10+ Things We Absolutely Love About Being Part of the LGBTQ+ Community: and You Should Too! 🌈 S1 E7

We thought we'd do a slightly lighter episode about all the things we love about being gay! Let us know what you love about the LGBTQ+ community in the comments below!
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  • @jethrojackson2524
    @jethrojackson2524 Жыл бұрын

    I LOVE having boyfriends like Joel & Keegan. If I wasn't gay, I would never even known about them. It is cool to be LQBTQ+

  • @dubon9999

    @dubon9999

    6 ай бұрын

    Gays together forever 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

  • @josephsgroi4474
    @josephsgroi4474 Жыл бұрын

    I agree, when people say “partner” I am sometimes confused as to whether they are business partners or in a relationship. You’re a boyfriend or a husband. I’m a senior gay in the US and don’t have a problem with “Homo”, it’s just short for homosexual. I’m a big homo and I love it, it’s who I am and I’m proud of it.

  • @sarahtaylor1679
    @sarahtaylor1679 Жыл бұрын

    I am a minority, and you're right; I have always been empathetic and sympathetic towards gays. I don't think one wakes up wishing they were who they are or chooses to be discriminated against. Too many deaths. We should be embracing one another and celebrating life. When you know better, you do better. It is a very educational episode today. The different terms and utterances. Well done HHH ❤❤❤❤

  • @DS_P8
    @DS_P8 Жыл бұрын

    Hi guys, An issue within the gay community which needs addressing is the pervasive bitchiness and cruelty. Growing up gay is generally difficult and confusing, then when you come out you discover that within the gay community itself there's an endless supply of meanness. Hoping to find connection or community, to feel less alone or ostracized, the gay community thrives on being cruel instead of celebrating each other. The brotherhood or sisterhood we all are seeking is difficult to find, instead most gays trade in degrading each other. Men are competitive and women can be mean to each other, we all know these tendencies, but maybe if we begin to openly address our internalized hatred, bitchiness and cruelty, we would foster true community based in love and acceptance and stop the "shade" which isn't funny, it's just cruelty masquerading as a trend or what's cool.

  • @richardbuckwalter8571

    @richardbuckwalter8571

    Жыл бұрын

    You know of what you speak!! Sometimes heterosexual people are more accepting of US, than the gay people. This is sad, and should never be the case!! 😢

  • @BlueScalePoseidon

    @BlueScalePoseidon

    Жыл бұрын

    With the level of bitchiness in the community that is still ongoing is unacceptable behavior, should not be tolerated, and nobody should ever have to go through that.

  • @danielperea6211

    @danielperea6211

    8 ай бұрын

    There's an easy fix. Just be hot.

  • @RichardCalvin-jd5uq
    @RichardCalvin-jd5uq Жыл бұрын

    I can tell you are a couple by the way you smile at each other and can't stop smiling. It's cute, telling, and wonderful to see. I love "Happy Healthy Homo''--great title.

  • @SarahMcCormick95
    @SarahMcCormick95 Жыл бұрын

    I think we're just more open minded and we tend to embrace things that are different because often we're judged for not conforming so we have a level of understanding & as you've mentioned empathy that people who haven't had to think about these things may not have. I also think being gay is just fun to be honest and that there's a degree of liberation to it i haven't found anywhere else (as much as we are oppressed.)

  • @joemalick
    @joemalick Жыл бұрын

    Great episode, guys! 🙂 I love that one of the main messages of this podcast (via both of you) is showing people that being gay is normal, and that no one should be ashamed of being gay. Plus, for anyone watching, that acceptance and just being kind is so much better (and easier) than ignorance and judgment. ❤ And I agree that the rainbow flag in shops and restaurants is hugely important, because again, it teaches/displays acceptance and welcoming. Well done, keep up the good work! 🙌

  • @robertrawley1115
    @robertrawley1115 Жыл бұрын

    Keegan, as a very publicly out gay man in the UK sports world, I would be interested...if you were comfortable sharing...what effect that public outing has had on your kids through stages of their school life? Here in the US middle school (roughly grades 7-8) can be really tough with peer pressure and emerging puberty. Have your kids shared with you any issues or interesting stories about what they've encountered? What advice could you give today for male or lesbian parents that could be useful for their kids? Maybe this is something to consider for next year when you have guests coming on? But it does seem a topic that would be appropriate for what you two are talking about every week. Thanks for continuing your podcasting! .

