

  • @LalaSmiles
    @LalaSmiles2 жыл бұрын

    Yesssssssss. I feel like we getting extra extra content. I hope all is well on the new journey Damon. Excited to see where life takes ya 💗

  • @c0d1ngclips25
    @c0d1ngclips252 жыл бұрын

    there is a facilitating component in the nihilism you describe. if nothing has objective value/meaning, it is upon you who experiences this whole to set your own values/meanings because in the end the only thing you can be sure about is that you think and therefore you are

  • @Casarare1
    @Casarare12 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing this. I needed to hear it. ❤️

  • @seeserocks
    @seeserocks2 жыл бұрын

    I needed this

  • @anapaup6957
    @anapaup69572 жыл бұрын

    Damon i love this! Keep this good content going!! thanks for encouraging me to question everything

  • @samdaisy4182
    @samdaisy41822 жыл бұрын

    Great video as always, Damon. Love ya!

  • @izzbonito
    @izzbonito2 жыл бұрын

    i love ur content sm, always so inspiring and refreshing! thank u for doing what u do

  • @BigMommyAlexa
    @BigMommyAlexa2 жыл бұрын

    I really needed this video rn

  • @christinevo7736
    @christinevo77362 жыл бұрын

    oof this was well needed in my life rn! ty 💖

  • @martinalalova9901
    @martinalalova99012 жыл бұрын

    Needed this so bad rn, you're amazing

  • @redorangeyellowgreen
    @redorangeyellowgreen2 жыл бұрын

    i recently read a book about existentialist philosophy called "irrational man." parts of it were mind-blowing... life-affirming, really. parts of it were tough to get through (read it in the morning with your coffee!) but i think even if you just read the first couple sections of this book, you'd have a lot of "aha!" moments. this book was written in nineteen FIFTY-EIGHT but a lot of what the author is saying is still crazy relevant today

  • @damondominique

    @damondominique

    2 жыл бұрын

    Googled, and added to the list immediately. Thank you!!!!

  • @mayviratikul8848
    @mayviratikul88482 жыл бұрын

    Your talk is so inspiring in soo many ways, I'm considering moving to a new country for studies and your videos are fueling my motivation so much, thank you!

  • @julieliu3166
    @julieliu31662 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for sharing this. 💛

  • @roseannchi
    @roseannchi2 жыл бұрын

    UGH I love you so much. You're the bestt

  • @evanfurrow7115
    @evanfurrow71152 жыл бұрын

    This is the greatest video I’ve ever seen of yours Damon, thank you for all your tips; I feel that it’s the culmination of topics you’ve brought up briefly your other videos. I just very much like hearing you speak.

  • @hanaeyoshida5163
    @hanaeyoshida51632 жыл бұрын

    Happy Birthday Damon!!! Thank you for sharing your energy with a lost soul like myself. You always inspire me to keep journeying❤️

  • @martashavgulidze8655
    @martashavgulidze86552 жыл бұрын

    I LOVE that video! Thank you so so so much. I was high watching it yesterday and I am still thinking about it. ✨💫

  • @vannessamendez5059
    @vannessamendez50592 жыл бұрын

    I always appreciate how in depth your advice/discussions are. I relate to so much of what you say so deeply. I am actually turning 30 in.a month and have been doing a lot of introspective exploration.

  • @fearlessminds5159
    @fearlessminds51592 жыл бұрын

    thank you for this video, loved it and I will definetely come back to it whenever I need to hear this advice again

  • @melgarcia4553
    @melgarcia45532 жыл бұрын

    Ooo the existential questions that arose while watching… But I truly appreciate you leaving this advice and info, very helpful!

  • @blaba8812
    @blaba88122 жыл бұрын

    this video is very special thank you damon keep it uuuup

  • @choushell
    @choushell2 жыл бұрын

    This was such an insightful video and really what I needed to hear at this moment in time. Keep up the amazing work you're doing!

  • @cynthiar3013
    @cynthiar30132 жыл бұрын

    I needed this lecture. Thank you 🙏🏾

  • @hanancruz882
    @hanancruz8822 жыл бұрын

    Thank-you for this video

  • @CelineBelia
    @CelineBelia2 жыл бұрын

    Damon, I LOVE THIS CONTENT! Spilling the life tea✨

  • @IansTravelogue
    @IansTravelogue2 жыл бұрын

    Loved the video thank you Damon 👏🏽👏🏽

  • @Pippi-rippi
    @Pippi-rippi2 жыл бұрын

    Obsessed w you talking about these topics. This is so goooood!!!

