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I truly believe "Food" deserves it's own Love Language #6

@mrileymitchell9324

3 жыл бұрын

Very valid point!

@kittykat8801

2 жыл бұрын

That would probably be acts of service.

I feel like there are way more videos geared towards women or about what women need to do and not nearly enough videos about what men should be doing to make their women happy

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Honestly, men don't take nearly enough time to watch these kinds of videos (i.e. work on themselves) than women do, believe me. It's the reason I don't really coach men anymore unless I'm sure they're invested in finding success and ready to work

@tamarayoung2534

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, instead the advice out there for them is how to “game” women or how to get the girl or get a date. So they don’t know what to do after they get the girl.

@emilywunderlich3126

4 жыл бұрын

I have also noticed that!! I think as much as women need to be thoughtful and sensitive towards how emotionally complex and vulnerable men are, men also need to step up to the plate and really work on learning about our needs, desires and how to serve us. The best relationships occur when both people selflessly invest in each other- and find joy in doing so!

@melissahernandezm379

4 жыл бұрын

Dirty Unicorn and honestly it needs to be the opposite because millennial men are LOSERS

@julyol119

3 жыл бұрын

@@melissahernandezm379 Maybe you just attract losers because the others know to stay away from rude women.

Even if you do all these things, if the guy doesn't really want you all the way for you, it won't work. I did them ALL for my ex boyfriend of 2.75 years. If they truly can't love you, doing those things will definitely make them feel good, very good, but not claim you as a wife.

@vhayashi7369

4 жыл бұрын

Yep! 💯💯💯

@dw9658

3 жыл бұрын

That's awful.

@katierojas8066

3 жыл бұрын

This makes me wish I was gay.

Men want you to love their family but will put zero effort into yours. Needs to be equal effort.

@viole3367

3 жыл бұрын

This is not true for me, I like to make friends with most people, I want my gfs mom to like me

@burberryclaretred6676

3 жыл бұрын

My ex only put his family first now he lives there

Finding both partners love languages is huge. I thought my husband didn’t really care about me and what I did for him and the kids. Turns out his love language was Acts of Service. He would take my car on a Sunday afternoon and fill it up with gas for the week for me. He did lots of these types of gestures that made my life easier. I am split between Giving Gifts and Words of Affirmation. He thought I didn’t care as much since I didn’t do little things for him. I did give small unexpected gifts and I praised him and his accomplishments. Once we both read the book, our love became stronger and we recognized the love the other person was showing.

His Smile and pacing around looking at me. He's like a Puppy Dog !He gets excited just by walking by me. His Smile.. His Nervous look...

I have been married for 35 years and these are all good points for me to keep in mind. My husbands love language is “service” and doing something practical for me which I have always found more romantic than a bunch of flowers. 💐.

@seapearltoo1

4 жыл бұрын

If "service" is HIS love language, then that is how HE receives love. From your comment, it is actually YOUR love language.

You should do a long distance series. Some of us need that.

Gary Chapman - one of my fave. authors "The Five Love Languages". Thank you for mentioning about the Five Love Languages, it's the best way to understand, show and feel loved by each other.

A lot of this goes both ways. My ex made it clear from the start that he had no interest in getting along with my family and it created so much resentment within me.

why am i watching this i am hella single and don't even have a crush 😂

@kristenford7298

4 жыл бұрын

Same 🤣

@cyphrinfinity9992

3 жыл бұрын

ikr. I'm almost 60, non-photogenic (translation: ugly), etc. No prospectives at all. But I like the info anyway lol.

Super super helpful. Thanks for this. I’m all about improving myself as a partner in a relationship. This is a great video for that!

Secret want of mine, I always wanted a girlfriend that would just chill out under the stars with me. Stargazing is relaxing and fills you full of questions. Plus, I think it can be romantic. Smoking weed is optional but not necessary.

@simply-living8523

4 жыл бұрын

Mama Moosa a woman here and oh my I've always wanted to star gaze with my lover it is romantic and relaxing

@nofybn7794

4 жыл бұрын

@Eva Green Lover Same.