  • @Brooksie603
    @Brooksie603 Жыл бұрын

    Not sure if the show ever reached the UK but I loved the sitcom Will & Grace and the fun relationship Jack had with Karen. Karen is my spirit animal. That character was hilarious and over the top. If you haven’t watched it, give it a go.

  • @dennisoconnor4387
    @dennisoconnor4387 Жыл бұрын

    Polari borrowing terms from Italian, Cockney Rhyming slang and Yiddish ,as well as incorporating slang words from the gay subculture of the time. (Free Latin).🏳‍🌈

  • @JamesWood-ef1rg
    @JamesWood-ef1rg3 ай бұрын

    I totally agree i love seeing a rainbow flag fly outside a bar cafe or club! Makes me feel really proud i love going to Manchester pride every year and i get emotional seeing all of us all together united. I think as a older 48 year old gay man i appreciate the gay community of the past and present, more now then i did when i was younger i think i took it for granted to be honest. As mentioning gay icons female or male, Madonna wears that crown and so does lady gaga they have and still do so much for the gay community! Male wise George Michael was my gay male icon! I like artists that push the envelope, and push buttons. Not just a beautiful person singing pop tunes on microphone on stage.

  • @chrisk5651
    @chrisk5651 Жыл бұрын

    Here's to 200 episodes!! Yes I want a double dose of you guys!

  • @fredrecord6382
    @fredrecord6382 Жыл бұрын

    during the lockdown i started reading gay romance novels.actually on audiobook [it was the only way i could get anyone to talk dirty to me] i recommend them now. a great way to learn about different parts of the community i didnt understand, and has improved my love making skills as well.

  • @davebester5663
    @davebester5663 Жыл бұрын

    Love ur show! One thing that confuses me about a certain part of our community is how being gay completely consumes some people and almost overwhelms their life story. Being gay is a small part of my identity. Granted, it’s a fabulous part, but I am also so many other things. What are your thoughts on this?

  • @orielwiggins2225
    @orielwiggins2225 Жыл бұрын

    This may be a southern USA thing, but all the pride events I've attended have has the warmest and best energy. Just happy healthy feel. Don't get me wrong, I've seen some really arrogant condescending rude folks there too, but the general vibe is so uplifting. And I LOVE that that vibe is associated with being homosexual. Especially in contrast to a higher concentration of homophobia in the South. It's a breath of fresh air in a "bog of eternal stench".

  • @kathleenchild
    @kathleenchild Жыл бұрын

    In April 2023, Florida LGBT advocacy group Equality Florida issued a travel advisory for LGBT people to avoid visiting or moving to the state of Florida. I know you’re heading to Florida so I just wanted you to be aware of what is happening there.

  • @Jonnie-Falafel

    @Jonnie-Falafel

    5 ай бұрын

    😂😂 Nothing is happening there that impacts on consenting adults! Have you been to Coconut Grove?

  • @michaelwilkinson9382
    @michaelwilkinson9382 Жыл бұрын

    You guys are compelling , more power to you

  • @sawcsam1019
    @sawcsam1019 Жыл бұрын

    Yall are amazing! I love listening to yall talk about whatever, your accents are amazing:-)❤❤😊

  • @keithp6056
    @keithp605611 ай бұрын

    I love your set! It's so cozy and yet modern. It's really professional in feel. Great job.

  • @dubon9999
    @dubon99997 ай бұрын

    Gay men together forever ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

  • @matthewdishington3842
    @matthewdishington3842 Жыл бұрын

    What an amazing episode! Absolutely love it. Can relate with so much in this episode. ❤️🏳️‍🌈

  • @iandingle3640
    @iandingle3640 Жыл бұрын

    I do agree "partner" is so ambiguous! Life the light hearted chat in this video for a change of pace! Keep up the great work!