  • @erinkiera2791
    @erinkiera27912 жыл бұрын

    Love your videos bc it makes me feel understood. Thank you for being you

  • @roshniasroseella855
    @roshniasroseella8552 жыл бұрын

    All the things that you talked about in this video I've had hour long monologs about those things in my head like I 100% percent agree with everything that you said and it makes me feel so good that I'm not the only one thinking like that♡

  • @barbaraccosta
    @barbaraccosta2 жыл бұрын

    This video was such a eye open! Thank you Damien! 🥰

  • @moremclain8219
    @moremclain82192 жыл бұрын

    the video I needed today

  • @WillsCamera
    @WillsCamera2 жыл бұрын

    for the first time ever, I agree with EVERYTHING said in this video 👏👏 going down that deep existential rabbit hole can be overwhelming, and I can't tell you how refreshing it is to hear someone thinking the same way I do !!!

  • @sethlopez7402
    @sethlopez74022 жыл бұрын

    I just told my brother that when I find my own place I'd like a baking recipes book for a gift. He told me that I shouldn't wait til then to start a new hobby on baking, instead I should start it now. Idk whether I think about my past or my future more, but I want to be able to be present. I'm often daydreaming or overthinking, but that's not productive whatsoever. I have plans and goals to achieve, why not do it right now? Life is beautiful and life shouldn't be taken for granted. I'm 19, turning 20 in a couple months, and I'm very excited for the next phase of my life. Hopefully it leads me to visiting new countries, speaking fluent Spanish with my grandparents, and baking delectable treats for friends and family. Oh, and hopefully meeting YOU one day! Love you Damon

  • @jelenamrkela5446
    @jelenamrkela54462 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Damon! This was like therapy

  • @Imonaugust
    @Imonaugust2 жыл бұрын

    remember watching ur videos when i was first beginning uni and now am 25, on this journey with u angel!!!

  • @ouraniastylianou
    @ouraniastylianou2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you! Love this video!

  • @nickiviloria
    @nickiviloria2 жыл бұрын

    THIS WAS AMAZING OMGGGGG. I have been thinking about such monotone things and stressing about them, but these IDEAS omg so many things to actually spend time thinking about 💕💕💕💕🥰

  • @rem-cy8ro
    @rem-cy8ro2 жыл бұрын

    omg I relate to you so much. After these questions about my existence and universes, I started to enroll to short courses in Philosopgy, Physics and more stuffs

  • @mimmys99
    @mimmys992 жыл бұрын

    Amazing video ! Thank you 🙏🏾

  • @sophherondale4126
    @sophherondale41262 жыл бұрын

    this is going to be a video i come back to often, when i need to get back in touch with life

  • @femmeglobale
    @femmeglobale2 жыл бұрын

    You are the best !!! I love you !!! Watching your videos these days has been so therapeutic, finally catching up!

  • @livebydesign7783
    @livebydesign77832 жыл бұрын

    Loved and enjoyed! Excellent content :)

  • @coloryoursky
    @coloryoursky2 жыл бұрын

    please never stop making videos!! this actually made me less anxious

  • @marie.f
    @marie.f2 жыл бұрын

    your videos make me feel so grounded and rejuvenated. Damon I’m telling you if you ever wrote a book I would zoom to go get it. so incredibly thankful for you and your work.

  • @melmakena6328
    @melmakena63282 жыл бұрын

    I haven’t been feeling like myself, and it seems like this video is exactly what I needed. ❤️❤️

  • @audreystevens1017
    @audreystevens10172 жыл бұрын

    This is my favorite video you've ever made. I think I. might be this existential on a daily basis, but at the end of the day you hit the nail right on the head with how I want to view life so thank you

  • @Myglowtips
    @Myglowtips5 күн бұрын

    I enjoyed this so much. Thank you. I. Lost my younger brother due to CVD. he was 7 years younger than me and I still recall the last time I saw him, standing at the airport waving goodbye to me when I returned to Europe from South Africa, in 2018. In 2019, I had planned to return to South Africa because I had decided to fly home every year. A friend of mine invited me to travel with her and a group of professional photographers, through Georgia (Europe), right up to the Russian border, at a very attractive price with a very good tour guide (she‘s very well connected). I decided to go to Georgia and go home the following year (2020). CVD hit the next year and I could not travel as SA. My Dad passed away in June 2020 and my brother, in 2021. I had not seen him since 2018. Had I not gone to Georgia, I would have at least seen him one last time (even though no one could have thought, something like CVD would. Happen). I hated myself for years after my brother‘s death, for not going home in 2019 and instead, choosing to go to Georgia. I‘ve forgiven myself, it was either that or I go mad. But yes, hug your loved ones, call them as often as you can and always leave, in a good relationship or respectful relationship. We do not know what tomorrow brings and some of us, have never had the opportunity to say goodbye.

