Hey Brian, I just stumble on this video while scrolling and honestly this is what I'm trying to do not only in menswear aspect but also all aspects in my life. Now unlike some refined gentlemen here who has grown thick skin to deal with haters, I'm a big guy with big feelings and highly sensitive person. When you say that it hurts, it truly hurts. It's also sucks because I want to better up my game and stay authentic as the way I am but on the other hand insults and bullies are everywhere and they often try to make me look bad. I just graduated college and about to enter workforce and honestly it can be terrifying for soft person like me to go because I've heard countless times that people in workforce are more evil and ferocious when it comes to bring people down. I just hope that by sharing this comment I can relate to some people here because I notice that HSS community is one of the best when it comes to support each other. Be nice and respectful and hopefully everyone can get along very well. Greetings from your not so new subscriber 😊

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Wow. Thank you so much for being brave enough to share that with me and everyone else here. You have a great mindset and I hope I can continue to inspire you to do your best. I am humbled by your comment and to have you as a subscriber.

@nukie404

4 жыл бұрын

I would classify myself as a big guy with big feelings and being highly sensitive as well. Dealing with haters/complaints/negative comments really suck. I think with age, experience and practice, your skin does grow a little thicker (I'm assuming you're in your early~mid 20s from your comment on just graduating college). I just wanted to say that there will always be someone picking on your scabs until they break through, but on the other hand there are a lot of respectful and helpful people in the world just waiting to cheer you on. The former group, the bullies and haters, are people who don't know how to deal with their own negative emotions and would rather drag down others to their level instead of using that energy to better themselves. So it is difficult I know, but try not to let the pain deter too long, focus on those things that matter, and I'm sure you're going to do well! With that, I wish you the very best on your new professional journey and your journey through menswear! - Han

@arsarcanum1123

4 жыл бұрын

@@hespokestyle Thanks for your support, and wow this is the first time I got my comment pinned. Really shows that you do care to your viewers, glad to be here 😊

@arsarcanum1123

4 жыл бұрын

@@nukie404 Thank you for your support and wisdom, hope we can get through this together

@arthurcatalanotto1151

4 жыл бұрын

Hopefully they will raise their standards. Or if needed and possible, surround yourself with better people.

" The higher we soar, the smaller we appear to those who cannot fly" Nietzsche

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Cheers.

@hlonirapatsa6475

2 жыл бұрын

Danmmm❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

The vulnerability you show here is a) endearing and b) validating to the rest of us. Thanks for making this one, Brian.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome, Jay. This channel is about you guys!

In a society filled with people who look like they just rolled out of bed it is refreshing to see men dressed with dignity and respect for others.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for chiming in, Jan!

Them: “What, are you trying to show off or something?” Me: “No, I’m just trying to make you look bad.” 🔥🔥🔥

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Burn!

Passive aggressive comments reveal so much about their insecurities rather than anything to do with you. When you realise that it makes criticism so much fun to deal with. How you deal with it depends on the person and the situation but if you don’t take it personally and just analyse their comment it so easy to see their weakness and deal with it. It really makes you bullet proof.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for that, Michael!

“Stay focused, stay motivated, and ignore the boos because those are coming from the cheap seats.” Say it again for the people in the back, Unc!!!👏👏👏

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks, as always, for the comment.

Nice pocket square, Brian. Where’d you get it...Italy? Whatdoya think you’re better than us or soMoeThiNg? Great video 😉

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Hahahaha! Cheers, Brock.

@glorykwok919

4 жыл бұрын

Brock dropping by😀!!!

Number 11 : Don’t give other people’s opinions of you, more value than your own opinions about yourself. Good content Brian!! 👌🏾

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻

As the saying goes "when you start getting haters then you know you've arrived"

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Can’t please everyone.

Your comments are SO valid! Ever since I lost weight, started dressing better, went vegan and working on my poetry, I've been encountering a lot of haters! Sometimes I want to curse them out, but like you said, it's better not to react. I've realized that when people hate on you you must be doing something right!