  • @michaeljohndennis2231
    @michaeljohndennis2231 Жыл бұрын

    Joel and Keegan are a gorgeous gay couple ❤

  • @PaladinesAngel
    @PaladinesAngel Жыл бұрын

    I love me some Kylie! And I love that being a minority and growing up so ostracised and picked on has helped me be more empathetic for other people and less quick to judge people from different backgrounds And yeah, not having to have children is the gift that keeps on giving

  • @alexanderalexandrou
    @alexanderalexandrou5 ай бұрын

    Your videos are empowering for my LGBTQ+ psychotherapy clients who are struggling. Good job and thanks for the effort. 🎉

  • @louispeel9919
    @louispeel9919 Жыл бұрын

    I unofficially have a Husband and am 75. I been been called all the slur words. I no longer care now, but it did used to hurt as I am ASD with anxiety and depression that usually goes with the ASD. I am happy most of the time!

  • @rileyreed2230
    @rileyreed2230 Жыл бұрын

    I agree, I like being part of a community with so much diversity, and obviously the freedom to be yourself. I feel like there’s so much camaraderie in the LGBTQ community as a whole, and with other minorities, because we all have something in common and can have empathy for each other. I’m kind of still closeted at home, but all my friends know that I am ace and panromantic, and most of them are part of the LGBTQ community too so I love that we have that in common and can relate in that way. I loved hearing about your experiences and what you like about being gay, It’s so easy to focus on the negatives instead of looking at the positive side of things. 💖🖤🤍💜🏳️‍🌈❤️

  • @daniellaplume3840
    @daniellaplume3840 Жыл бұрын

    I'm vibing on this. Thank you for talking about it

  • @lilbitibyker
    @lilbitibyker Жыл бұрын

    Great PodCast. ...I have to admit that I genuinely laughed out loud at "resting bitch face" Thank you guys for that as I truly needed a solid positive experience today and you guys gave it to me!!

  • @Foxy-qx4pd
    @Foxy-qx4pd Жыл бұрын

    “Up until now, almost all studies into LGBTQ+ mental health have looked at stigma-related stressors-things like family rejection, rejection from your religious community, or being bullied,” says John Pachankis, Ph.D., associate professor of Public Health and director of the LGBTQ Mental Health Initiative at Yale University. But what Pachankis and his colleagues began to notice in their work was that gay and bisexual men reported feeling much of their stress coming from their peers, or what a new study led by Pachankis calls intra-minority stress. Published in January in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, the study was conducted over five years with representative samples of participants from across the U.S. and is the most significant of its kind to examine community stressors among gay and bisexual men. Its findings reveal what many in the community know all too well: that gay and bisexual men can be pretty harsh with one another and with ourselves in trying to measure up. Participants reported feeling stressed by what they perceived as the community’s obsession with looks, status, and sex; they pointed to its exclusionary racism and social cattiness. “We know that men in general are more competitive, and that masculine-related competition is stressful,” Pachankis says. “What these data show is that when that type of competition happens in a community made up of men that both socializes and sexualizes with each other, the toll on one’s mental health can be pretty steep.

  • @franktreml3145
    @franktreml3145 Жыл бұрын

    Keegan and Joel - if you like camp and you haven’t watched it then make sure you watch The Golden Girls 😂😂🎉

  • @tonypike2467
    @tonypike24678 ай бұрын

    Loving your podcast guys, so helpful and informative for newbie guys like me

  • @fritzrathmann7318
    @fritzrathmann7318 Жыл бұрын

    Great episode, guys!

  • @Tomgo3
    @Tomgo3 Жыл бұрын

    Totally agree with you on language, I feel it's the intent behind the words, 'faaggot' or 'queer' when you look at the definition of queer, its defined primarily as strange or odd. I don't feel attraction to the same gender as odd. Love the chats lads ❤

  • @mikewolfe5829
    @mikewolfe5829 Жыл бұрын

    I live in the U.S., but I love Kim Woodburn - "How Clean is Your House?" was a great program(me). Kim and Aggie made me laugh as well as gave an occasional kick in the pants to clean up. I've been more open to reclaiming "homo" from the slurs. I don't know if I'll ever reclaim the f-word, though my husband disagrees with me. Thanks for a fun topic!

  • @dubon9999
    @dubon99997 ай бұрын

    Gay Forever ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

  • @gayshrink3190
    @gayshrink3190 Жыл бұрын

    Loved this. Thank you.

  • @waltershelly280
    @waltershelly280 Жыл бұрын

    I really enjoyed this podcast, thank you

  • @happyhealthyhomo

    @happyhealthyhomo

    Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for watching!

