My husband’s grandma had a quote that stuck with me: “if you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”. This is a rule I live by because it has made me a much more positive person looking for the silver lining all the time…

@andrem9813

Жыл бұрын

So true! It's my favourite quote too! It belongs to Wayne Dyer and its fantastic 🥳🥳🥳

@OlafsonN

Жыл бұрын

@@andrem9813 I believe most of Wayne Dyer’s quotes predated him.

@rosieposie8059

Жыл бұрын

I'm gonna write that and put it up somewhere I'll see it everyday ❤️ Thanks for sharing

@Julie-si3hi

Жыл бұрын

That is lovely

@bethdoesitmatter2967

Жыл бұрын

What a great saying! Thank you for posting!

I swear a form of my procrastinating is watching these type of videos and thinking “I already know all this” but normally they don’t work to push me to move and get things done 🫠🙃but this one here…I’m in the middle of actually starting what I been dreading. I’m the “I’ll start Monday” person & im changing that now. It’s 12 noon on a Wednesday and I’m starting ❤

@cactusqueen6417

Жыл бұрын

YEAH!!! 🎉

@patshel4002

11 ай бұрын

I like sporty cars that why I love suvs. Can a mini van go fast? My suv can.

"I've got to pay $20K more to OPEN MY OWN DOOR." Cas - you are a treasure. I actually laughed out loud at that one.

@Sparkly333

Жыл бұрын

😂me too

@conniejenice

Жыл бұрын

This is true , it’s so nice you walk up to it and doors unlock , are open it as your walking to it . I put my keys on a lanyard so when I check around my neck they go and I can open up the latch as I get close, great when it’s raining! Love it!

Your story about dropping the rope with stressful people reminded me of a similar time in my life that reshaped how I saw my friends and where I put in my time and effort. While I was going through IVF I experienced a side effect to a medication that made me extremely sick for weeks and could have become lethal. In that time I didn’t have the energy to reach out to people and for the entire time I was sick, only two friends checked in to see how I was doing. My so-called best friend didn’t even text me. No way she could have disappeared for weeks without me worrying and checking in. It hurt SO MUCH, but I’ve reinvested my time and energy into the friends who were there for me and making new friends, and I’m so much happier now.

@alison5009

Жыл бұрын

This comment is also really important. It’s also helped me realize who are true friends through depression and anxiety.

@Julie-si3hi

Жыл бұрын

I hear you! Not ivf ,but my partner got cancer and its a whirlwind of appointments...I have some friends that check on us,say good luck for appts... friends like gold xx

I’m 70 years old and your rules are so spot on! My rule, you are never too old to learn from someone else! And us old folks LOVE our mini van with stow and go!

@Clutterbug

Жыл бұрын

#MINIVANSARECOOL

@barbarapahl3245

Жыл бұрын

My husband & I both are retired now and we love our mini van with stow n go! We bought it used to be able to get our six grandchildren all in. So much easier than taking two vehicles!

@jessadame6303

Жыл бұрын

@@Clutterbug you should check out the swagger wagon song on KZread. kzread.info/dash/bejne/nGyplNqGlqi4hLg.html Minivan's are the best! :)

@tracywaring3769

Жыл бұрын

70 isn't old its the new 60 xx

@irmaiz133

Жыл бұрын

@Dell Nichols you sound wise so I will ask you. Left my half eaten pastry under the counter at my part-time job. Later realized, the next person purposefully threw it out when he could have handed it to me. Now I am beating myself for being naive. Though it taught me to be cautious next time, it infuriates me!!! Ughhh!!! 😂😂😂. Anybody? Advanced thanks!!!

"I procrastinate like it's my life's mission." Oh my goodness, Cass! That made me laugh. I can so relate to that. Thanks for all you do.

@SunshineMomma0510

Жыл бұрын

That's exactly how I am!

@alinaloder8700

Жыл бұрын

Can't do family. Luckily I'm not a reacher outer

@idid138

Жыл бұрын

I'm procrastinating some stuff so hard right now...

@ragauerk9310

Жыл бұрын

Hospitals are purposefully kept chilly bcs it helps control the spread of disease, which sick ppl bring to the hospital to be healed from. It's part of the design to help us that feels less comfortable. It's probably worth it.

Cas.. Your "5 minutes matters" mantra is one of the rules that has changed my life.. I am such a perfectionist, which used to cause me to procrastinate so often because if I couldn't do it "correctly" I wasn't going to start until I could.. now I always tell myself, "5 minutes matters.. just get started." It has flowed all throughout my life, and I tell myself that all the time!! Thank you!! 😊

@despicabledavidshort3806

Жыл бұрын

Omg!! I'm the same, if I can't do it perfectly I'm not going to start, which means there's lots of things I just put off. I've learned it doesn't have to be perfect

When you were talking about not wasting energy on certain relationships even if they’re family, I totally wanted to high-five you! It doesn’t mean there's anything wrong with you, or even with them - it’s just that somehow together you don’t work. Many years ago, before ‘toxic relationships’ really became a thing talked about, my brother and I went separate ways. I got SOOO much flack from certain family members, including our mom! (and still do). But it was one of the best decisions EVER, right up there with my marriage, kids, career, and house :) And I'm sure for it has been great for him and his family as well. Does it mean I wish him anything bad? Certainly not! But do I HAVE to have a relationship with him, when it only caused both of us pain? Nope :) It’s part of MY number one rule: Live my life in a way that works for ME, even if it looks totally weird to someone else. That other person doesn’t have the same strengths and weaknesses I do, and they don’t have to live with me everyday, but I do, so why not give myself a break? 😁

@sherylclements2846

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this!! It is helping me validate giving up on relatives who only reached out to me for $$, and yet months and years of loving them so very much, but they couldn't be bothered to even reply to a text saying 2 words like Merry Christmas. I don't feel so guilty giving up the hope of being close to or wanted by them anymore.