@6MariFer123

4 жыл бұрын

Eva Green Lover Same

@kanayukinovods

4 жыл бұрын

There should be more men like you.

@appalachiangirl6877

3 жыл бұрын

💚

Ryan, really great video! Thank you so much for this important information that will definitely help me in my life! ❤️

Thank you for your videos Ryan. They are really helpful and a lot of fun too. I appreciate it much. You see, for me dealing with people is one of the most frustrating and annoyingly difficult things in life. I used to find people fascinating and amazing. I guess I still do in a way... I am talking about men, women and children. Sometimes i get completely lost and have no idea where they are coming from and sometimes I notice it is the other way around. That is why I appreciate what you do. Keep it up!!!

Ryan you are the best!!! We love you!! ❤️💋 My relationship is growing and listening to you really helps!! Thank you!!!

I am sipping my Macchiato as I watch this video. I am nodding as Ryan explains each point. I realize...I have no boyfriend. Ah, that is why I feel so much freedom and able to agree on all the points and be logical. Listen, love is blind and makes you to be not yourself. No? Ok, I am done with my coffee.

@npkrn6764

4 жыл бұрын

Excellent point. This is all helpful to keep in mind ...in theory. In practice when that person is right in front of you, and there is individual personalities and experiences and baggage and all the other BS of life, it gets tricky. Theories or tips are an outline to consider, but real life (nor a successful relationship and all that enters into it) is done or lived in a vaccuum :)

@vhayashi7369

4 жыл бұрын

Lol!

I am happy to hear those things while i am single. 😂 Tbh i am happy and i push myself, but i have alot to do in the next few years, so i need to go and work on myself! Btw, thank you for your advice, i really aprecciate every single videos what you made. Thank you! 💖

Thank you so much, Ryan. That’s really important to know. May I ask if there is any chance for personal cancelling? I really need it, please 🙏

Thanks, Ryan...!

When other dating coach tell me about men and women differences. I totally disagree but the way this coach explained it to me, ouh i finally maybe accept it a little bit

If you have a book, I'm buying. I like keeping good information in hard copies. (Away from lover boy, that is 😎)

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Great! I just might be releasing one soon! (wink, wink*) 😀

These videos are so helpful, thank you!

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

You're so welcome, Tonia!

Thank you so much Ryan! I visited the site and I was amazed thank you so much for your videos and I appreciate your advice and insight!

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

So glad you were amazed Haley! Thanks for watching 🙂

@Dftntlynotright

4 жыл бұрын

@@datingcoachryanpatrick Your welcome! thanks again for the insight and I was wondering if by any chance you could do a video on how to truly tell if a man is really and honestly in love with you? Thank you!

I did all these and more, still got dumped after 3,5 years. Well, technically i dumped him, but he kinda lead me to do it

If he wants to lead and doesn't have the balls to speak up well then THAT is the problem. God I hate these "how to win him over" videos.

@vhayashi7369

4 жыл бұрын

I agree!

Thank you again Ryan

Yes, thank you Ryan

Love is blind you keep your self quiet and he will come with you, trust me !

Great stuff!! Thank you!

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks April!

Ryan you are amazing ❤️

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Aww thanks Anna! 😄

In the first few weeks before meeting my boyfriend he used to hung out every day with friend but since we started being in a relationship he prefer staying home and wait to give me a conversation call daily but I never stopped him from hanging out it's his choice

Meaningful words man!!

Great video! I would love to hear more about how you think women should embrace their men’s flaws. I agree that women shouldn’t nag or mother their significant others, but what are some examples of how to “embrace” their flaws?

I love it , ur great

My husband is very open to me about his wants and needs and if he needs some alone time. It took awhile for him to get comfortable into telling me his wants and needs ect. He soon found out I was very open to wanting to make sure his needs were being meet. Almost 9 years married, 3 kids later, we are completely open to each. We get each other. We push each other to keep going and accomplish goala. We even talk about our sexual desires and what we fantasie about. I found for a lot of couples that seems to be a hard mountain to climb over. Foreplay, dress up ect. But Ryan your great. Thanks for your videos.