  • @jnbtpasam8093
    @jnbtpasam80938 ай бұрын

    Talking about reclaiming HOMO. When I was growing up and being called FAG I would say, yes I am a Fabulous Awesome Guy.. I was trying to reduce the hurt when being bullied.

  • @dubon9999
    @dubon99997 ай бұрын

    Gay Power ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

  • @MichaelPaulRanisate
    @MichaelPaulRanisate7 ай бұрын

    what I love about being Gay, is I don't have to pretend to be something I am not. I felt forced to pretend to be straight and it is exhausting. I am Two-Spirited as well.

  • @PokhrajRoy.
    @PokhrajRoy. Жыл бұрын

    My favourite part is dissecting pop culture. Media is queer if you think enough about it.

  • @chrisk5651
    @chrisk5651 Жыл бұрын

    Keegan has helped a lot.

  • @beaukat3
    @beaukat3 Жыл бұрын

    I was in a relationship for 34 years… We always referred to each other as spouses…… But if the person I was talking to referred to my spouse as a she only then would I correct them to “he”

  • @Kevin-1969
    @Kevin-1969 Жыл бұрын

    My favourite thing has always being able to wear female body spray lol, also being gay is ok, I am grateful I can see, walk, hear, being gay is just a facet, god made me gay, he decided this was who I am.

  • @j_squared5ever543
    @j_squared5ever543 Жыл бұрын

    I’m sure someone has already commented this by now, but I started listing Male Gay Icons in my head. Elton John, Freddie Mercury, etc… I’m sure y’all in the chat can reply with more.

  • @j_squared5ever543

    @j_squared5ever543

    Жыл бұрын

    Harry Styles for the new generation.

  • @chrisk5651
    @chrisk5651 Жыл бұрын

    I'm from suburban New York, I never heard of Polari. I know a fair bit but am not an expert on LGBTQ++ but hadn't learned of that.

  • @geraldinemcgurk447
    @geraldinemcgurk447 Жыл бұрын

    Catherine O’Hara is a Canadian Comedian!

  • @bishbosh4815
    @bishbosh4815 Жыл бұрын

    I watched your Ted Talk Keegan, very inspiring 🙌. It'd be good if you talked about how your wife and social sphere reacted to you coming out and the impact it had on your relationships. There's a lot of stigma from straight people, especially in conservative, traditional and or religious communities that closeted guys are selfish for not coming out and "misleading" their wife by getting married and being in a straight relationship hiding their homosexuality, which is obviously bs, but it's what a lot, if not most of closeted gays face

  • @xeganxerxes4319

    @xeganxerxes4319

    Жыл бұрын

    To be fair, that is something that affects other people as well. Of course I feel sorry for people forced to live a lie, but I do feel sorry for the wives as well. And that is coming form a gay man.

  • @bishbosh4815

    @bishbosh4815

    Жыл бұрын

    @xeganxerxes4319 of course I feel bad for all parties involved. Luckily, I guess, I came out a few years ago (I'm 23) as bisexual and I wasn't in a relationship with a woman at the time (or since 😭) and certainly not married, so the only people it really affected were my parents. But for men (and women I guess) who are in the closet, especially those who don't have the safe space to confidently come out and are made to feel that being gay is bad and will likely face rejection if they do, I really sympathise. But yeah, I obviously understand the wife's pov too and the effect it will have on her and the family, which is why I want to hear from Keegan because he went through this with his wife and kids. It isn't one sided.

  • @bishbosh4815

    @bishbosh4815

    Жыл бұрын

    @xeganxerxes4319 when you say effects other people too, wdym? Like other non gay people face that same dilemma, or other people are affected when someone comes out? I believe honesty is the best policy but it really depends on the situation you are in

  • @xeganxerxes4319

    @xeganxerxes4319

    Жыл бұрын

    @@bishbosh4815 Well I guess it’s different if they’re bisexual or it is an arranged marriage where both people know about it. But I do feel it is bad to pretend to be something you’re not if the marriage isn’t going to work or is not going to have any intimacy. And that goes for women who marry men and later come out as lesbians as well. There are some places where it is really bad to be gay, but even if lived there I wouldn’t have a sham marriage. I think I’d just shrug it off and never talk to people about sex or relationships. They can think what they like but until there is proof then it is just their speculation. As I said, I am gay and my family know but not my neighbours or coworkers or even many friends and I don’t care. They probably suspect and they can think what they like.

