12 "Nice Guy" Mistakes Making You Look LOW VALUE
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Unfortunately, some of you guys are making mistakes that are common to 'nice guys.' It's a problem because nice guys are perceived as having low value. They will not get the high-quality spicy senoritas, will get everyone's sloppy seconds, and will not make as much money or have as many friends. In other words, they will not live the life they could if perceived as having higher value. I will review some nice guy mistakes that hold men back.
No boundaries. This is very important and one of the most attractive traits that a man can possess. If you're always available and open, you're constantly allowing people to take advantage of you, which indicates to other people that you have low value. Set personal boundaries for people and situations.
Fake nice behavior. This behavior is typical for nice guys. They make nice gestures or kind things with ulterior motives. Just be a good dude.
Conflict avoidance. If you're always saying 'yes' or never standing up for yourself or the people around you, that signifies that you are a p^ssy. Nobody's attracted to a weak man.
Being needy. Whether or not it's with people, girls, or whatever, there's nothing sexy about a guy who is always needy, pathetic, and not coming across as confident. Kissing people's asses is not respectable.
Submissive body language. Communicate better by standing confidently, having good posture, looking people in the eye, smiling, and shaking hands. A weak shake makes you look low value. It's all about confidence and how you carry yourself.
Sloppy appearance. Don't look doughy because others will think you suck, look weak, and have low value. High-value men care for their bodies and have body fat under 15%. They do what they need to do to take care of their temple.
Messy dressed. Dressing is one of the quickest and easiest things you can do to elevate your perception. Dress with style and intention. Dress like a grown-up. Invest in a tailored, high-quality suit to make you look confident and successful. You can also dress the suit down by wearing the slacks with a polo shirt, which is not your daddy's polo. Mine's from Collars and Co. The fit, fabric, and construction instantly upgrade your shirt game.
Overcomplementing. Giving compliments is essential, demonstrates comfort in your skin, and makes others feel good about themselves. But there's a fine line between giving compliments and overdoing it. A compliment must be authentic, so giving multiple complex compliments in one conversation makes you look low-value.
Being passive. If you're never taking action, not making decisions (always saying you don't care), you're acting like a nice guy. You need to have an opinion and be concise and decisive with your actions to look high value automatically.
Having low standards. If you settle because you think you can't get better or you're worried that you'll fail, then you don't try, and you're reducing your standards. Whether dating, getting a job, or pursuing your dreams, you must have high standards, translating into being viewed as a higher value. High-value men have high standards for carrying themselves and interacting with others.
The Martyr Syndrome. Nice guys act like victims to gain attention. They try to get a helping hand or have people do things for them. Do not act like a victim. You are strong, capable, and competent. Take ownership of your actions.
Not accepting responsibility. Low-value men deflect responsibility for their mistakes and say it's not their fault. They're always looking for an out and blaming other people. This automatically makes you look low value. High-value men accept responsibility for their mistakes and apologize when something is wrong. But they don't overly apologize. Do not apologize for things that aren't your fault because that will make you look weak and feel less confident.
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@Random33390
3 ай бұрын
Just stop bruh stick to fashion. You're good at that. The alpha stuff is over, moves on its corny, and it should've never been a thing
@ZemmouchiLhou
3 ай бұрын
I want to see you muslim sir islam suits you very well You look like you have a very good heart ❤️
@user-cw7ir7rf9w
3 ай бұрын
ALSO HIGH VALUE MEN ARE NOT SHORT....
@GorgeousRoddyChrome
2 ай бұрын
Glad to learn of these polos. 👍
Used to watch you a ton back in 2017 and randomly got this recommended to me years later. Love that you’re still helping men out. Respect
@danieltoney22
3 ай бұрын
exactly what happened to me
@mario650
3 ай бұрын
Same here, can't forget the fundamentals.
@dakotastein9499
3 ай бұрын
you call this helpfull?
@fastrabbit22
3 ай бұрын
Agree
@theascendunt9960
3 ай бұрын
He was helping back then. Now it's just churning out videos with the same old tired crap over and over again for the views. There's nothing new in these videos.
"Do not accept ownership for things that are not your fault" Thank you for this truth.
Good list but I hope the "avoiding conflict" part isn't taken the wrong way. There's too many guys out there who feel the need to "stand their ground" over petty arguments/distputes and end up in worse situations that they could've avoided because they let their ego cloud their judgement.