It depends everybody has different wants needs and pleasures some guys like being bossed around some like taking the lead others like it 50/50 it all just depends on the guy

Sooo good!!!

I did do all that as some as I leave he is texting other women and talking even lied about working so he could go out w,them . Gave him so many chances

Ahhh! I've got the book of five love languages!!! 😊

You mentioned love languages briefly in your video. It is good to distinguish that people have both giving and receiving love languages. For instance, I feel most loved when I feel like I have gotten the quality of a person’s time, or an individual actively took notice of specific things and asked me about them later. However I primarily show my love through acts of service and words of affirmation. I inevitably give quality time to others, but that is not the primary way through which I show my love for people. The way a guy may give love is not necessarily how they receive love.

I like that- let him lead You are so right

This is so good I had to watch it twice 👏👏👏 Only problem, except for the sex part, I tend to do this naturally with my guy friend but I've been friend zoned for nearly 5 years now. We don't even hang out because he doesn't want to...ever 😔

@TheresaTV1

4 жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry to hear that, hun. Unfortunately, these tips won’t make him have chemistry with you if it doesn’t already exist. You might want to move on if he isn’t even interested in hanging out with you anymore. You deserve to be loved back and your friend isn’t doing that for you.

Im not trying to find someone...but these tips really helped me get better in my relationships...with my family my friend...im not particularly talking about this video...i watched most of them and...i just want to say thank you😊

I did all this and he made a run for it

@cyphrinfinity9992

3 жыл бұрын

Aww I'm sorry that happened.

you're brilliant

Great advice!!!

Nice videos, only thing I would change is your background environment.😊 maybe sit on a couch or in a brighter area

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for that feedback, Ted! Fortunately, my wife and I will be moving soon, so I plan to build a nice little set at our new place! Thanks for watching & Happy Thanksgiving!

You need a podcast😭

thank you for putting this out on the internet, however, sadly in my opinion this is just common sense on how to treat people in general, or people that are dear to you.

1:55 i cringed,,, what if a crocodile shows up from the water

Ok, I was plastered when you said he didn’t want us to show respect. I think that’s where I messed up.

Last Friday he spent a day with his guy friend, by doing barbeque, going to crowded places. When we talked the day after he said the it feels like 2 years had gone since we last talk with each other. What does he meant by that?

What if you pratice abstinence?

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

I think that's awesome Novie

@reginasemenenko148

4 жыл бұрын

It means you have character.

@dw9658

3 жыл бұрын

Good for you. Me too. I'd rather wait for something real.

@cyphrinfinity9992

3 жыл бұрын

@@dw9658 Agree. It's refreshing that some are waiting and not jumping into having sex prematurely.

@MotivationCity

3 жыл бұрын

Same here. Still good advice

Damn I’m the perfect wife

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Love that! 🙌🏼

@faithmiller9033

4 жыл бұрын

I've been told the same by my husband as I'm his 2nd wife also I'm living w/ aspergers syndrome so I'm not that cuddly n I'm very adventurous. I hate being in crowds n I hate flowers which he loves coz I save him $$$ coz I hate Valentine's day. I rebuke Valentine's more than I rebuke my own arrogance level. I was a lesbian n he enjoys me in the store boasting about the only 1 I've ever truly desired is him not just a good looking woman that I tell her she is very pretty face; body; clothes. You can give a compliment to beauty w/ out having sexual desire for them. Every time I give women; woman a compliment then we go to our n he opens up my door he either grabs my ass n tells me I'm his dream wife or he kinda pulls my shirt to peak at my breasts n smacks his lips telln me how hungry he is as I'm just smiling at him.

@faithmiller9033

3 жыл бұрын

If your the perfect wife than why MsJones when you can put MrsJones!!?? I think you are beautiful, you seem like an awesome professor how your picture is. I love you sister Lady. I think you'd make a terrific super model.