  • @bishbosh4815

    @bishbosh4815

    Жыл бұрын

    @xeganxerxes4319 but it's usually because of society forcing people into it. Closeted men feel like they're supposed to be straight, get married and have kids, that's the expectation and obligation, and especially in cultures and community that are conservative, traditional and anti LGBT. It isn't just a case of guys choosing to pretend to be something they're not, it's the toxic culture surrounding them that doesn't allow that

  • @deantnj7829
    @deantnj7829 Жыл бұрын

    I can get why some find the word homo a problem. In the 80’s it’s was used a lot towards gay men. Even teachers, people in authority would use it. But im a proud old HOMO. I love talking back all those old words. I even have used the f word on myself. Not a problem for me.

  • @GregoryMl62
    @GregoryMl62 Жыл бұрын

  • @Doerakker
    @Doerakker Жыл бұрын

    Have to love ? You mean could choose to love !

  • @suzannehawkins383
    @suzannehawkins383 Жыл бұрын

    as a gay woman, we have ambiguity even with using the term girlfriend for our partner. I mean even before I came out, I would never call a woman friend a girlfriend, because that title is reserved in my head at least, for intimate partners. But the straight world uses it all the time for friends. With gay guys, there's not that issue at least lol. It seems that I prefer partner. And I believe, but I've not tested this, that I would refer to a partner in business as 'my business partner'. Spouse or SO sound too clinical. Husband/wife, to me, sounds like attempting to fit into the straight world. But again, I only see this through my gay lens. I wonder how the straight world sees it.

  • @luminiferous1960

    @luminiferous1960

    Жыл бұрын

    You make a good point about using "business partner" for a partner in business to be clear about that relationship. Perhaps for clarity, it would be good to also use "romantic partner" to designate the person with whom one is involved with romantically. Also, "spouse" by definition means the person to whom one is married, whereas "partner" or "romantic partner" includes other committed relationships as well as marriage. Perhaps, "marriage partner" would also be an acceptable substitute for "spouse." To me, spouse does not sound clinical, just gender neutral, and is an acceptable substitute for the gender specific wife or husband, which to me are also acceptable, and not exclusively straight terms.

  • @hoangvu3121
    @hoangvu3121 Жыл бұрын

    i disagree on not pressure to having kids as a gay man. i think because im asian, my culture is a man in a family must continue the family bloodline and must have kids. fortunately my other straight siblings already did that so i dont have to worry about that anymore😂😂😂 other than that i agree with all yall opinions. ❤

  • @kennethbailey9853
    @kennethbailey9853 Жыл бұрын

    Yes men!😮😊

  • @akym82810
    @akym82810 Жыл бұрын

    I think being an out gay man means in some way you are living working against the social conditioning (at least, until very recently, all you get from outside information is that you should be straight) to be your most authentic self. Now I don't think I can put that on my CV, but it's pretty cool nonetheless.

  • @skapalski4031
    @skapalski4031 Жыл бұрын

    ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

  • @tvgamerstan6180
    @tvgamerstan6180 Жыл бұрын

    I don't really feel apart of any community. I'm too unattractive to the gay community and too gay for the straight community. I've just learned to stick to myself. The gay community was cruel to me during my time on dating apps and Instagram. On instagram, I had a gay couple trolling me in my dm telling me how fat & ugly I was. Then they started sending me pics of other gay guys saying how much more attractive they are than I am. Whenever I would post pics, I would have people saying eww or gross in the comment sections. I remember when I was using dating apps, I messaged a guy before and he said I was gross. Another time, I was just on some app scrolling and some white guy decided to message me calling me a dirty n***er. When I was talking to this guy on one of the apps, he would get mad at me if I didn't do what he wanted. One minute he's telling me how much he's attracted to me, then when he's mad at me I'm fat & dirty. Then he would tell me he would leak my nudes online. During my time on xtube, I would keep getting these long paragraphs from this guy saying the same thing over & over. He kept calling me fat & obese. He then went on to say that he posted my videos on another site and that the things people were saying about me would make me wanna run & hide. What's weird is I went on his page and he was literally liking videos of guys that looked fatter than me, so it's like, how are you body shaming me when you like big dudes ? It didn't make sense. The gay community is very brutal if they don't like your face or body. Gay men aren't too different from straight men. I see that now.