Great video Brian, thanks. About 2-3years ago I went to buy new pair of shoes and I really got into the weeds of it as far as quality, style, price, etc and the mix of them all and this led me on an incredible (life changing) journey and I made a dedication to myself to up my shoe game and the nice shoes (of course) warrant a better wardrobe.. lol.. At the start, I received many of the comments you mentioned and it is a blow to your psyche when friends & co-workers say those things.. yes. You need to put them in perspective and a couple years later here I am and people take it for granted that I always dress well.

Thank you for this vid. I live in a very informal country, most of the time, men here dress in a shabby T, shorts, and flipflops. About a year ago, I decided to step up my game and started dressing with a lot more style. It felt true. It felt right. Needless to say, I got my share of haters... I have never let it discourage me and your channel has been an amazing source of inspiration and encouragement. Thank you, Brian.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

So glad to hear that! I appreciate your continued support!

Hi Brian, Another great video. I have always been self conscious about how I look and what others think of what I am wearing. Your channel has given me the confidence to not care and to wear what makes me feel good about myself. Thanks.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Many thanks, Andy. Appreciate your continued support. More to come!

Dealing with haters as a real gentleman should. Thanks Brian, for sharing this.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

You're welcome, Raul. There's an approach for everyone in this video, I believe.

One line i always loved” i never take criticisms from someone that i would not ask for there opinion or advice”

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Nice. I like that.

I had one of those insults from a colleague once. I offered to take him shopping. He thought about it and said OK. Amother well dressed colleage and I changed his look, and his attitude. View the insult as an invitation. This is an excellent video, like all your videos. Thank you

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Yup, what usually happens is that you end up leading by example. I've seen that MANY times personally.

I really needed this video, Brian. In high school, I had problems with bullying and dressing well it was the way I found to improve my confidence. I am very grateful for this video. Thank you for, with your content making us stronger, more elegant, educated and why not better human beings? thank you sir. Greetings from Brazil

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

You're so welcome, Josué. I appreciate you taking the time to comment and am happy that you enjoy the content here. All of these things tie together so I thought this was an important video to make.

Brian you are the man bro another great video. There is nothing worse for a hater than just ignore them . Their comment dies right where it begins because there is no follow up from you.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Thank yuh so much. Appreciate the support!

Soberingly we are all truly alone. What that means about comments is yeah, it is really about the person making the comment, not the object of the comment. If someone calls another person ugly it means they are sensitive about their own appearance. When they hate on me dressing well I know it is them feeling insecure about their fashion, their style, their disposable income, etc. So it can hurt, but I feel their hurt too, which like you said can be an opportunity to connect. Awesome video. Thanks for the words and advice.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

You’re very welcome. And thanks to you for the very thoughtful comment.

Great content, well thought. It is true for dressing well, but can actually apply to many occasions where you are facing criticism overall. Well put, cher Brian. Thank you.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, exactly. Thank you so much for the comment, Laurent. As always.

Great stuff Brian...looking good is about respecting others as much as ourselves in my opinion.

My mother's side of the family like to dress well and so do I. When my grandfather died, I inherited his cravats and walking sticks. I was not very good at handling hurtful criticisms about the conservative way I sometimes liked to dress but I did find a sort of outlet to sometimes wear or use these items, together with an overcoat, when I walked to attend mass on Sundays, in the winter months. Older and wiser now, I can cope with the odd disparaging remarks with humour, and wear attire from my select little wardrobe with confidence and pride. Watching from New Zealand, subscribed, like your material and reading the comments' section.

Haters gonna hate. Not slowing me down even a bit. Thanks Brian for touching on this topic.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Needed to be done.

Unexpected topic, but an excellent video once again. I appreciate the empathy and consideration of others' situations.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Sure thing! This channel is about you guys, not me!

Brian...you are making good points..

With you all the way mate! Got your back. Love your content 👊

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks, as always, Christian.