@faithmiller9033

3 жыл бұрын

@@datingcoachryanpatrick I love you too brother. Great advice.

@0Flow0

3 жыл бұрын

Congrats 😅 I've made mistakes

good

How we let him lead and keep our independence. Lead the courtship u mean? What if I am a better leader what if I make more or the only money what if I am a religious leader and can’t take a leadership that’s opposing my mission What things exactly we have to let him lead? In the small things?

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, let him lead the courtship. He needs that to feel invested in you and the relationship (i.e. setting up dates, initiating texts, the little things). He doesn't have to be a fantastic leader to do these things, but if you're really into him, just do you and let him reach out and pursue you. 🙂

@ElizabetaDante

4 жыл бұрын

Alright I already do this. I only pursue my job and family members 📝

Great content as always! It is, however, impossible to be nice to an older man’s grown kids when he himself isn’t speaking to them and you have never met them... Yikes! Talk about a red flag and a train wreck!

Interesting

Id be really interested to know what men really want in some anonymous poll or something

Interesting. I think this advice must be more geared to the "young people" especially regarding bothering him at work? Or initiating calls or texts period? Not my style, but I am OLD and OLD SCHOOL too.. LOL Never expected to have to date again, at this age. Just found your channel, but so far I have not done anything that you recommend against.

@cyphrinfinity9992

3 жыл бұрын

I'm old too - 58. Don't know how old you are but if you're dating, that's great. I wish I had a chance for a date or two. Never will happen unless I can meet someone that thinks an "ugly" girl is pretty. Best to you.

If you get in with his momma, especially if he's Latino, oooh, girl, that's GOLD right there. If his sisters, brothers, parents like you, and I mean REALLY like you, you're in. Family is usually #1 for a guy and if you can't get along with his family, that's not a good thing. Even if you don't like his mom or his sister, play it cool and be polite. They'll come around, and if they don't, that means they don't want their son (or brother) with you. But it's ESPECIALLY important to get in good with his momma. Most men who've had a healthy mother-son relationship absolutely ADORE their MOMMYYYYY so you MUST be in good with his mom. That's #1. IF he has a daughter, his daughter is #1 and if she don't like you, he won't date you. LOL You don't have to be all prim and proper, but respectful is what a mother wants to see in her son's potential partner. Don't mess with his momma. LOL

Am just here because am curious. Well, before Quarantine I had a 20% of meeting someone, during quarantine, 1%. Hahaa. P.S - you have great hair.

@cyphrinfinity9992

3 жыл бұрын

I have 0 percent chance because I don't have the beauty guys want.

@savitabalkaran3712

3 жыл бұрын

Aww, I believe we all have our match. The idiot probably pushing a door that reads, pull. 🤪

Can you not have more than one language? I feel like all are true for me except gift giving 🎁

Love love love this video!!! Great love languages website!!! You need your own Netflix show, ASAP!!

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Haha wouldn't that be fun! 😆Thanks Rossi!

Excuse me, a question, my bf has a really bad slouch. And that can lead to back problems if he doesn’t change it. And I really want to encourage him to, but not quite sure how without nagging 😔

@cyphrinfinity9992

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe both of you together could look at videos on here and mutually watch one that has help for posture (or a similar video). Just a thought. Maybe someone else has better advice.

I need you in my life as a friend

I think this can help if you’re married

Can yoy do a vid of libido?? I haven't had the kinda sex i desire ..like never (came close a few times) and i kinda just gave up sex now and i think im losing my libido..can you make a. Video on how to "keep it" incase i ever do find the right type of partner

Well I have been married for 40 years and have never been happier. My husband is my best friend and my #1 priority and he shows me that I am the same for him. That's why we are still in love with each other and happy together after 40 years.

you are so darn hilarious.