  • @jameshollyoak8230

    @jameshollyoak8230

    Жыл бұрын

    Agree 100% I have never felt part of this welcoming community that they keep going on about ; the majority of gay people are nasty self centred bitches; if you don’t fit into there clique; don’t get the whole if your gay you have to go to gay bars and wear rainbow clothes ; the whole world is open to everyone ; I’d rather drink in weatherspoons than a gay bar full of people; bitching about everyone ; you can’t even go for a piss without having a pervert wanking at you or perving at your cock ; and we know this is true

  • @Sammyjane72x
    @Sammyjane72x Жыл бұрын

    Hmmm there are eras of gay icons There are old skool icons like Barbara Streisand and Cher New skool gay icons like Kim Petras and Charli xcx And there are icons that are liked, if not loved by both old skool queer music fans and new skool queer music fans Kylie and Britney for example As a 34 year old who loves 'youthy' music I'm definitely 100% on the new skool camp but still have plenty of liking for those who are in-between like the Kylie's and Britney's

  • @candidolopez1131
    @candidolopez1131 Жыл бұрын

    It may sound funny - but I also see the flag colors as a way to pick up other gay people - sounds crazy but it does happen here in NY. Lol!

  • @gazaht
    @gazaht Жыл бұрын

    🏳‍🌈

  • @bmsharvey2915
    @bmsharvey2915 Жыл бұрын

    Joel is so beautiful😍

  • @marklouis1890
    @marklouis1890 Жыл бұрын

    3:39. I identify as queer rather then gay, because it's a more open ended label and I consider myself a complex person

  • @seigneurdemerde1935
    @seigneurdemerde1935 Жыл бұрын

    You need to varnish or stain those wooden panels behind, you’re letting the community down x

  • @Jonnie-Falafel
    @Jonnie-Falafel5 ай бұрын

    Why not do an episode on the countries where gays are oppressed? Or which communities in the UK frown on and punish homosexuals?

  • @chrisk5651
    @chrisk5651 Жыл бұрын

    Whatever tickles your pickle!

  • @Kane-sf3yj
    @Kane-sf3yj Жыл бұрын

    ✌🖖

  • @TheMartinCannon
    @TheMartinCannon Жыл бұрын

    It may be because of my age (65 in 2 months) but I’m afraid I wouldn’t class Gemma Collins and Kim Woodburn as gay icons.

  • @firouz256
    @firouz256 Жыл бұрын

    There is a huge difference between the expressions "homosexual" and "gay"!

  • @xeganxerxes4319

    @xeganxerxes4319

    Жыл бұрын

    Homosexual = same-sex attraction. Gay (these days) = being attracted to someone who identifies with your 'gender'. I have always considered myself a gay man but don't accept the premise I even have a 'gender identity'. Transactivists would call me agender, which I would take offence at. I am a gay man and a same-SEX attracted male!

  • @samj.403
    @samj.403 Жыл бұрын

    Nicki Minaj & Charli XCX are my gay icons 😭💀😂

  • @user-ho8br1cw8c
    @user-ho8br1cw8c Жыл бұрын

    I think the titles your comfortable with depends on what era you grew up in. I am 35. Being called quee r was a slu r. Now it's an umbrella term for all things non-straight. I don't care to be called quee r. I just say I'm gay. I don't like the walking on egg shells we all have to do now with words. As long as someone is being respectful in their intent, there is no need to go on a crusade against someone for using the wrong word. I don't want to be lumped in with the crusaders. I just want mutual respect for and from everyone.

  • @xeganxerxes4319

    @xeganxerxes4319

    Жыл бұрын

    I do feel the lgbtq pls community is bonkers and I have a lot more in common with most straight folks than a lot of those people. I don't think it is fair that one group of people should be allowed to speak for and represent everyone who is gay when we are such a diverse range of people and our sexual identities shouldn't define us. Of course people can identify as they like and if they want to consider themselves a part of a community and go to events that is fine. But I don't think it is right for them to box us all in together and I do have an issue with it.