Love your ten rules. I remember my mom saying - in Spanish - "Tell me who you walk (hang) with, and I'll tell you who you are." Sounds like what your dad said to you. And we can't forget the biggest rule of all, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you". The world would be such a better place. Thanks for all you are and do.

@patriciachicco9763

Жыл бұрын

My mom till this seat says that to me.

@puertotexan

Жыл бұрын

Dime con quién andas y te diré quién eres. Classic!

@matemahe

Жыл бұрын

I hate that comment bc I learned as I got older that we are not one dimensional.

@anyat686

Жыл бұрын

My Irish mother said the same thing ! 😂

@nancylopez4720

Жыл бұрын

@@anyat686 I guess it's universal.

I've been surrounding myself with you, Minimal Mom and a couple of very positive How-To-KZreadrs, and I think I've become a happier, more positive person because it. Thank you! ☺️

@Clutterbug

Жыл бұрын

I love watching positive KZreadrs too!

@maybeme8

Жыл бұрын

Same! So inspiring and because of this video, I went and put on a load of laundry I didn't want to do lol.

@lrhudy93

Жыл бұрын

Same here! They are awesome!

@lisao.4075

Жыл бұрын

@@maybeme8 Good for You!

@sherbear2016

Жыл бұрын

3DChick, what other KZreadrs do you like to listen to? I like the ones Cas mentioned and have been watching them for years. But I’d love to the others. Have you listened to “Brittany Vasseur”? She is funny and has all kinds of great tips and helpful advice. Apps and gadgets to try, that she tries first, etc. “But First, Coffee” is another good one. Thanks!

Cass, you are in my five people that I hang around with. Whenever I’m needing positive energy motivation or a smile your channel is where I go and you bring a light to my life that I really appreciate thank you so much

@paulagbt

Жыл бұрын

Yes! Me too!

@cactusqueen6417

Жыл бұрын

Me too! I love her!

@PARoth2011

Жыл бұрын

Me too ❤️

@JoDee4Rolf

11 ай бұрын

Agreed! :)

"If it's not worth praying about, it's not worth worry about". Awesome book - the art of not giving a f**k. "Don't let the weeds grow round your feet because one day they'll be so high, you won't be able to see yourself." "There's always a way"- this one got me around travelling overseas!

RULE # 1: Be KIND! It’s FREE & you may just make a difference in someone’s life who may be struggling. ❤

@janetmajor1152

Жыл бұрын

Love this! Always makes me feel good!

Yes to the mini van movement!! I tell everyone I waited a long time to have kids and be able to drive a mom van. I'm not giving it up now! It's paid for, it hauls all our crap and we have plenty of room on our road trips! Love, love, love my mini van!!! Oh...and loved your 10 rules. Super inspiring. Thanks :)

@SorrensSorrow

Жыл бұрын

No worries the minivan isn't going anywhere as boomers get older we need them to get their wheelchairs, rollators,walkers and canes in as well as the people lol

@ElizabethChronis

Жыл бұрын

I love my minivan!

@EmilyHercamp17

Жыл бұрын

Yes, LOVE my minivan! ❤💙💚💛💜

@daisybuchanan5378

Жыл бұрын

I drove mine long past the time we needed it, because it was paid for. 300k miles. Then paid cash for my next car because the van gave me time to save up.

@katie7748

Жыл бұрын

My ex's sister adamantly refused to have anything to do with stuff that made her look like a mom. Like...why did you have kids??

Cas, you should count yourself as one of the people who is positive and inspires so many people. I just found you recently and love your down to earth organisational tutorials. Thank you! Keep doing what you do, and I'm just about to start my organisational journey as I am now setting up on my own. So now is the time for my way, my home, back to being me, after years of being wife, mum, then partner. Wish me luck! Best wishes from the 🇬🇧

@cactusqueen6417

Жыл бұрын

She’s great! ❤

Cass, you are one of my favorite organizers. When I am down, I tune in to one of your videos, and it always picks me up. I feel like I am connecting with a friend. Love your energy and enthusiasm. Don't ever worry about comparing yourself to others. You have your own unique style. Just keep on doing what you are doing.

I swear Cas. You get me every time. I'm only 2 minutes in and I am feeling like you are speaking to my soul. My neighbor asked me to come over for coffee 2 weeks ago, I still haven't gone, because social anxiety. Well now I have to go...lol. Do the scary things.