The only thing I really wonder is how do you deal or embrace such a flaw as psychological manipulation or gaslighting. We’ve been together for 1.6 years and I only recently started noticing it. But I can’t discuss it with him cause he always turns everything in his favour; calls me a woman and guilt trips me. I try to focus on myself and he notices it, but overtime he is more quiet and also pulls off. Idk what the heck he wants anymore. Oh no I do. Probably me doing what he tells me to do unquestionably. :(

@kajsahakonsen3184

4 жыл бұрын

Kana Yukino sounds really toxic, try to talk about it with him. If he turns everything in his favour? Please stand against it and show him how you feel

@Z5Z5Z5

4 жыл бұрын

From experience- You cant communicate with a gas lighter and manipulater. You have to leave them.

sure... only way i can make this happen... is if he truly is close to my "package deal"

Ryan, make a video about dating mistakes in the movie Midsommar. What a guy needs to do not to be burnt alive inside a bear's body by his girlfriend and her crazy-cult friends?

Well when I gave space to my ex he cheated .😒

@cherylbadger2887

3 жыл бұрын

Pure coincidence- he would have done it anyway xx

@alexanneschronicles

3 жыл бұрын

When someone cheats on you its 100% because of them. You can never do enough to keep a cheater from cheating because it was never about you missing something in the first place.

I always hear the same thing in theses videos about girls should start initiating sex more but to be honest I've never actually really had a man that does that to me it's always been me that start so I'm actually a firm believer that men need to start doing this a little bit more women want to feel important like that too and when a woman doesn't have her man initiate it to her and makes her feel not wanted. Men I know struggle hard with starting it

Why won't they ask?

Anyone know of any KZread channels that give similar advice to married women/couples (as opposed to dating)?

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Hi there! I cover relationship and marriage coaching in my videos, as well. Much more material on that to come in the next couple of months. Can I help you with anything specific?

@21972012145525

4 жыл бұрын

Ryan Patrick hello! Good to know. At this time, no. I follow a few dating coaches because I appreciate the advice on the male psyche. but would like to subscribe to channels that focus exclusively on the dynamics between married couples. The dating advice doesn’t apply to me, but I haven’t come across anyone/channels giving similar advice to wives

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Sure, makes sense! I’d definitely check out Susan Winter. I feel she really gets the male perspective within a relationship but also covers marriage dynamics. If you have any specific thoughts on video content you’d like to see, I’m all ears! I’d love to build a playlist specifically pertaining to marriages. I just had my 2-year anniversary ☺️

@21972012145525

4 жыл бұрын

Ryan Patrick congratulations! Susan winters also does dating advice though right?

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Yes, she does everything really. Do you want a marriage-specific channel? Maybe run by a certified marriage counselor? I don’t believe I’ve run into any of those yet 🤔

My ex said I give you you stuff next week and next week come he said next weey

@cyphrinfinity9992

3 жыл бұрын

awww that's not very nice of him.

He uses all love languages

His flaws are too much, y should I embrace?

@momentsformoms9467

3 жыл бұрын

He didn’t say if they’re too much,in that case break up. Every one has flaws,some are cute just make him know that so he’s not insecure about them or at least one. Like I know a guy who told me I’m adorable when I’m embarrassed,which happens a lot.🤷‍♀️

embrace their flaws ? what if its he is a playboy... or he is weak... or he is possessive ? i dont think i want to embrace those flaws

@momentsformoms9467

3 жыл бұрын

Cute flaws not toxic ones.

Thanks... Hypothetical The family is an extreme religion. (No blood transfusion even on a child of the family about to die) The girlfriend is the daughter of wife number 4 and has a divorce that he won't tell them about. Is it doomed?

Well his parents ruined our wedding and our honeymoon send off I was accused for causing his sickness and after 26 years of my life with him 15 years in marriage it ended and he returned to his wife-mother where he lives and my kids too I’ve been alienated from my kids I wish I could sue I was Princess Diana Hex was prince Charles His mother the Queen

We’re friends with benefits for now because we both agreed that our exes hurt us. Anyways this guy I’m seeing is a sweetie pie for treating me to one of my favorite foods which is sushi 🍱

I wish I could find a man to lead. Take some of the pressure off. Share burdens and joys.