A great video about a very important topic! I never really faced a lot of hate from people about me dressing up, but the few hate I indeed faced was pretty hard to deal with because I do not have anyone in my peer group with the same passion. That's actually something social media helped me with - even though it mostly does the exact opposite by showing us perfection that can never be achieved in reality to that point. But being part of a community with likeminded people (may it be Facebook Style Groups, Instagram, this comment section or at this point even real friends in other countries I was able to make) really boosted my confidence and kept me going on this journey.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

So awesome to hear. And appreciate you sharing that. Your point about social media is interesting. Personally, I feel like Instagram is the devil when it comes to confidence and feeling good about yourself. I honestly do not like the platform for those reasons. I don't follow the people you might "think" I would follow because I would sometimes be measuring myself up and that was 1) unhealthy and 2) not a productive use of time. Focus on yourself and you'll be better off.

@SartorialStyles

4 жыл бұрын

@@hespokestyle I could not agree more! On the other hand, I started creating content on Instagram a couple of months ago and some people seem to like it. Same applies to you in a much bigger scale. That boosts confidence again!

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

@@SartorialStyles Awesome!

These are all great ideas. My personal hit back strategy is, "I'm sure that one day you'll find a man that dresses just the way you like". I dress well for me. What other people think is incidental meaningless. Please keep the videos coming. They're great!

@hespokestyle

Жыл бұрын

LOL. Thanks for the support.

He teaches me style. I rock the streets of Nairobi Kenya. Thanks to Brian sacawa

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Yes! Do it with confidence, Man. Regarding your email... The best advice I can give you is to continue to watch the videos here on the channel. You'll learn just about everything you're asking for!

Muy buenas estrategias para lidiar. Lo veré muchas veces para aprender lo que expones. Muchas gracias.

I"m Canadian, we are well known for "tall poppy syndrome", tendency for some to criticize those who stand out. Take it as a compliment indeed!

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Ah, I wasn't aware that was a Canadian attribute!

@Retired_Gentleman

4 жыл бұрын

@@hespokestyle As a Canadian myself I wasn't aware of this trait either.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

RPM like how I learned from Justus that Germans complained a lot!

@Retired_Gentleman

4 жыл бұрын

@@hespokestyle Hmmmm...I'd not say I've known Germans to be complainers either but it may just be perspective. Canadians are known for being polite (unless it's a hockey game) and for apologizing often which I'm sorry about.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

@@Retired_Gentleman Hahahaha. I was surprised too. But Justus (and others) assure me that it is a real thing.

Brian, when you mentioned jiu Jitsu. I remembered Martial Arts and world of UFC which bought me to Connor McGregor. He used to were suits and dress sharp. Oftentimes wearing bright bold outlandish colors. In an interview he said that it's all part of the mental warfare. He dresses up so everyone he faces agaisnt feels like they are facing a guy who has everything set in life, both in the cage and outside. His level of dressing was so sharp off stage too that naturally it opened him a lot of opportunities. No one can deny the importance of dressing up and it goes well with your points. Now because of him every other UFC fighter is dressing up.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Indeed, Akshay. That's what it's all about.

This is such a great and encouraging video! Really glad you made it into a video as well rather than writing since in this situation, I think it's better to hear this message rather than reading it. Now we can rewatch as needed lol...yea I'll be back most likely soon hahaha.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

So glad to hear you enjoyed this one, Justin!

Brian, I also think it's important to recognize that things are tough for a lot of folks right now and, as you can see in the media, people are upset and prone to lashing out. As you mention, the criticism usually has nothing at all to do with you. Keep up the great work!

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for chiming in, Peter! And wilco!

@plappin

4 жыл бұрын

@@hespokestyle I just learned a new acronym! ;)

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

@@plappin One of my favorite Army terms. Here's another: ack. Love sending that as a reply. Means acknowledged.

You look AMAZING and thank you for sharing xo

Love your channel. Always have. Great video B!

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much, Brandon! Appreciate the support very much.