@kathleen9812

Жыл бұрын

I also wanted to say YES to the minivan. I never had one until my business partner had one and we would take that thing everywhere! We loaded it up with furniture, kids, animals ...everything fits! I was like, whoa...I gotta get one of these. And I don't have kids at home anymore. 🙃

@deniseabdale2568

Жыл бұрын

Oh yes I’ve had social anxiety my whole life. I also have a deep fear of getting lost when out. I don’t know where it came from but something must have happened when I was very young that I don’t remember & I must have been scolded/ scared to death. If I lose my sense of direction, I start panicking.

My husband still drives a minivan because they have the largest capacity when you do fold everything out of the way. He does comic book conventions and they carry the most, they fit in a regular parking spot and a height that can fit in parking garages. We outgrew the soccer team age but he picked up the hobby age that still needs a minivan. Love your channel Cass!

I have ADHD and have been stuck in paralysis for awhile and I found your channel two days ago. Finally started organizing my life. Ty for being you, you are so inspiring!

🤣🤣🤣 the Fanny pack of vehicles 👏🏻👏🏻 that killed me! But dude, we would LOVE a mini van! My husband turned me on to the awesomeness of mini vans and I was like WHAT?! But you are right and now we wish we could afford one (my dream would be a Pacifica 😆) so I’m with you Cas!

This is so funny! I spent my whole life swearing I'd never be "that" mom who drives a minivan until...... baby #3 came. Got a minivan (reluctantly!) and I LOVE MY MINIVAN!! I can't even imagine not having it!! DVD player, automatic door opening, EVERYONE is comfortable on a roadtrip! It is the BEST most underrated car out there!!! #minivansarecool all day 😎

You are awesome. I consider you, Dawn from the minimal mom and Dana K White the perfect trio for decluttering and organizing my home and a lot of others. Don't compare yourself because you are one of a kind.

@oatssettle846

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely❣ Cas...you are the best Cas ever❣❣

@Clutterbug

Жыл бұрын

Thanks!

Haha, great rules Cass!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts - your ADHD experience has helped us so much to realize we are not crazy, just need to work within our limitations! 💕 For what it's worth, I do take issue with the "smarter not harder" mentality, which is so popular these days. I love how your key point was: "if you get the SAME results" - not similar or marginal results. Living a life of shortcuts can actually exacerbate our anxiety and ADHD because the quicker we get things done, the more we feel compelled to do. So many young people today have strong feelings about issues, but they don't know WHY and they don't take the time to get the information they need to make a sound decision. They take the first thing they hear as truth and don't have the ability to think it through logically. Teaching our kids to do short cuts in Math is great in theory, but scientific research has shown that doing long math actually teaches your brain to slow down, focus and understand WHY it works - thereby understanding math better, not just the functions. Teaching short math should only be done AFTER teaching long math. It's all about creating proper neuropathways. Pen & pencil and actually writing out lists, papers, etc does the same thing. Don't get me wrong, sometimes shortcuts are absolutely necessary but it should not be our daily life. BTW, I'm using voice text as I speak this so I can ride the treadmill. LOL 😂 A good way to get more things done, for sure, but I realize; I AM sacrificing my brain health and my anxiety to do so. One of my ADHD rules is: "More often than not, take the long way home." Do the job well and make sure it's done right because going back to fix something ultimately wastes time. If you have ADHD, did you make it to the end of this post? 😂😂😂

@ephemeraphilesbytomi

Жыл бұрын

I do and I did! 😂

@rachelcunningham6519

Жыл бұрын

Me too😂

@PARoth2011

Жыл бұрын

Yes, I made it to the end because as much as I have read about my ADHD I did not know this…but I do it instinctually! Thank you for the post!

Love this video! Some of my rules are similar. One significant rule for me is "touch it once" - it translates as handling the mail immediately, putting the dishes away instead of in the sink, taking the thing up the stairs, etc.

@cactusqueen6417

Жыл бұрын

The touch it once theory is so AWESOME! I’ve used that so many times. Why have a duplication of effort, if you can do, or touch it once, and done! I love using this strategy! 👍👍👏👏👏

My number one rule is to always be polite, respectful, and nice. These behaviors/attitudes make day to day life so much more pleasant and enjoyable and easier. Rule number two be grateful and share your gratitude when you can. I truly believe that with gratitude comes happiness.

Healthy Boundaries ("Say NO to toxic people") changed my life...dramatically!! 😉❤🤗

Since I’ve discovered your channel a few weeks ago I’ve been uplifted, entertained and informed to the fullest ❤ Thank- you so much for what you do; sharing your knowledge, truths, self and so much more! You are most definitely enriching lives. With much love, Toni ❤❤❤❤

Cas, I agree with you 100% about minivans, for all the reasons you listed. I have loved all of mine. I’m on my third Honda Odyssey because we kept upgrading for different features. I’ve had this current one for 10 years now. One thing that you didn’t list, and it’s a huge benefit for me, is the fact that they’re easier to get in and out of. I recently had my hip replaced and have had other surgeries and a minivan is so easy because you don’t have to bend clear down to get in and out of it. You can just open the door and slide right in! I love all the cargo space and the automatic doors. It definitely makes my life easier. Long live the minivan!!😃

I love your husband's viewpoint about comparing the mini van to a fanny pack. He is spot on!!!

@ronnieb.hudson2604

Жыл бұрын

Totally! But I wear a Fanny pack whenever I am outside my house, sometimes I wear it inside my house to keep my phone in.