@cyphrinfinity9992

3 жыл бұрын

I hope you find someone, Dear.

@dw9658

3 жыл бұрын

@@cyphrinfinity9992 thank you. I feel like he's out there but I'm not ready for him. Still broken.

Ryan... Reynolds?

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Haha YES!! 😁

bahhhh! You should never ask anyone for anything. Never! Especially from those who are more powerful than yourself.---Mikhail Bulgakov, The Master and Margarita

Why am I watching this? I’m an 11 year old girl and I found a cute guy named Ben in the 6th grade! 😅

@pipertarin68

3 жыл бұрын

This will be good for you when you're Older. I hope Ben, knows what Beautiful, Smart Young Lady, YOU ARE❤ Blessings & lots of love, Piper

You:1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8, 9,10 Me: ability to do 3 out of 10 ,yep ima be single forever🤷 edit: ability to do everything except hangin with friends i dont have and trying not being his #1fan

@cyphrinfinity9992

3 жыл бұрын

I hang or spend time with one friend about once a week. Won't help me though because I'm already alone and no prospects as guys never give me a second look. If I speak to them, they mostly always say "what?" and I make sure I speak clearly - so I think the "what" is their way of saying they don't want a convo with me because I'm not attractive.

@theeunordained9027

3 жыл бұрын

@@cyphrinfinity9992 dont be to hard on yourself..the "what" could just intel you caught them offgaurd and they dont know how to respond

How do you love a controlling, narcissist father-in-law?? You don't, you run!! It's Not always the mother-in-law!

How am i suppose to initiate sex first when his hands are always all over me all the time? ALL THE TIME! Lol!

I think if men talk alot women listen but after awhile they hear blah blah blah constant chatter I had a boyfriend did his chores and no the favor wasn't returned so try not to be used.Ladies these video are way to much drama.

You've got the whole concept of love languages wrong. The idea is that you find out your partner's love language and love them the way THEY want to be loved. Not loving them the way you yourself want to be loved.

@datingcoachryanpatrick

2 жыл бұрын

I truly don’t believe I said this at all in my video, Jennifer. I do cover love languages on this channel (Ryan Patrick love languages) where I think you’ll see you and I are much better in alignment on that topic 👍

How do I know if a guy is playing me? Help me please. Help me.

@mitkat68

4 жыл бұрын

Im no expert Kimberly but if there is one thing Ive learned. Follow your gut instincts, thats why we have them. If you have to ask "Is he playing me?" then deep down you already have your answer. Dont be afraid of losing him if you decide to cool things down. 1) If he isnt playing you and genuinely wants to be with you then he will fight to warm things up again. 2) If he is a player he wont even notice your MIA anyway so you dodged a bullet. Its a win win Good luck hun, hope my words have helped in some way. With honesty to oneself comes happiness

81. It is his job to step up, women do when he IS NOT! That is NOT ON WOMEN! is JUST WRONG. Women have to get over their issues but guys don't have to? That is CRAP!

@obstantiadiscindo

4 жыл бұрын

nofy bn He's not saying they don't have to, but it's a fact that most of them aren't even aware they have issues to deal with! But by us presenting our best awareness, we have a better chance of rejecting those who'll never be good for us, and drawing in those who will. The other alternative, for either, I guess, is"How's that working for you?" 😊

A meal.

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Haha touche! 😂

@richlondonrich

4 жыл бұрын

@Eva Green Lover love isn't about power. Love is a gift between two people.

@KayciazWorld

4 жыл бұрын

@@richlondonrich Love this!

btw you have a comical face... :)

How about DaterGuy instead of boy. Sounds stronger and wiser.

@mariaokhapkina6971

4 жыл бұрын

I think daterboy is fun and clever as it's a play on the word "skaterboy"

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

YES! That's exactly what I had in mind Maria 😀Thank you!

@datingcoachryanpatrick

4 жыл бұрын

Somebody owns it 🙁

@GG-rw8cz

4 жыл бұрын

@@datingcoachryanpatrick yeah I like Daterboy, it is fun hehe