Great Video, Bri 2 Fly!!. This video was on point and on time. It seems like when you are aspiring to go up, our so-called friends reveal their true colors through words and you discovered "Wow, I thought they supported me and my goals." I love the pointers you gave in this. My only suggestion is to re-title your video: "10 Ways to SHUT DOWN Haters...and the "SHADERS!" Hehe

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

It’s a crab pot mentality.

My favorite answer to Why are you dressed like that? Is My Star fleet uniform is at the cleaners.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Haha. That's funny. Thanks for the comment, Michael!

@martitalafantastica

3 жыл бұрын

I am going to steal that one ....lol

Laughed so hard with the thumbs down comment 😂

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

It's funny because it's true.

@derosa1989

4 жыл бұрын

@@hespokestyle maybe he's Australian, it's a thumbs up from down under?

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

@derosa1989 😂

@brentl.vaneaton6901

4 жыл бұрын

Funny, yeah I noticed that too...🤔 BTW, not me 😂

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Brent L. Van Eaton I’m positive it is NOT you!

Muchas gracias por tus consejos!!

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome, Carlos. Thanks for the comment!

Muchas gracias por tus buenos consejos me ayudan mucho HE SPOKE STYLE 💪👌👍

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome!

The worst thing is when the comments come from someone close to you

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

If they're super negative and meant to hurt, for sure.

@altr.

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I feel the same and it really sucks. I had to cut ties with all of my classmates from high school because of this. I honestly feel better and relieved to get that burden off my shoulders.

@villegas24

4 жыл бұрын

@@altr. yup, it definitely feels good when you get rid of those toxic "friends"

@altr.

4 жыл бұрын

@@villegas24 totally, dude! I honestly became stronger by dealing with toxicity. Kind of weird now that I write it out like this, but kind of cool lol

Thank you so much . We need those advices sometimes

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

You got it!

hey brain! love to see a video "How to dress JLC reverso" and as always 💗 awesome video.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Check it: kzread.info/dash/bejne/YmGdyNigZrvAZto.html

Good Topic! As always great video!

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Many thanks. Appreciate the comment and support.

Day after day? I like the new schedule :) I think that those strategies have to correlate with who is the "hater". A good friend or a close family member should make you reflect before you react, while a colleague or a stranger might deserve a good comeback - and you might not like to hit a good friend back or reflect on a true hater. Also, if you do you and you are proud of who you are, I believe you can pull off mostly anything. You could be a peacock for all that matters, if you do it with confidence. This may shut down haters before they even hate. On a totally unrelated note - I really like your jacket, is it from the HSS x MAB line? Looks great. Cheers.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the comment, Yoni. Yes, I agree with you. As you can tell, this video is geared primarily towards those who are just starting to change how they dress. Re the jacket...yes! Fingers crossed we will launch after Labor Day.

@YoniBonzi

4 жыл бұрын

@@hespokestyle Can't wait. They look great. Would international shipping be available?

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

YoniBonzi yes, indeed

Great that you get around this very real side of the 'matter'. The first time I was wearing my new Allen Edmonds PA. And old friend walked by on the street. I smiled and said hello - He gave me the 'elevator' look - scanned me in a second and he actually froze, starring right out in the air. Precisely at that moment I knew I had 'done',.......something. 😉

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Haha, nice! Thanks for the comment, Hans!

@Agerskiold

4 жыл бұрын

He Spoke Style You are welcome 🙏🏻

Great advices! My respond to why you dress up during SIP? “ you never know who you’re going to FaceTime today” Cheers 🥂

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Nice! Thanks, as always, for the comment, Farshid.

"Confront your enemies, avoid them when you can, a gentleman will walk but never run".

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Good one!

@bryanholleran4275

4 жыл бұрын

That’s a quote for Sun Tsu

The best advice I have had for any kind of leadership

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

💪🏻

Well said, sir! Also, I know this isn't a "look book" video, but I admire your look today.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Why, thank you! Look out for next week...two lookbooks coming up!

Great video, I definitely needed to hear this as my channel is getting that response from miserable people!

"Why are you wearing a suit? What's the occasion, have you got a court hearing?" " No, just a regular Thursday."