@kb1236

Жыл бұрын

I got my fanny pack out today to go hiking, I did not have on cargo pants and needed something to carry a few items.

Cass you are my absolute favorite!! I started implementing Rule #7- Don't Waste Energy on Things You Can't Control a little over a year ago and it has worked wonders for my mental health. I love all of your rules. I am currently working on Rule #1- Say yes to scary things. Thanks for your amazing content.

@aloha_element

Жыл бұрын

Yasss! Go Keri! 👏🏼 Do you feel more empowered by implementing this boundary?

@lisao.4075

Жыл бұрын

Me too! Going to a Festival this weekend without panic attacks! I am wearing my Cowgirl Hat; even if it is "fantasy clutter"!

There goes my career in cat hair braiding.😉 But seriously, love your words of wisdom. 💜💜💜

"I'm gonna be broke tomorrow but today is gonna be awesome!" THIS WAS SPOKEN FROM MY SOUL 😂

Wise Advice ! Letting go of people who don't value your efforts is hurtful, but freeing. My husband reminded me once: Roads and phones run both ways. Value the people who value you. 🌹

I needed this. Agree with #5. I lost my father in August. We didn't talk for years because he physically, mentally, and sexually abused me. He never accepted that he did it. TEAM MINI VAN!! We got our mini van a few years ago and love it. We only got it because our pitbull is getting older and he loves to go for rides so we wanted something he could get in without jumping and hurting himself His back legs are giving me lots of trouble the past few years. We'll keep it even after he's gone because it carries our family around. We just welcomed our newest grandson and its easy to get him in and out of it.

@brg2743

Жыл бұрын

So sorry for wbat happened.

@casualdrifter5226

Жыл бұрын

Consider a pet ramp for the puparoo

I’m with ya sister! I have ALWAYS been a fan of the mini van! Thanks for giving it some much well deserved props!! We also caved in and got an SUV once- worst mistake of our lives! Can anyone say “3 point turn” just to get in a Costco parking spot!!!! Long live the mini van!!!❤❤❤

"Comparison is the thief of joy". ABSOLUTELY.

Listening to you feels like a warm hug. I really envy your family having such a cool, positive person in their lives. Thanks for being so relatable.

Thanks for sharing your ‘rules’. My guiding rules that keep me going in good directions is my slogan “God, friends and exercise”. Basically having spiritual practices, being social with friends and family, and moving my body someway. It is a great flexible 3-step way that keeps things really balanced and groovin’. Thanks Cas! :)

@mylittlerebornlove8851

Жыл бұрын

Love this!

@natalia1045

Жыл бұрын

That can actually easily translate to: spirit, mind and body which some see as a holy trinity

I LOVE my minivan! I have a painting business and it fits everything I need: ladders, paint trays, drop cloths, etc. We use it like a truck and stow the seats so we can haul things to the dump and move furniture. My minivan is old and rusty and just keeps on going. When I was a Cub Scout leader, we took the boys on a field trip. As they got in my van, one of them commented, "Wow, this van is really old." My reply was, "Yeah, if it was new, I wouldn't be letting Cub Scouts in it." Boom!

I try not to delete negative people from my life. Sometimes a person is my anti-depressant, and sometimes I am their anti-depressant. The trick is to balance the incoming and outgoing emotional energy.

You’re very inspiring and keep it light and fun - I do lol. I now feel as a “butterfly” that I have ADHD. Now I’m retired (60) I notice it more than ever without any real structure and I squirrel all day. I, like you, am a terrible procrastinator. I did actually do a video workout today even though I didn’t feel like it - and yup feel better for it. Thanks for all your wonderful motivation.

@LAppleDumpling

Жыл бұрын

So proud of YOU!!! 🥰🥰

@taraschmidheini4674

Жыл бұрын

Thanks Karen, you just motivated me to get on my stationary bike today!!! 😇

@loriz.5771

Жыл бұрын

Wow you sound just like me ! I have a black belt in procrastination. Just turned 60 last week and highly suspect I have ADD. It's very hard to stick with things.

@aloha_element

Жыл бұрын

So awesome to hear that you feel seen! 🤗 Cas has a magical ✨ way of doing this for me too. Thanks for your vulnerability and sharing. 🙏🏼

@xannaz9226

Жыл бұрын

YES I can so relate, 63 here, recently retired, recently realized I have ADHD by listening to declutterers on KZread who were diagnosed with same!

I loved having a minivan when I had younger kids! It was awesome! Now I drive a station wagon. They used to be VERY 'SQUARE' but now they are cool again. Or maybe that's just me! Girl! You are ROCKIN' that minivan life!!

We just bought a mini van 2 months ago and we can't believe how cool, functional and good it is for our family of 4. It's amazing! ❤️ 7 seats?! Yes please!!!!! I agree, the mini van movement shall start!!!! Thank you so much Cas!!!! ❤️ 🥳 💫 🤗 👏

I support you in your effort to make mini vans cool. Fyi fanny packs are in so, go mini van. I have a freiend, her old man got het a mini van. She drove it to work and took me outside to see it. She showed off the moving seats and auto doors. She was so happy and said " This is the coolest car I've ever owned, Im gonna look like such a cool mom!"