@emanuellima6087
3 ай бұрын
Agree
@philosopher1a
3 ай бұрын
yes
@SojuStay
3 ай бұрын
A wise ninja said choose your battles wisely 🥷
@karimabidi8312
3 ай бұрын
Yes, I ruined more than one relationship that way😔
@canyonproductions7683
3 ай бұрын
Agreed. Im down to take care of s*** but not over PETTY arguments.
I've never asked a girl for a hug. Ever. It just sounds like a thirsty move.
@WillieTonka
28 күн бұрын
I agree. Most guys I've known who ask girls for hugs usually are simps and are always put in the "friend zone" as a result.
@user-dq7rx6jp6t
19 күн бұрын
Where my hug at?
@theharshtruth8563
19 күн бұрын
@@user-dq7rx6jp6t At your moms house
@RickyVanderslice
19 күн бұрын
@@user-dq7rx6jp6t Hug deez nutz 🥜
There needs to be a delineation of the "appearance of high value" vs "inherent high value", i.e., extrinsic vs intrinsic. Being in shape, dressing well, grooming, etc. are things any low-value man can easily do as well. It may fool the outside world of low value people, but high-value people will see thru that. Speaking eloquently and intelligently, being in charge of your life, accepting responsibility, controlling your emotions,, etc. are not so easy and take time to develop. The qualities that truly make a man high-value (the intrinsic ones) only resonate with other high-value people.
Thank you for the video. Really needed the boost. It's been a rough month mentally. I'm going to practice these tips.
I really needed this video. Thanks Alpha!
Awesome stuff alpha as per usual
I am feeling this, THANK YOU
Great video I really REALLY needed this 25 years ago
Thanks so much. Your content is very helpful
I definitely enjoyed this. Thanks.
Thank u for that bonus!
The conflict & boundaries go hand in hand for me. I'm working on being assertive without being a dick or just coming off weak/pushover. I try reminding myself that I dont need approval from others to be productive and steadfast on the path I'm taking.
As they say "Nice guys always come last" Women don't like nice guys. Well, except to treat them like a door mat. Never simp for any women.
@chrisbaybay7326
3 ай бұрын
Quality women want a gentleman. Not too nice but considerate
@matthewschwartz6607
3 ай бұрын
Do they really? I don’t think for the long term.
@TykoBrian7
3 ай бұрын
@@matthewschwartz6607don’t be fake nice and you’ll be fine.
@-Kalec-
2 ай бұрын
Go with an escort girl. Better work and less money.
@teefrankenstein4340
2 ай бұрын
I’ve always had women liking me and I’m “nice”. That being said I don’t kiss their butt, I don’t beg to get them in the sack, I have a life and interests outside of them. Be yourself and be real, improve yourself.
I am proud of you Alpha!
Have a blessed day
Hugs, hugs, hugs! 😀
One of your best videos
Confidence is everything! Every man needs ! I felt confident asking my wife out 35 years ago! Where I worked! Great vedio!
@learnpianofastonline
2 ай бұрын
Most women don’t even know what real confidence is. I hear that word tossed about so much but what does it actually mean?
Offering great advice here!
Your content is moving up in stock, keep it up👍
Content that is needed especially for men nowadays
Thank you alpha. Had a partial labrum a couple years back and I’m progressing on bench press again after taking a bunch of years off. On top of that, I’m hitting everything to failure. It feels great to get back into it.
im too kind and i know it, they know it at work and somehow play with it on a subtle way
Honestly it's for videos like this that I still follow Alpha. Telling a generation of men who often have not had proper men in their lives to guide them to the strait and narrow. This guy does his utmost in that cause. Repsect.
Yo Alpha, you have to go live again sometime. That was great. 👍
Love the shirt
Haha! Alpha! Such cool videos!
Your actual value is measured in your own attitude and self respect. You can have all the money, toys and power in the world and still be a low value knob. You don't have to be a doormat, nor should you be, but handling things with intelligence increases your value. Knowing a bit about a lot is more valuable than knowing everything about only one thing. Look the part and BE the part. Alpha always gives the best advice...listen to what he is saying.
Love your videos as always. Polos look great. The only thing I’ve noticed that if there’s a belt path on the pants, there needs to be a belt. Even if its just for appearance. Thought I’ll mention this. I know SFA about style and could be wrong; however, that’s just my opinion:)
Spicy senorita, LOL!