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Hahaha. Love it. Cheers, Stuart. However, this WAS filmed on a Monday night.... :)

@stuarthb8900

4 жыл бұрын

@@hespokestyle that's your fault for taking so long to release it for us all 😉

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

@@stuarthb8900 Hey, man, we do our best! :) Next three are already in the can. Ian started hating on me for the quick turnaround asks! LOL

Living well is the best revenge.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for chiming in!

My new favourite KZread channel. Thankes.

@hespokestyle

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks! Welcome.

Thanks for the video!

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

You’re very welcome, William!

Hey Andy! A big hello from Ireland. I really like your informative videos. I look forward to receiving notification when you have a new video. If I didn't have something nice, or positive, I think it's best to keep my mouth shut. But, that's just me. Keep the great videos coming.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

That's a great mantra to live by. Just like my mother used to say! Thanks, Chris!

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Wait...... who's Andy?

Luckily I don't get hate as often as I get compliments but it does happen occasionally. I have developed some answers since people tend to say the same things like "Why do you wear a suit and tie?" or "Why are you always so dressed up?" and I typically just say things like "Why don't you wear a suit? Why don't you dress up?" It also seems that older people really like my style since I'm a teenager and I am keeping this tradition alive. I just dress the way I like and I'm not going to change that for anyone. Wear what you like y'all.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Keep it up, Christian!

Great channel! Cheers from Portugal!

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Many thanks, Hugo. Appreciate the support.

Thanks for the video lots of love from germany. we love you here.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much, Gebbi!

We are with you brian 🤘❤️😎

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

I feel it! Thanks, Yash. Always appreciate the comment.

Great advice! I ignore small-minded people in all aspects of my life.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, to quote a famous modern sage: ain't nobody got time for that.

Thank you.

Great video, and great advice!

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks, Gabe! No thumbnail feedback???! LOL

@gabevalle2659

4 жыл бұрын

He Spoke Style hahah not a chance! Keep up the great work man, love this channel.

Hello Brian. Will do a Summer 2021 wardrobe capsule for sasual wear???

As an 18 year old, my aunt always criticised me for wearing tailored clothing as she wanted me to dress casually in jeans and t-shirts. But, I kept making my wardrobe more smart casual without having to retreat to jeans, and instead used elements like a suede jacket to add a casual sophistication to my look. Now, she barely makes a comment on my look, and if she does, it's usually a complement. Her criticism was valid and apart from her criticism, I absolutely don't have any "haters". My one and only friend is also interested in classic menswear, so he is very supportive of my style choices as we both follow a similar style (the style inspired by the legendary Brian Sacawa). As for strangers, I don't get any comments from them, although I get frequent stares whenever I go out being well dressed. I also don't like socializing a lot as I am a heavy introvert, and hence I have a very small social circle (my family and one friend), which reduces the chances of me having any "haters" drastically P.S: Loved the intro!

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Nice, Aziz! You know I always appreciate your thoughtful comments.

@azizquadri5824

4 жыл бұрын

@@hespokestyle And I always appreciate your replies. You still reply to my comments even though I am a bit of a late commenter.

Your light is a little high. If you put it a little to the side of you it would reflect on your eyes and look nicer. LIke this, your eyes look dead because of the shadow. Also, I find it hard to believe you have haters lol You seem really nice and genuine so I didnt expect a video like this from you. You're like the nice part of youtube, thanks!

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Appreciate that, Erwin. Oh, yeah, there are haters here! I was serious about the few thumbs downs that always appear rather quickly...

I have no problem with people and how they dress; I worked with an IT company that had a free dress policy. Totally cool with all that. I didn't care if they wore jean's and t-shirts with comic/cartoon motifs. My role was a customer facing role. Of course, I wore a suit and tie - something I'm most comfortable with. So I got told that I was upsetting others in the office and making them feel uncomfortable. I'm a big Strategy 4 kind of response. Come back with smiles and niceties. Thanks for the video.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

You're welcome, David! Yes, I really feel like anything that is consumer-facing requires a level of dress that telegraphs confidence, competence, and professionalism.