@cactusqueen6417

Жыл бұрын

I wear a Fanny pack at work all the time. Where others can’t seem to remember a pen, or post-it’s, a bandaid, tape, etc., etc. Well, NEVER FEAR FOR MY FANNY PACK IS NEAR, and ready, willing and able to help in just about ANY situation! Safety pins and all. Bob Barker would be proud! 👍

LOL Dad Rules! My Dad always used to say "Life is like a sewer, you get out of it, what you put into it". Also I really needed to hear about putting myself first and getting toxic people out of my life!

Yep mini vans are great. I loved that I didn’t have to worry about my kids opening the doors and banging into the car next to us

I LOVE MY MINI VAN! My used old minivan! Those foldaway seats and smuggler compartments are GOLD. I remember seeing commercials for the Montana minivan way back in the day, when they first started putting two doors in the passenger section. There were these two cowboys fighting and the owner of the van opened both doors so the cowboys could roll through without damaging the van or breaking up the fight. We need more commercials like that!

Thanks for explaining the difference between Minivans and SUV's. I have been wanting a minivan, without the having to climb up high into the front seat. But be able to take my 58" piano case to play it away from home. The seats going flat is exactly what I need.

Mini vans are great! Don't go with the flow go with what you LOVE! my brother has 2... one is his work van, mobile mechanic. The other 1 is his recreational.... he is a confirmed bachelor! Never married and no children... and his super cool, he's a drummer for fun💖

Throughout this entire video, I was nodding and/or saying "preachers it, sister!" I am going to respond to something you said at the very end about low rise jeans making a comeback. I am here to tell you that for many of us, low rise jeans are the bane of our existence! I finally found a pair of high rise jeans that are also long enough for my very long legs...so I bought three pair! The same thing can happen to the mini van if enough people feel about mini vans as I do about high rise jeans! Start a revolution, Cas! Bring back high rise jeans and mini vans!! 🤣🤣

@triciac1019

Жыл бұрын

Yes to high rise jeans. Boy are they comfy and more flattering.

@hesherette

Жыл бұрын

i have good news for you- high rise, looser fitting jeans have been back in for awhile! i live by a high school + all of the kids nowadays wear mom jeans or totally loose fitting higher rise jeans. generally worn with a crop top like dancers did in the 90s but hey it's a start! lol mini vans might be next!

@tamramckee4150

Жыл бұрын

AMEN to mini vans being the most functional car ever!!!!!! EVER!!!!

@kimberlyreiter3213

Жыл бұрын

@@hesherette Exactly! My 16 year old and all of her friends primarily wear high waist baggy jeans!

@dlm4501

Жыл бұрын

@@kimberlyreiter3213 My two teenage daughters do too. My older one, who is 19, actually bought a pair of high rise, baggy jeans that look identical to one's I wore in high school in the 80s/early 90s. Reminds me of the Fly Girls on the show In Living Color and on rap videos back in the day. Ugh, gosh I feel old 😅😕

It all boils down to mindset! Love to listen to Mel's podcast while decluttering and cleaning- or doing "nothing". Remember - there is success enough for evryone, so instead of competing eachother, let's lift eachother instead ❤️

You are ABSOLUTELY right about minivans. The sliding doors, the extra seating, plenty of cargo space, the ease of creating more space with the stow and go seats. You can’t beat it. I’m 5’3” and I like that a minivan allows me to sit high - sedans are too low that I have to drop down into the seat. SUVs are too high. I have to hoist my 59-year old self into place or require a step stool to get in! And now that grandchildren are completing our family, it’s back to the reliable minivan. No other option serves a person better

Fanny packs are now called belt bags, waist bags or hip bags. And they are trendy again. Maybe the mini van just needs a new name to bring it back in style. 😉

#5 and #10 -those are the ones I need to apply more to my life. All 10 actually. I am 56, and YOU inspire me, Cas! And you and Dawn both motivate me. ❤Thanks for this! I missed Dawn’s 10 Rules. I’m going there now to check it out.

What’s so wonderful about Cas is she doesn’t try ❤to be anything, or anyone she’s not. Truly down to earth; someone who inspires others, just be being her OWN TRUE SELF! More women should be so open, honest and accepting of their others. After all, aren’t we all just trying to be the best possible versions of ourselves? Also, if your best possible version is someone you don’t like… time to change your narrative, and maybe stop swimming in the sewer of negative personalities!!! ❤