ALPHAAAAA MY MAAAANNN
As someone who wears their heart on their sleeve usually and is naturally authentic to a fault (autism), and still getting rid of people pleasing behaviors, I really appreciate how you talked about the topics in this video. It's clear you're have compassion and empathy especially when you talked about over complimenting, passivity, having lower standards and martyr syndrome. I hope you take this well, you kind of remind me of Chester Bennignton a bit in the best ways, he was real and authentic, wasn't afraid to say what he though t and spoke his mind, all while having a huge heart and fighting in his own ways for what he believed in and giving people hope.❤🔥 It's important to remember that masculinity can look different and not every man shows his masculine nature exactly the same, but there are fundamentals of what makes a man truly a man that cannot be forgotten, I like to think of Uncle Iroh as a great fictional example Thanks for this video and I'll check out more of your stuff, very well done!
Good video
Thank you for this video ❤
The intro got me already 😂😂😂
And I think a problem with nice guys is that their parents (mainly the father) didn’t help them grow into a high value man. And that could be because of their mother. Not shaming mothers as not all mothers are this way. But some mothers will protect their son from the world when the father tries to prepare them. Why in that? Because they don’t want their nice guy son to get hurt or taken advantage of. Yet the father just wants the best for him, that way he can stand his ground and be high value. Because he’s gonna be in a world where no one cares about his feelings. And if he began simping for a girl, she could report him for stalk-ish behavior or if he hugged her and they were friends, she’s just gonna keep him as a friend. Because she doesn’t see him as a man. But a boy. He’s not husband material. Not even boyfriend material. Just a friend. So for the fathers out there, discipline your sons. If you see any sort of niceness in them. Put a stop to it. Turn your sons into men who will stand their ground instead of them letting someone else do it for them, making them look bad.
Great video.
Great segment
@Mwastalks326
3 ай бұрын
Sure
Yes, and with your light complexion, dark hair with grey strains the colors popp 🎉 it looks very put together. I had a nice made to mechure shirt today with a swether and a sportsjacket. Fully dressed you then see the colars, the rest is just silly overkill (and shirts are kind of underwear, by themself it becomes to naked with no layering), even if the good ones are nice, get me right, but as with pants they just gets to much creds. While sportsjackets, pocketssqueres and old well taken cared of high quality dressboots is the shit.
Those polos are Sick! Keep rockin brother
Passivity is more easy than activity,was low value didn't take care of myself and my body drank and ate a lot of food and smoked I wasted my early 20s doing that it's why I been taking care of myself to rewind the clock of my lifespan I exercise on my treadmill lift my weights go outside and next month joining the 24 hour gym to get in the best shape of my life
Thank you man 👍
Great shirt commercial
All facts
i died right there 6:00 😂
I couldn't agree more stand your ground and be strong look confident work on yourself and just be you
#1 Setting boundaries. I piss manipulators off when I set boundaries.
Great video. I love that you outlined character traits for a High Value Man. Far to often I see other channels who attribute a high value man as someone with large financial wealth. For me it is always the persons character that says if they are truly high value or not.
To me , act the way you want , it doesnt matter whoever wanna accept or refuse your personality , after all , people whom hate you will keep hatin no matter how well you treat them and the ones whom loves you " if they exist" will always love you no matter how bad you behavior is.
@GUITARTIME2024
2 ай бұрын
That's a bit much. Self control is a thing. I'm not gonna be rude or loud without a reason.
Wow, got all of them at some point of my life... What to say - a lot of work to do. Too bad, half of it (or more) is already gone. Why nobody teach us this in school?
If you are tucking in your shirt, you should wear a belt.
@novranalfarizi
3 ай бұрын
Disagree, less is more
@ChrisCoul
3 ай бұрын
@@novranalfarizi If you want to look like a child don't wear a belt.
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@learnpianofastonline
2 ай бұрын
Thank you
@TomatoGuy-737
2 ай бұрын
Thank you
Hey Alpha! Tighten up that Beard!
Shaking someone's hand "with confidence" in México would make you look like a disrespectful asshole, and going too easily for conflict over things shows how the man hasn't developed the assertiveness to make people be on an agreement. Such trivial things as handshaking aren't nothing you should feel like use as a "power" determination
Except the clothing thing I agree
You do Look great.