Excellent advise Brian! 👍

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching!

@Vincent_Napolitano

4 жыл бұрын

Always my friend! I love He spoke style!

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Also, it’s Brian. :)

@Vincent_Napolitano

4 жыл бұрын

Please excuse me Brian, and thanks for being a gentleman!

The key is being calm with confidence. As long as you are not hurting anyone, have the freedom to be what you are and what makes you happy.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Amen

Very correct 💜💜

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Cheers, Ahmed.

An easy response is just to ask them if they feel better about themselves now. It makes them look bad without making you look bad

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Don't you feel like that is a bit passive aggressive? Usually doesn't play so well, in my experience.

@noneofyourbusiness9230

4 жыл бұрын

@@hespokestyle I honestly never thought about it coming across as passive aggressive. I just thought about it as pointing out the obvious reasons for their comment without getting into a altercation. It's always been a quick situation ender for me at least.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

@@noneofyourbusiness9230 Hey, stick with what works!

Great video. If I can suggest something, it would be great if you gave examples on some of those points. Im not really sure what you mean by killing them with kindness for example. Do you mean complimenting their outfit or something else entirely? Anyway great vid as I said but some examples would have made it even better

I’ve had a lot of people say to me throughout my style journey “Oh why are you so dressed up” and I simply say: I’m not dressed up. You are not.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Nice. Like it.

Gotta try this with people one the Internet with no chill

Rafeal at GG had a good answer for ‘Why are you so dressed up? ‘It’s called adulthood’ never used that but it’s a great response....maybe sometime we can talk about the history of menswear and how it flipped from children wanting to dress like adults and how we got to adults wanting to dress like children....Cheers.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Interesting topic!

@adamkun5524

3 жыл бұрын

While it is a great reply to throw at your peers and juniors, you cannot make that come-back to someone who is 10-20 years your superior and you also look up to them in other respects.

@brentl.vaneaton6901

3 жыл бұрын

Ádám Kun Pretty sure though people 10 to 20 years older than you are going to ask why you’re dressed up they’re probably going to like the fact that you are....

@adamkun5524

3 жыл бұрын

@@brentl.vaneaton6901 I still had the honor of meeting that generation that appreaciated classical clothing and manners, they are fading away and 30-40 or more years older than me (so well into their 70s and older). I work in academia and nearly no one dresses up. :(

@brentl.vaneaton6901

3 жыл бұрын

Ádám Kun indeed they are, cheers....

Had a friend one time ask me to dress down because his wife was going to be where we were going. I did so but still presentable and even asked for his approval of the outfit by sending him a picture to be a good gentleman (he approved).Later on he came up to me and said his wife was still talking about how well dressed I was and why he couldn't look like me, lmfao he still doesn't want to hang out with me but I actually have felt flattered this entire time I told him hey just ask for some advice and improve your wardrobe. He hasn't done so yet even though he knows what she likes, yeah he's been demoted to associate solely based on that, can't respect a man that can't bend just a tiny bit to his wife's obtainable and easy to change wish.

Thx... He spoke style

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Any time! Thanks for the comment, David!

Thank you for the great insight provided in your video's. I am I new viewer and noticed you mentioned having lived in Baltimore. Is there a tailor you could recommend in Pikeville? Thanks!

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

You’re very welcome! Thanks for your support and hope you’ve subbed. I’ve had many requests for my tailor and I’ve spoken to him about the business but unfortunately he is not taking any new clients. I have used QG in the past but with mixed results and theirs turnaround was quite slow.

@moishysmith2310

4 жыл бұрын

@@hespokestyle Thanks, I'll look into QG. Like you have said - word of mouth is the best way to find a good tailor. The search continues!

@he spoke style. What brand of shirt is that?