I love this video and can relate to this so so much! After some traumatic life events I’ve allowed my adhd to take over and I’ve found excuses to put off doing anything and everything. I have ocd & adhd which I used to my advantage to always keep a spotless organized home and I was so proud of it. Now I’ve added lupus, RA, and an epidural lipoma (benign spinal tumor that at the moment is stable. If it grows and presses on the spine it will need removing but there’s a chance it might not need removing. It’s a wait and see kinda thing but for right now sounds worse than it is.) So when the extreme fatigue & joint pain came then came an affair, lost my MIL I adored, and lost my grandma all back to back. Oh & we had to have our English bulldog put down due to cancer. And that’s just the big stuff. So the rug was jerked out from under me and all that I had based my life around, my husband & our little family, was no longer a constant. I just stopped doing anything. Then my youngest daughter after a year and a half of homeschooling due to bullying decided she missed being around other kids and went back to public school. I loved our time together and learning with her. So I was very lost. I felt everyone had a purpose but me. I finally decided that if God allows me to wake up each morning I still have a purpose. I may not know what it is but I have one. So I’ll get up and try to do what I can and if an opportunity knocks I’ll listen. If nothing else, this is a biggie, I have a much closer relationship with God. I truly believe I’d replaced my relationship with Him with my marriage. It says he is a jealous God. And if what happened hadn’t happened I probably wouldn’t have gone to Him the way I did. We are working on our marriage and family so all is not lost. But I also have always been a procrastinator and I learned at age 27 that I have adhd. I’ve always wondered if I’d had meds in college if I would have finished my bachelors degree because as soon as it got really hard I’d quit. I did that many many times. I did finish my junior year with a 3.833gpa. But I had one teacher & student that for whatever reason decided they didn’t like me. I had to take 2 classes under that teacher and I just couldn’t handle it. But now that I’m disabled I did get to become a stay at home mom which is all I ever wanted anyway. It’s just my youngest 2 are now 14 and I don’t know what I’ll do next. I’m sure something will come to me. I have bought a few online classes I haven’t done yet that I need to do. And I’ve bought 2 cricut machines to hopefully learn a hobby that I can make some spending money doing. Now I’ve just got to get this darn house I’ve neglected in shape and trust me it’s almost a hoarders mess! We have a tiny home that has way too many people and their stuff. I’m almost ready to burn it all to the ground and start over. 😂 But once it’s clean then I get to decorate and design my craft space which has me excited. So I’m using that to motivate me to clean. And I bought a tineco floor one S5 pro2. I’m so excited about it because mopping was hurting me too much to do and I can handle this. Our entire home is tile. And we are redoing the entire house one room at a time plus painting. It’s been 12 years since it’s be redone and everything is old, outdated, and nicked up. I want it redone. I just don’t want to do it but I’ll have to. Can you tell I have adhd. 😂 Sorry I didn’t mean to give you my life story or go all over the world and back. 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️

@lindamast2766

11 ай бұрын

Reading your story has caused me some tears for you, such a heartfelt and caring person as you are and had so much to bear. Your post was so many months ago and I hope things have improved over the time that has passed. You sound really talented and gifted with insight also, I wish you many blessings, sometimes they're hard to come by, but hold onto yourself with the love and compassion that you've had for others. Best to you...❤

My dad used to say when I got frustrated with people (specifically my family), look past people’s action…you never know what they are going through. Be gracious❤

@Clutterbug

Жыл бұрын

I love that! Well said.

I love #5, saying no toxic people 👍 I’ve been starved for a friendship with my sister and then I got a taste of what a friendship with her is like, and she’s a user 💡 now that I’ve seen what I’m missing, I don’t feel bad about us not being friends, we are just sisters, and that’s ok.

I love that you called yourself a "lukewarm mess!" That is so good and so sweet!

I love your 10 rules as well as your minivan "movement"! I too own an older minivan and I am no longer cool...But I love my minivan. It does everything I need and is easy to get in and out of. It is the BEST for travel on long trips, you can carry so much stuff, and everyone rides in comfort. Who would not want a minivan???

I love your rules but your minivan rant is what made me comment 🤣. I am 100% team minivan! For all the reasons you mentioned! Nevermind not having to worry about the doors in the back opening into another car in a tight space. They are so useful and like you I cannot fathom paying more to not be able to open the doors from a distance, with a button, for me or my kids 🤣

Thank you and yes to minivans and fanny packs. There doesn't seem to be a sense of fashion where we live, maybe die to poverty, maybe I just don't know "cool" people, but it is so freeing. Honestly, I saw an in running tights and logger boots. He didn't even look out of place. A lady crossed the street with a giant walking stick and her pet duck sticking his head out of her backpack--at 10 pm. Not odd. Be free, Cas! Be free everybody!

My husband hated the idea of a minivan, until we got a minivan! It was a Toyota, and I remember him being the one who drive it home from the dealership. I wanted him to drive it, to prove to him he wasn’t going to turn into a soccer mom just because we had a minivan! When we got home he said to me “well, the only thing wrong with it is, there’s nothing wrong with it”! That van stayed with us until my kids were firmly out of high school. I now have an SUV (which I love, and will never go back to a sedan) but I wouldn’t hesitate to own another minivan if the occasion arose! That minivan made trips across the country several times, and none of my three kids EVER COMPLAINED about space! That minivan was a godsend! ❤👍

Hi Cas! I loved watching your show “Hot Mess.” It was unlike ANY other how to home show-so you see you have a SPECIAL gift of communicating, not just about what to do but also assuring people that they need not feel shame for allowing their homes to overwhelm them. I love the Take Back My Home group and your place in it. Thanks SO much for being so AUTHENTIC and helpful🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

OK Cass, where do we send the check? These words of wisdom are incrediblely helpful. I've spent time with therapists who taught me the same things. I've been pondering doing that exercise with not reaching out to people and see who reaches out to me. I have a good idea what's going to happen. And it will be disappointing and will make me sad for sometime. Hope I'm wrong. Will be happier in the long run.