  • @luminiferous1960

    @luminiferous1960

    Жыл бұрын

    How I long for the day, which I hope is coming in the near future, when none of these terms are needed because nobody else cares what one's gender is nor what the gender is of the person with whom one is romantically involved or with whom one is having sex. Ultimately, as the old blues song states, "T'aint Nobody's Business." Then we can all strive to be Happy Healthy Humans. Until then, the best I can hope for is that everyone is respectful in word and deed.

  • @xeganxerxes4319

    @xeganxerxes4319

    Жыл бұрын

    @@luminiferous1960 Of course we should be respectful of others. However, forcing other people to accept the idea of gender isn’t respectful. People should just leave each other alone and respect our differences.

  • @luminiferous1960

    @luminiferous1960

    Жыл бұрын

    @@xeganxerxes4319 I agree. I would go even further and say trying to force anyone to accept any idea isn't respectful, nor is it effective. People may modify their behavior and speech as a result of force, but usually not their ideas and beliefs. On the other hand, there is nothing disrespectful nor wrong about trying to convince other people to accept new ideas through respectful dialogue.

  • @user-ho8br1cw8c

    @user-ho8br1cw8c

    Жыл бұрын

    I think it's great that we are learning to respect everyone. It really helps us all to be respected as people. Having said that, I do not like the walking on eggshells with gender terminology. If someone wants to be called something I will try to do so. However, I don't want to be afraid to call someone something like him, when they want to be called her or something else. I think changing the rules of language, such as pronouns. Changing everything to a nongendered language, I think that's taking things too far and actually makes the people wanting everyone else to change language very selfish and overly narcissistic. I want everyone to be respected, but you also have to be reasonable and respectful to everyone else.

  • @fritzrathmann7318
    @fritzrathmann7318 Жыл бұрын

    Partner has always sounded like an impersonal business relationship to me.

  • @tomschmitz-dj1fg
    @tomschmitz-dj1fg Жыл бұрын

    straight, gay, bisexual, whatever, no one should have expectations to fit into what others think (i.e. you HAVE to get married, you HAVE to have children, you HAVE to even have a relationship and if you don't why don't you?!)...

  • @falkon26
    @falkon26 Жыл бұрын

    Hi, Homo is the Latin word for Human,so shouldn't really be used as a slur.

  • @happyhealthyhomo

    @happyhealthyhomo

    Жыл бұрын

    Yeah that’s very true!

  • @digidol52

    @digidol52

    Жыл бұрын

    No it's not even Latin, the root is the Greek homos meaning "the same" as in homogenised.

  • @falkon26

    @falkon26

    Жыл бұрын

    Hi,I Apologise for my comment above.

  • @chrisk5651
    @chrisk5651 Жыл бұрын

    We don't use the word "Camp" the same way in the USA. You can use the word "Campy."

  • @silverstitch28
    @silverstitch28 Жыл бұрын

    I reclaimed Queer as it's all inclusive of the community and not the alphabet boxes that separate people. Its far more open as I'm non binary and no longer gay and don't fit into what gay culture signifies anymore .

  • @johnhelwig8745
    @johnhelwig8745 Жыл бұрын

    Rest in Peace, Barry Humphries, aka Dame Edna Everage.

  • @lugnut4848
    @lugnut4848 Жыл бұрын

    😍😍😍🤙🤙🤙

  • @dutarus1
    @dutarus1 Жыл бұрын

    They make it sound its so easy. It's not.

  • @10-OSwords
    @10-OSwords Жыл бұрын

    Waxing is for vajazalling. Be the beast, free the back hair.

  • @chrisk5651
    @chrisk5651 Жыл бұрын

    Not everybody moisturizes!

  • @AS-ri1mb

    @AS-ri1mb

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes but they should. You don’t want a face like a leather handbag!

  • @chrisk5651

    @chrisk5651

    Жыл бұрын

    @@AS-ri1mb yeah but Should doesn’t = Do!

  • @cityguyusa
    @cityguyusa Жыл бұрын

    Go any where in the midwest or the bible belt and see how welcome you are.

  • @newworldlove7031
    @newworldlove7031 Жыл бұрын

    What's wrong with Boyfriend! I can't stand the label Queer!! In the 90's it was a term used to bash one with in a very nasty way.