Great video alpha
@Mwastalks326
3 ай бұрын
Always hitting home
@Mwastalks326
3 ай бұрын
Always hitting home
I’m low value, but who doesn’t love a good value menu 🔥
@112233JORDAN
3 ай бұрын
Low value isn't the same thing as low cost, "good value" lol
@alejandrobravo3194
3 ай бұрын
@@112233JORDAN whatever floats your boat and drops your anchor lol have a blessed day 🙌
@surgeonrecords
3 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@alejandrobravo3194
3 ай бұрын
@@112233JORDAN I'm low cost too, I'm a cheap date and I put out on the first date
Your a pisser I love the way you explain things...too funny and st8 to the point, keep up the good work 😉👌
@nelsonhibbert5267
3 ай бұрын
Pisser?
“Has you covered” is a phrase used a lot by you style guys.
Am glad you are not "WOKE "
No belt?
HEY ALPHA!!
It's amazing how many toxic bosses at work could benefit from the last tip.
lost me when you turned it into an add for clothes
@josebro352
2 ай бұрын
Ad not add
Well, i've got 4 for 12 so these are some things I can work on. I'm very passive. I'm not a great dresser, I tend to avoid conflict, and I could probably work out more. I'm not fat, but I could afford to lose 5-10 pounds.
So. Stand on your own, be ambitious and take accountability.
I guess I'm low value. I always thought so, but this video confirms it.
@user-hd6hh3re5h
2 ай бұрын
Hey don't let it get you down. This talk of "high value" and "low value" is utter nonsense and does more harm than good honestly. Everyone should be valued equally. What you need to do is be who you want to be and be confident in that, pursue your interests and do what you wanna do no matter what anyone thinks. You will automatically filter out all the people you don't want in your life and attract the people who actually like you and care about you for who *you* are. Don't let anybody tell you your value, tell yourself that you are valuable and treat yourself accordingly. You deserve respect and happiness no matter who you are, anyone who says otherwise is an insecure moron.
@edidiongmoses2889
2 ай бұрын
@@user-hd6hh3re5h”everyone should be valued equally” is wishful thinking, grow up😂. It’s so funny how you go on to say the same thing that was said in the video I.e be confident, pursue your interests and do what you want to do (don’t be a people pleaser). The fact is the video is very accurate. If you act and look miserable people will see you as miserable but if you act like you have self respect and also look it, people will treat you with respect. You want to know how to act with self respect? Avoid the mistakes that were mentioned in the video
@user-hd6hh3re5h
2 ай бұрын
@@edidiongmoses2889 What, so you don't think people should be valued equally? I think I've heard all I need from you then if that's the case. I fail to see the humor in me saying exactly what the video says considering that pretty much nothing I said matches the video at all. What I see in this video is a lot of one guy telling you how to change yourself in order to appeal to those around you which in my opinion is the peak of insecurity. There is validity to some things he's saying, yes. Like having boundaries and being kind with no ulterior motives and not being needy should be obvious. But all that talk about how you need to dress and look a certain way in order to gain respect is stupid. You should gain respect based on your actions and not on your outward looks. You can call me naïve or childish for believing people should all be treated with the same level of respect as yourself but I think it wise not to let go of your childish optimism in such a harsh and judgmental world. Makes life more worth living if you ask me.
@GregHealy-kz6jn
23 күн бұрын
You’re using the word “act” multiple times. That says it all.
@edidiongmoses2889
23 күн бұрын
@@user-hd6hh3re5h I don’t think everyone should be valued equally, different people have different things they bring to the table and different qualities that I may or may not want to have around me. Some people can be a burden, some can be NPC’s and some can be catalysts. I want to have catalysts around me not burdens. In your first comment you said all this talk of high value and low value is utter nonsense and in this comment you’re saying that he’s right on some things so which is it. The fact of life is that there are low and high value people and rather than sulking because you’re low value, try to be high value. If your issue is with his opinion on dressing then that’s understandable because fashion trends change all the time but another fact is that people will judge your appearance, doesn’t mean they’ll write you off but it will have an effect on your interactions whether positive or negative. I can respect not wanting to let go of “childish optimism” the world is harsh and pessimism isn’t good for your mental.
I’m with you on most of these ideas but I think it all comes down to confidence
Score! 12/12! Do I get a prize?