  • @sandramiksawrites
    @sandramiksawrites2 жыл бұрын

    Me and my best friend are in our mid-twenties and we always talk about these things and it’s such a pleasure to hear your experiences and listen to you eloquently and existentially discuss these life lessons, merci beaucoup ❤️❤️

  • @cloud7fj
    @cloud7fj2 жыл бұрын

    DAMON I LOVE YOU AND YOUR CONTENT BOTH WITH A BURNING PASSION

  • @calistaortega6114
    @calistaortega61142 жыл бұрын

    I appreciate this video so much 💗 thank you

  • @thepinkelephant541
    @thepinkelephant5412 жыл бұрын

    I love your content sooo much!! I’m so happy that such a talented creator like you with such a great perspective on life is sharing his thoughts & art 💭😄

  • @rissachong3519
    @rissachong35192 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for the video!! really enjoyed it :))) stay safe and healthy!

  • @hananenene
    @hananenene2 жыл бұрын

    i really needed to hear literally every signle word you said, i will be watching this video every time i need to. ( i will be watching it every day because i really need to)

  • @edengranger4501
    @edengranger45012 жыл бұрын

    AHHHHHHHHH!!!! I love this video so much! I have been and am feeling so many different and uncomfortable things as of late. All of which are basically me shedding my skin, transforming and becoming new. It can be ugly, hard, confusing, and being you down but my god I feel more each day that it’s time for something new. I have only the slightest clue of what I’m doing but I really feel that this is just the beginning and the more I actively DECIDE the more I will create! Damon you have been one of my biggest inspirations and showed my some glimpses of what is possible. You have affirmed the possibility of some of my dreams just by living and sharing you life. That is invaluable and I just always wish the very best for you. I’m excited to see where life is going✨✨🌟✨✨

  • @maggielind680
    @maggielind6802 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this Damon. This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear today. 🤍

  • @Angel-lt1hw
    @Angel-lt1hw2 жыл бұрын

    I'm turning 27 this december and everything on this, I feel it waaaaaaaaaaay harder now. Thank you, Damon 🥺 happy birthday, and we're so proud of you!!!!

  • @jazziegeolingo
    @jazziegeolingo2 жыл бұрын

    I love you D! Always pumping out great videos ❤️‍🔥

  • @sockpant
    @sockpant2 жыл бұрын

    Im in my early twenties and the way u talked about anxiety rly clicked with me. Also ur perspective on relationships! I recently started dating and trying not to be a serial monogamous bc damn im only 21!! I rly love ur videos, theyre not only a escape from collage life but theyre also super grounding. Thank u!!!!

  • @jamiefordx
    @jamiefordx2 жыл бұрын

    I love how much I get from these videos you do Damon! ♥️ I love you dearly.

  • @anaiswilson6924
    @anaiswilson69242 жыл бұрын

    The best video ever ! always by you Damon thank you thank you for this

  • @brittanypeck8644
    @brittanypeck86442 жыл бұрын

    At 22:05 I really agreed with you. I've always been a huge traveller (and a huge fan of yours!) and I just beat Stage 4 cancer at 27 years old. I completely agree! "We aren't playing games anymore!" YES.

  • @MzVixen05
    @MzVixen052 жыл бұрын

    I needed to hear it.

  • @septemberz
    @septemberz2 жыл бұрын

    I love this video, thank you… can you do more of this video, I think we all needed to hear this 💚🧸🥺👏☺️

  • @ridhika165
    @ridhika1652 жыл бұрын

    Wow, this video is so good it’s making all these ideas that I’ve been thinking of and realizing through journaling and reflective thinking, solidify. A must-watch!

  • @rudegyalnae
    @rudegyalnae2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this 💜

  • @standupphilosopher7059
    @standupphilosopher70592 жыл бұрын

    I'm older than you and think you have such courage to follow your love of travelling and appreciation of languages. My daughter is away at college and I myself am going back to college. I dream of teaching in France🧀🥐🥂😊🥰Love you Damon Im learning from you👏👏👏 🤓💕

  • @jennys.2440
    @jennys.24402 жыл бұрын

    Damon I love you, you changed my life and my way way of thinking! ❤

  • @abby-ll6qy
    @abby-ll6qy2 жыл бұрын

    i'm sick in bed and serendipitously just finished watching your first two moving videos when you posted this!! thank you for sharing, so illuminating + comforting to hear as a 19 year old who just moved to london. wishing you the best on your journey over the next few months, wherever it may be xx

  • @athinab4440
    @athinab44402 жыл бұрын

    This video was the best start for my day. damn damon.

  • @nefelikazaki2846
    @nefelikazaki28462 жыл бұрын

    i can’t believe this content is out here for free! thank you so much Damon!

  • @ashleyrivera1252
    @ashleyrivera12522 жыл бұрын

    damon great job, thanks for guiding us

  • @kaxidoscope
    @kaxidoscope2 жыл бұрын

    You’re honestly a role model. To me & many others ♥️ thanks boo

  • @luciledelaigue911
    @luciledelaigue9112 жыл бұрын

    My favorite video so far. Love you Damon j’aime trop ta vibe💙

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