I’m a mom of three teens. I’ve also volunteered and taught church youth groups. It seems like teens aren’t listening but they hear more than we realize. My heart has been touched many times when I’ve heard my words come out of their mouths. I would like a minivan. I cannnot get my husband to agree to get one.

@jillrector8568

Жыл бұрын

So neat to hear your words of wisdom coming out of your children’s mouths as they counsel their friends

You have become one of my favorite YTrs. I didn't know I could like you more untill you started in about mini Vans. I'M IN. I keep thinking I need a truck, but a minivan is perfect. Is there a mini van that can haul a small camper AND fit a full sheet of plywood? I bet there is. May the search begin.

Loved your rules!! And as far as minivans go…I’m 49 years old…have no children at home…have ONE grandchild…and I WILL NOT surrender my minivan!! It is the coolest vehicle ever! I’m with you!

I am so glad I found your channel! I've always felt so intimdated by other organizers becasue their houses always looked "perfect." I feel much more confident seeing a house that looks lived in, even after it's organized. I love, love, love your content!

I loved this video!!! Amazing tips that are so easy but get lost a lot of the time in life. Thank you for reminding me. I also adore my 20 year old mini van!!! We call her Nana and she is part of the family. I also have an SUV but every time I get into Nana I'm so grateful for how comfortable she is, how smooth she drives and how well she takes care of my family. I think she's the best!!!!❤️

Totally cracked up with you said "Stop it!" at the end 🤣 I am the proud daily wearer of a little black fanny-pack which is SO PRACTICAL. Hands-free living - seriously empowering, no sore shoulder/back from a purse, and it forces me to carry only the absolute essentials aka I'm clutter free. Thanks for sharing your GREAT rules for living, there is so much wisdom in these gems. I definitely look to you as one of the positive people in my virtual circle! God bless you!!

I LOVED my minivans, or "Mommy Mobile." I packed all kinds of "just in case" things in there. Had to get rid of mine, because my oldest got too tall for it. His legs didn't fit between the seats, and he was miserable for the last 2 years, before he started driving. Taking the mini-van to a drive-in was awesome too... Pile everything in, get there, put all the seats down, laid out blankets, we were set until time to go home. Mini-Vans for the win!!!!

Love your rules! I have started some rules for myself, just to remind myself of how I deserve to be treated. Here's a couple: I am not disposable. Love does not come with conditions. You have value because you are YOU. No one else has to recognize that for it to be true. So glad you mentioned Mel Robbins. She is amazing and inspires me so much! And check it out...She is interviewing ME on her podcast today! (10/6)

I've heard so many times about surrounding myself with the right people, but kind of didn't have hope because I lacked the actual people in my life. Thanks for the pointer about virtual options - I follow Mel Robbins, I'll start watching more. It's time to shop for a new (used) car, and you've convinced me to look at minivans too, not just SUVs.

@christineashby4003

Жыл бұрын

Yes, the virtual thing helps a lot! I’ve never had a lot of friends, especially since I moved to a much bigger city 9 years ago (after spending most of my life in the previous one where I had built everything around). With you-tubers and a couple of virtual support groups, I don’t feel as lonely as I used to :)

Wow, I resonated with everything you said in this video. I also have social anxiety and automatically say no to social events because I just know I’m going to say or do something stupid and then ruminate about it for days afterwards. Like you said, that has made my life safe, but very small and friend-less. You really seem like someone I wouldn’t be too freaked out to hang out with. Thank you for these rules, I’m going to try to implement them in my own life, and see what happens.

Hi Cass, I'm in a process of changing myself. I didn't know the meaning of ADHD, but after seeing your video on ADHD, I realised that I have most of them. And the hacks what you provided was amazing. I see hundreds of organising videos. But none changed me, some say that they were messy blah blah... but after seeing your video it just clicked, it was so geniune, it just motivates me to change myself because I see myself in you. Your videos does not give me a guilty feeling that I'm unable to do things. On the contrary, it just tells me that it's Ok take it easy if I can why can't you.... Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️... It's hard but I will do it...

You inspire me, Cass! I started listening to ‘The Miracle Morning’ because of you. I am still listening to audio books. I love your stories and always stay to the end. You’ve done amazing things with your life. I’m thankful to have found you💜

❤️ Two minutes in & you motivated me. I didn't feel so bad when I heard that YOU, Cass, procrastinate! And have to occasionally force yourself to do something. This is why I watch you & love you. You truly impact my life in such a great way. Thank you!❤️❤️

I’ll see your minivan and raise you an ‘80s model station wagon like my Grandma had. It was a tank, it was a truck, it was a like riding in a boat, (if you were older it was a party wagon). It fit you, your spouse, your kids, their friends, the picnic supplies… AND you could reach the top to strap things down even if you were short, AND they had some of that sweet, sweet faux woodgrain panel inside. And sometimes outside. Nothing but winning.

@JaneH3675

Жыл бұрын

Hahahaha love it!

Haha! The minivan promo at the end made my day. I never owned one myself but my sister sold her “elderly” minivan to a young single guy with a toddler and he LOVES it. 🥰

I totally get the comparison thing. But there is only one YOU, and that's why you are so great!! Your personality is so fun and relatable, and I love your videos and inspiration!! And your stories 🤣 Also, I LOVE my minivan!! You are so right about their awesomeness 😎 😂 I will drive a minivan forever!!!