You can hate or love this guy but you can't deny that he is the man young men needs
@user-zu7xt7nv8s
2 ай бұрын
He's douchier than a button down collar on a polo shirt
Thank you for letting me know I’m so low value no one could ever care about me. I’m not “man” enough to deserve love. Good thing I enjoy being a hermit. Humans are extremely shallow is what this video has taught me. God forbid a man show some compassion for fellow humans without being deemed “weak” or “pathetic”
@Dead_or_Wild
2 ай бұрын
Compassion is not weakness. It's all about motivation. And no one is too low value to learn and improve. there's hope, my man. Yes, it could be called shallow, but there's deep evolutionary reasons for it all. Don't lose hope.
@willyfisterbum7259
2 ай бұрын
@@Dead_or_Wild hey thanks for the kind words. I gave up hope about 10-15 years ago. I live a nice quiet peaceful life far away from other humans. I go to work and speak to no one. If a chick shows interest in me I politely turn her down. I’m not wasting my time on some girl that’s just gonna throw me away the second someone better comes along. I’ve decided my genetics are trash and I shouldn’t be reproducing anyway. I’m just chilling doing a solo campaign on life. Hope you are blessed in your life kind stranger from the internet.
@Dead_or_Wild
2 ай бұрын
@@willyfisterbum7259 If that's truly your journey, then I have deep respect for it. It's a noble path. Just, perhaps, keep a back window open to possibility. And, as I'm sure you are, travel it well.
@willyfisterbum7259
2 ай бұрын
derekgriffin8151 what’s so wrong about someone wanting to be accepted by the community they are in? It’s literally in our evolution to “fit it” among our society, even if that means changing our behavior in order to be welcomed and accepted by the others in our social group.
@willyfisterbum7259
2 ай бұрын
@derekgriffin8151 humans ARE animals. Some of us are just aware of that.
Interesting shit!
I wear shorts! No dress pants! No tie
Unfortunately, I think their short sleeves are too long. You can always roll them up though
So when do I tell her I collect action figures.
Do they even count as polo's anymore if they change the material ane collar?
@wissawissa83
3 ай бұрын
It’s more a short sleeve dress shirt without a full button. I never thought about it but I guess that’s what defines a polo?
It's too bad the button down part of the polo is so long because it's otherwise great. That part looks stupid. Sorry
i feel like alpha is just talking about himself in this video
AMEN
I'll just find me a foriegn woman
I've seen articles which say women don't like short sleeved shirts. People who drink out of bottles automatically declare their immaturity.
Whatever you do… Don’t call those polos short sleeve shirts.😂😢😮😊
if you want to be perceived as a low-value youtuber, all you have to do is to spend one third of the video on a paid ad!
1:10 if you are nice to someone wont it be easier to make them attracted to you?
Ok, this is a releif cause i was always told I was a nice guy, but i did it out of the face. i always try to treat others with kindness, buy the "nice guy" and only do it for something in return, so this is a releif 😅
"How to do your best to make others THINK you're an alpha".
Alright gentlemen, what are we selling today?
Tell me about Alpha M baby? Oh my God what a dork 😂
Do you own the brand? Where are they produced? ARE THEY Made with clean products...I'm to skinny at 199lbs. 😢I'm to old and sick to give a 😢 but over the years you are still a handsome man. And I hope you keep up the KZread and not get bored..don't do re-runs
Video TLDR: Tshirt salesman.
@finessegod2
Күн бұрын
Give him some credit. He's selling a Polo that's not your Dad's
SO girls like "BAD BOYS," Unhinged crazy guys who don't care what they look like... but I should wear a polo t shirt? I think he has good points. Place and Time... but just be yourself overall because you don't want to appear as fake. I have done both. Most often women just seem to care that you are overall clean and muscular and in good shape.
Well, as a brazilian if i dont hug people, they will kick me out from the country. But I get your point.
High value men don't do the victim stuff. That's why high value men don't blame gov't or obsess with politics.
The only reason a man should apologize if he's done something wrong. What most people don't get is an apology is not meant to appease the offended but to humble the offender ,hopefully teaching them to be a better person.
The first outfit (black polo/light grey pants) doesn't suit you. I do like the white polo with those grey pants. Final outfit with sweater is amazing.
What ever happened to the summary guy in the comments