  • @xeganxerxes4319
    @xeganxerxes4319 Жыл бұрын

    I am gay and don't like being called queer or being considered a part of the 'lgbtq' community. We are all individuals at the end f the day and one group of people shouldn't claim that because they are a aprt of that 'group' that they speak for everyone who is a part of that 'group'. Thanks.

  • @robertrawley1115

    @robertrawley1115

    Жыл бұрын

    No worries you do you! I would respectfully ask you to think about the fact that if you're in the US, EU or UK you may be benefiting from the work that members of the LGBTQ+ community have done in the past that allow you to do you today. If you're in one of the countries in the world where you could be jailed or even killed for being gay it is important that you stay out of the limelight for your own safety. It's good we have a big tent!

  • @xeganxerxes4319

    @xeganxerxes4319

    Жыл бұрын

    @@robertrawley1115 Most of the gay people from the past I admire like Alan Turing, Leonardo Da Vinci, Marcel Proust and E.M.Forster thought of themselves as individuals before anything else and might have been baffled by the concept of an LGBT community. To be clear, you are right that groups relating to the ‘LGBT community’ have done a lot of good work for gay people and human rights, but my objection is the blanket statement of LGBT because the implication is that all gays and lesbians are a part of it, which in turn gives groups calling themselves LGBT the definitive to right to represent the view points of all gay people in society. There are a lot of gay conservatives and gay people who are critical of the concept of gender identity and so on. It doesn’t justify bigotry but everyone is entitled to their own view. Just a point.

  • @kenster8270

    @kenster8270

    11 ай бұрын

    Whether or not you choose to be part of the LGBT "community" is a matter of personal affiliation. But if you are gay, then you are by definition part of the LGBT population. If that makes sense? I do share your hesitation avout the term "queer" though. In my experience, "queer" is in practice being used as a euphemism for non-cisgender persons. (For the record, most people who are gay or bi are cisgender.)

  • @franktreml3145
    @franktreml3145 Жыл бұрын

    The one word I will not ‘reclaim’ or use is ‘Queer’. To me it is too ‘academic’ and too non sexual. I like using homosexual and gay man to identify myself.

  • @toddhupp2645
    @toddhupp2645 Жыл бұрын

    keep in mind "gay" begins in the womb from hormone unbalances during certain development phases..This can - likely -be monitored and corrected going forward.The parents will have the option of a straight vs gay new born.This is also true for other hereditary/congenital conditions . In theory stem cell therapy could reverse/correct sexual orientation in adults.

  • @whiskers1776
    @whiskers1776 Жыл бұрын

    Sorry but I'm not into pride month and rainbow flags I'm no more special then my straight friends and I really think the violence used by activists is totally unacceptable which I fear is going to lead to a huge backlash

  • @Jonnie-Falafel

    @Jonnie-Falafel

    5 ай бұрын

    Glad you wrote that. Completely agree. You can't move for progress pride flags in Manchester & yet somewhere we're terribly oppressed or fabulously special... not true.

  • @lucianopavarotti2843
    @lucianopavarotti2843 Жыл бұрын

    This podcast is rapidly running out of road. Cut, cancel, move on.

  • @kenfaganjr.7357

    @kenfaganjr.7357

    Жыл бұрын

    Why are you posting hateful stuff on this podcast? That is not cool bro

  • @lucianopavarotti2843

    @lucianopavarotti2843

    Жыл бұрын

    @@kenfaganjr.7357 Why is it 'hateful' just because you disagree? And is there a rule that comments may only be 100% approving? It's an editorial judgement I'm making. As designed, I think this show has one season before it runs out of topics. And it's not as though this ground hasn't already been well covered. The current concept is a one-season idea. They need to broaden out the topics to be a long term project (which I assume you'd like), but essentially I think that involves total change of concept.

  • @kenfaganjr.7357

    @kenfaganjr.7357

    Жыл бұрын

    @@lucianopavarotti2843 I appreciate the reply. Now, this is more of a constructive criticism I feel like you should of said in the original message. I appreciate the reply. Yes, it does not always be rainbows but voicing your opinion saying why you felt this way you did to me be more helpful. Wishing you love and light

  • @lucianopavarotti2843

    @lucianopavarotti2843

    Жыл бұрын

    @@kenfaganjr.7357 Thanks, best to you too