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Our collection with Michael Andrews. Launching after Labor Day.

hello brian i have been watching you posts the last year as i am in my mid 40s i am getting in to a more tailoring style, just to start with i have got myself some blazers and put them with my usual jeans and tops and have had some negative comments as i am a building site worker and covered in dust all day people are taken back by me trying a new style and looking smarter but i feel more confident when i wear my new look your posts have helped me a lot thank you from all the way in nottingham uk

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome, Dean. Thanks so much for sharing that with me. I'm so happy to hear that HSS has had a positive impact for you!

I'll be honest, i didn't expect this. Thanks

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome. Hope it is helpful.

Oh again my big brother, thanks for be here. You’re the best

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. Cheers.

Great and classy channel, salute from Kuwait

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you and hello!

AMEN!!

3:01 Great tactic! They won't see it coming 'cuz they don't know what it looks like.

I always get comments about how well I dress. I even was asked why i always dress up. I told them thank you. I eventually told him when you have a professional job, I feel you should dress like a professional.

@josephpace8816

4 жыл бұрын

I wear a size 14 shoe and I can't tell you how many guys ask me where I get my shoes. Everyone one from laborers to professionals. The best compliment that i am proud of is when a gentleman walked by and said nice shoes. I had on Allen Edmond tan wingtips with blue replacement laces. Those places with get you some attention.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, indeed!

Hahaha, there are litelaly 2 dislikes to the video. Nice content, as always, thanks for the efford

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Told ya!

The most important watch your self and don't be one of them if you see someone succeeded

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Yes.

@riozaki3681

4 жыл бұрын

@@hespokestyle ♥♥♥

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

@@riozaki3681 Cheers.

1. Avoid. 2.Ignore. 3. Forget.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Nice. Thanks for chiming in, Colin.

My come back is : I'm adding some class to this place ( in a humorous tone ).

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Ahahaha! I love that.

What happened to our society when one is almost forced to feel uncomfortable and apologize for dressing up?! It's like feeling uncomfortable and apologizing for being polite and using refined, proper, and polite language.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Many people choose the path of least resistance.

Let Them Hate!! THEY have the issues and its"NON OF MY BUSINESS!!"

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Appreciate you chiming in!

While most people are either complementary or at least accepting of a man dressing well there are a few and often vocal naysayers. A simple but polite "no" and then declining further engagement with those who ask negative questions about why you dress nicely usually suffices.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for chiming in!

I personally love kpop and there are many people who don't so whenever they say "that band sucks!" or something like that i just tell them to grab a straw cuz they suck too, And that jealousy is a disease, get well soon.

Excellent pointers Brian, I wholly agree with the statement that the jabs usually tell more about the bully more than anything. No matter how much you prepare though, I think it's still difficult to react properly once you get hit with a negative comment however. 🤬 Anywho, not related to the video but will we get a new episode of Speaking Style soon? Been waiting for it! - Han

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, it’s quite difficult. But the more you practice, the better you become. I’m just like anything. Podcast.... yes still have an episode on the cutting room floor. Some things have taken me away from being able to really focus on that for the moment unfortunately.

@nukie404

4 жыл бұрын

@@hespokestyle Definitely a skill that needs practicing yes, though I wish people didn't need to learn it at all to begin with. With regards to the podcast, ah, okay well I hope it's all for the better! - Han

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

@@nukie404 Yup! Lots happening. All good.

@nukie404

4 жыл бұрын

@@hespokestyle Great to hear. Wishing for the best on all the endeavors! - Han

Hahahah! Thanks for the vid !

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Any time!

Brian, off topic but where is the video for the last podcast episode and what happened to new episodes?

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Video isn't going up. There was another issue with Justus's camera going out. New episode is on cutting room floor. I've just had too many other things on my plate to finish the edit.

If you are happy the way you are currently dressing, so be it. If you are interested (or currently )in improving your outlook, you are ahead of the curve and focused on your goals.

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for dropping in here, Larry! Appreciate the comment.

@Larry-qz3es

4 жыл бұрын

@@hespokestyle You are welcome Brian, from one NY'er to another NY'er

@hespokestyle

4 жыл бұрын

Larry Lacy cheers!