Bahaha! “Mini vans are the Fanny pack of cars.” Love it!! And the advice to pay yourself first is such a smart way to think about saving. I’m doing that today. As alway, love you and your channel!!❤️😘

Minivan lovers unite! I had minivans until last year when I got an suv. While it’s the best color red and it travels great in snow, I miss not having enough room in my minivan for my art materials, my hiking stuff and my laundry. All my mini adventures started with my minivan because I was always ready to go with space left over to fit in another person comfortably. I want my minivan back (and I don’t care if it has I want my mullet back implications)

My faves- Taking short cuts! Say no to toxic people!

I love your rules and absolutely your content!! Also, I was always anti-minivan, until I became a mom and now I have such minivan envy. Lol. I'll get one one day! Automatic sliding doors, who can say no to that?!?! Ironically, fanny packs or 'belt bags' are all the rage right now, I wonder if this is the start to making minivans cool, Cass! Haha

I love the minivan! I’m retired, so I ended up in this fancy little SUV (because it’s cool). I am now a caretaker for my 2 grandkids and I long for this automatic door, awesome headroom and actual 3rd row seats every time I have to fight with those car seats. I’m with ya sister! Let’s bring back the minivan!!!! I love your videos. They are helping me on my journey to a more organized, productive life. Keep up the good work. You have no idea how many lives you are improving❤ Oma Terri from Boise

Oh I so agree with you about a minivan. I am 57 years old and I drove a minivan for over 30 years. In 2018, I bought the minivan of my dreams. The color I wanted inside and out and all the bells and whistles. Unfortunately it ended up being a lemon…big time. My husband kept nagging me to get rid of it, so I finally did this past January and bought an SUV and I have missed it EVERY SINGLE DAY! I could just stick my foot under the side doors as well as the back door and they would open automatically. I absolutely loved it and miss it so much. 😭😭😭😭😭😭 Keep your van!!

Back when I was a kid, I used to be so jealous of the kids who’s mom’s had mini-vans. Maybe I was just weird, but I always thought they were super cool and always looked forward to riding in my friends van’s. Mind you, this was the 90’s when mini-vans were mostly square and had no automatic opening doors and oftentimes had wood paneled sides. My parents only had cars (and one time an 80’s station wagon with reverse seats in the back- can those be brought back too??😂)...smooshing 3 kids in the backside was rough. I drive an SUV with a toddler now, but maybe I could personally rock a mini-van someday 😂

Rule #9 hit home for me and #10 cracked me up (though maybe it should be rule #2- pun intended) I agree with you about minivans my Jeep just isn't as convenient as my minivan was. Your husband had a good answer with the fanny pack analogy. I still use my fanny pack as my money bag when I have garage sales. I never walk away from my money because I have it strapped to my waist. Thanks for your words of wisdom.

Thank you for sharing! I am so thankful that you take the time to share and encourage so many people. You are so appreciated! And yes! I agree, the mini van RULES!

I love the quote from Joyce Meyer when a friend said “Do it afraid”. Great, helps me so much.

I totally love this. I do the same thing with minimizing my time on social media. You are totally right about comparisons. I’ve never heard it but this way. But you are so right. There is nothing good that comes from comparing yourself. It is a vicious cycle

Personally I like Cass channel most out of all organizing youtubers that I've ever seen. I guess I see myself most in her videos, and I love her enthoustic ways. It's motiving, inspiring, helpful, and original. And just a good fit, often I'm like: hey I'm like that too, or I have that situation too.

@tamimartine8441

Жыл бұрын

She's the only one that I know of that teaches how to organize in different ways according to how your brain works. Traditional organizers teach one method fits all.

@cactusqueen6417

Жыл бұрын

She truly has a unique gift, and a very special down home, nonsensical approach to communications with us. I enjoy most organizing videos, books, shows, etc., but this woman right here, is my ALL TIME FAVORITE! She’s special in a way that just outshines! Love her! ❤

Perfect timing! I so needed this! And I like minivans! Don't have one but I love how functional they are! Thank you Cas for another awesome video!

Mini Vans rule!!! I'll be forever greatful to the mechanic who convinced me that for the money I could afford at the time that a mini van would be a bigger bang for my buck.

You are the one some of us compare ourselves to...😁 These are all great, thank you. As a therapist..with ADHD...watching and learning from you is part of my self -care💖

Such good rules Cass. I struggle with comparing myself to other KZreadrs and I have to continually remind myself that I also have a full time job and can't do everything that they do. I like your rule about saying yes to scary things but another good rule is to know when to acknowledge that you can't take on anymore and be able to say no. Thanks for sharing. - Chantel

LOL on minivans! Today’s minivans are absolutely versatile and way more gadgety than when I had one. My mom had one at 74 because she loved the versatility and packing room for travel. They aren’t anything I need or want these days - our kids are grown and the 3rd seat is usually folded down in our MDX, and I can park this easier than my minivan or the XL SUV I used to drive (post minivan).

Love this!!!

This video is EVERYTHING!!!! I took notes for every rule. I needed these reminders, thank you so much Cas! You are such an amazing woman and I'm so grateful I came across your videos a long time ago. I'm not sure when or where but I'm so thankful I did. 🙏🏼 💜 I appreciate you.